🫂Why Things Feel So Good Right Now. Even Though It’s Been Hard. A Pep Talk for The Soul.

I just got off a plane.
Feeling lit up.
Inspired.
Clear.

And I cracked open the mic to record a straight-from-the-heart pep talk for the soul.

This episode is for the part of you that’s ready to design a life that’s truly yours, not just what looks good on Instagram or what your old self thought she wanted.


Inside, I’m sharing:

🔥 The honest truth about what it actually takes to build a life that lights you up
🔥 Why most people stop (and how to not be “most people”)
🔥 How fear and challenge are meant to show up, and why they don’t mean you’re off track
🔥 The truth about values (and why most people are doing it backwards)

This isn’t a fluffy “you got this” episode.

It’s a call forward.

A fire-starter.

A reminder that this life is YOURS, and you don’t have to live it according to someone else’s script.

This is a loving, honest pep-talk, straight from my soul to yours.

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Transcript

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Music. Welcome to the mind school, the classroom for your mind and soul, where we design our lives from the inside out. Here you will find a human first approach to life, business and relationships, to create freedom, growth and constant evolution through mindset, emotional intelligence, leadership and connection to self. I'm your host, Breanna may educator, CEO mindset and business mentor, and my mission is to teach the things we were never taught at school so that no dream is left on the pillow and no purpose left unfulfilled. Here, you can expect a lot of laughs and thought provoking conversations as we squeeze every drop of juice from this beautiful, precious, crazy thing called life. Hello, you mad dog. How are you? I hope you are well. I am coming to you from Bali today, which was not expected. If you've been listening for the last few weeks, you're probably getting whiplash. Like, I think I got back from Japan, I don't know, less than a month ago, maybe. And was like, Oh, I'm so excited to be home and to be nesting and to be in my routine and not going anywhere, and now I'm here in Bali, and that was unexpected, but I've had this shift, and this is something I'll probably do a podcast episode about when I'm pregnant, but I really have felt this shift in the last few weeks that is like, Oh God, I feel it. I know it. I'm seeing it. I'm feeling it. I've just got this knowing that I'm going to be pregnant really soon. And you heard it here first, like, I'm just, I said to Paul the last few days, I was like, I just feel like it's going to happen so fucking soon. I want to thrive. I want to enjoy exactly what we have now. I want to enjoy the freedom of being able to go where I want, when I want. I want to be able to enjoy just, you know, doing things that aren't as challenging, with a pram and a baby and all of these things. And so I've just made this decision like it's done. It is happening. It is done. When I was on the plane last night, I actually wrote this whole script about how it is done, and this is what is happening. And I was just like, Yeah, this feels so true. So my intention for the next couple months is just to literally froth life and pretend it's the last time it's just me and Paul, or just the three of us as in me, Paul and Simba, or the four of us as in my brother and mum and dad. And like, I'm really just romanticizing everything, and it's really honestly and it's like, we don't need to wait. We don't need to wait until we have this carrot dangled in front of us that, you know, it's not always going to be this way, or things are going to change, or whatever something bad happens for us to get into this energy. I've also been running level up your life. And every time I run, level up your life and fuck, it's been a year. It's been a year since I've run it. I didn't realize how much I missed it. I miss it so much that I'm already like, When can I run it again? Because it's just such a good cohort, so good. And it gets me back into my energy. It gets me reflecting on my values. It gets me reflecting on what's important. It makes me show up as who I want to be, as like. It's such an expander, because there's so much expansive stuff happening, and so today is going to feel like a big fat pep talk, a big, big fat pep talk. If you are someone who is like, Oh my God, everything I want is so far away. It's not working. I'm pushing shit uphill. How am I ever going to get there if you're in this cycle of doubting yourself, if you're feeling like it's you're trying and you're trying and it's hard and it's just not working. This is going to be a big fat pep talk, because I was reflecting over the weekend and having a few pinch me moments where I was like, far out, like life is so good and so sweet, and almost every time it's so interesting, it's like, any time I have that thought, which is quite often, I it instantly comes with this sense of fear. And that's not a bad thing. When you are in gratitude and