Rock Solid Families

Do You Have A Soulmate? Ep 307

Rock Solid Families

Do You Have A Soulmate?

What Does the World Say vs. What Does the Bible Say? 
Cultural Perspective

  • Movies, books, and pop culture promote the idea of "the one."
  • The idea that happiness is found in finding a perfect match.

.Biblical Perspective

  • The Bible does not explicitly mention "soulmates" in the modern romantic sense.
  • God's plan focuses more on covenant love, commitment, and choosing to love rather than a fated "perfect match."
  • Scripture: Genesis 2:18 – "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (God provides a partner, but not a predestined “one and only.”)


God's Role in Relationships – Divine Guidance vs. Destiny 

  • God’s Sovereignty in Choosing a Spouse
    • God gives wisdom and guidance rather than a rigid blueprint.
  • Marriage is a Covenant, Not Just a Cosmic Connection
    • Marriage is a commitment that requires work, not just a magical connection.
  • When that covenant is broken…then what?  It's a myth that there is only ONE partner for you out there. What happens if they leave you or die? The bible is clear that you are free to marry again if your spouse dies.  If you adhere to this idea of ONE soul mate then you could never marry again or find love again? God may have other good plans for your life involving someone else. 

How to Approach Relationships Biblically 

  • Seek God's Wisdom and Pray for Guidance
    • James 1:5 – " If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (Don’t leave God out of the search)
  • Look for Biblical Compatibility, Not Just Chemistry
    • 2 Corinthians 6:14 – "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers..." (Spiritual compatibility matters.)
  • Commitment Over Feelings
    • Love is a DECISION NOT A FEELING AND is built through commitment, service, and sacrifice, not just finding a “perfect match.”
    • 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, kind, and enduring, not based on feelings alone.


Segment 4: Encouragement for Singles & Married Couples 

  • For Singles:
    • Focus on becoming the right person, not just finding the right person.
    • Trust God's timing and plan.
    • Don’t seek someone that you can’t live without or is dependent on you. That’s not healthy.
    • Not Dependent. Not Independent. But instead Interdependent. 
    • Interdependence means sharing your feelings and needs with a partner without fearing the relationship will end. Successful relationships are built on a solid foundation of safety in which our needs for security, trust, reliability, and nurturance are met
    • Psalm 37:4- Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
    • Matthew 6:33 – But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
  • For Married Couples:
    • Invest in your relationship daily—love grows through intentional effort.
    • Lean on God for strength during tough seasons.
    • Ecclesiastes 4:12 – "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (God strengthens marriages.)

https://rocksolidfamilies.org


Support the show

#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity