Beta Males, Bossy Vibes, And A Whole Lot Of Chaos

Chapters

• 0:28 Cold Open And Setup
• 2:39 Framing The Topic Shift
• 4:39 Defining Beta Behavior
• 6:39 The Testosterone Decline
• 9:45 Biology, Stress, And Dopamine
• 11:31 Cultural Devaluing Of Masculinity
• 14:25 Ideology As Ersatz Purpose
• 17:47 Dominant Yet Directionless Women
• 20:58 The Unstable Pairing In Public

Transcript

SPEAKER_03: 0:28

Oh, stop, stop, stop. Please, please. Sorry, just found these little sound effects on here, and I guess we gotta play with them. Anyhow, hey everybody, it's Elsa Kirk here, uh, back for another solo episode. Uh Clay and I are still doing the show. These are just some little bonus things, some stuff and things I want to talk about. And um, you know, so that's what I'm gonna do. Last week we talked about the topic was um liberal white women. And uh it was uh, if I may say so myself, it was a great episode. It was a great conversation. The comments section um was was wonderful and and lots of uh lots of feedback from that. A lot of agreement, a lot of agreement, handful of disagreement, which it wouldn't be normal to not have anyone disagree with you. Um that would be weird, really. It would. Um, and also I I did anticipate, I did expect that uh at least one person would chime in in the comment section with something along the lines of, you know, well, don't forget the men. What about the men? What's wrong with them? Well, let's talk about it. Um here's one of the comments that was was left on here. And um I I kind of kind of sort of beg to differ just a little bit. There is definitely that that element, um, you know, what they're saying in this, um, but I think it's much bigger and deeper and broader than uh than that, honestly. And and so that is um what we're gonna be talking about.

SPEAKER_02: 1:59

Oh, hey, hi, I'm Elsa Kurt, best-selling author and producer and host of the Elsa Kurt Show with Clay Novak. But you may know me better as the blonde Kamala. If you're looking for the perfect, unique gift, why not order a shout-out for someone you love or someone you just want to aggravate a little bit? Because when you're aggravating someone, right, you're being aggravating. And to that point, let me be clear. It really is, you know, time for us to see what can be unburdened by what has been. Okay.

