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There's a dozen sales videos, a dozen webinars. It means hundreds of pages of content videos, P. D. Efs, all the pieces that go into those products in multiple markets beyond just serve no, master. I'm also looking at a lot in the parenting space that I work out a lot in the relations of space than working more and more things that I'm doing in health. When I look at all of these different areas, it's so easy for me to become overwhelmed. I fell into a pattern about six months ago when I built an office at an office for a little while where I would go to the office every morning around seven or 7 30 I would come back sometimes after dark. I would put in 12 hour days locked in a little box that I built that I designed with no walls with no windows. It had well, sorry, no walls would be hilarious with no windows and living on the beach. I was. The office was actually about 20 feet from the water, and it had no windows because I wanted to totally focus on work. I was like, when I'm in my office, I just work. I'm totally in the zone and I was very, very efficient. Unbelievable. I was unbelievable. My productivity, I could get so much done. But then I would put in the huge days and I wouldn't even see the sun, and I started to lose myself and feel more distant from my Children. In fact, even now, one of the things we're still dealing with is that my daughter swimming abilities diminished a little bit. You know, that's very important to me. That's why I mentioned in multiple episodes. So I, before this office was spending every day 1 to 2 hours in the pool with my daughter really working her swimming because it's so important to me. I started getting in the zone about work and not because I'm desperate for money, not because I'm struggling, but because I so want to build something big. I want serving a master to be one of the biggest places in the world for helping people change their destinies. Right now, you know, I help a lot of people, but I want it to be where I'm helping tens of thousands of people every month where I'm really making a massive impact. So I have this big vision, and that requires a lot of things, requires massive traffic that requires tons of product on the requires tons of content and requires lots and lots of really good sales message and lots and lots of technology. So all of these things I have to work on it can become overwhelming, served a master's only one of the projects and working on it, but one of five main projects. So it's not even the most important of the biggest part of my life. But imagine all of those things. Times five. And I'm constantly looking at moving into new markets, whether it's moving into T shirts, whether it's moving into selling physical products and Amazon, whether it's putting out more books on Amazon and more niches. All of these things right, they surround me, and it's very tempting to put in his massive days. And yesterday I had to ride a boat for eight hours, four hours each way to go to the neighboring island to get a stamp in my passport for another few months to stay in this country, have to go and renew every two months, and it's their way of generating taxes from foreigners. It's fine. I hate doing it, but I know that it's necessary. I know it's a necessary part of my business, too. Go and felt this paperwork every two months. So I lost the entire day yesterday, and when I got home, I only did about an hour of work. Just a little catch up putting up that episode's podcast episode, which is already mostly prepared. I just had to finish writing a little bit of the block post and check the image and everything. But when you're doing all these things and you lose a whole day, you feel like, Oh, I've got to spend the next day making it up And I woke up this morning and I was like, I got to hit the ground running. I gotta record this morning podcast episode and I look and my phone is low battery. Last night, my daughter had a hit in my candles. So before I went to bad my reading before bed, I was reading a book on my phone. I didn't know where my Kindle Woz and I forgot I'd done that. So I woke up and I couldn't record the podcast, and you have these moments where you can see it as a you know, a real distraction. Oh, my Gosh, I can't work now. My day is around or you can see is an opportunity. Go this. Okay, You know what? I look outside? It's high tide. I went downstairs, grab a new paddle board and I just caught some waves. Spent 30 40 minutes after getting my morning workout. But also, I love paddleboarding. As much as I like surfing, I really do like surfing. But for some reason, I just love standup paddle more. All of that stuff for me is just a great pleasure. I love to be out on the water. I love to do all those things, but it's very tempting to put all the things that we want to do to the side because we're so focused on our business. We think I have to put in two of our days and we start to let our physical and mental wellbeing slip. So we stopped going to the movies or we don't go to the park, you know, go to the gym. We started spending all of our waking hours. We turn into drones working ourselves. I don't want that to happen to you, because it will really just tear you apart. So as you're looking at how to build out the structure of your days, it's important to build in little things that you really enjoy. For me, one of my great pleasures is going out on the water, and I have to constantly remind myself that it's the reason I'm here. See, we spend so much time working, we forget. Wait, I'm working for a reason. The reason I work so hard is because I want to live on a Paradise Island. But if I don't enjoy that