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How to attract and *keep* a wife in 2025?

• Arlin • Season 2 • Episode 14

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Finding the right partner in today's dating landscape requires shifting from a self-focused wish list to spiritual alignment and divine timing. This journey demands intentional preparation, authentic connection, and consistent growth within the relationship.

• Start with sincere prayer and surrender personal preferences to higher guidance
• Clean your energy first by stepping away from hookup culture and clarifying values
• Strong relationships form because of competence and character, not current wealth
• Women don't need you to be financially "ready" - they need authentic commitment
• Regular relationship check-ins create safe spaces for addressing concerns
• Maintain emotional stability when your partner expresses strong emotions
• The best partnerships involve creating together beyond just raising children
• True love is a spiritual connection that withstands financial ups and downs
• Communication requires understanding feminine emotional vs masculine logical styles

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Speaker 1:

Yo, what up guys? Welcome back to the 8am World YouTube channel Today's video. We got another question from someone within the 8am World Members Club Network, state global brotherhood of creatives and entrepreneurs. This one's coming from Cameron and he's asking how to attract and keep your wife in 2025. And keep your wife in 2025.

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So I'm not a dating coach, I'm not a expert on women, I'm not even I'm not any type of guru in that sense. However, I have seen the journeys of thousands of men through the you know programs that I've created, whether it was Maxi or Tribe or now 8am and high achieving young men at that. I've also been in circles of you know all the kind of younger, wealthier, more successful guys in the space who are all in a lot of relationships, some of them married, some of them still dating, etc. I myself have been in a relationship for the past three and a half years now, which I'm actually pretty proud to say. I think that staying in a relationship is shows a bit of character, and so, especially if it's a healthy one. But yeah, the question here is, you know, nonetheless, even though I don't consider myself an expert, the question for me is Now, nonetheless, even though I don't consider myself an expert. The question for me is how do you find your wife? How do you attract and keep a wife who loves you in 2025? Now, here's the first point to kind of dive into here, and this is something I could talk about for quite a while. So we'll see how long this video goes, but I have a lot of wisdom to disseminate on this and I'm I'm I'm happy that you're asking and I'm happy that you're watching, uh, because this, if I had this video a long time ago, it probably would have saved me a ton of time.

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Now, the first thing is the. The overall paradigm that you're in, even at seeking from this perspective, probably means you've had a few failures. You've probably had some relationships that didn't work out. You probably did some hookup culture stuff. You probably, you know, found yourself just lonely at times as well, wanting, you know, a good partner. Maybe you see people online and they've been in relationships and they seem to be happy, and you're just trying to figure out, like, with all the information out there, what's the right information? Um, and this is something that I was in for a very, very long time, and the the good news, like the thing that I knew, was that I needed a lot of experience if I wanted to like figure out this whole sort of system, uh, this, this whole sort of paradox of finding a good woman, a good wife, in this day and age. If I wanted to do that, I would need to kind of shortcut a lot of the lust and the things that are built into society. So I made a lot of mistakes, which I'll go into later.

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But the number one paradigm shift that I had to have in order to kind of ascend to a higher level within my relationship and within like finding and attracting a good woman, is to shift from what you want to what is aligned for you by God, you by God. So a lot of guys, especially in like the personal development space, are obsessed with like getting their life how they envision it, getting their dream partner with all these specific character traits and all these specific you know um things that they want to have. And you know specific ethnicity, specific, like you know, job specific, you know a way that she treats you, all these very specific things that you want in a woman. And you make this list and you go out there into the world like looking for someone to complete this list that completes your preferences, and that's not the right way to go about it. The right way to go about it is to literally surrender, so around 2021,.