SPEAKER_03: 2:38

Okay, bye. We're gonna be talking about what happened to modern men in this culture and why does their uh psychological and biological and behavioral decline pair so catastrophically with dominant but directionless women. So it ties in, we're just gonna veer a little bit. Um, and guys, once again, it's not about insults. You know, I'm gonna use terms like beta males and uh low T. And I know it sounds mean and unkind, but I'm being very literal here. I this is this is you know, labeling accurately what's going on. So if it feels like an insult, if it feels like a slur, um, it's not intended as one. It's just calling it like I see it. Okay, so again, this is a descriptive term for a behavioral posture, passive, conflict avoidant, externally validated, risk averse, and unanchored to purpose. That's who we're talking about. All right, so let's get into some facts here. Over the last 40 to 50 years, the average testosterone levels in men have dropped significantly, even when controlling for age, just so you know. And by the way, this is not a controversial topic in endocrinology. What is controversial is admitting what it does to behavior. You know, so as we're picking up from the last episode where that one left off, um, we can't really understand what's happening culturally unless we're willing to look at both sides of the equation, right? And of course, last time we talked about the psychology behind modern activism and emotional politics and how empathy got warped into identity. And we were talking, of course, specifically about liberal white women. Today, it's gonna be about liberal white men and you know, specifically the the kind of men that this culture is producing in large numbers. And again, just like last week, this is probably gonna make some people uncomfortable, but you know, comfort hasn't been producing healthy adults, has it? We're talking about low T, low testosterone. Is it actually lower? Or is that just a internet buzzword from us over here on the right? Well, I did some studying, and guess what, folks? It's real, it's measurable, and of course, at least in my mind, it matters. The average testosterone levels in men has dropped significantly over the past several decades. Not that that is not a political opinion. It is endocrinology, okay? And despite what liberal white women tell you, testosterone is not aggression serum. It doesn't turn men into violent groups. Testosterone is tied to drive, um, confidence, risk tolerance, um, resilience, motivation, libido, and the ability to tolerate stress without folding. When testosterone drops, men don't become gentle philosophizers. They become anxious and hesitant and approval seeking. They are risk-averse. They still want purpose, but they stop believing that they're capable of earning it. And that is the key. Low testosterone doesn't remove desire from meaning, it removes confidence in agency. Let's talk about why this is happening. And it's not a one thing, it's like death by a thousand paper cuts. Biologically, men, just as women are, are swimming in endocrine disruptors. Plastics, processed foods, chemical exposure, uh poor sleep, uh, sedentary lifestyles, obesity, insulin resistance, all of that suppresses testosterone. Psychologically, men are living under chronic stress without control. And stress without action is just simply poison. And if you add dopamine addiction, constant stimulation, pornography replacing intimacy, and digital validation replacing actual achievement, you've got men whose nervous systems are just shocked. Culturally, masculinity has been treated as a problem to be corrected. Assertiveness is framed as dangerous, competition is treated as cruelty, ambition is suspect, risk taking is now routinely treated as a psychological flaw or a moral problem. So men get biologically dulled, psychologically anxious, and culturally discouraged from acting like men. And that is the soil where beta male behavior grows. A beta male is a man who avoids conflict at all costs. He cares more about getting women's approval than standing up for what he actually believes. He gives disclaimers, he apologizes reflexively, he's deeply uncomfortable with hierarchy leadership or decisiveness. And before anybody gets overly defensive here, psychologically, these men aren't evil or stupid. They're just so inhibited. Um, a lot of them were raised in environments where masculinity was treated as something embarrassing or dangerous, um, situations where fathers were absent or passive or undermined, uh, where strength was quietly shamed. Um, niceness was rewarded over competence. So they learned early that safety comes from compliance, not capability. That just does not produce strong men. It produces anxious men who are very good at reading the room and very bad at leading it. And now here's where things get really interesting. Men need mission. They always have. When men don't have purpose, they will borrow meaning from ideology. Yeah. And that is why you see so many of these beta men gravitating towards progressive activism and feminine frameworks and um like collective moral causes. And in that environment, a man can feel righteous without being strong. He can feel good without building anything, and he can feel brave without risking anything. So these men become basically foot soldiers of ideology and not leaders of families or communities. They just they're the enforcers, they enforce the norms, they shame dissenters, they echo language, they signal virtue. They're not driven by conviction, they're driven by fear of exclusion. Enter that counterpart, right? The dominant, directionless women. And I want to be very clear here. Dominance is not the same as strength. Direction is not the same as confidence. These women, as you well know, are often very verbally assertive, uh, emotionally expressive, politically activated, and morally certain. You know, they're they're not grounded in any kind of authority. They are reacting and acting within a vacuum and an echo chamber. So here's the thing: when men resign leadership, women don't suddenly become fulfilled leaders. They become overextended compensators. Psychologically, many of these women don't actually want dominance, they want containment to calm down. They want a man who can hold frame, uh, set boundaries, make decisions, and absorb pressure without collapsing. And instead, they're paired with men who differ and they appease. So the woman escalates and the man recedes and the imbalance just worsens. The women become louder, angrier, more controlling, uh, and the man becomes quieter, apologetic, more passive. Neither one is happy. This is a pairing that is so deeply unstable that it spills out into public life. Watch, watch these interactions. Just watch them in these uh marches and parades and uh riots, all of this, watch the behaviors of the men and the women. You'll see exactly what I'm talking about. All these beta men do in these situations is amplify dominant women by echoing their language, enforcing the ideological norms that the women have stepped forward, and they act basically as you know, social hall monitors. They shame others to prove loyalty, uh, they police speech, they posture morally because they lack authority elsewhere. Dominant directionless women rely on beta men because they won't challenge them. They validate their emotional reasoning, they absorb the conflict that these women create. Um, and together they create this moral absolutism. It's like emotional mob behavior. They have zero tolerance for disagreement. Public meltdowns are framed as virtue. And this is the pairing that you keep seeing over and over again at protests and on panels and these viral clips and in the aftermath of tragedies. Loud emotion, no discipline, absolute certainty, zero restraint. And the cost is enormous. Men were not built to be ornamental allies, they were built to act. For women, this produces exhaustion and resentment and loss of respect for men, emotional volatility, and chronic anger. Carrying authority without structure is a very heavy burden and nobody thrives there. And as far as how it affects culture, there is constant instability, no accountability, no hierarchy, no arbitration, just feelings competing for dominance. Let me state