My Inner Critic is Bein a Lil Biiiish: Recording Anyway.

Hey there,

Real talk:

 This week, my inner critic was being a lil biiish.

You know the one:

 The voice that says,

"What’s the point?"

"Are you even helping anyone?"

"Why even bother?"

It was LOUD.

 It was annoying.

 And for a moment, it almost stopped me from hitting record.

But I did it anyway.

 And what came out of it... was one of the most honest episodes I’ve ever recorded.

🎧 My Inner Critic is Bein a Lil Biiiish: Recording Anyway

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If you’ve ever:

• Gotten stuck in your head before taking action
• Let self-doubt slow you down
• Wondered if everyone else has it easier (spoiler: they don’t)

...this episode will feel like a big exhale. 🧡

Inside, I’m sharing the truth most people don’t:

 ➡️ How even the most confident people still hear that voice.

 ➡️ Why “getting rid” of fear is a scam.

 ➡️ The real secret to moving forward even when you feel messy, doubtful, or scared.

This is the kind of thing I wish someone said out loud when I was building my dreams.

 So today, I’m saying it for you.

[Listen now] — and maybe save it for the next time your inner critic starts mouthing off. 😉

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With you always,

Bre

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Transcript

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Music. Welcome to the mind school, the classroom for your mind and soul, where we design our lives from the inside out. Here you will find a human first approach to life, business and relationships, to create freedom, growth and constant evolution through mindset, emotional intelligence, leadership and connection to self. I'm your host, Breanna may educator, CEO mindset and business mentor, and my mission is to teach the things we were never taught at school so that no dream is left on the pillow and no purpose left unfulfilled. Here, you can expect a lot of laughs and thought provoking conversations as we squeeze every drop of juice from this beautiful, precious, crazy thing called life, we're back inside the mind school podcast, and it has been a week since we officially rebranded. So if you're listening, you will see a new title and a new look, and if you've looked at the new website, or you've sent me a message, thank you so so much. I received so much beautiful feedback last week, and I really, really appreciate it. People are absolutely loving the new website, the new brand, the new look. And I've heard from so many people, this is just so you, which is really, really, really cool. So I suppose it's almost poetic what this topic of today's episode is all about, and it's going to really, I hope, be helpful for you. If you are somebody who gets really stuck in your head, sometimes, if you have a really inner like an inner critic, that can be quite loud and often actually stops you from moving. If you get stuck in this self judgmental, self loathing, just like a really heavy noise, or you get caught in overthinking or analysis paralysis, and sometimes just maybe, your fears and your doubts and your worries consume you to the point where you don't take any action. Today's episode, I hope, is going to be helpful for you, and it is poetic, because last week, I spoke about how this brand and this podcast in particular, especially in the next season where, let's be real. I don't know what the hell is going to happen for the next few years. I am hoping that I'll, you know, go into motherhood, but I don't know what that's going to be like. I don't know what identities are going to evolve. I'm, I feel like I'm sort of in this season. It's so interesting. I caught up with one of my besties today. She came over, and we were just reflecting, both of us are trying to conceive. Have been trying for quite a while, and we were sort of saying how it's this weird thing where, like, we're in a season where there's been so many eras of our lives, you know, there's the probably, like 18 to 25 where you're in this era, and it's like, it's a different era. You don't know, and you don't know then that it's ending, but it just, you just move on, and all of a sudden you're like, oh, I don't really go out anymore and, or I don't really party like I used to, or I have a lot more maybe you've got more responsibility. Like, there's different eras of our lives, and we're just saying how, like, at that stage, you know, we turned 25 maybe we got we built businesses, or we got great, we got jobs, and we just kind of grew up, and that was the end of an era, but we didn't know it at the time. It was kind of like life just kept going. And then you look back in hindsight and go, Oh, that was such an era, whereas in this season, it's like we are so consciously aware that this current era that we're in is about to change, but it hasn't yet. And so it's like we're in this weird in the middle season where it's like we're kind of wanting to enter a new era, but it's not here yet. So we're in a different one, one that we don't necessarily want to be in, but it's like this really weird time, right? So I said on last week's episode that I would share a lot more of the messy middle, and the messy middle is whatever happens as it unfolds, and just being really honest about it, and it's so poetic and divine that today's episode is actually about another one of my messages last week was that, yes, I'll share a lot more of the messy middle, but also I have this like phrase now that's at the top of my new website. It's in my bio, and it's about, why not both? Like, why not both? I want to give women permission to be both things and not be tied into a stupid box that we've