Graduation - Now What? Parenting after graduation. Ep 323

Now that the graduation ceremony is over and the party is cleaned up, what’s next for you as the parent? 
In past shows, we have discussed the Seasons of Parenting -  Season 1 - Service, Season 2 - Leadership, Season 3- Mentor, Season 4- Friend/Counsel. This time of graduation may very well be marking the movement into a new season, so what does it look like? 
Ecc. 3:1 says there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. 

This transition isn't about letting go completely, but rather about shifting your grip. You are moving from the role of a hands-on manager to that of a trusted consultant and encourager. It's a season of empowering them to build their own lives on the foundation you've so carefully helped them lay. Here are some key principles to guide you in this new and rewarding phase of parenting:

Advice - 
Continue to Build and Maintain the Relationship.  
What kind of adult relationship do you want with your adult child?  Be clear about how you are going to interact and what you want the relationship to look like.  This is a conversation that you want to have with your adult child.  What do they want in the relationship?  Assumptions often burn people.  Try to define and clear up any possible areas of confusion. 

Establish Clear Expectations and Healthy Boundaries.
If your graduate is living at home, open and honest communication is paramount. This is no longer a child-parent dynamic but a relationship between two adults sharing a living space. Sit down together and respectfully discuss expectations regarding finances (rent, bills), household responsibilities, and general house rules. 

Expect and Foster True Independence. 
True independence isn't just about financial self-sufficiency; it's about taking ownership of one's life – spiritually, emotionally, and practically. This may mean resisting the urge to rescue them from every challenge. Allow them the dignity of navigating difficult situations, whether it's a tough job search, a challenging roommate, or a budgeting shortfall.

Champion Their Spiritual Growth from the Sidelines. 
If they haven’t already, it is time for you to encourage them to develop their own faith and not live yours. 

Equip Them for the Practical Duties of Life. 
Adulthood comes with a host of practical responsibilities. Take the opportunity to come alongside them as a coach in areas like financial literacy (budgeting, saving, giving), career development (resume building, interview skills), and basic life skills (home and car maintenance, cooking). 

Cover Them in Prayer. 
Perhaps the most vital role you will now play is that of a dedicated prayer warrior for your child. Pray for their wisdom, for their protection, for their relationships, and most importantly, for their continued walk with the Lord. Your prayers are a powerful spiritual covering as they step into the world and face new challenges and temptations. Entrusting them to God's sovereign care will also bring you peace and strength during this transition. As Psalm 127:1 reminds us, "Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain." Surrender your anxieties to God and trust in His perfect plan for your child's life.

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