the obvious here: a society cannot run on emotion alone. Someone has to decide, someone has to hold ground, someone has to absorb pressure without collapsing. And that used to be men. Strong men don't oppress women, they stabilize them. Strong women don't dominate men, they trust them. And when both are unformed, ideology fills in the gap. A culture that neuters men and inflates emotion will collapse under its own instability. We are watching it in real time. What's the solution? It isn't rage, I can tell you that. It's not mockery either. It's formation, it is purpose, it's responsibility, and it is a call to return to order. And one look around tells us that these things are very unfashionable right now, which usually means it's exactly what we need. I cannot wait to hear what you have to say in the comments section. I am going to go out on a limb here, knowing my audience uh that I'm speaking to, I know that uh there's a good number of you that will probably agree with me uh on many of those points, maybe not all of them, uh, but I, you know, I'm using um what I see and what I read and what I hear as my reference points. You know, looking around, just a good look around, tells you that all of this is absolutely true. You have overly dominant directionless women um who have taken on the traditional male stance in roles and responsibilities, and men who have stepped back and um taken on much more of the traditional female um roles or positions, and inevitably somebody will come into the comment section and say something along the lines of, oh, so what you're trying to say is that blah, blah, blah. If I didn't specifically say it, I'm not trying to say anything. I'm saying exactly what I said. So, and I'm speaking in more broad and general terms. I'm not talking specific. So if you want to come in and say, oh, so you're saying a man who stays home to raise the kids while the woman works outside of the house is less masculine, he's not a man, he's a beta male. If he does that, well, he might be. I'm not necessarily saying that he is, but he might be. He very well could be. And if that works for your family dynamics, you're raising strong, healthy, uh, competent, productive little humans. More power to you. That's terrific. Then I'm then I'm clearly not speaking to you, am I? Like you're not the one that this is directed at. This is directed at the people I exactly talked about just a few minutes ago. So I'm I won't even entertain, I never even do. I never entertain those types of comments because they're strongly in arguments. They want you to argue a point that you never made. So don't get sucked into it when somebody does that. And unless you can quote my exact words um and ask me about the things I specifically exactly said, it doesn't even, not even a blip on my radar. So just a bare warning. I mean, comment away and totally fine. I'm not saying you can't comment, I'm just saying that I won't respond or react to it because it's just absurd and silly to me. Um, you know. So yeah, uh, but I do, I do like to see your comments. Um uh like to hear your opinions on these matters. You know, case in point, um, the comment that was uh left that I showed you at the beginning of the episode, the top of the episode, you know, was was great. It was a great opener to bring up this aspect of the conversation, of the topic, um, the counterpoint to the liberal white women. Well, what's the other side of that? Well, liberal white men. So uh, you know, let's be real here. Um is it an insult to be referred to as low-T beta men? I mean, it should be. You know, I'll tell you what I can see in my own personal life. I I will use myself and my husband as an example. Uh, I have a strong, steady rock of a husband uh who gives me the freedom and the comfort and the safety of doing all of the things that I choose to do. I am an exceedingly happy, peaceful, blessed, relaxed woman because I know the man that I have in my life is the perfect counterpart to me. I don't have to take on roles that I'm not designed for, that I'm not comfortable with, that I simply don't want to do. I I don't want to. Um, and I don't feel that I need to. Therefore, I can tell you with complete sincerity that I wake up every day pretty peaceful, happy. I mean, I everybody has life stuff that gets them anxious and worried and stressed, and uh, you know, I mean, we're not that's not even like duh, right? Um, but I I'm talking in that deeper sense, you know. We talk about uh to give you a comparison of what I mean, like when we talk about being happy and having joy. Um, happy is like a fleeting emotion, it's it's conditional, it's um it just bounces all over the place depending on what's going on on the surface of things. When you have joy, joy is something that is deep. Uh, it withstands all of the external pressures that go on in life. Um, it grounds you in a way that uh happiness cannot, because it's dependent upon external things. You know, so that that's kind of like my comparison. This is this is a a contentment and peacefulness that is grounded in a deeper um knowledge, a deeper understanding. And um, for all of these people that we're talking about in these past two episodes, the liberal white women and the liberal or beta low T males, um, there is, and I haven't even talked about this yet, um, so I will touch on it briefly because I think it's a great way to close it out. The, you know, other thing that they all have in common is that they are not grounded in Christ. They do not have a spiritual, faith-driven grounding that has them steadied on something greater and more important than themselves or their feelings. Besides having, uh for me, I'm talking about me again, talking about me again. Uh, besides having a wonderful, supportive, strong, masculine husband, I have my foundation firmly in Christ, firmly in knowing who I am, because I know whose I am. So my identity is already set by a God who knows me down to the strands of my hair, to the depth of my soul, and loves me unconditionally, unwaveringly, unfailingly to know that, to know that you are so profoundly. Inexplicably, undefinably loved to your very core before you're even born. To know that alone ground you in a way that nothing in this world can. And that is what I wish for everyone. I pray for you to know that type of uh grounding and love and trust and faith in your life because it will change the way you see everything. And you will wake up every day experiencing that level of deep, profound joy. Happiness will come and go. Sadness will come and all of the earthly, worldly things will come and go, and you will weather every single one of them when you are rooted in Christ. Um, and that is what these people are lacking. And by the way, it's what they're searching for. Everyone is searching for a purpose and uh something to anchor them, otherwise, we are just wandering around, unmoored, without purpose, without real value or belief in real value in your existence. And that's what they're looking for. They're looking for something to have meaning, is what every single person on the planet does from the moment we are uh I don't know, conscious, I guess, we are seeking purpose and meaning. Um, and when you anchor in things of this world, these superficial things, um, this is what you get, this is what you have. So that is if if we want to just take uh both of these episodes and sum it up with a tidy bow, that is it in a nutshell. That's that is it. Everyone is seeking meaning and purpose and grounding. And if you are seeking it in this world, in society, in culture, um, in celebrities, you're not gonna find it. You're not gonna find it. And um I I'm genuinely sad for you. I am, but I'm hopeful as well. And hopeful that this will connect with one person, maybe more, but I hope at least one. I hope it connects with one person. And they hear the part of this message that they need to hear for themselves, and that has nothing to do with me. There's no uh inflating of my ego that hide reached somebody. It's that the that the word reached somebody. So I hope that it does. And uh that is all I got for this episode. I will see you guys next week, maybe the week after. I don't know, whenever the mood hits me to do all right. Take care guys, see you next time. Bye.