What If Your ‘Too Much’ Was Actually Your Superpower? 💥

Note from Breanna: "Fuaarkkkkkk, I got SO lit up recording this one. Didn't even stop for air."


If you’ve ever been told you’re too much, too loud, too sensitive, too opinionated, too “all over the place”… this episode is going to feel like a homecoming.

Because here’s the truth:

What the world tried to shame out of you?

That’s exactly where your power lives.

This one’s a mic-drop, heart-crack-open, permission-slip-to-be-your-whole-damn-self kinda episode.

💥 In this episode, we unpack:

🔮 The “too much” traits that are actually your greatest gifts
🎤 How to stop muting yourself and start taking up real space
📣 Why self-shrinking is the fastest way to stay stuck
💫 What it actually means to own your story, your fire, and your unapologetic YOU

This episode isn’t just a listen, it’s a reclamation.

You’re not “too much.”
You’re too ICONIC to be boxed in. 😌

TAKE THE COACHING STYLE QUIZ
👉 Tap the link, take the Coaching Style Quiz, and slide into my DMs to tell me your result (yes, I’m nosy and living for it).

And if you’re ready to stop dimming your brilliance and start building a coaching business that matches your fire?

BOOK A CALL FOR THE MIND SCHOOL METHOD
🚀 Book your call for The Mind School Method, the only certification where your “too much-ness” becomes your unfair advantage.


