Inside a Throuple: How Does It Really Work?

What happens when three people decide to build one relationship together?

On this episode of OffAir with Gbemi and Toolz, we meet Precious, Jeffrey and Chidinma, known as the Feral Throuple, who say their relationship is built on love, honesty and communication.

They share how their unusual relationship started, how they deal with jealousy, family reactions, and the biggest misconceptions people have about polyamorous relationships. From meeting at the Ice cream store to navigating love with two partners, this conversation is honest, surprising and sometimes hilarious.

Is this the future of relationships or just something that works for them?

Watch as the hosts ask the questions everyone is thinking.

Episode Chapters:
 0:00 Introduction
 1:12 What is a polycule?
 3:05 How Jeffrey met Chidinma
 5:20 How Precious entered the relationship
 8:45 When the relationship became a throuple
 12:10 Are they all in love?
 15:00 Do their families know?
 18:20 “Did you use jazz?”
 21:10 What is intimacy like in a throuple?
 26:40 Jealousy and communication
 30:30 Planning children and marriage
 36:15 Public reactions and criticism
 41:40 Rapid fire questions
 45:20 MonieZone with Moniepoint
 52:10 Spin the Weekend with Gordon’s

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Initially it wasn't going to be a throppo. It was just him exploring other women while we were in a serious relationship and I was okay with that. You use jazz, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:12

Follow com jazz. What's the sex like? Don't try this at home.

SPEAKER_05 0:17

Don't try this at home. Do you love precious?

SPEAKER_03 0:20

Yes. Do you love chidima? Yes. Chidima, do you love Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_01 0:23

Yes, I do.

SPEAKER_03 0:24

Precious, do you love Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_01 0:25

Yes, I do.

SPEAKER_03 0:26

Chidma, do you love precious? Yes, I do. Precious, do you love Chidima? Okay. Okay. I don't pronounce the word of love. Man, wife, my wife.

SPEAKER_05 0:43

Welcome to another exciting episode of Off Air with Bammy and Tools. My name is Bammy, of course. I'm Tools. And let me tell you, today's episode is so juicy because we are having, you know, you see, as technology is is is moving on, as it's progressing, relationships are doing the same. We're seeing all kinds of relationships now. We have the polycules uh what do you call it?

SPEAKER_03 1:08

Definition a polycule is a connected network of people involved in a polyamorous, uh consensual, non-monagommonus relationship acting as a relationship web.

SPEAKER_05 1:20

Wonderful. But basically, to say, Shah, is that there's more than two people of you. A group of you in the relationship. So it's not just when you are doing masters and you're doing group projects or you're in school, there's also group relationship. We'll touch more on that very shortly, but make sure you sit tight because I'm telling you, you've never seen anything like this before in this show.

SPEAKER_03 1:40

I'm excited. Hi guys, so it is time for our guests. They are called the feral thropple. The feral thropple. Uh we are so excited. Uh, we've got a million and one questions, and we are going to start off with introducing everyone. Uh, so we've got precious, hi precious, Jeffrey, hello, Jeffrey, and Chidima.

SPEAKER_05 2:14

Hi, Chidima.

SPEAKER_03 2:16

Welcome, welcome, welcome. Thank you. I don't even know where to start. I'm like, I'm like, did your did your family WhatsApp groups explode the first time you posted? Let's talk about first of all.

SPEAKER_05 2:28

How did you all meet?

SPEAKER_00 2:33

You start the start. Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:35

Um I met Jeffrey through a friend. Okay, and that was 2017, and then we started dating a year after.

SPEAKER_05 2:45

Okay, that's so. How did you become a threesome? A thropo? How did you enter the picture?

SPEAKER_01 2:52

So I met Jeffrey at an ice cream shop. Jeffrey again? Yeah. Yeah. Then I didn't meet Chidima until like two years after. So okay.

SPEAKER_03 3:01

Wait, wait, so so you met Jeffrey and then were you guys dating or just friends?

SPEAKER_01 3:06

What year was this? Uh we met 2019. 2018. 2019. 18. Okay. 2019.

SPEAKER_03 3:12

So, Jeffrey, you'd been dating Chidima for two years, and then you met Precious. And what was your relationship like initially?

SPEAKER_01 3:19

Me and Ted?

SPEAKER_03 3:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:20

So I don't know. We're just friends, sort of a way. Uh, with slight benefits, yes.

SPEAKER_05 3:29

But while he was still dating Chidima, yes, okay. And did he disclose that?