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I had kind of got ended this hookup phase and I got to a place where I was just like, I was just ready, like I was, I gave up what I wanted, my personal preferences, and I just made a prayer. I was alone in bed. I hadn't I've been basically celibate for like six months, not seeing anyone, and I just prayed to God and I was just like and at this time I didn't even have the same sort of spiritual, um, same sort of spiritual understanding that I do now, but I was like. I was like, dear God, I don't know what's right for me, I don't know what is good for me and a partner. I have obviously like a general direction and a general sense of values, but if you could please, if you could please, if you think that I'm ready for my partner, please bring her to me, please present her to me, and I'm ready and I will. I will uh, I will take care of your daughter. Is basically what I prayed to God for, because that's really all women are. We are all God's children and women. It's an angel. You're taking care of an angel and so it's a big responsibility, I think, to pray for and to have Now.

Speaker 1:

This is really important because it's hard right, because if you're a guy who's been kind of succumbed to hookup culture and you have shiny object syndrome when it comes to women, you realize that as soon as you make this prayer, you're relinquishing that sort of hookup culture and you're calling in someone into your life that you know. If you're a high achieving man, you know that you can make things happen. You know that you can probably make this happen. You know you're probably going to attract her. So by making this declaration, by making this prayer, by making this commitment internally, you forego every other woman in the world for one, and this is a big thing to do, right. So that's really like the first step. That's how you first start is with that intention and that space.

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Now, um, if this is resonating with you and you want to be in a group of brothers, uh, entrepreneurs and creatives and visionaries that also don't want to be subscribing hookup culture and want to attract, like a good woman, I'm building a community of these kinds of guys within 8am world where we don't only talk about relationships. We talk about everything else on this channel, from how to not get replaced by AI, to how to leverage AI to travel, to digital nomad life, to making more money in business, to just being creative and tapping into your unique artistic gifts. And so if you're interested in that, click the link in the description, go to 8amappcom and you can apply to the Members Club. After you submit the application, you'll also get the 8am Ascension manual for free, which is like a good starting point, and then you may or may not get accepted to 8am World, and you can also apply by just messaging me on Instagram the words 8am world.

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So, yes, um, going into the next part of this video, so there's a mentor of mine. His name's Mike, mike of wisdom on Instagram. He's very good at relationship advice and has a lot of deep wisdom. Um, and one of the things the paradigms that he taught me was clean, attract, keep. So the first thing you have to do when you want to attract a woman, in my opinion, is the. Is the intention right? You want to attract like a really good woman, like different than all the rest, right, um, you need to have that clear intention, like I shared the second thing. You need to have that clear intention, like I shared. The second thing you need to do is you need to clean yourself. So you need to refrain from hooking up with lots of girls from porn, from OnlyFans, from your Instagram feed should be clean of bikini models and you should get clear on, like your general overall vision for your values and how you want to lead your family. That's important and you want to kind of have like an intuitive sense of what to look for there so that when you attract someone, it's not like totally far off, like it's not that you shouldn't have any preferences as far as your beliefs and values, but you should get, get to know yourself more.

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Like in the cleaning era, it's a lot about not hooking up with lots of girls, not depending on validation by hooking up with lots of girls, by realizing, like when you were if you ever were in that kind of phase. Every time you're in that hookup culture mindset and you're hooking up with someone, you're kind of like adding to the problem that you probably don't want as a man. Like if you're watching this video, you're high achieving man. You probably don't want a girl that slept with a ton of guys Like, at least, if you're actively going about life, doing that, you need to baptize yourself. You need to literally not literally baptize, but you know you need to spiritually baptize yourself. You need to cleanse yourself, you need to cleanse your aura, because when you sleep with women a lot of women not only are you hurting them because you're not serious about it and you're contributing to the problem that you don't want to have for yourself, but you're also taking on problem that you don't want to have for yourself, but you're also taking on their energy.