was placed on us by someone else, or an identity that was an old version of us that we don't even want to keep anymore, or a box that meant you have to be this way, and that therefore you can't be another way, or it's like this, that it's this or that thinking. And I believe that we are all things. And I said last week, you know, I want to be an example to people, that you can be a freaking powerhouse, an absolutely ambitious powerhouse, a go getter, and you can be so. Soft and feminine and flowy, and you can have structure and flow and masculine and feminine and mindset and somatics, head and heart, like it's about both and and just because you're having a messy day and you're having a bad mental day or whatever it is, doesn't mean you're not still an absolute powerhouse and force to be reckoned with. And just because you're emotional one day doesn't mean you're not, you know, it's about and and so it's so interesting that today's episode is actually me really highlighting and walking the walk of being both. And because I would say I am typically quite a confident person, I've always felt very comfortable with a microphone in my hand, and that's from literally the age that I could probably talk I think that the earliest videos Remember VHS. We've got a VHS, maybe, if it's still somewhere in mum's boxes of me like singing my guts out, having a little karaoke party when I was about four and just shoving my poor little baby brother out of the camera's way because I wanted to be like center stage little show pointing like I've always been very confident. I love stage. I did musical theater. I was a singer. I now speak in front of hundreds or 1000s of people at a time. This podcast has been going for four, four and a half years. We've just gone over 200,000 downloads. I teach and speak for a living, and so I am a very confident person. I'm very confident with my voice, with my message, with my teachings, with hitting record and recording. And today, the other side of it was I had so much head noise recording a podcast, so much head noise. And honestly, this is the third take. This is the third take today because I was still in my head, and it's so funny, I went down to the beach and I was like, hmm, what do I want to talk about today? Like, what the way that I usually consider topics? And this might be helpful for anyone who wants a podcast, or has a podcast, or uses their podcast in business. Oftentimes, I'll look at my marketing calendar and my launch calendar, and I'll think of topics that marry up with different things that I'm launching. But also I give myself so much creative freedom where I'm just like, What do I want to talk about today? What has been coming up for a lot of clients? What is some repeating patterns or themes that I'm talking about a lot? Because if I'm talking about it a lot with clients, or even friends or whatever, then it's obviously going to be helpful to more people. So I can talk about that. So I went down to the beach today, and I was like, What's feeling really prevalent at the moment? Like, what am I having lots of chats about with clients? And there was a few different topics. But then as I went to hit record, I could hear this head noise. And it's not the first time I've heard this head noise. Gosh, it's definitely not like I'm very familiar with this head noise, but as I sat with it and just sort of went, what the heck it was? It was this loud noise, and it sounded like, what's the point? Why do you even bother? Do you even help anyone? You're not saying anything groundbreaking. Breanna, like people already know this, you don't need to add to the noise you are you even really helping anyone? Does anyone even get any value? Does it even matter? Like just this real, gross energy, and I don't share this because I want a pity party. I don't share this because I need support moving through it. I don't share this for any other reason. Actually, there's a few reasons I share this because this is actually leadership, I believe, but also this is truth. This is honesty, and I have seen in the space, in this space, whether it's personal development space, the online space, the space of comparison, where people will often compare themselves to someone, maybe a mentor, maybe someone they follow online, a friend, whoever they'll compare themselves to someone who shows really a highlight reel and the outcomes, and it almost looks like everything was really easy for them. It looks like it's always easy. They're just this confident person goes from strength to strength, and you don't see when you're only looking at the highlight reel or the end result. You don't see the messy middle. You don't see the you don't hear their head noise. You don't see what they're working on behind the scenes with their mindset coach. You don't know by looking at someone's social media or just hearing their podcast or hearing whatever, however you hear it and compare, you don't hear all the story. And so you could be forgiven for thinking, Oh, well, obviously it's me that just has this head noise. Like, why is it so loud for me? And then if you're in the personal development space, or you're quite conscious, and you do a lot of awareness work, or whatever, you may also have fallen into that space where. You think, oh, well, there's more healing to be done. There is something wrong with me. There is a block, a limitation. And yes, of course there is that sometimes it's such a limitation that you can't move, and there's someone, there will be someone to help you and support you, and there is work to do so that you can move. It's not so that you can get rid of the head noise. It's not so that you can get rid of the doubt, the inner