when you're in complete joy and love and intimacy, and when you're like, really appreciative of your life, you also have this and you and it's just we must, we must also have this deep understanding that it doesn't last forever. It's always just a season. Like bad things are always just a season, but good times are always just a season, and one day people are going to die like that. This is actually, this is not me being morbid. This is me just stating facts. People are gonna die. And I'm in a place, in a stage in my life, where everyone I love is thriving. My people are all around me. Yes, I've had some struggles. I've found it really, really challenging not getting pregnant. But I look around and I'm like, my business is amazing. My clients are amazing. My family is healthy. My husband is great. My friends are amazing. I'm here in Bali with my friend again, after we've just been to Japan. I'm obsessed with my clients. I'm obsessed with the work that I do. Like, what a time of life, what a time and even though things are hard, having that perspective of everything's just a season, whether it's a hard season or an incredible season, it just brings back a bit of balance and a bit of peace, I suppose. But yeah, like I said, I was having this moment where I was like, What the hell what my Mojo has really shifted in the last week or so. And maybe it's I feel this sense that my baby is coming. Maybe it's also that since I've been teaching in level up doing the level up your life journal. I spent a huge week at the mind school. I had so many breakthroughs. And this is why I just love coaching. This is why I love my business. I get to grow and evolve and expand and feel my own breakthroughs every time I see it in a client and in the mind school, I had so many breakthroughs, so many huge moments where aspiring coaches were practicing their techniques on me and Ashley, if you are listening, Ashley ran a technique on me that changed my life. It was so profound. And so I've just been in this real vortex lately of incredible containers. And so as I reflected on my way over here from Bali, I thought, Okay, I've got my mojo back. Something's feeling really good, but success leaves clues. What are the clues here? And there's actually a few things. There's definitely a few things, and I want to touch on it today. And this is really just me waffling and rambling, but I think there's going to be something in here for you to think about. What's your success that leaves clues? And I'm going to go through what I believe has made me feel really aligned, really energetic, really motivated. And look, of course, again, everything will change. Maybe next week I'll be feeling down, and that's okay too. We're humans, and we have lots of different seasons and emotional states. And if we can roll with them and handle them and be okay with all of them, ultimately we become actually more grounded humans, which is such an irony, but it is what it is. So I was thinking what gave me my mojo back? And obviously one it's being surrounded in containers of like minded people. I'm so fortunate that my business creates these containers of epic humans. I've had the mind school. I'm running the mind school again soon in Brisbane, so there'll be more growth and expansion. I've had level up running, and so I'm in a container full of like minded people doing similar things, wanting to be better. And that really, it really inspires me. So there's that, there's also this. And this is really, this is really what it is. I look around at my life, and over the last few days in particular, and last week, I was just observing my calendar, my diary, my week, and I was like, far out. I'm so excited by the clients I'm serving. I'm so grateful that I can switch off and go to my sauna, go down to the beach with my dog, take time off. I'm doing work that I really fucking love. I can't wait to learn more so that I can teach more. Like I'm I'm obsessed with what I learn and teach. I've got a very healthy lifestyle, and more than that, I've increased my I've really wanted to run more this year, and it fucking sucks, like it fucking sucks most the time, because I wouldn't call myself like an incredible runner, but I am not bad, like I'm decent, but I wanted to do more running, and so I started doing more running, and I've really held myself to that. So there's the containers, there's the like minded people, there's the values, which is what I'm going to get to I look at my life and it's a reflection of my values. I have my health. I have supplements that I take all the time. I go from my supplement cupboard to the gym, from the gym to the beach. I get my steps in. I start my mornings most the time like that. I get into work that I fucking love, and then I'm planning things with girlfriends, friends that feel so exciting. My friends are all doing so well. We're very connected. My husband and I are connected. Like I said, I'm learning and teaching things that really excite me, because I love it, and so what that says to me is I'm truly living a life