Rock Solid Radio - Who's the Boss in Your Home? - Episode 229

Rock Solid Radio - Who's The Boss in Your Home?

Hosts - Merrill and Linda Hutchinson

“We parent out of a sense of fear, or guilt, or obligation. And that's not how God has called us to parent and lead our family,” explains Linda Hutchinson. Throughout their 70 combined years of life coaching, ministry, and counseling, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson have seen a major shift in the parents’ authority over their homes. This dysfunction bleeds out from the family and creates discord in society on a whole. Today, Merrill and Linda talk about authoritative parenting and how to re-establish yourself as the boss in your home. 

Authoritative parenting is different from authoritarian parenting in that it is not based on yelling or reacting emotionally. In order to establish and maintain authority, parents need to both be on the same page regarding the value system of their home. If parents are not on the same page, reflecting on God’s Word can be helpful for choosing which way to go on any given issue. Once those values are established, consistency is key. When you waver on your values, your children will lose respect for your authority. Using a balance of rewards and punishments is crucial for maintaining the expectations of your household. If you’re always rewarding your children and never doling out any negative consequences for their actions, those rewards are going to quickly become ineffective.

When you need help with parenting or you feel pressured to loosen your values due to cultural pressures, look to the scriptures. God’s Word has been very clear on how he wants us to parent as leaders of our families. Tune in to Rock Solid Radio for 10 tips for re-establishing authoritative parenting in your household. 

Quotes

• “The family is the building blocks of our culture in our society.” (6:22-6:6:27 | Merrill)
• “Your eight year old, even though they can work the computer better than you, does not have the maturity to understand the dangers of social media and why TikTok isn't healthy for them. You are the parent. We need you to step up and to lead your family well.” (16:21-16:38 | Linda)
• “We parent out of a sense of fear, or guilt, or obligation. And that's not how God has called us to parent and lead our family.” (18:02-18:10 | Linda)
• “Never negotiate with your child until you can see that their value system is aligned with yours.” (30:07-30:17 | Linda) 
• “Authority being established and maintained is far more important than the thing that you're arguing about.” (31:19-31:24 | Merrill)
• “Our discord in our world today, so much of it comes out of the discord and disunity that's coming in from the family, and we've got to change that.” (35:00-35:08 | Linda) 

Links

Instagram Merrill Hutchinson | https://www.instagram.com/hutchinsonmerrill/?hl=en 

Instagram Rock Solid Families | https://www.instagram.com/rocksolidfamilies/?hl=en 

Website | https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org/ 

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