Paradise Island, why am I working so hard? So keep in mind as you're building out your structure of your life as you're designing and getting caught up in projects, you start to get overwhelmed by all the different things you have to do. And I know that this could be an overwhelming business. When you think about creating products, writing stories, working on your website, writing your block, post learning technology, there's so many things. There's so many moving parts that it puts us into the state. Where do you think that we have to work on the 24 7? We can't think about anything else, and we start to remove the pieces of joy from our life. We start to withdraw, and in some ways, in some areas, that is part of maturing. Now, if you're someone who's going out every night and spending a lot of money and drinking a parting, of course, pulling back from that and putting time and your business is important. But you don't want to go too far to the point where you spend no time on pleasure. No time on enjoyment if you're in the early phase and there's an early phase where finances are very, very tight or every penny spent is critical, you can't afford to go to a fancy gym. You can't afford to go to the movies, and I've been in those phases. I totally understand. I know what it's like, where every penny counts. You gotta watch every penny. You still need to find other hobbies that are simply free. You can play in the park, go for walks. A lot of things you could do outside and in nature that don't cost anything. All of my hobbies are free. Surfing doesn't cost anything. Senate Pine doesn't cost anything. There's the single cost of buying the surfboard, beginning right, But going out each time after it doesn't cost anything. Where's most things in America where so used to hang over and over again. You go to the gym, you gotta pay every month, right? You want a personal trainer, you have really pay every single time you see him, every time you go, the movies, you gotta pay. We're so use that that we forget that there's things we can do would pay once and never have to deal with it again. We're used to paying monthly for everything we end up with these massive monthly costs. You know, your cell phone bill, your Internet failure, Television bill, your home phone number. Bill, If you have a home phone number, all the other things water, electricity, rent, mortgage, whatever they all start to add up. We get so used to that that we begin to think that we have to have these massive multi bills for entertainment and entertainment. It's critical because it's when your brain relaxes its the time. In between working when your brain can kind of breast. If you go to the gym and just bench press 24 hours a day, your arms will eventually die, they'll never get stronger. It's the time in between workouts where the muscle gets stronger repair all those micro tears rebuild and your muscles come back stronger. So it's the breaks in between her Just as important as actual workouts. You need to find things that allow you to release yourself and release your stress and release your thoughts about work. The good thing about boards that I do, and the whole reason I moved to this island was to be able to do more surfing at paddling and things like that. It's takes so much of my attention trying to catch a wave, trying not to crash, trying, you know, and surviving when the way it throws me that I don't really have time to think about work when I'm out there. That's why I find hobbies. Activities require all of my attention pitch the reason I watch a little bit of television, but not so many movies, movies, air so long and lately movies. The third act is so boring that my time and get to the third act I'm thinking about work again. I can't kind of distract myself for that long, but for a long time I could for a long time movies where I made distractions only last two years that I've stopped enjoying movies as much. And maybe it's because there's no movie theater here going to the theater. I've always loved it. Maybe five Lumiere theater. I would, but you can develop whatever hobby you need, and you can also find ways to control the cost. You could become some movie theaters. Actually, you become a member and you got all the movies you want. You just can't go at seven o'clock at night. I used to be a member of a movie theater in London that allowed me to do. This was awesome so you could go noon two o'clock, three o'clock, four o'clock. You just couldn't go after dark or whatever. And when you don't have a full time job, that's fine. You don't have to go tonight. Little bit shift and the cost of going to movie changes from $20 to 1. It's crazy, right? I don't know a lot of a lot of movie that just do this. I happen to find one once, but it's very exciting when you could find these opportunities and you confined. Also, there's a lot of movies that are dollar Sing With me. It's a little bit older. The dollar theater, the old theater. It's cheaper. Bring your own stacks. There's things you can do to control the cost. But it's important to have these decompression times, and I don't want you to think of this podcast is one of them because unfortunately, we're talking about business. I talked about growing your business and, yes, some of them. Some of the episodes air very much about working on confidence or dealing with the pressure. Become a comfort with yourself and relaxing all those things. But you listen to this and you're in a business mindset. And so even though this feels a little bit relaxing, it's still business stuff going on the back of your mind. And in fact, when I listen to podcasts myself, I very rarely listen to other podcasts. I am. I subscribed to