that feels like a reflection of my highest values. My highest values have always been connection, and like, meaningful connection, intimate connection, deep connection, quality time, quality time. And I've got that health is a huge thing of mine. And I remember when I was a teacher being like, I just wish I didn't have to rush through the gym. Like, I'm rushing through the gym. I'm rushing, rushing, rushing. And I'm like, Oh, I've got to get my steps in. And I'm it's always it didn't feel like freedom. It didn't feel like my health was it felt like this thing. This thing I had to tick in a really rushed energy, and I didn't like that. I've always loved learning. Learning is one of my highest values, learning and teaching, learning and teaching. So I built a company around that. I'm learning, I'm teaching, I'm learning, I'm teaching connection. I'm connecting with my clients really deeply. There's so many things where I look around and. I go this life that I've built is a direct reflection of what is most important to me and most valuable to me. And so when you build a life around what is most important to you and what is most valuable to you, which is different for everyone, everyone has a different value system. When you build your life around what is most important to you, you will become intrinsically motivated. That means you become someone who gets motivation from the inside. You don't need to be told, you don't need to use willpower. You don't need to be told, this is what you must do. You don't need your shoulds. You don't need your I ought to you just do it spontaneously. You do it spontaneously because it's who you are and it's what matters to you. Nobody needs to tell me to pick up a book and learn. I want to do it. I've done it since I was literally could read. I love learning. No one needs to tell me that. So I spontaneously do it. No one needs to tell me, Hey, you should nurture time with your friends, with your family. That's a given. That's like, a What? What do you mean? Like, that's a given. It's like, Duh, no one needs to tell me to go to the gym to be active. It's like, well, of course, that's important to me. What I'm saying is I work with so many different people, and I've had the privilege of working with all walks of life, and some of the people that come to me are extremely successful in their own right. They're extremely successful. They've done all the things. They've built the Empire, they've, you know, got the fancy car, they've got the multi millions, they've got the assets, they've got all the things that they thought would make them feel happy. And they asked me, Why aren't I happy? Why aren't I feeling anything like it's always just the next thing, I feel numb, I feel unfulfilled, I feel uninspired, I feel like I sabotage. I feel numb. And nine times out of 10 I think, well, is your life really a true reflection of what matters to you? Is it actually a reflection of what is most important to you? If it's not, you're going to build your metric system of things that are external, and your motivation is also going to be external. Notice how I said people who live in complete integrity with their highest values, those people are usually intrinsically motivated. They don't rely on external sources. It comes from inside, spontaneously and without effort. When you build a life of things that aren't actually of importance or value to you, you have to start relying on external metrics, external motivation, external sources, external things, validation, and it starts to feel hard, and it starts to feel uninspiring. And so all of this is to say, if you want to build an inspiring life, you first need to know your values. And most people do this wrong. Most people do their value system incorrectly, and then wonder why their life doesn't feel good. And actually, this is probably why this this episode makes so much sense right now. This Week in level up, which is tomorrow night, we're going deep into an actual values process, not what you think you should value, but what you truly intrinsically value, what you demonstrate you value. So we're doing that this week in level up your life. We do it in the mind school, because for coaches, if you are a coach and you don't know your client's highest values, you are not going to get them good results. Trust me, you need to know this if you're a coach. So again, if you're a coach, you need to come to the mind school to learn how to do this with clients. And if you're just someone who wants to know how to realign your life, level up is for you. But anyway, I digress. You need to know what your values are, and you need to know what they truly are, and not in this superficial way where you just circle things from a book and go, Yeah, I value honesty. I value integrity. Like, no, it's a full process. But here's the other piece, just because you know your values, just because you know what's most important to you, and you make a decision that you are going to redesign your life and build it around what is most important to you, it