The Mind School
Welcome to The Mind School. The classroom for your mind and soul; where we design our life from the inside out. Here, you will find a human first approach to life, business and relationships to create freedom, growth and constant evolution through mindset, emotional intelligence, leadership and connection to Self. I'm your host Breanna May - Educator, CEO, Mindset and business mentor and my mission is to teach the things we never taught at school so that no dream is left on the pillow and no purpose left unfulfilled. Here you can expect a lot of laughs and thought provoking conversations as we squeeze every drop of juice from this beautiful, precious, crazy thing called life.
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✍️ 6 Ways to Know If You’re Living in "Alignment" (And What to Do If You’re Not)
This week, we're cutting through the fluff and serving up 6 raw, real signs that you're out of sync, and the straight-shooting fixes you need.
If you’re:
- Drained instead of energized
- Saying yes when you mean no
- Stuck in endless “should” thinking
- Procrastinating on goals that don’t even spark joy
- Ignoring that gut instinct that’s screaming for attention
- Grinding away without seeing results
…then this episode is your wake-up call.
Oh, and SPOILER ALERT: "Alignment" doesn't always feel easy 🙄. If you've been sold that lie, you need to tune in.
In this episode, Breanna reveals:
🔹 2 personal moments when she felt completely out of alignment
🔹 Why taking action was...petrifying.
🔹 The ultimate MYTHBUSTER: Alignment is NOT all about "ease and flow" 🙄
🔹 The 6 undeniable signs you might be off track.
🔹 Practical steps for what to do if these revelations hit a little too hard.
Ready to cut the BS and finally get real about what’s going on? Tune in now.
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All right, before we get into this episode, I need to just ask, have you been feeling stuck, uninspired, unmotivated or kind of a bit meh about life? Are you sabotaging yourself, overthinking or staying in your own way? Consider this. You're fine. Now is the time to change all of that, because the doors to level up your life are officially open, and this is your chance to join the hundreds of women who have completely shifted their mindset, unlocked their potential and created a life that actually excites them. This cohort is going to be next level, and I want you in it. Hit the link in the show notes, and let's do it now. Enjoy this episode. Hello. Welcome back to the mind school podcast. I am very excited to be recording at home. I'm back in Australia. I just got back from Japan and hit the ground running. Went straight from Japan, drove down five hours back to my hometown for a wedding and my birthday, and now I'm at home back in Perth, and it feels so nice to be back in routine. It feels so nice to be eating my regular, boring old meals that I eat for this I pretty much eat the same every single day, my husband laughs because I was at the club. I know. Who am I? I was clubbing when I was in haka bar with my mates, and I was a bit of a menace. You know, the party Mace is still there. She just comes out so rarely now that when she comes out, it's a shock to all, including me and my poor liver. But anyway, I was partying in Tokyo, and I was like, let's have some fun. This is so cool. I love snowboarding. I can't wait to do more snowboarding. Where could we do more snowboarding? Let's book this trip. Let's maybe do this. This is so fun. And Paul's like, Yeah, I'll just wait till the other part of your personality comes back. I'll give it a couple days. And sure enough, sure enough, I got my one or two nights of partying in, and I was like, Oh, I can't wait to go home. I miss my dog. And we're looking at next minute. We're like, looking at the real estate app back in my country town, and we're looking at blocks, and Paul's like, you know, the fun thing about being married to you is just rolling with whichever part of your personality wants to play on any given day. So it's actually our anniversary today, our second wedding anniversary, two years and eight years together. So that's very nice going out for dinner tonight to celebrate, and we'll see which part of my personality wants to come to dinner tonight. I know lots of you can probably resonate with that. It's just, it's just, we're all a big contradiction, aren't we? And I am someone who's always loved freedom and adventure and travel and not really having any you know, I don't want to be shackled, but then I'm such a I thrive on routine. I thrive on structure. I thrive I love being home. I could go days just being happy at home, between going to the gym and the Bucha and, yeah, having a sauna, all those things. I love both. And I think probably a lot of you can resonate with that, but I want to jump jump into today's episode, which is all about the word alignment, which is something obviously in my line of work, we talk about a lot, especially in level up your life. A lot of people that come in feel really out of alignment, and they feel like they're just not quite where they thought they wanted to be by now, but they don't know what that would be, or they're living a life that looks good on paper, that you know, they