all the ones you probably know about all the ones from other big gurus about building on business about being a better podcast about being a better author. I very rarely listen to them because when I'm in my downtime, I need to do things other than work. Lately, I've run out of bad movie podcast to listen to you. So see him a lot. Unfortunately, they're so political, and they inject all of this hypocrisy. And every episode it sometimes wears me down there constantly talking about all these political things they want to see in movies. But then they don't do it in their own podcast. They don't have it in their own lives. They're just like, Oh, no, I shouldn't do it. You should do it And I find that very knowing. I'm not very big fan of hypocrisy. And I don't like to inject politics into this podcast either. Hopefully, you can't tell where I am on the political spectrum. The only thing you should be low tell is that I'm not a big fan of hypocrisy, and I don't like when other people judge me when they don't know me. Those are my main political views. I like honesty, and I like people that are consistent with a do what they say. That's why everything I tell you about, I tell you my weaknesses and my strengths. In the previous episode, I talked about how bad copyrighting was a weakness ring for so long, and I would still say I'm only a beer B plus copywriter. I'm not a Tier one cooperator, but I'm moving into Tier two and I'm feeling comfortable there with myself finally, and I want to get to tear one eventually. It's just been putting in a lot of work, and it's just about getting to that point overtime. But being honest about my weakness is also means that when I type areas, I'm strong. It's more believable because integrity and honesty is important. People that say they're good at everything, it probably not good at anything. So I listen to these podcasts and constantly injecting politics, and it's weird. It's very weird when they judge a movie from 50 years ago about the political landscape today. To me, that's ridiculous. How could anyone make a movie 50 years ago that fit modern politics? Amount of perspectives on different things, and it's especially weird listening to guys talk about all of this stuff when our previous episodes they have said things that go completely against it. So it turns into saying that they believe stuff that they don't really believe because they want to sound like it. So lately I've switched and I started listening to There's actually really, really good podcast by some screenwriters, and I like listening to it cause I like listening to how they build stories and the way people get into the business and everything about screenwriting. But they recently have had massive episodes that are all about their views on politics, and these are guys that are in the top 1%. They've written some big movies. They make a lot of money, okay, and what was making more than $10 million a year when they then want to tell someone who's making $20,000 a year, how they should view politics? I don't like that. It's you don't know someone else's perspective. So from your high horse to tell people what to do. You know, they had a whole episode about how they felt about Britain leaving the European Union, and the guy started explaining his perspective on trade deals, and I was like, You write movies. Number one. Why is the movie top podcast talking about trade deals? Number two, You're naive, and from that country you don't live in that country. So how could. You know what it's like for you in that country to experience that, you know, for people that are constantly talking about how it's very important to let other people self determined. They love telling other people in the country what to do based on their own perspective. And the third thing is that it was so angry he was going off about something. Now the people of England voted the country made a decision. Now I believe in democracy. It's very important. You know, I live in a democratic country. Have to decide whether you believe in democracy. Don't if the people voted for something and sometimes he will vote for bad things and people get what they deserve. And sometimes you'll vote for good things and they also get what they deserve. So to listen to somebody talk about movies, start explaining a trade deal now. Also, most of what he said was wrong, and I know this because I most of my undergraduate degrees, Aaron politics most of my study in college. Most of my work in high school college was all about international politics, and I still wouldn't presume to on this episode tell you my perspective on those things because it's not appropriate. It's at the right place. So not only was this person talking about an experience, it's not a part of, it was in an inappropriate forum, and it kind of really killed it for me And the other thing they love to D'oh is a sign modern motivations, to think people that 200 years ago I don't like that either. So I'm listen, These guys talk about a story from 200 years ago, and they tried to change the perspective. And, like people don't even think that that long ago, people didn't think that way. People then vote that way. People didn't have that perspective, and so they want to add this idea that's only come politically the last five or 10 years, just having a long time ago. And so basically, they're doing what I call revisionist history, which is where you know, if you do a TV show where Hitler one like the man in the high cows, you change and that's your that's revisionist history. That's fine, because every knows no, that's how it happened. But it's when people take history. They just change in five or 10%. Not a big fan of that, because