does not mean it's easy. It doesn't mean it's easy. I honestly, I'm going, I have an episode coming up soon about life behind the beers, like the behind the scenes, the fuck ups, the failures, the fears, the everything I've put myself through to get to this point. Yes, I love my life. Yes, it's a complete reflection of my values. I have my family, I have my health. I have I'm wealthy in my in my mind. I'm so successful because I love my time. You could give me the lotto winnings tomorrow, and my life literally wouldn't change. And that, to me, is success. So yes, I believe I feel successful. I feel lit up, I feel motivated. I feel like my life is a reflection of my values, and it's still fucking hard. And when you decide that you're going to build a life around your values, you are still going to have to do the work, because you have to take action, and you have to meet every part of you that actually wants to stay the same. So in pursuit of building this life. Life that is worth it. It will feel fucking hard. I have had to go through so many ego deaths, so much pain, so much fear, money mindset. I had to do so much work around money. I couldn't even sell. I couldn't show up to sell things I didn't want to sell. I had to do the money mindset work. I've had ego, death after ego, death after ego, death after ego, death where I go, who the hell am I? What the fuck is happening? What was I wish I could go back to being unconscious and not knowing all this? I've had so many moments where I'm like, fucking hell. I wish I could just go back to being ignorant. But once you make a decision to live your life intentionally and consciously and with intention is really hard to go back. And I've had so many times where I've been like, oh my god, this is so hard. I felt loneliness like I've never really experienced before. Because sometimes people don't really understand what you're doing, or you feel like you're a bit different to the people that maybe you grew up with or hung out with. And loneliness was something that I've never experienced. I don't have colleagues anymore, really, like I have a team. We don't see each other every single day. I was so used. I'm an extrovert. I love being in a, you know, staff room, chats. I love staff room, Goss. I love seeing people every single day. I love I love that I don't I've had loneliness to move through and to figure out. I had to move through so much fear of judgment, because it takes such a lot of courage to build a life that feels true to yours, especially when it's different to what you've always done and who you've always been. You're going to have to become someone new. And to become someone new, you open yourself up to so much fear of judgment, and trust me, I've been through that, and I'm sure it will never stop. I'm sure it will just, you know another level, same devil. But all of this is to say it does come with its challenges. It is hard. However, if your why is strong enough, and your why will be a reflection of what matters to you, AKA your values, if you are moving towards something, if you have set a goal if you are excited by the thing that you're moving toward, all of these things that come up, like the money mindset, the ego, death, the loneliness, the fear of judgment, the all the shit that will come, it won't be enough to stop you, because the carrot that's being dangled is more attractive, and that is the piece. You've got to make sure that the thing that you're aiming toward, the ladder that you are climbing up, you've got to make sure the ladder is against the right wall. You've got to make sure that that end goal, that outcome, that point B, is so inspiring to you, so exciting to you, that the stuff that comes up, it's hard, but you'll walk through it. It's hard, but you're not willing to let it stop you, because your why, your end goal, your values, what matters to you, that's way more motivating. That's more intrinsically motivating than the stuff that comes up in its path. And so there's a few pieces here. One, you've got to know what your values are. And so many people do this wrong, so many people do their values so incorrectly, and so many people say what their values are or think they know what their values are from an ego perspective. And I've been there. I've done that. It fucking sucks. So you've got to know what your true values are. Secondly, you've got to have a inspiring vision for your life that is so inspiring that you are moving toward it. And when things come up, you literally slap them out the way. They feel hard, for sure, and they do feel hard, but it's worth it when those things come up, when pressure comes up, when stress comes up, when chaos comes up, when fear comes up, it is going to win if the thing on the other side isn't stronger. Fear will always win where the thing on the other side of it isn't motivating enough to move through the fear, so is your vision inspiring? Is it yours? Does it matter to you? Does it actually give your life meaning and purpose? You need that otherwise, all the stuff that comes