SPEAKER_01 3:34

Um, initially, no. Initially, no. Yeah, he did, but it's not too far after then he did hungry.

SPEAKER_03 3:43

So, okay, so replay the whole thing. So you found out about Chidima. Were you like, were you angry? Were you like, okay, not okay?

SPEAKER_01 3:50

I was not angry, but I was just like enough men. And was like, then we stopped talking for a while, and because we're not in the country. So when they came back, he called and said, or like you liked me, and we messed up back. We've been going since then.

SPEAKER_05 4:05

Wait, wait, wait, how did he how did he present the offer? Did he say, Come on, join us? Come on, join us. Tropolis do you wait for you?

SPEAKER_01 4:13

Okay. Yeah, it was just like when me and Chidima met, the first day we met, we just clicked and we like we liked each other, so it was just so was it the first time?

SPEAKER_03 4:24

So you said they were out of the country, they came back, he called you. So was it that first meeting that you met Chidima as well?

SPEAKER_01 4:30

Oh no, we met alone first, then I met Chidima the next day.

SPEAKER_03 4:34

And then how did he propose this idea to you? Well, or was it you that proposed the idea? Who proposed the idea?

SPEAKER_01 4:40

Nobody proposed the idea. We just it just happened, like it just went through the flow.

SPEAKER_03 4:45

Well, technically, you're supposed to beat her, or you're supposed to beat her, or you're supposed to join and beat him. Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 4:52

So, how did it turn from a okay, you know, we're just gonna be chill and just you know between me and death, so I could understand why he didn't initially tell more about her because it was just he just hurts me.

SPEAKER_03 5:03

So, but it was a fairly serious thing between you and Jeffrey.

SPEAKER_02 5:06

Yeah, we were in a serious relationship, and he said before he met Precious, he actually told me, Oh, he's this kind of person and wants to explore other women in this way, and I was like, Okay, went through that, and then he went to buy me ice cream actually. The day he met Precious. This ice cream, this ice cream, yeah. So he he went to buy me ice cream that day, and then he came back with the ice cream. I was like, Oh, he met one girl, her name is Precious that same day. I was like, Oh, okay, cool. Said okay, they want to explore something. And you weren't upset at all because we had the conversation before they met, so um, we had already gone through that, and then I was like, Okay, I'm cool with that.

SPEAKER_03 5:48

And yeah, when I met Precious, was she the first person that had tried to be part of your thing, or was there somebody else?

SPEAKER_02 5:57

It initially it wasn't going to be a thropo, it was just him exploring other women while we were in a serious relationship, and I was okay with that, but we I met Precious, and it was I just remembered each other. So I have a question.

SPEAKER_06 6:16

I was a simple question.

SPEAKER_05 6:17

Hold on, one second. So, what if you go out one day and you like in another young gentleman? Are you allowed to explore as well?

SPEAKER_02 6:24

I never really did like any gentleman. What about precious?

SPEAKER_01 6:28

Um, yeah, I think I don't find other men that train into what's being how wait wait wait you use jazz.

SPEAKER_03 6:44

How do you do it?

SPEAKER_05 6:46

Yeah, yeah, you use jazz, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Full of common jazz.

SPEAKER_05 6:53

No, but jokes apart, um and why okay, it's one thing to decide to want to do this, another thing to decide to be open about it. Because I'm pretty sure there are people who are in this same sort of arrangement or relationship but are not out there or public about it. So why they need to talk about it for and create like a page. You guys have a page and everything.

SPEAKER_00 7:17

I think for what me and Chiduma have, we've been serious for a very long time. And we do almost everything together. Our businesses, we run everything together. We understand the importance of attention for any business that you're trying to actually put out there. So we had a YouTube channel called Jeff and Chidima. Um we've just been putting content as to the best of our ability. And since we made things official with Precious, it automatically becomes the feral trouble. Because the point of Jeff and Chidima is just expressing our life as a couple. So there are lots of couple channels out there. It's as simple as those couple channels, it's just three. Okay, three, yeah. So it changed from Jeff and Chilima to the Feral Trouble. So are you are you all in love? In love? Um, probably. But I'll say love, yes. In love, no, we're growing in love every day.

unknown 8:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 8:24

Do you love precious?

SPEAKER_00 8:26

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 8:26

Do you love Chilima? Yes. Chidima, do you love Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_01 8:29

Yes, I do.

SPEAKER_03 8:30

Precious, do you love Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_01 8:31

Yes, I do.