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You know, I started to notice this kind of when I was in that sort of mindset, like you know, hooking up with a bunch of random girls, especially girls that maybe have trauma. You're taking on all that and it's just not. It's not a good, not a not a good energy to want to have. It's much better to be with someone that you enjoy their energy, enjoy their presence. Sleeping with them is healing and you can experience this, but it doesn't happen when you're just in the kind of endless uh hookup culture loop. So that's um, that's really important. That's really really important is is um, cleaning the, the aura, not hooking up with anyone. And while you're doing that, as I said, like getting in tune with your beliefs and your values and like how you want to lead a family, because that's, at the end of the day, what relationship is, for. It's leading a family, leading a tribe and, um, getting clear on those and and not being like hyper fixated on everything, because in a relationship you, you constantly have to work through things, but, um, you know, getting like a general sense of what you're looking for is good, simultaneously being open.

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Now the next thing is attracting. So this comes to like basically everything else on this channel, like if you're meditating every day, if you're building something creative, some kind of business, you're making something yourself, you're doing hard. If you're building something creative, some kind of business, you're making something yourself, you're doing hard work. You're, you know, overall putting God first and then being creative. The connection which is in 8am, the three values of 8am are alignment under God, creating, spending a lot of your day creating and then connecting with people that align to your energy and your creations. These are the values that will attract the right partner. So if you're doing those things, it doesn't matter how much money you have.

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This was a breakthrough that I shared with Cameron, which was like he was in the paradigm that you have to be this rich, successful guy in order to attract your wife. But truly, you want to be competent, you want to have demonstrated competence. But if you've already had a little bit of skill and a little bit ability and you've like, tested, like okay, I can provide, and you believe in yourself and you're constantly, if you're constantly working on yourself, the woman who's going to enter your life that God basically sends you is she's going to be with you, not for material items. She'll be with you for your soul, for your, for your um. She'll. She'll be with you for your uh, competence, right, like good woman will see competence over how much money you have right now, because there's I mean, think about all the billionaires now, all the successful, wealthy people in the world that are in relationships but at some point lost everything, and their woman is, you know, beside them still.

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Uh, I went through this with Chloe, you know, in 2024, I shut down all my businesses while having like a $40,000 a month commitment with the apartment and life that I was living in LA. I shut down everything and I burned like nearly all of my resources that year just to make music, and Chloe stood by me and so a really good woman is loyal and she believes in you and and she believes in your vision and you know you have a shared vision as well. You know you obviously want to align on like your, your vision, um. So so that's the second part of attracting is like you want to just work on yourself, you want to get get clear again on you, know the types of things you want, and then when you start dating and meeting, meeting girls, this is kind of the next phase of like attractions actually going out there.

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Now I I actually think that if you're really like dialed in and you you happen to be just going to the gym, going to business events, going to general social things, you don't have to like try that hard to go out and search her. She'll probably come across your lap. Like it could happen by chance. I'm under the obviously I know people that have like had successful relationships through a dating app, and I don't limit God to be able to only send people like you're the woman your dreams to you in person. Of course it could be sent to you in a dating app, but I'm under the belief that like it'll happen by more. So chance you know and you'll be it'll, it'll happen, likely in person.

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So I think it's good to constantly like brush up on your communication skills with women overall, especially if you're someone that's like nervous around that kind of thing, like if you're constantly, just whenever you see a girl that you find is pretty, just going up and saying hi to her, just having a casual conversation. Obviously, in the past with Tribe Accelerator, I've like broken this all down to a science. I'm not going to really go into that, that's not the point of this video. But if you're like a cool guy working on himself, all you have to do is just say hi. If you just say hi and then just see what unfolds from there, you don't need to know pick up lines, you don't need to know game. You just are in alignment, you are the game, you are the energy. There's nothing to be nervous about. It's way less stressful as well, like saying hi and talking to women.