Let’s fck shit up,
Breanna x

Transcript

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Foreign. Welcome to the mind school, the classroom for your mind and soul, where we design our lives from the inside out. Here you will find a human first approach to life, business and relationships, to create freedom, growth and constant evolution through mindset, emotional intelligence, leadership and connection to self. I'm your host, Breanna may educator, CEO mindset and business mentor, and my mission is to teach the things we were never taught at school so that no dream is left on the pillow and no purpose left unfulfilled. Here, you can expect a lot of laughs and thought provoking conversations as we squeeze every drop of juice from this beautiful, precious, crazy thing called life. Welcome back to the mind school podcast. I am Breanna May, and I am very excited to dive into today's episode. This was a last minute rant that I thought just had to happen, and it's come off the back of actually quite a few conversations. And I always think if I'm having this conversation with multiple clients or in multiple different environments. It's obviously very relevant, and so I wanted to bring this forward, and it came off the back of I've launched a quiz, and it's a quiz that I spent a lot of time thinking about after certifying lots of aspiring and established coaches within the mind school, I created this quiz, which was really about finding your unique coaching style and figuring out what your strengths are and your superpowers are. As a coach and I created it into these five distinct archetypes, and they all have a name, and they all have strengths and weaknesses and ideal business models, etc, etc. If you haven't taken the quiz, do it. It's in the it's in the show notes. But more than this, it's created a conversation around your superpower. But also for a lot of us, I'm seeing where we have often spent a life where we have actually made our superpower wrong, or we've created this narrative that our superpower is actually our limitation or the thing that needs to change. And so how it played out in this specific context is that I would see, for example, one of the archetypes for coaches is the Brene Brown style and the Brene Brown style, as you can imagine, if you know who Brene Brown is, it's that real maternal, heart centered space holder, somebody who really can hold space for someone to process their emotions, to validate things, to let them be seen and heard. And there are a lot of coaches who work in this space, and that's incredible, and that's what they're good at, and that's what they love doing, and that's what they're amazing at. And one of my clients who I've worked with for so many years, and I've seen her in the mind school, and she is the ultimate Brene Brown, like, I literally had her in mind when I was distinguishing all these different types. And I was like, okay, she is, like, the most Brene of the breneist coaches. And so I actually had her in mind. And so, of course, she did the quiz and she got the Brene Brown style. But what was really interesting is that she shared later, and it was great content, actually, because after you do the quiz, you get a PDF about how to create, how to leverage your superpower and stop dimming it down. And she did that. She wrote this post about how she thought she when she got into the coaching business, she thought that she had to be this blazer, wearing high heels, wearing boss babe, get shit done fucking like that real let's fucking go which is the more Tony Robbins archetype, which is where other people sit. And she thought she had to be that, and so she tried to make herself be that, but it felt wrong, and she made and this isn't what she said. This is now me going a little step further. What if she made her Brene style her superpower wrong and shamed it and thought, Maybe I'm meant to be more. Maybe I meant to be more Go, go, go. Maybe I'm meant to be more masculine in my approach. Maybe I meant to be more of an action taper. Maybe I meant to be all these other things. And lots of people have been having these conversations with me and flooding my inbox honestly with oh my gosh, this is so validating. I always thought it was my superpower, but I made it wrong, and even sharing my two cents, there has been so many times in my life and in my business and in my personal life, especially over the last couple years, where people have sort of unconsciously, like unintentionally, made comments, said, Things projected onto me that because my style is far more like my archetype is a bit of a mix. I usually get the Einstein and Tony Robbins, and it's like I am high energy. I am very let's fucking go like I'm turbo. My brother has always called me. Turbo, like you're just turbo, and I am high energy, and I am big, big energy. I love big rooms. I love to teach in big spaces. I love group containers. I love energy. I love to make an action plan. Sure I can hold space, sure I can be the Brene Brown coach when I need to be and when the time calls for it. But my superpower and what I love and where I thrive is to be high energy and a more quote, masculine in my approach. And I don't really love that terminology, but you get what I mean, right? And so because that is just more me, I've had people say things particularly because of my fertility journey. It's so interesting. It's just been really interesting to witness people will say things like, you need to open your heart, you need to slow down. And it's almost making the assumption that, like, I must be cold, or I must be closed off, or I mustn't be able to slow down. And it's like that's making so many assumptions, so many assumptions. Like, you can be both, I can be high energy, high vibe, very action taking, but if you were to look at my diary, if you were to look at my heart, anyone who knows me knows I've got the biggest aching, sobbing, Pisces heart, like I am so open. I cry all the time about this baby stuff. Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it's not happening, but it's been really interesting. And there's been other scenarios where people have, sort of, I've gone into containers where it's, for example, real, it's the opposite. It's the real feminine, and it's the real slow, and it's the slowing down and speaking differently, and blah, blah, blah. And there's nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with that. It's just simply not me. So when I go into those kinds of containers or retreats or spaces where it's like, oh, whoa, I am feeling like, like, I am a lot for this container, and I almost feel like, okay, but it's like, I don't need to speak like that. It doesn't it's not me. It's not who I am. And there was a time where I thought, Oh, am I like too much? Am I too masculine? Do I need to slow down and be more of a feminine embodiment? Kind of coach? And it's like, no. Like, I sat with that, and I was like, no, like, you can, you can have a strength, and you can also have more. Of course, you can have all. You can all, all of us have all parts, like all of us would have little different pieces of every for example, coaching archetype. We've all got parts, but we've got like, a strength and a spot where we feel the most confident, where we feel the most at ease, where we feel like we're just it's just who we are, where we work the best with clients, etc. And so what I found really interesting was that if I were to hang in containers or fill my feed with containers