SPEAKER_03 8:32

Chidima, do you love precious? Yes, I do. Precious, do you love Chidima? Okay. Okay. I'm not pronouncing. Man, wife, man, wife. Um, I I have a question for Jeffrey, actually. So you were uh pretty open with wanting to explore, you know, um situations with other women. If Chidima or Precious came to you and said, like, I met this guy at this ice cream shop. You guys would tell us where this ice cream shop is because we need to know. Um, so yes, I met this this you know guy and I like him and I want to see how it goes. Would you be okay with that or would you how would you what what would your yeah jealous?

SPEAKER_00 9:14

Um usually no, I wouldn't be jealous, but I would understand that that's not our alignment. It's not aligned and it's gonna be a deal breaker.

SPEAKER_03 9:27

Aligned according to whom? Another question. Wait, wait, let them answer this one.

SPEAKER_00 9:31

Yeah, according to all of us.

SPEAKER_05 9:33

Okay, if pressure says, Okay, I didn't meet a gentleman, but I met a lovely lady, she's smart, she's wonderful, she's beautiful. Can she join and become what was that? What was that term that was popular on Twitter? Polycule, they called it four people. What no, but that one was three people now. No, it was four. They were already was that guy, then two girls, and then somebody they they accused somebody of trying to join to make it a polycule. Right. So if somebody wants to make it a polycule, let me check out the polycule.

SPEAKER_00 10:04

I hear what's to answer that precious.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

Um it's not a big deal. We we even encourage uh we are looking for him to add to add to the do you all live together?

SPEAKER_05 10:15

Yes, who pays the bills? I do stuck his provider, the main provider. Okay, um, is this going to have you told your parents or your family members? Do your family what did they what was the reaction? Mixed reaction.

SPEAKER_03 10:31

Can I just you for the the question that you asked, they answered, but we need to discuss the answer. Well, I'm waiting for them to land. So so no, they've already answered. So basically, so basically, in this um thropple, let's say you want to make it a polycule or a or a crople. Um, so another man is not welcome, but another woman is. Yes.

SPEAKER_05 10:53

Kind of like Neo, the artist. You know, he has three, you know, you know Neo, the Aram singer. So he has three girlfriends. He's been, he's, he's tried long, long relationships, he's tried marriage, and it didn't work out. So now he says, look, he has three girlfriends and they love each other and they go everywhere together, they go on tour with him, and um but so yeah, they're cool, but no, they have an agreement being that it's just the four of them. Okay. I'm very curious, and I know everybody wants to ask this question what's the sex like? Why are you are you nothing?

SPEAKER_03 11:29

I thought you were gonna say something like, Oh, what's like in the bedroom or no?

SPEAKER_05 11:32

No, like what I'm asking, like, is it like all of you together? Is it like okay, me and him tonight? Timetable or her and her tonight, or what's all of us tonight?

SPEAKER_00 11:42

It's vibes, yeah, it's really vibes, whatever feels like, whatever we feel like at any given time. Okay, there's no like it has to be me this time, it has to be me this time. Yeah, but generally, um, I am considerate as a man, and I understand probably I was with this person the last time. I think I want to be with this person this time.

SPEAKER_05 12:05

Are you taking your one a day vitamins? Not even that.

SPEAKER_03 12:09

Your veggies, fruits, and everything.

SPEAKER_05 12:10

It's your vegetable, exercising, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 12:14

So, so in terms of your um, let me not be like with me, in terms of your intimacy, do you always have to be involved, Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_00 12:23

Um as far as everything's concerned, all three of us, there's nothing as to have to be. I mean, it's out of the question. It's whatever works, whatever works, yeah. Whatever anyone feels like, as long as it's all three of us. So I'm not thinking.

SPEAKER_05 12:43

So if you if you go somewhere, let's say you go buy ice cream, I don't I don't care what happens. Wait, you go and then you come back and you miss them, you will you'll be like, eh, without me.

SPEAKER_00 12:53

I have no emotion towards it.

SPEAKER_03 12:55

Yeah, so but can you can you okay? Can you guys, uh particularly precious Angema, can you understand when people kind of feel like Jeffrey's getting an amazing deal? He's almost getting like the best part of the deal because it's two of you, he gets to enjoy two beautiful women, and you're not allowed to, you know. It's not like we're not allowed to you don't want to.

SPEAKER_02 13:18

But he said it's against your alignment, it's against his alignment, it's against my alignment. I wouldn't want pressures to be with another man or go around another man, it's not what I want for her, it's too chaotic for me. I don't want to come.

SPEAKER_05 13:32

Yeah, sure.