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If you're coming from a paradigm of like actually genuinely looking for like a life partner, if you're actually genuinely looking for a life partner, women will sense that energy from you. If you're, if you're trying to like just be this guy who's in hookup culture and just trying to sleep with women and not talk to them again, then, yeah, you need pickup lines and you need all this manipulation and that's that will make you nervous talking to them. But if you're just genuinely like, rooted in alignment, rooted under god, rooted in your creativity, and you love what you're doing, you love who you are and you love the peace and joy that emanates from within you, that you experience in meditation on a daily basis, she's going to feel that you don't need pickup lines. So you don't need to get wait to get rich. You are good as you are. You don't need to get weight to get rich. You are good as you are. You don't need to wait until you have some level of like, pickup artistry or something you don't need to. You don't need to do any of that. You know you like. You just need to meditate, be creative and believe in that and believe in competence and believe in you know you're, you're constantly improving. When she comes into your life, she's not going to be perfect. You're not going to be perfect.

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But the last thing I would say as far as like keeping so there's Mike, mike of wisdom, good friend of mine. Uh, he says clean, um. So I say align, create, connect into the relationship realm. He says clean, attract, keep. And keep also means improve, you know. It means the relationship should get better over time as you age, and one of the things I've found really useful in my relationship as far as that goes is like, if you aren't spiritually aligned with your partner, it's very difficult, it's very, very difficult. So I would really look for someone who's committed to meditation and either whatever religion you were raised in, but like having a deep reverence for, like, prayer and meditation together.

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I don't really know how you can have a non-tumultuous relationship without that. Have, like every week or two, a relationship check-in and to, from the start, like develop a expectation within the relationship that, um, that you're just the type of couple that, like does relationship check-ins and you don't get offended like this. There should be like an hour or two hours every couple weeks that you have set aside where you enter a safe container where you can bring anything up that may or may not be bothering you about the relationship, and that's something that this helps me and Chloe a lot. And there's sometimes where, even when we do that like even earlier today, like we were kind of having that meeting, after sort of breaking down and debriefing, bali and Chloe gets a little emotional sometimes, but at the end of the day I know that her emotionality is just a kind of a feminine reaction and I can kind of feel, you know, in the moment she doesn't like.

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In my experience, women don't always mean exactly what they say. They're just reacting in the moment to how you're making them feel and it doesn't necessarily mean that what they say is like exactly what they mean. If you usually give it a little space, then they tend to cool down and be more like you know, point received Right Now. That being said, like, as you're kind of working through things in your relationship, because there's a lot to work through, there's a lot to a lot of growth that will happen in a longer term relationship, and what I've found is that, like, obviously, women are very, very emotional and they, um, they're more emotional beings whereas men are very logical.

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Men are super stuck in their head and logical and so communicating through logic to a woman, where she's communicating emotionally, can be kind of tricky. It's like a tricky thing to navigate. Um, this is why, like, I think the prayer and like intuitively understanding what, where each other are coming from and feeling each other's like soul and heart when you're having these kind of discussions is really really key. And so one thing I found to be like super, super useful in my relationship with Chloe when we're working through things is, as a man, really trying to not get blinded and get sucked into the emotional side of it, because if she's being emotional, she expects you to be energetically sound and aligned and logical and still. But as a man, if you start being emotional, then she's going to be more emotional and it's going to create this chaotic environment.

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You know the women's emotions are already very chaotic and so, as a man, you need to just hold your ground and be still, and sometimes that might mean that you have maybe a value that's really important to you that you know you want to lead your kids a certain way or you don't want to have, let's say, for example, you don't want your kids watching like junk TV shows, like reality TV or something. Maybe your wife or whatever loves reality TV and she might get really emotional, and it can be very tempting as a man to like go against what you know in your heart and what you know in your soul is correct, just to just to please the emotions of the woman and of your woman, and I think it's obviously good to like listen to what the emotions are trying to communicate to you, but you don't want to be run by those emotions. A man who gets run by his women's emotions is not going to end up in a very fun place, because a woman's emotions are very chaotic and they don't. They're often just reacting to something of how they feel and they they lead to logic that doesn't even align to what they want. So they might want you to stand your ground. It might make them feel safer, it might make them feel like their man is strong and could withstand a storm. And so you know, it's really important to like listen to the intuitive guidance that um, your woman, the enters of your life, can, can offer you, but it doesn't mean you should get run. You should get run by those emotions, um. So, yeah, I think I think another aspect of this is like it's been really great Like Chloe and I working together over the past few years.