who were more of another style, who also, because they're a particular style, part of their plan or marketing or messaging or just belief system is to often demonize and vilify the other way. And to me, this is actually shadow work. 101, this is an ego problem. If you can't exist as you are and hold other people in their differences without making one of you right or wrong, or one of you better or worse, or creating a Yeah, just a right, wrong, better, worse scenario, you're actually now in your ego. And so if, because there are so many places on the Internet that will vilify, make wrong, put down, demonize the masculine, there was a time where I was like, Oh, is there something wrong? Do I need to open my heart? Do I have a blocked heart chakra or something. And it actually is just ridiculous because, like, no, just no. And so there's so much to this. And when I really sat with it and I really thought about it from multiple different contexts, what I found really interesting is that this is a story I hear so many women tell me, and how I often hear it, and it's come up a lot in the mind school, particularly a lot of women who come into this space, they have often wronged their too muchness. A lot of women have or in my space, maybe because you attract what you are, they've got this shame or this shadow around I've always been too much. And if I think back to my if I think back to every school report card, if I think back to every parent teacher interview, if I think back to even my own little wounding from high school, it's very much like, You're too much. You talk too much. You are too just too much. Like, calm yourself down. It was always like Breanna is you know, Breanna would do so much better if she would just stop talking. And I laugh now, because I've been a teacher, I've been a high school teacher, and I look back, I've got the privilege of seeing all of these students, hundreds of students that I taught for years, from year seven to year 12, and I look at them now, some of them who are 2223 some of them who are in my program. Yes, and I'm like, You know what's so interesting? The thing that they were told off for, the thing that they probably thought was their limitation. They the thing that they thought was the thing that was wrong with them, if they went forward and actually owned it and leveraged it, was their fucking superpower. And so let me give you an example. My example is, I was always told I talk too much. Well, the joke's on every teacher who wrote that, because now my whole business, all of my income, is about me fucking talking this podcast. I'm talking to a microphone and a fucking brick wall like literally, and I'm happy. I'm in my happy place. I'm riffing. It's good. My teaching is me talking. My programs are me creating spaces where everyone gets to talk and connect and be too much, and I create communities. And that was, you know, the little social butterfly was always wronged. The one who talked too much was always stop talking. Stop talking. And so for me, it's like, that's my superpower. What if I had made my too much wrong, and I dimmed it down. And I had to work on this to bring it back out. I had to allow myself to get rid of that voice, or not even get rid of because sometimes that little part is still there. Sometimes I still hear that part that's like, stop talking. You're probably annoying people like blah, blah, blah. And my friends have even said this. One of my best friends has said to me she can see that that part still sometimes plays out, because I will, in certain scenarios, not really talk about myself, not really share much about what's going on for me, and I'll make it about other people, and I'll ask how they're going, and I'll make it all about them. And she's like, I've seen this play out, because it's that part of you that doesn't want to talk about herself, that doesn't want to talk too much. And she's, I love this is why I love having friends that fucking hold you to this. She's like, Don't dim yourself down fucking speak up like, you know, I've had to do so much work because my too much was something I thought was a problem, but it was always my superpower. And if I look at this in the education system, and I look at this through my own lens of what I've seen as students. It's like the naughty kid. I've always got one student that comes to mind, and oh, my God, I loved him so much. He I loved the naughty kids because I could just see like, they're just bored. They were so bored. And I don't fucking blame them. And it was often these boys who were, like, classed as, like, the naughty ADHD kid, or like, whatever. And I was like, they're fucking bored, and he's gonna be a legend, like he is gonna just thrive after school. And I remember one kid in particular, he was so naughty, but it was hilarious, like he was so clever. And one time he literally, I was teaching, I was writing something on the whiteboard. I've turned around and I've heard him go, oh shit. And he's like, Oh, fuck, and he's lit he's Litten. He lit a fire. He literally lit a fire in his hands, accidentally, but kind of intentionally. He sort of was like, playing with batteries and seeing what he could do to make fire. And this was a kid who was like, so outdoorsy, loves camping, like just such an outdoorsy legend with so much so much energy and very fucking intelligent, didn't love to sit down and write essays, but gave the best conversations like so critically thinking, just didn't put it down in paper. Felt like he was being caged, a little bit like, kind of jumping off the walls. And I was so blessed to have had a relationship with his mum, and she came to me one time at her wits end, and just said, like, what do I do? Bree, he's always in trouble. He's always getting in trouble. And I was like, let him leave. Let him fucking go. Like, this kid should be a scuba diver instructor, or get an apprenticeship where he's using his hands, or go work somewhere, like on the beach, go get some sort of like, park ranger job. Like, this kid is not dumb, and if he stays here. He's going to create this identity. He's going to build this identity that is dumb, that is naughty, and he will, he will eventually start to play that out. And I was like, just let him go. And so this mum was like, Thank you, Bre like, Thank you. You see him like, you really see him. And I was like, Yeah, fuck. That's his superpower. This kid is now working on boats like he's thri. He's just the best. I adore this. I adore this now, man, and it's like that was always his superpower. What if he was made wrong for that? So there's the kid who can't sit still, the naughty kid who just can't stay still. They're probably going to be an athlete. They're probably going to be a scuba diver instructor. They're probably going to go off on boats around the world and live their happy life, like letting their energy out. And the kid who is away with the fairies in class, and you know the kids that you tell off because you're like, stop writing poems and drawing in your bloody we're doing work, and you're like, but those kids end up being artists, or some sort of creative and that's their superpower. The kids that talk too much are usually the me who have a podcast or teach or something like that. The kids who always ask questions and almost come across as like, rebellious, or what's the word, they're very like, antagonistic. They're usually innovators. They're usually business owners. They're like, No, this way, sucks. Miss, why are we doing this? The kids that are like, Miss, why are we doing this? This. Miss, how is this relevant? Miss, this is stupid. The kids who actually have the audacity to ask questions and question the status quo, they're going to be the innovators, they're going to be the leaders, they're going to be the CEOs. They're going to be the executives, they're going to be the thought leaders. And it's like all the kids that I saw who had something that was labeled as a limitation was their fucking superpower. And so this whole rant, for me is about you. It's an invitation for you. It's an invitation for you to sit with what is the thing that I have always thought is my limitation? Maybe you think you're too shy. Maybe you think you're not enough. Maybe you think that you can't sit still, you can't whatever the thing is that you've always thought is your limitation. You're too masculine, you're too feminine, you're too emotional, you're too whatever the thing is, I want you to ask the question, how is that actually your fucking superpower? Because I bet you it is. This is something that I teach inside the mind school, two when we get into the shadow work module, every single part of you, every part, there are no bad parts. There are no bad parts. This is I will rant, but I'm not going to Okay, let me. Let me get myself together, because I'm getting really passionate. There are so many traits within you. You are all of it, like I said at the start, we are all if you look at it through the lens of your coaching style, your leadership style, your archetype, if you've taken the quiz, all of us are part Brene Brown, part Tony Robbins, part Einstein, part Steve Jobs. We're all all of it however. We've got strengths, and we've got parts that are more our our real authenticity, where we feel the most at peace, where we thrive. We are, but we are still all things. We are all things. We are all of them. None of them are bad. Every part of us comes with a superpower, and that superpower can then also become a limitation. So even your superpower, we still need to watch where it can actually then become a limitation. So let's say, if I started to really embrace the oh my god yes, I am someone who talks too much. If I overly expressed that and did it from an unhealthy integration, and did it from an ungrounded and unintelligent, like an emotionally unintelligent place, I would then potentially go into obnoxious I would then be like, fuck it. I do talk too much, and this is who I am, and La, la, la, and I would potentially make other people uncomfortable, or I would, you know what you can see what I'm saying. There is a part where your superpower is your superpower, and we also need a clock where, if we over express it or do it from an unhealthy place, it can become a limitation. There are no bad parts. There are just healthy and unhealthy expressions of everything but my hunch, and this has been validated. My hunch has been validated through years in the education system, and through just watching my students turn into adults, and through watching my clients who really unravel pieces, who really even in level up. And the same goes for the mind school, when you start to really unravel the pieces that have kept you held back, that have kept you stuck, that have stopped your confidence, that have been problematic, when you really unravel those and allow yourself to be as you are, and stop making it wrong and ditch the narrative that there is something wrong, that this is a limitation, that this is the problem. I can bet nine times out of 10 that thing that you think is wrong, that thing that you think it makes you flaky, or it makes you too emotional, or it makes you unreliable, or it makes you too much, or it makes you not enough, or it makes you too shy. I bet you, if you just sit with this question, how is this my superpower? How How is this the exact thing that some people want from me? How is this going to be leveraged? How can I leverage this so that it is the thing that cuts me apart from the rest? How can I position this so that it is actually my point of difference? How can I position this, leverage this so that I can be who I am without the story, without the narrative and own who I am, and make it my fucking superpower, because I promise you, it probably fucking is. And that's my big rant, and it just brings all of me into one passionate rampage. Because I've seen this in the education system. I've seen this with coaches. I've seen this in business for business owners, play out, and I'm, I'm, I'm here just to be that reminder, be that mirror for you, that the thing. If you're the too much girl fucking own, the too much girl, like, Don't dim it down. Let it be your superpower. If you're the not enough, you're too quiet, you're too shy. I promise you, the people who are like, Oh, I feel so at peace in your energy, for the girl who's like, You're too emotional. Oh my god, don't we need more of that these days? Don't we need more of that emotion? Can't you help others to access their emotions? If you're the person who can't sit still, fucking use it. And for parents that are listening, look at your child. And the thing this is another thing that gets me just so wound up. If there. Something your child is being already starting to label as wrong, a limitation, not good enough. Whatever. Please as the parent, do your work to help them see that this is their superpower, to help them own it, to help them be empowered in it. So that's my rant. I hope you loved if you did. Please share it. Please tag me. Please let me know. Drop into the DMS if you want to take that quiz to find out what your leadership and coaching style is, and then get the PDF for how to leverage it. The link is in the show notes. I will be running a master class on how to leverage your archetype, your coaching style. And this has just come off the back of so many incredible conversations in my small group, masterminds, so much so many light bulb moments, epiphanies, I want to do a masterclass on it. It's going to be huge. I've already worked. I've already got it all done. It's a three part series, and so keep your eyes peeled for that that will come out in the next few weeks. Also, we're having a huge rebrand. It's been pushed back, as I mentioned on my stories, it's been pushed back. My patience is being tested this year, but that is okay. It is coming in the next one to two weeks. So please keep your eyes peeled. You're going to see the podcast. It's going to look different, but it's going to be so much more me. I've been doing so much work behind the scenes, which is a whole nother conversation, to lean into authenticity even more. It's always about, how can I be even more me? How can I be even more authentic? How can I bring more integrity. How can I close the gap more between who I am and what I portray to the world? Always doing that work. So my new brand that's coming out very soon is a representation of that, and I'm so proud of it. That's coming in the next few weeks. There's so many exciting things happening. Thank you for being here once again. It would mean the world if you could share this and tag me and I'll be back here next week. Thank you for tuning in to the mind school podcast. It is a massive intention of mine to continue to grow this show, because the more the show grows, the better the guests get, and I know that is going to be so powerful for you listening. 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