SPEAKER_02 13:32

This is already chaotic. I have a question.

SPEAKER_05 13:35

How do you know this chaotic? But nothing. Do you how do you ensure um safe sex? For example, preventing pregnancy, preventing, for example, like did you guys when you guys started to do this? Did you guys go get tested and say, okay, we're gonna get tested, we're gonna go do our health screening. It's important to especially in today. So yeah, I have to I do I don't want to just assume that that's what you do, but how do you prevent pregnancy? Or are you planning to have kids?

SPEAKER_03 14:00

You have a what she said, something which is um shale. You're a medical scientist, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:06

Love scientists, love scientists. So you get you you test, yeah, you test regularly.

SPEAKER_00 14:13

We have people come home and do these things. Um very, very particular about that. Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 14:19

Okay. So are you are you sure that if he comes home now with another beautiful damsel, that people will not be the girl?

SPEAKER_02 14:26

That's the thing.

SPEAKER_05 14:27

He wouldn't just he wouldn't just come home with you know, it had to even with precious.

SPEAKER_02 14:32

I if she knows also that it had to go through me, you know. I had to accept that okay, I really like this girl, I want her to come home, you know, before that happened generally. So he wouldn't, he has respect for both of us, he wouldn't just randomly pop a girl on us, and I don't think he wants to, but if he does, I don't. But yeah, this wasn't planned, it's it just happened. So I I think if he's going to see another girl and wants to bring down, he'll have to go through both of us. It's gonna be expensive, expensive, expensive.

SPEAKER_05 15:04

You guys didn't answer my question about about kids. Are you planning to introduce children into this uh relationship?

SPEAKER_02 15:11

Alignment on time whenever we feel comfortable and ready. I think it's both of us, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 15:19

What about marriage? Is marriage on the table?

SPEAKER_02 15:22

We're married.

SPEAKER_05 15:23

Oh, you're legally married, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:25

All three of you is 2020.

SPEAKER_05 15:26

No, you can only be in terms of you can only be legally married, sir. So are you traditionally married to her?

SPEAKER_00 15:31

Um, we're getting a certificate from South Africa because then it works there.

SPEAKER_05 15:35

Okay, oh, through's work there in essay. That's news to me. I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_03 15:41

So, so as somebody that um grew up in the polygabbas home, how do you deal with jealousy?

SPEAKER_02 15:48

Yeah, jealousy is very normal. Let's say normal, you know, people even get jealous with their friends, their girlfriends, you know, when my friend is playing with her other female friend too much. Hanging out, yeah, if they're hanging out too much and like and they're posting on Snap and like left me. So I think it's what you do with that feeling, how you express it. Babe, I don't I feel like you guys have been together for a while. I want this attention right now. Instead of harboring all those feelings and allowing it build up, we communicate a lot. We talk a lot, we talk a lot. Yeah, I talk to Jeff a lot, I talk to Precious a lot about my feelings.

SPEAKER_00 16:26

It's very it's first not demonizing jealousy. The point is, most humans demonize that emotion. It's a natural, healthy emotion. It's what you do with it, it's how you allow it to control you that it's the difference. So when you feel something, you just communicate in a very healthy way, and the other person listens to you, and they act accordingly, you know, towards your needs and how they can adjust, and that's how it works.

SPEAKER_05 16:54

Precious, how do you guys resolve conflicts?

SPEAKER_01 16:57

Same thing, we talk a lot. We can go for hours in a particular matter. Yes, trying to go step by step. Why do you feel this way? What happened, the way you responded, this, this, and we go till we end. I'm like, oh, okay, yes, we are sorry, we are sorry, we are sorry, everybody.

SPEAKER_05 17:15

Do you guys like gang up on each other and be like, huh? So let's say precious, and like both the ladies are like, we're going to do with him today. We're not talking, we're not even speaking to him. Good morning, that kind of thing. Or it's oh, uh, precious and Jeffrey against the other. Do you understand what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 17:30

No, we don't. Nobody does that. If someone has an issue with one person, everybody's or starts to see that issue is over.

SPEAKER_03 17:38

Okay. Um, I was gonna ask, so have you guys this is obviously um an unusual situation? Um, have you guys um lost friends? Have you like had issues with family members because of this?

SPEAKER_01 17:56

Honestly, yes, yes, because right now my parents are pastors in church, and like so it's like yeah, both of them are pastors, yeah. So it's like you're worshipping devil, dreams, all sorts of so like, but in eventually they would come around because like in this world, I think happiness is one of the most important factors, and if you see your child drink, then you get happy. You leave all those dog things that you then want the behind. You say, Okay, yeah, my child is happy and all that.