up and it will, and it will just because you've built a life that is reflective of it. Like, I'm pretty honest on this podcast, you guys know, I love my life, I love my relationships, I love my business. I love what I've created. And I still have moments where I'm like, fuck, this is hard. It's really fucking hard. I still have moments all the time where I'm like, Oh my gosh. Like, this is hard, but it's hard and it's worth it. It's hard and I'm doing it anyway. Fear comes up, and I'm moving anyway, because my time, my presence with my family, my priority of health, my all of that, it's so worth it. And the last piece I want to add, because this was the other thing that I wrote down as I was reflecting and journaling on the plane, something else is that it was actually a conversation I had with my husband. Fuck I love him. He's been getting right into lots of cool books lately, and we're just having all these chats about what he's learning in books, and some of them I've read, and some of them I haven't, and I'm just loving the conversations from the books that he's listening to do. Anyway, he found this quote, and I haven't heard it for years, but it really fucking landed. And this is one that I really want to leave you with. It was, I might butcher it. What was it? He said the quote that he listened to, and I don't know who it's from, The Road to Heaven feels like hell, and the road to hell feels like heaven. And this is so powerful from a perspective of dopamine. He was listening to it. He was listening to a book all about dopamine, I think. And basically, if you continuously go for the easy thing, if you continuously go for the things that feel easy, if you continuously allow yourself the easy road if you continuously go for the lowest hanging dopamine fruit, if you continuously do the things that feel easy, you're paving the road to hell, because it's all about what you can withstand now for a longer term gain. But if you allow yourself to let things feel easy. Now you're going to create hard later, and vice versa, if you're willing to do things that feel hard now, if you're willing to withhold, to restrain, to go a little bit deeper, to push yourself a little bit further, to lean in a little bit closer, when you really want to lean out, to do the thing when you really don't feel like doing it. If you do the things that are hard now, you ultimately create the Road to Heaven. The Road to Heaven feels like hell, and I love that. And as I was reflecting on the plane last night, that's what I was thinking when I said, What? Well, how come my Mojo's back so much right now? Yes, it's the community. Yes, it's being around like minded people. Yes, I'm reflecting my life. Is a reflection of my values, but also very much so in this this year, and in particularly the last couple months, I've really been pushing myself to do the things that actually feel hard. So as an example, I set the intention at the beginning of this year that I was going to, you know, do a lot more corporate training, do a lot more professional development in corporate spaces. And it's outside my comfort zone, right? Because I'm so used to working with coaches, with individuals, with business owners. I'm so used to like, you know, the individual coming to me needing help, not me going to a whole team of people, a whole staff of people who may not want to be there, didn't choose to be there. And you know, it's a totally different it's a different scenario, it's a different environment, all of that. So it's out of my comfort zone. Long story short, I've been doing a lot of I've been doing that, that corporate training, corporate presentations, and it feels shit like when I was preparing the notes, when I'm preparing the slides. I'm like, Oh, this feels horrible, and I feel dread. And I'm like, why am I doing this? And I keep thinking, The Road to Heaven feels like hell. The Road to Heaven feels like hell. Secondly, I've been really prioritizing running. I love running. I actually do even though most the time I'm like, It's the greatest motivator for me, for learning about my shadows, for time alone. It's where my creativity comes in. And I've been running a lot and remembering this idea that the Road to Heaven feels like hell, I really push myself, like, I'll say I'm done, and I'll be like, Hey, you say you're done. Can you go one step further? And funnily enough, I've been using running. This is so whack. Tell me if I'm whack, it's fine. I've been using running to prep me for birth. Because I'm like, Okay, I'm sure that when I go into labor, if I get the privilege of doing that, hopefully, but you know, whatever happens happens, I don't care. Healthy baby number one, anyway, if I get to have the birth that I would prefer, which would be natural, or I should say that vaginal, vaginal, vaginal. I didn't say that anyway, if I get to have that birth, I know there'll be times where I'm like, I'm done, and it's like, no, you're fucking not. And the only way out is through, like, one more just one more breath, just one more push, just one more breath, just one more push. And I'm like, if I can get through birth, which millions and billions of people have done, I can sure as shit, get through another 100 ks of running. And when I get through that 100 ks of running, maybe I can get through another 100 Ks. And every time I've pushed myself, I've surprised myself. And at the end I feel proud, and at the end I feel really happy. I feel a new sense of confidence, a new sense of dopamine, but it came from doing the things that are hard. So I finished this week. I finished a run in my fastest time, I finished a corporate presentation, and I got to the end and I thought, oh, The Road to Heaven feels like hell. It felt hard most the time. I feel like, Fuck, I'm having an asthma attack. Fuck, this feel shit. Why did I say I do corporates like whatever it is, but I'm pushing myself to do the things that feel hard, and I'm pushing myself to do the things that make me proud. And that has always been a metric for me. That is my most important metric. Am I proud of who I am behind the scenes? Am I proud of who I am when nobody can see me? Am I proud of who I am if all my clients could see me? Am I proud of who I am in silence? Am I proud of who I am when it doesn't matter because nobody's watching? And that metric does actually make me push harder. It makes. Do the things that feel like they're going to make me proud. And if I'm proud, I'm usually doing things that push me, taking the harder road, and, of course, balancing it like it's not about toxicity, it's not about pushing yourself beyond your limits. It's it's you know, you understand. But it's this balance. It's like, if you want an easy life, you've actually got to do the hard things, but to do the hard things, you need an inspiring end goal. You need a vision for your life that truly matters to you. And I believe, after working with so many different people who have got the success but feel nothing, it all starts with that. It starts with Do you know who you are? Do you know what matters to you? Do you know what lights you up? Do you know what your values are, not, what you think they should be, not what you've been told they should be, not what you think will make you more lovable, more successful, more whatever. What actually matters? Because your ego will go for metrics. Your soul will go for peace and fulfillment. What brings you peace and fulfillment? What is it? And if you've built a vision and you're in that, though you're in the weeds, if you know your vision and you're inspired by it, maybe you've already done level up, or you've done the mind school, you know your vision, you're moving towards it, but it feels hard, good. The Road to Heaven feels hard. The Road to Heaven feels like hell. Keep showing up. Remember your why, remember why you're doing it. So there is a lot here. There is a lot here. This was just a ramble that is off my journaling page from last night. I hope you took something from it. What I will say is, if you are a coach and you work with people in transformation, in change, in supporting them, in moving them, you need to know how to do this properly with clients. I would invite you to look at the mind school. The wait list is in the show notes. And we are going to Brisbane in May. We're coming back to Perth in June. This is all about being the best coach you can. I don't believe you can be a great coach without understanding your client's values. Secondly, if you just want to know how to do this for yourself, to build your vision, to build your why to be inspired, to know what your values are, that's where level up your life is for you. And so there's a bunch of wait lists in the show notes. I hope you've taken something from this. I would love to know. Please share, tag me. Put it on your stories, and I'll be back next week with a whole bunch of information about other things that I journaled on, which is problems I'm seeing in the coaching industry. What I think it actually takes to build a six figure business. I've got a lot of coaching and business things coming up as well as you heard it here first, over the next year, I bet you I'm going to be teach, teaching or reflecting on my my role, to my journey to becoming a mum, because I think it's happening. And I'm just, I'm so excited that I get to look back on this podcast and be like, I fucking knew it. I knew it. So anyway, off I go. Have a great week, and I will see you back here next week. Bye. Thank you for tuning in to the mind school podcast. It is a massive intention of mine to continue to grow this show, because the more the show grows, the better the guests get, and I know that is going to be so powerful for you listening. So if I could ask this massive favor, it would mean the world if you could please leave a review, hit the Follow button, or leave a rating on Spotify, so that we can continue to grow this show and bring you the juiciest, most thought provoking and expansive conversations through incredible guests. Thank you so much for tuning in. I'll see you next week. You.