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Low Confidence? Here’s How to Build It | Dr. Nicole Gabana Chiesa: #171

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If you grew up in a broken or divorced family, struggling with confidence isn’t random.

Research has consistently shown that children of divorce are more likely to experience lower self-esteem, higher anxiety, and greater insecurity in relationships. When love feels unstable or conditional early on, it shapes how you handle pressure later in life.

You might:

  • Overthink conversations
  • Freeze in high-pressure moments
  • Feel like you have to perform to be loved
  • Or believe everyone else is just naturally more confident

In this episode, licensed psychologist and Certified Mental Performance Consultant Dr. Nicole Gabana Chiesa breaks down what confidence actually is — and why it’s not personality.

We explore:

  • The subtle belief that makes confidence collapse when you fail
  • What’s happening in your brain when anxiety spikes
  • Why hyper-focusing on yourself increases insecurity
  • How to stop just listening to your thoughts — and start talking back
  • And why confidence is built through imperfect reps, not feelings

If your family didn’t model emotional stability, healthy conflict, or secure love… this episode gives you a roadmap.

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build. And you can build it.


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