SPEAKER_03 18:30

Have your parents have your parents met Jeffrey? No, have your parents met Jeffrey? Yes, yes, before or after the structural before and after. And what do your folks think?

SPEAKER_02 18:43

Um, my mom's just she does she still gaslight myself, she still thinks it's not true. Yes, it's content. She thinks it's content, and I keep telling her it's not content or it's real, but it's crazy to she she feels like it's crazy to bring in another woman into your peaceful, perfect whole marriage.

SPEAKER_05 19:00

Yes, so what about you, Jeffrey? What's your family's take on this?

SPEAKER_00 19:04

I haven't been in good communication with them in the past two years.

SPEAKER_05 19:08

The past since the thropple started?

SPEAKER_00 19:10

No, no, the thropple just became known to people generally, about a month ago, generally, like social media. But we've been collectively together about eight years. So, but most people just know Chidima and I as a couple. Okay, precious has been behind the scenes to most people in the world. So my parents, we haven't had this conversation just yet. But they're well aware of me and Chidima.

SPEAKER_05 19:38

What's our middle name? Jeffrey.

SPEAKER_00 19:41

What's it not yet?

SPEAKER_05 19:43

Have you been dodging their calls? Oh, okay. Now, um, being with one person for me, it's hard enough. I'm busy. You I find like I have to constantly say I need to make time for this person, and you know, vice because we're both busy people. What line of work are you in that you have time for two partners? How you must be doing like maybe business or something, like not clocking into you know, like a strict okay. Like, what do you do, Pressure?

SPEAKER_00 20:13

Like, you can't do this with a 95. Not possible.

SPEAKER_05 20:15

What do you what do you do?

SPEAKER_01 20:16

So I'm I'm in center, but I was doing meta before, but right now I'm focusing more on social media.

SPEAKER_05 20:23

Okay, Jeffrey had mentioned that you're into business. What about you, Chudima?

SPEAKER_02 20:27

Yeah, we do it together. Everything together, we're dropshipping social media.

SPEAKER_00 20:30

Basically, I've been working together since we met. So, right now we're working on fashion brand. Fashion brand, yes.

SPEAKER_03 20:35

We're working on fashion brand now. Uh, what would you say is the biggest misconception, or what are the biggest misconceptions when people think of throttles?

SPEAKER_02 20:44

Well, they think of chaos and fight and constant struggle for attention. And it's actually the opposite way it's easy for me. I think having pressures at home, I have two people to share my emotions with, I have two people to talk to. I is it's better. And people just they just assume it's chaotic, you know. But it depends on the human beings that are doing it, it's not one size fits all, you know. So we're we're already having a nice relationship where we're communicating properly. So another person adding to that relationship just makes it better. We just continue with that. If someone wants to leave, okay, go go ahead.

SPEAKER_05 21:26

What about you, Jeffrey?

SPEAKER_00 21:27

I think there are a lot of monogamous relationships out there that are chaotic. Yes, very chaotic. Uh so we went through a lot of transformation, demonna, healing, you know, all our childhood traumas because some of these things are what causes chaos in monogamous relationships. So when we find the proper way to have a healthy relationship, we share that with someone else who's more precious, and she understands the core of. A healthy relationship is like, so it's like we multiply that.

SPEAKER_05 22:04

Have you all ever gone to like therapy together or like counseling together? Like, you know how some couples go to couples counseling?

SPEAKER_00 22:10

Have you just before we got married? But it was just like, oh, we're about to you know take this lifelong decision. Why don't we just go see someone just talk about it? But it was just one session, it wasn't really anything at all.

SPEAKER_03 22:23

So this is a lifelong as in this is it.

SPEAKER_05 22:27

We are life partners, basically. Yeah. Okay. Okay. All right. I think I've uh you've answered every question that I have, you know, down to the one that all of you gasped about. But so don't don't act like you are an ass. You think they all just pray together every night if that's it. You know, but so what would you advise? Would you advise people to try it, not try it? What's what would you say to people? Don't try this at home. Don't try this at home. So it's not as easy as it looks.