did all the right things, and they're like something's just off. And so you probably hear that word all the time. Are you living in alignment? Are you living in alignment? I want to be living in alignment. I don't feel like I'm in alignment, and it's thrown around. But I wanted to unpack what it actually is and debunk a lot of myths about how it should or will feel, and then talk about how to look at or the signs that you might not be in complete alignment, and then what to do about it. So this episode is really juicy for you. If you're someone who finds that you self sabotage quite a lot, or you need a lot of motivation to get work done, you feel like you put in a lot of effort and it drains the life out of you. If you feel like you're sort of, you've got that dialog of, what the fuck like? What is it going to take for me to be happy? Or this just, isn't it? Or is this all it is? There's got to be something more. Or feeling like you rely on willpower to do everything, and everything feels like a lot of effort, and there's just something that's kind of off, something that's off, and you don't feel like you're fully alive in life. I want to talk about that, and I want to talk about the nuance of alignment too, because I don't think it's as simple as everything should feel amazing when you're living in alignment. And I think that that misconception has a lot of people quitting things too early, because they'll instantly say, Oh, this doesn't feel good. It can't be I mustn't be aligned. I must need to look elsewhere. And that's really concerning too. So we need to talk about the nuance of it. But this episode is going to be really great for you to get a real handle on. Is this alignment? Am I out of alignment? Or is it something deeper? And so let's just. Defined to start with, what actually is alignment? What is this word that everybody in the coaching industry and the personal development industry uses? What does it mean to be aligned? So the definition of alignment, to me, it is when your thoughts, actions, behaviors and identity are in complete integrity with your highest values, when your thoughts, behaviors, actions, identity, life, is a reflection of your highest values. So to be in alignment, you first need to know what your values are. And that's a whole nother podcast topic. That's a whole day at the mind school method. This is a huge part of coaching, if you're someone who coaches others, or if you're doing this for yourself, if you don't know how to truly, and I mean truly, honestly, if you don't have the tools to really know, know what, know what your values are, it's going to be really hard for you to build a life of alignment, because it is when all of your actions, your identity, your behaviors and your life are a reflection of those things, of your values, that is, the things that are most important to you, and those things are in a hierarchy. Usually, usually have a hierarchy, not usually always. There's a hierarchy of values that dictates your behavior. There is a hierarchy of values that dictates what's important to you. And if you're not living in alignment with those things, of course, you're going to feel a bit stuck. You're going to feel a bit unmotivated. Of course, things are going to feel like an effort, because everything in your life is pushing towards something that doesn't actually matter to you. And so when we have a life that is a reflection of what matters to us, things feel a lot nicer, even when they're hard. So I want to talk about that in a moment, because there is a misconception which I want to debunk, that is when you're living in alignment, everything should feel easy, everything should feel flowy. Things should come to you very naturally, and it's almost like you're a magnet all the time. And I'm going to call bullshit on that, because that's just not true. Yes, you will feel like things are easier because it's intrinsically of worth to you, so you don't need to rely on as much external validation, motivation, all of those things, because you're building a life of something that just intrinsically matters to you, but it'll still feel hard at times. I would say my life these days, and the thing that I'm most proud of is that when I look at my life, my business, my lifestyle, it is a complete reflection of what is most important to me. All you've got to do is look at my bank account, look at the way I spend my time, look at my camera roll, and you will see that my life is a reflection of what's most important to me, education, learning, family, connection, growth, health, all of those things are so important to me, and I've built and designed my life around that. Does it mean that things are not hard sometimes? Does it mean that I don't have hard days where it actually feels like I'm pushing shit uphill, when, where I feel like nothing's working, where I feel like, oh my god, what am I doing? Of course, that still happens, but that doesn't mean I'm not in alignment, and so let's start to unpack this and use some discernment to see the difference. So let me give you an example of where I just knew that things were completely out of alignment, where things no longer fit, where I was still living a life that was a reflection of old values, but not necessarily my new ones, my new self, because this is the thing. We change, we evolve, we grow. But so many of us are holding on to or married to, old concepts of ourselves, old identities, old values. We think we still need to be that other version of ourselves, and so we cling to it, even though internally we've shifted, even though internally, the things that used to matter to us don't, it's hard to change. It's really scary to change, because our our ego like sameness and similarity and so for us to change is really scary. And so many of us are built we've still got a life and identity, actions, behaviors, jobs, relationships that are a reflection of our past self, and that makes us feel out of alignment. But the problem is we haven't done a reflection to see where have I changed, and how can I build a new set of identities, behaviors, life, job relationships to reflect who I am now. And so if I think back to a time in my life where I felt really out of alignment. It was actually in that exact period I had changed a lot internally. I wanted different things, but I was clinging to an older version of me. So the older version of me in my younger 20s was all about having fun. Was a real party girl was the last one at the club. Was a bit of a larrikin really had a lot of identity around being the one that could probably out drink most of boys me and my friends were just menaces. We just were we loved it, and we loved to build our life around travel and adventure, and we were always exploring new places, and we didn't want to stay in one place for long, and we thought it was really lame to be committed and to have mortgages and to have Matt like we were those people that were just like, oh, that's. So lame, like you're a sellout. You've gone and gone. That's the kind of language we used, right? And so when I actually started to realize, like, I actually am so invested and into and obsessed with learning about health at the time, my journey into this whole world was through physical health the gym, I actually was starting, funnily enough, when I started my business, the big decision for me was, Do I want to do Personal Training and Fitness, because that was such a huge part of my life, my identity, my new values, or do I want to do mindset and coaching? Because that's another part of it. But anyway, at the time, I had become someone who actually just wanted to go to the gym, eat healthy, probably settle down start to think about my career, and I was in this limbo land where I was still trying to be accepted, like what going out with friends and drinking and not enjoying it and feeling like I should. I should hide this new part of myself. I should hide the part of myself that actually wants to just bring my meal prepped meals and talk about careers. And I wanted that. I wanted a mortgage and, well, I lie. I never really did. I never really did care much for like the house and the picket fence, but I definitely wanted a husband to explore with and and all of those things. And so I started to feel like I remember on the last Europe trip where me and my girlfriends were doing what we'd always done, and going to clubs and exploring, and I was just sitting in the club like, this, isn't it? This just isn't it for me and why? I don't enjoy it. I'm not enjoying it. I don't really. I don't like it. There's something else for me. This isn't it anymore. But it takes a lot of courage to then change your life and to live in complete integrity with it, with your new values, with what alignment would look like for you in your new current state, because it would mean a few byproducts, like maybe your friends think you're lame, and, you know, all of those things that come from changing. Maybe your friends are going to think you've changed. Maybe you won't be as close anymore. Maybe, like all of these things that sabotage us from growing and being in true alignment come up. Because to be in true alignment, we usually need to change, and that is often scary. And so that's one time in my life I remember feeling that way. I remember feeling that way when I was in the law firm and I'd done all the right things. I'd been, quote, successful, I'd got the law degree, I'd got a job at a law firm. It was quite a good law firm. I had a potential, like a big career set out in front of me. And I remember looking around and going, Oh, like this, isn't it? I don't actually enjoy coming to work. I was using my lunch breaks to Google fitness stuff. I was using my lunch breaks to build, I think at the time, I was doing like a Herbalife business on the side, I was Googling other things, I was planning my next trip. I was like, Oh, why am I in this firm? And it just felt like something wasn't quite right. And if I look back now, it wasn't complete. It the law firm was never really in complete integrity with how I wanted to live my lifestyle. And one of the core reasons this is hilarious to think about now, one of the main reasons that I actually chose to study law in the beginning was because my bestie was doing it. And so what I'm gonna what you'll see as I start to unpack signs that you're living out of integrity or out of out of alignment with your values, one of those things is that you've actually built your life around somebody else's dreams, somebody else's values, somebody else's internal, intrinsic motivation. So I was living a life that was my best friend's, that it was a reflection of her value. She's She loves her life now. She's an incredible lawyer. She loves it. She always has. I remember her saying to me, when we were like 15, I remember when we were 15 years old, she knew she wanted to be a lawyer. I didn't, I didn't know what I wanted to do. I just wanted to hang with my friends. I thought it was cool. Got the grades. I was like, Yeah, cool. That'll be my, like, serious job. I'll do it because she's doing it. It'll be my serious thing. But then I'll also probably do Whopper and, like, musical theater on the side for my fun stuff, like my creative me, so funny. So looking back now, it was never going to be complete alignment, because it was based on somebody else's, and that's what happens for a lot of people. And so today we're going to talk about what to look for signs that you might be out of alignment, and what to do about it. So when you are in alignment, like I said, it is just when your actions, behaviors, identity, life, job, relationships, they're a reflection of what is most important to you when you are living in alignment. Yes, there will be more ease, there will be more flow, you will probably have more confidence. But that doesn't mean that you're going to feel ease and flow and confidence all the time. So a lot of people who talk about living out of alignment will talk about how you will feel frustrated and exhausted and you will feel self doubt. And while that is true, that can come up when you're living out of integrity, I remember frustration, honestly was probably my my emotional home for a lot of my 20s. I was really frustrated. Mind you, I was having the time of my life. I was really I loved it, but I was always. Like, but where is this all going? Like, where am I taking this? What am I doing? It was, it was always like, trying to figure out my thing, and I was so frustrated I couldn't get there. So frustration was really prominent. And I must say, since I've built my life around my current values, I don't really feel frustrated much anymore. I really don't, and I'm something, it's something that I check in with all the time, because I'm aware that emotional homes can be a reflection of where you're out of integrity and out of alignment. So frustration is one. Exhaustion is one. It's a sign of misalignment. Having self doubt constantly come up is another one. But what I want to preface here, or the nuance here, is that you can be in alignment, like I said, you can be in alignment and still have hard days. However, when challenges do arise, if you're in alignment with your values, when the challenges do arrive, you'll still be excited about your ultimate path. You'll still be excited about the final destination. You'll still be excited about overcoming challenges, because you know that it's all for something that matters to you. So let's talk about the six signs that you are out of alignment, and that will give you a place to start. And then we'll talk about what to do when you do feel like, Oh no, this is where I'm at. And let me just say, if you listen to these six signs and you start to bash yourself up, beat yourself up, make it. Make yourself wrong. You're going to cut yourself off from the opportunity to grow, to realign, to reset. Any time I find an opportunity where I can get into deeper alignment, or where I've been out of integrity, or where my values have shifted, and I actually see it whenever I get the opportunity to see, oh my God, I've just revealed that this is actually no longer in alignment. For me. It gets to be exciting. It gets to be like, Oh my god, this is so good. I'm so glad I've seen this. What can I do about it? So even though it might feel a little bit defeating as I go through this, and you start to recognize, oh my gosh, I'm so out of alignment. Something's off. This is the language for how I've been feeling. I want you to just listen with the intention of, oh my god, if I find something, that means I get to change it. That means I get to move into action. That means I get to completely rebuild, if I have the courage to do it, that means I get to rebuild, to come into alignment with what matters to me at this point in my life. So first sign you will feel drained instead of energized. So when you think about your work or your relationships, your daily routines, the things that you're spending your time doing, the people you're hanging around, the work that you do, the habits that you have, when you think about them, you feel drained, and instead of getting excited, you're like before it's even started. So it could be that you dread waking up, you feel exhausted doing tasks. You quote, should enjoy. You go to work and you're like, oh, kill me. When is this over? That to me, tells me. And again, nuance, of course, there's going to be seasons. You could be so aligned. I've got the most aligned career and business ever. I'm obsessed with my company. It feels so aligned. And I definitely have days where I wake up I'm like, oh my god, I'm so depleted, I'm so tired. Doesn't mean I'm out of integrity. It means I need to just get some sleep and not overthink it. So there's that first one, you feel tired and drained and exhausted instead of energized when you think about your life, your tasks, your relationships. Number two, you say yes to things that actually feel like a no. So if you're someone who has a huge history of people pleasing, ignoring your gut instincts going along with the crowd, going along with what other people want, it's unsurprising that you may be that person that's fallen into like I explained before. I was probably that person that just went along with, like, whatever my friends are doing, whatever my mates are doing, whatever. I don't care. What are you doing? I'll do that in and it's not to say that it comes from a bad place, but if you've done that in your younger years, your formative years, or even as an adult, and then you wake up one day and go, wait, what do I even want? What is mine? What do I like? Then you may have built a life around just going with the flow and doing what others do, or going along with what your friend does, or your husband wants or your parents want, and that can be another sign that you've built a life that is completely out of integrity with what's yours, what's important and meaningful to you. So if you're somebody who agrees to things out of obligation, guilt, fear of disappointing people. You say yes, because you get FOMO all the time. You go to things out of resent, and then you feel resentful after then it could be another sign that your life is also a reflection of that, something to think about. Number three, you're constantly stuck in that should thinking so you've you're living based on expectations rather than what actually excites you. So you're living based on the This should make me happy. This is what I should want. This is what I should do. So for example, you feel like you should stay in a job because they've been great employees, or because you've been there. For five years, and you should stay there. I don't know how many times I heard this when I was leaving teaching. You should stay because of maternity leave. You've got to stay because, oh my god, the maternity leave is too good. You should stay because you just got promoted. You should stay because it's a private school. You should, you should, you should, you should. Again, if I listen to other people's shoulds and internalized the shoulds. I would have never moved to a life that was more aligned for me. So if you've got that I should be doing this routine. I should even if it's if you think about your morning routine, if your morning routine is completely out of integrity with what's important to you and your goals right now, and you're going, I should be up at 5am I should be lifting weights. I should be cold plunging. I should be fucking pointing my bum at the sunlight and God, all these things that we, quote, should be doing if you have gotten caught up in should that is another sign that maybe you're stuck in this, expectations of other people, expectations of society, expectations of your parents, expectations that you put on yourself, as opposed to What actually, genuinely excites you based off what's important to you and what intrinsically motivates you. Number four, a big sign, you procrastinate on everything, and you avoid doing things because actually, it just doesn't matter to you. You don't actually care. And then you stay in this cycle of like, Oh, I'm such a procrastinator, and you make procrastination the problem. And sometimes it is. Sometimes procrastination is a problem that requires other tools, right? That that's another nuance here. Sometimes you can be aligned, massively aligned. I put my hand up here, I know I'm aligned, and yet I procrastinate on things. It's not the alignment that's the problem. It's something underneath the procrastination. So you've got to have nuance here, and this is where I really recommend having a coach, because you get to explore what's actually going on, as opposed to a very simple framework. We're complex humans, and we need complex solutions for every given person. So having a coach really helps with this. But if you find that you procrastinate and stuff around and do everything else before the thing that you quote should be doing, and you just cannot muster any motivation. You look at it and feel drained. Nothing excites you about it, and you just cannot take action. For example, you set a goal and then you delay it because deep, deep, deep, deep down, it doesn't actually excite you at all. So I'm going to grow to seven figures, and then deep down, you're like, I actually am really happy with where I'm at. And sometimes this is actually a limiting belief problem. Sometimes this is actually sabotage that needs deeper investigation, but sometimes it's actually just that life and that business that somebody else thinks is really impressive, it's not what I want. And sometimes, like I said, it takes courage and some real discernment to know what the difference is. It takes real discernment to know when you're actually getting in your own way, and limiting beliefs and shame and shadow work is required to help you move past it, and to just know actually that's not for me. So sometimes you procrastinate on your goals because it's not for you, and other times you procrastinate on your goals because there's something deeper for you to look at. So all of this is to say you can be in alignment and still procrastinate. However, sometimes the reason, or the root cause, of procrastination is because the goal doesn't mean anything to you in the first place. It's not aligned, it doesn't matter to you. It's not a reflection of your values, and it's meaningless. And so that's why you procrastinate. So the issue isn't, Oh, I gotta figure out why I'm sabotaging and procrastinating. The issue is actually the goal never mattered in the first place. So that's something for you to think about. With that one, number five, you feel disconnected from your intuition or that gut, knowing you second guess yourself all the time. You struggle to make decisions. You're always torn between logic and gut, because you're so used to just ignoring your own knowing. You're so used to, like I said in point one and point two, you're so used to going along with what other people want. You're so used to saying yes when it should be no. And after years and years of doing that, you become disconnected from your own truth, from your own knowing, from your own gut feeling, from your own intuition. And so if you feel like you've lost that connection, that can be another sign that you've probably built a life that is a reflection of that. And then the last one is that your results aren't matching, matching your effort. So you work really, really, really hard, but you're not seeing the breakthroughs that you'd expect. For example, you're grinding like grinding, hustling hard and in a business or a career, and you feel like you just keep hitting a wall again. This is nuanced. It can be so many different things, but if, as a general rule, if you are working so hard, feeling tired, everything is feeling draining, you're working your absolute ass off, and you're not really getting. Any results, any momentum. That can be another sign to look at is this out of alignment. Because when you are in complete alignment, that is, you are in Integrity with your actions, thoughts, beliefs, values, life, and it's all in Integrity with your highest values. You do tend to be someone who is quite fucking magnetic. You just have that oomph about you. And people are like, Oh, how did you do that? What is that? What is that magnetism? It's usually somebody who is in complete integrity, who is in complete alignment. They just have this energy of confidence, of knowing. They're very self assured. They're very in their own lane. They're very connected to their power, to their intuition. They don't look at what other people are doing. They know what's theirs and what's not theirs, and they're just in their lane. And those people are magnetic, so when those people are in their magnetism, in their alignment, and they're going about their day, you can't help but to get results. That's just it happens. People I've seen who are so aligned and just, oh, you see them, and they're finally doing that thing. I actually had a message from a client over the weekend, and it made me so happy, not because it was a glowing testimonial. This was a lady who's done shout out to Lisa, if you're listening. She's done the mind school method. She's done level up. She's done teach. And for so long, I've just thought, God, she's a speaker. She can talk. She is just anyone who is around her and here's her on her hilarious tangents. Whether it's a tangent or not, you're just like, fuck. You just need to listen to her. She's just magnetizing. And anyway, she sent me a message over the weekend and said, I just wanted to let you know, like I finally stepped into what feels like I should have been doing all along. I'm running speakers training. I oversold my first event. I'm being flown all over the place now to do speakers training. And I just had this feeling of like, oh, this is somebody. And it feels like it's been easy for her now. It feels like, like she said, her first event, she sold 20 tickets. She oversold it. Now she's going to other places. Companies are invested in what she's doing, and I just think it seems a lot easier than it has been for her for the last few years, since I've known her, because she's finally doing something that just is so aligned to her, and so it probably has felt a lot easier now, again, the nuance that I've mentioned so many times, and sometimes you can be in complete alignment, and things still feel hard, and you'll still have moments of grinding, and you'll still feel like you're throwing shit against a wall. But if overall you're happy to do it, you're still motivated by it, you're still excited by it, you still feel like you're really intrinsically attached to the meaning and the goal at the end of it, then yes, you can still be aligned and be working really, really hard and not yet seeing results. So a lot of this is about discernment and knowing which thing it is for you, and that's really about coming back to yourself and having the tools, the coach, whatever it is for you to know what's going on for you. But again, I'm going to recap these six things that can be something for you to think about. You feel drained instead of energized. You say yes, when things feel like a no. You're constantly stuck in