in most people don't realize that what they're watching isn't really there. Plenty people that saw that Oliver Stone movie JFK and think it's a true story they go, Oh, so this is what really happened, you know, it's a fictionalized version of it. It's not where you should get your historical information is not should not be movies. So when you're looking at starting a podcast when you're looking at creating your message, when you're looking at things that entertain you, make sure that they actually help you to relax and that they're not too connected to your business. I know I went on a little bit of tangent for a few minutes there and apologize for that. You can just get past it. But for me, when I listen to a podcast about movies, I just want to listen to people talk about writing movies. I just wanna listen. People talk about scripts. I just won't listen to people talk about getting an agent. That entire process I find interesting. I would never want to get an agent. I would never want to write movies. For that reason and deal with that. But I want to learn about that process because I find it fast. What I want to learn about the most is storytelling. That's very, very important to me. So I'm listening to that. They again. It's so much politics. One of things I don't like is when they assign characteristics to a character in a show that weren't there. You know, sometimes people look at a movie from 30 years ago I decided that that character's gay now or that that character was whatever. I don't like that because it's not in the story. Look, okay, I don't care about that stuff. You know, plenty of whatever. It's not the fact that the characters gay. It's the fact that they're changing in doing revisionist history that I don't like. So what I'm interested in is really the actual story, not people deciding. You know, if I like this movie, because I've decided that even though 30 years ago the security was one way this character, I've decided that story's changed in my own mind. It's weird to me. It's so political, and it totally ignores the story. There are plenty of amazing stories where the main character's gay, where the character has this amazing journey. Why simply randomly decide that from a movie? 30 years ago, the seven character was gay. What are you talking about? It doesn't affect the story. Why add that? Why make that when your lesson, our podcast episodes about? So for me, when I'm looking at things that entertain, it's hard for me to find good podcast because it's constantly injecting politics and constantly not doing what they promised. They promised they would teach me about script writing, but 40 to 60% of every episode is politics or revisionist history. Where they change with the original story was, and I don't like that, I don't think it's necessary. And I don't think it's very good. You know, in these guys who have written, you know, a couple of good movies each sit on their high horse, tell everyone else who's struggling, you know, people that are struggling to make ends meet and feed their families. They give him all this advice that's so pretentious, and I just don't like that. I don't think it's what people want, you know. They just say, Oh, you know, we can use the fact that people wanna learn howto right movies as a way to really get our political message. That's what it feels like. You know, it's like a stealth message, and I certainly don't have any. I don't have any desire for this to become a political thing. I don't want affect anyone's vote. I don't want you to think about me with politics. I think it's so unnecessary. Republican, Democrat, liberal Whatever your political affiliation is, I want to help you take control of your finances and take care of your family. That's all I care about. So when I listen to other podcasts, it's unfortunate that they can't just stick to being entertaining. And that's why I have to find other things to D'oh. So that's why to go all the way back, listen to my podcast shouldn't be how you relax because it's too much business when you're really relaxing. It should be something totally separate where you're watching a fun movie. We're going to the batting cages or something that just lets you decompress. Having those moments of pleasure. Having our two a pleasure day is absolutely critical to staying the course in being able to endure the entire journey that gets you to split, being able to endure that struggle so that when you have tough days when you feel like Oh, I'm working so hard, why am I working so hard? You have that release valve and you can still have a part of your day you're really excited about. That's the way you can endure, and that's how I can be successful. That's how we can continue building my business when I work seven days a week. Every thinks that. I mean, I'm working eight hour days, 10 hours a day, seven days a week. It's not what I mean. It means that every day I put in a little work but also do things that really, really enjoy infrastructure that works better for me rather than work eight hours a day, five days a week at work, a little bit less seven days a week, and I enjoy the entire journey more. That's the structure that works for my life. Just because corporations in America like the five to Split doesn't mean that it works for me emotionally, intellectually or physically. So find the structure that works for you, find the way for you to get the right work life balance, and that will allow you to find success in this business. And that's why it's so critical that you take the time to really enjoy the little things. Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Serve No Master. 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