SPEAKER_00 22:53

It's a lot of work. I mean, you have to break yourself because most of the humans you see in this planet are programmed. A lot of what we think we are, we're all just programming from the society, from religion, from the people before us. You know, so at some point you get to ask yourself is this really me or is this just a set of programming? And then you start to unlearn things that do not serve you and look for things that actually serve you. So some people are not happy in this world because they try to force themselves into the programs that were created for them. So I don't think this is something that people should look out for because I never did myself. So basically, just do you just do what works for you? Do what works for you as far as you're doing it with love for yourself and love for anyone else involved. Do you doesn't mean I mean do others harm and all those kind of things. It's do everything with love. I think love is my biggest language, my biggest rule.

SPEAKER_03 24:06

Have you guys said okay, go ahead. Then I'll ask you that it was it's it's a lot of work. It is it's a lot of work. Um, are there any times, has there been a situation where you're just like I can't do this anymore?

SPEAKER_00 24:19

In the beginning of our relationship, yeah, when it was just two of you? Yeah, most people think if it's meant to be, it's gonna be easy. It was rocky in the first few years, yeah. Really, extremely rocky. What made it rocky?

SPEAKER_02 24:34

Okay, so what made it rocky? We were we were both trying to heal our traumas, and you know, we had different upbringings, and you know, I was very artistical. He you know, he I don't know, it was just crazy. I I was stubborn and I did not want to hear I think I did not trust men, you know, and meeting a man for the first time that I could trust was I don't know, I just didn't know what to do with that. Patterns repeat, yeah, from trauma of past relationships and you know it's it made us really bump heads.

SPEAKER_03 25:12

So my question was like, as a thropple, has it been a situation where this is to to all of you, has it been a situation where you're just like, oh my gosh, this is too much, I need to get out of this.

SPEAKER_01 25:22

I think it was mostly on my side because I was the one coming in to meet them, and like they had this set of ways, set of things, how they do things, and it was like we're not sure if we're getting married or being serious or like anything. We were serious when we're dating, but it was just like you know, society makes you think ah, it's not possible, I can't work, it can't work, like my family's gonna be happy. I might my friends might not be happy. I'm always thinking like about other people and how they'll view me in this situation. So it was very rocky. There are times I ran away, came back, ran away, came back. But eventually I was like, am I doing it for other people or I'm doing it for myself? If I found two people that genuinely love me and make me happy and make me grow, make me better, do I run away? Because other people judge me. So, you know, I just had to stick eventually.

SPEAKER_03 26:23

You know what? Let me just this is actually this conversation. Um, I'm not quite sure how I expected it to go, but it seems like you guys have a very healthy and balanced situation.

SPEAKER_02 26:38

Yeah, I think it's because we had that and then we got to know each other more. So when Precious came in, it just blended in because we already went through all the chaos before she came in. So almost every issue we had, we had already gone through that. So we like asked questions.

SPEAKER_03 26:57

So what what's um let me ask you, China Precious, what is your what can you how can you um what can you say your your relationship is similar to? Is it like friends, is it like sisters, is it like a is it like a romantic, you know? What is it like?

SPEAKER_01 27:16

It's everything. I don't I really don't know how to define it. I can't say it's one thing because it's everything. She's my sister, she's my friend, she's my best friend. She's my lover.

SPEAKER_04 27:28

I was gonna say lover five percent.

SPEAKER_01 27:36

It's not we don't have like that sexuality. It's deeper, deeper than that.

SPEAKER_02 27:44

Just sex. I think sex reduces it. Yeah, sex is just that box of oh, we are sexually with each other. It reduces what impact my love for precious is so and people think that we just to satisfy themselves, you know, that the lesbians as well.

SPEAKER_00 28:03

Yeah, a lot of people have different opinions about it, and I encourage all the opinions. I welcome it because you see from whatever angle you feel, but uh they really have great chemistry, it's nothing sexual.

SPEAKER_05 28:19

Well, I would I want to say well, well done to you guys. Um, shout out to you for being honest um about you know, like there were rocky times, not every it wasn't like oh happy in the beginning, and there were times you had to work through it and all that. Shout out to do you should we do the the rapid fire question?

SPEAKER_03 28:35

We'll do that in a second. Um, I just want to say I I think I saw you guys first. I think I was the one that saw you guys first on on social media, and I was like fascinated. I was like, wow, in this Nigeria, this is going on, and I was just curious. And um, I'm just I I think I need to like go home and just think about it because I like I said I wasn't sure what I was expecting.

SPEAKER_05 28:55

You want to go ahead and introduce Koai?

SPEAKER_03 28:56

Please, please, please. Me, me myself, I'm I'm enough troubled to be in a relationship with you know the guy will just be like, bye, just travel, it would just be like a long distance thing. No, I couldn't, I couldn't. I'm I think I'm a bit um, I think I'm a bit jealous.