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She's actually the events coordinator for um 8am world. She's really good like logistically and it's always helped me um over the past few years with all the events that we run and she's really good with like handling, you know, events set up and like handling all the vendors and making sure it looks really good and, um, we have good catering and food and all that and so, um, something to keep in mind, I think, is, like you and your partner, your job is to like create. You know you're you're creating. Obviously, first and foremost you're creating. Obviously, first and foremost you're creating children. When you're ready to have children, you're creating children. But longer term or shorter term, you're also creating. You know, whatever business you're working on, she's going to be involved in some way. Like she's going to be at business dinners. Maybe she has a certain skill set that complements yours. You might not be Alex and Layla Hermosi. She's probably going to help you in some way. Like she's going to be at business dinners. Maybe she has a certain skillset that compliments yours. You might not be Alex and Layla Hermosi, but she's probably going to help you in some way.

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And I think that being creative as a couple is also one of the most beautiful things that a relationship can present and really enhance. You know the love that you guys share, especially when you're. You know you're doing. You're're creating, eventually, children, but you're also creating like art and business. Actually, right now I'm on a plane and I'm flying to sonoma county to see my aunt and uncle and they're a great example of this. They're actually the founders of the napa valley film festival. They met at stanford. They're super smart, you know. They're in their 60s now and, yeah, they create films together. It's just beautiful. It's just really beautiful when you and your partner can create together and have brainstorming sessions and really have that beautiful kind of power couple dynamic. So look for that kind of alignment and not be afraid of it. Dynamic. So I look for that kind of alignment and not be afraid of it.

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I also think that a lot of, like, the problems that men have in relationships with women are actually due to their own lack of commitment and because when they're not fully committed in the relationship, the woman can feel that Like I'm reflecting back on one of my earlier relationships that was really tumultuous and, to be completely honest, I was just not bought in. Like I, completely honest, I was just not bought in. Like I just I was just in it for validation because I thought she was hot. I didn't really want to, like, settle down, get married and have kids with this girl. Like I just wasn't about that at all. I may have like led her on to think that, but like I really wasn't about that. Um, now, like I'm super transparent with like where I'm at and I commit with Chloe and I tell her, like exactly where I'm at, exactly where I'm thinking, and that makes her feel a lot more safe, even if it's not exactly what she wants to hear. It's better to be honest with, like your intentions and your direction and where you're moving and yeah, that's, uh, that's it. So clean, clean, attract, keep.

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If this video is interesting to you, you should definitely check out 8amappcom, where you can find the 8am application and also get access to the 8am Ascension scrolls and the Ascension manual as well. So, apply to 8am World. It's a brotherhood of creative entrepreneurs and visionaries who, like you, are probably looking to find and keep a good wife in 2025. And yeah, that's what looks like. We're descending in 10 minutes from this flight, about to hop on to the next one. So I hope you enjoyed this one.

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Watch the other videos on this channel. They should be really helpful to you on your journey. And if you want to see more relationship videos, please comment below. Share this with a friend. Let me see in my notes if there are any other things. Yeah, I think the biggest one is, like you know, you shouldn't have to wait to be financially ready in order for you to attract a good woman, because a good woman will stay with you even when you go broke and you'll probably go broke if you're like a high-achieving, entrepreneurial, creative guy. You might go broke multiple times. You have no idea what's going to happen, so you want someone who's going to stay with you. Beyond that. It's a true love. The true relationship is a spiritual connection. It's not a worldly connection. So your worldly achievements should not matter. So that's it. God brings you the right woman when you're sincere, not when you're perfect. I hope this video was useful. Dm me on Instagram. The word's 8AM World If you want to apply to 8AM World 8AM Members Club. I'll see you in the next video.