that should kind of thinking. You procrastinate a lot because you actually don't care about the goal. In the end, you feel disconnected from your own truth, your own knowing, your own intuition and your results aren't matching your effort. If all of this is going on and you've been resonating, I would say it's time to do a massive values alignment. You need to re look at your values. You need to get back into alignment. And this is a long process like this takes nearly a month inside of level up your life in level up. There's a reason that we spend a month doing dream life design, and we don't start any of the mindset work until we know what it is we're aiming towards, until we know what it is that is our why, what it is that is our end goal, what it is that is our highest values, because otherwise you do all this subconscious programming, and you're creating the wrong program for the result you want. So first you need to know your values. And if any of this has landed, I would say the best place to start is to really sit down and think about what is most important to me in my life. And there's a whole process that you can do. If you want to do it with us in level up, you can still join there's a couple days left. We are starting in just a week. And so if you want to join level up your life, to do this, I really recommend you join us, but I want to leave you with just a couple tools, a couple tips for what to do. If this episode has really resonated and you're like, Oh, holy Dooley, I need a bit of a reset. I need to re look at everything. What should I do next? First thing I want you to just do is check your energy. Check your energy on your day to day life, and audit it like what is draining you, what is giving you energy, what is lighting you up, what is not what makes you go and what makes you go? Oh, my God, that was a breath of fresh air. Just pay attention to those little things. It's actually, it's all there. It's like the universe has been giving us signs and giving us all of these little moments of joy and complete presence and flow state our whole life. Life, but we don't pay attention to it. So start paying attention to your energy. The second thing I want you to reclaim your yes and your no. If you've been saying yes to things that feel like a no or No, to say to a yes, change that start small with the tiny, tiny little shifts. If you get invited to something you actually don't want to go, just say, Hey, I actually don't feel like going and be honest. Practice being honest with it. Practice actually saying, hey, that doesn't feel like something that aligns with me right now. That's it, full stop. Practice saying yes and no and actually expressing what you mean. Don't say, I'm sorry. No, I can't come I'm sick, because that's only reinforcing that you really can't speak for yourself and you can't speak with truth. Start saying reclaiming that yes and no. The other thing I want you to do is to take inspired action, not forced action. I want you to take inspired action, any kind of tiny, small, little action that moves you a little bit closer to what feels like an intrinsic good, like a fuck yes, like, I wish I could do that like a, oh, imagine if I could, like a, Oh, if only I could. We've all got those little secret under the under the surface, I imagine. Or if I won the lotto, or all these little well, what would that be if you did win the lotto, if you could do it, if you couldn't fail, and if you could build a life that felt so exciting, so aligned, so important to you, so intrinsically motivating to you. What would it look like? Can you just take one tiny action step? Just one one action step? Momentum is the first thing that you need, and it doesn't need to be huge. One of the things that often happens when you realize that your life is no longer aligned is that you start to feel like, Oh my God, there's so much work to do everything that I actually want is so far away and that thinking can really stall people. So I urge you to just take one tiny, small step, and if you're looking if you're craving a life that feels more aligned, if you want to wake up excited instead of drained, this is exactly why I created level up your life, because I have been there. I have done that. I've got the Stubby holder. I've reinvented myself that many times. It's hilarious, because I just refuse to stay unaligned. But it takes a lot of courage. It takes a lot of courage to move past all the shit that's going to get in the way. And so that's why level up your life. We do dream life design. We do your values. We figure out what they are, and then we do all the mindset stuff that comes up when you actually have to go forward, take action, build the life that really is going to light you up, make you happy and make it mean something so level up. Your life is open. We have a couple days left, and we, like I said, we start in just over a week, as this podcast is aired, and I would bloody love to have you. I would love to meet you and see you on my Zoom screen every Tuesday night for the next three months. That is all from me. Have an awesome day wherever you are, and I'll speak to you next week. Thank you for tuning in to the mind school podcast. 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