SPEAKER_00 29:09

It's not real, it's not very real. It's our unique experience.

SPEAKER_03 29:12

Yeah, now like if I was gonna do it, it was gonna it's gonna be because there'll be three incomes, more money to spend three incomes, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

That's what we're all working on. But that's not the that's not the essence of why we're together.

SPEAKER_03 29:26

Wow, okay. So we're gonna do a rapid fire question. Uh sorry, rapid fire um section, rather, and you guys have to just the first answer that comes to you. Just say it. All right, who's most dramatic?

SPEAKER_05 29:42

Who is most dramatic? Okay, okay. Who apologizes first? Okay, who eats the most?

SPEAKER_00 29:52

None of us, we don't eat much.

SPEAKER_05 29:54

Who controls the playlist?

SPEAKER_00 29:56

Control DJ Who gets jealous fastest?

SPEAKER_03 30:02

Fastest. Me? Ah, you're the newest one. I'm messing with you. I'm saying it's like Liddy.

SPEAKER_05 30:13

If this relationship was in Nollywood movie, what would the title be?

SPEAKER_03 30:21

Okay, and last one, who is most likely to storm out of the house? I was gonna say, because you kind of did say you ran away a few times. All right, and lastly, where can people find out more about you know your lifestyle, your what do what do you call this now? Thropple throppled. Where can they follow you?

SPEAKER_01 30:42

Oh, necessarily tick tock. What's the handle?

SPEAKER_03 30:47

The the feral thropple.

SPEAKER_00 30:51

Instagram is at feral underscore through.

SPEAKER_03 30:54

Okay. Okay, all right, and we you should have seen their handle on the screen.

SPEAKER_00 31:02

Yeah, ferrotruple and YouTube.

SPEAKER_03 31:05

Is there anything else that you guys would like to add? I feel like we've asked everything.

SPEAKER_02 31:08

I'm telling you, I'm telling you, but I I just I I assume the comments always say how did they convince you guys? But I'll say my love and our love really brought this relationship together more than Jeff convincing us. I remember actually being the one saying precious must be. I was gonna say, Well, why?

SPEAKER_05 31:35

Like, do you get any hate in DMs and comments?

SPEAKER_02 31:39

A lot of women look at us like we've betrayed womanhood by yeah, like why would you because most women feel like oh my husband is cheating, but as long as he doesn't bring her home, and it's like I brought her home. Like, why are you breaking that code? So, my friends have told me some of their married friends have reached out to them and like why is Chilima doing this? And I understand them, you know, it's their world, but this is what works for you guys, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 32:04

This is what works for us. Okay, all right. Thank you very much. Thank you, Feral Thruple. Thank you so much for stopping by. Um, yeah, once again, if you want to follow them on Instagram, YouTube, yes, Feral Thruple. Um, thank you for stopping by. This has been extremely enlightening. No, I'm not gonna be trying it because the next thing women's gonna say I'm too busy.

SPEAKER_05 32:29

I'm too tired.

SPEAKER_03 32:33

No, but imagine, imagine you've had like a stressful day and somebody comes to you and says, Oh, you didn't spend time with me yesterday, I'll be like, Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 32:40

It's like a book, go watch TV, yeah. You're not you're not dependent. How much is how much alone time do you have? As as much as I need.

SPEAKER_02 33:00

Yeah, we all like our time.

SPEAKER_04 33:08

Thank you for stopping by.

SPEAKER_00 33:10

Thank you, it's been a pleasure.

SPEAKER_03 33:11

Okay, so guys, it is now time for money zone. This, of course, is brought to you by our good friends at Money Point, and this is where we make sure that your money's right. Whether it is your own like personal money, whether it's your money as a business owner, all of the above, we need to make sure that you're fine because this economy is not playing with anybody. See, I have got a question for you. Is your business, if your business can't run without you, is it really a business?

SPEAKER_05 33:45

It's a business, but it needs some structure, it needs uh like some systems in place, you know. Let's be honest. I know that people say this all the time, but Nigeria is a peculiar country with very peculiar people, you know, and um I won't say it's not a business, but you have to put things in place to ensure that it's able to run. Because there's sometimes that you might what if you have like a health crisis or something? Things like that. So that you have to, you know, systematically put things in place. Look, if a thropple can have a system, okay, your business should have a system. I be a laugh.

SPEAKER_03 34:22

You laughing that's true, they seem to be managing very, very well. I was just like, oh my gosh, you guys have your shit together.

SPEAKER_05 34:34

I said it um stop lying. Everybody heard you, you all heard right. Thank you. Oh, wow!

SPEAKER_03 34:41

Is that what we're doing now? It was even a small swear word. Really and truly, my money should not pass 2k. Duchess of O'Neill. I cannot believe you are pricing this. Let's see, Duchess of Etiosa. Thank you very much.

SPEAKER_05 34:54

Okay, sorry, Duchess of Etiosa, whatever.

SPEAKER_03 34:56

Bring money, Duchess that is what do you mean? I can price, though. Bring one of my favorite things is to go to market and price. Yeah, bring it. Can I have my card, please? Because I'm gonna bring my card. You know what? Enjoy your 2k. It's not 2k, it's 5,000. Whatever. What is it like? What did you say again? What is it?

SPEAKER_05 35:13

What did you say again?

SPEAKER_03 35:14

I said I said the S-word. Wait, so what about if like the thank you? What about if the crew swear? I don't know. We'll figure that out. Gimme, gimme. What is it? Give me what what's what is 5k to me? What is it?

SPEAKER_05 35:27

What is 5k to me? The chess, the chess, the chess, the chess, the chess. Nothing.

SPEAKER_03 35:32

I'm more than that now.

SPEAKER_05 35:33

Please put it. Am I not more than that? I'm making a lot of noise. And as you put your pin, just press okay so that the receipts will don't change the amount though.

SPEAKER_03 35:44

There you go. What is do you know how much is in my account? Ah, you guys have broken my my tablet. Do you know how much is in my account? What is 5k?

SPEAKER_05 35:51

Check well. I think I pressed 50.

SPEAKER_03 35:54

Even 50. What is 50k to mean? Oh, yeah, fine. Wait, let me check the receipts. Give me the receipt. Let me check that you only took 5k.

SPEAKER_05 36:00

Calm down. I used to really calm down. Okay, it's 5k. Okay, so let's get back to the topic. All right. Um, for those of you who are wondering what's happening, it's Money Zone is brought to you by our good friends at Money Point. And this is where we tell you basically how to make your financial lives better, whether you're a business owner or you're a nine-to-fiver. Um, if a business cannot function without the owner being present every day, that isn't freedom. That's the honest to God truth. It is pressure. And many entrepreneurs, yeah, they stay stuck because everything depends on them personally, including payments, financial records, and things like that. Now, a real business runs of systems, jokes apart. Now, when money is properly structured, accountability improves and delegation becomes uh possible.

SPEAKER_03 36:44

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SPEAKER_05 37:18

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SPEAKER_03 37:35

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SPEAKER_05 37:50

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SPEAKER_03 38:10

All right.

SPEAKER_05 38:26

You know what? Before we begin, we're gonna drink the whole thing, really. Let me let's it's time for us to spin the weekend. It's time for us to figure out what we're gonna do this weekend. So let's do it. Spin by the way, this is brought to you by Gordon. Shout out to them. Cheers. All right, so it has stopped at Afterwork drinks! I love it. I love afterwork drinks. Like, you don't go home straight, you go straight to like a bar or a lounge or something and just catch a few gist with your friends, you know, catch up on the latest gossip while you're sipping some drinks. Office, obviously, uh by Gordon's, of course. Gordon's cocktails.

SPEAKER_03 39:00

Do you know? I I think that sometimes that's actually the best way to get to know people. Um, one of the companies I used to work in ages ago, um, this is like when I was in London, it was almost like frowned upon if you didn't go for afterwork drinks.

SPEAKER_05 39:11

It's part of the networking.

SPEAKER_03 39:13

Yes, and then that's when you realize that your boss is actually crazy, very crazy.

SPEAKER_05 39:17

All right, and that person that we used to work with and they used to carry out of the club every time. Anyway, continue. Continue. Continue.

SPEAKER_03 39:28

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SPEAKER_05 39:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 39:52

I think that's my favorite.

SPEAKER_05 39:54

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SPEAKER_03 40:06

Don't go out, don't go for afterwork drinks and end up insulting your boss. That's a no-no.

SPEAKER_05 40:10

No, no, no, no. And don't drink and drive. Obviously, get a ride or someone to drive you home and all of that. But it's a great way to kick start your weekend.

SPEAKER_03 40:19

Yes, yep. And there you go. Your weekend has officially been activated. Big shout out to Gordon's Gin and big shout out to you for watching. Have a fantastic week. What's this episode?

SPEAKER_05 40:34

Cheers, guys.