critic. That's not happening ever. I have never met a single person unless they're an absolute narcissist. I've never met a single person who doesn't deep down have some kind of fear, have some self doubt, have some level of inner noise that can present itself. We don't get rid of it. And sometimes in this space or in the online world, the narrative kind of sounds like I overcame fear, I overcame doubt, I transcended that emotion, blah fucking blah. And what I want to share as a leader in this space is that is absolute fucking bullshit. And anyone who tells you that they have transcended their inner voice, their inner critic, anyone who's told you they no longer have doubt or fear, is either living in a comfort zone. And to quote Roosevelt, why would you even listen to a man who's not in the arena, like someone who's not in the arena, doing the scary thing, doing the hard thing, pushing themselves, getting outside the comfort zone. Why would you even listen so anyone who says they don't feel fear, they don't feel doubt, they've overcome their inner critic. They've overcome human emotions like fear, doubt, worry, fear of fear of judgment, all of these things that make you innately human. Anyone who says that like I said, they've either lived, they're living in the comfort zone, or they've become so good, so good, so well practiced in regulating themselves so quickly that it doesn't actually wobble them. But it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It just means they're a lot more practiced, because it is a skill at moving anyway, at moving anyway. And I would hate for someone, anyone, if there's anyone out there who listens and does maybe compare themselves to me and think, Oh, it must just be so nice to not have any head noise. It must be so nice not to have an inner critic. It must be so nice not to have fear. I want to role model and lead and say, of course, I fucking do. Of course I do. I'm a human. And anyone that you're comparing yourself to is a human, I can tell you, as like a seeing behind the curtain. I coach so many highly successful people who've running seven eight figure companies. I coach a wide variety of people, and they're coming to me not because they're fearless, but because they need some support to move with the fear. You don't get to those levels by getting rid of fear. You get to those levels by being someone who can move despite it, and who can witness themselves in the doubt, witness themselves in that why would anyone listen and whatever the voice is, and go, that's really interesting. That's super interesting, and decide to move anyway and not attach too much meaning to it, and not get caught in the rabbit hole of now I need to go journal on this and figure out where it's come from, and do some inner child work, and do some trauma release. And don't get me wrong, those things maybe can be helpful, but also sometimes we go too far down that rabbit hole when actually the work to do, when you recognize that doubt, that inner critic, that fear, that voice, that whatever it is and however it manifests for you, the actual work to do is to be able to Find a way to move anyway and to take action anyway. So I may have got to 200,000 downloads. I may have got to a place where I get paid to speak, but it's not because I do it without fear. It's because I've done it with fear time and time and time again, and just like today, I hit record anyway. I might have changed the topic because I actually thought this would be more valuable, but I still hit record. I didn't let the voice, the worry, the emotion consume me, because I have practiced time and time again, doing it despite the fear. And so I want you to think about whoever it is that you're comparing yourself to and thinking God, or thinking even making judgments about yourself, because there is still some doubt, because maybe there is still some fear, there is still some head noise. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It means you're a human, and people who say, like I said, people who say they can help you to dissolve fear, that would be very pathological. That would be. Really, honestly, can you think about how absolutely dangerous it would be to not have fear, to be actually fearless. To be fearless would be dangerous. We need fear as a survival mechanism. It was, it was a God given emotion that was given to us to tell us when we're safe and not safe, and we need it. We need it, and it also tells us when we're going outside our comfort zone. So for me, personally, I love fear. I love discomfort. I like to feel nervous. I like to feel like I'm stepping outside my comfort zone, because then I know I'm growing. But also, if it's something like this, where it's not necessarily fear, like this example, today, it wasn't fear, it was just head noise. Why does anyone like, am I helping anyone? Does anyone even listen? Is anyone blah, blah, blah? It's like, that's literally just head noise. And what you'll notice is I just went, huh? And I kind of think of it like that, like I meet this part of me, like it is a little child, or it is a younger version of myself that didn't feel heard, or maybe it is just a version of myself that's looking for a way out, because she just wants to be a little bit whatever. Maybe she wants to be a bit lazy today, or whatever. And sure, sometimes you can go a little bit deeper and go, why is that? Why? Why am I sabotaging a little bit here? Is it because I do need more rest? Okay, what am I going to do about that? Or is it because maybe you want to bring some new energy into the podcast, maybe you want to get some new guests, some new excitement, and maybe then the sabotage doesn't play out. It's like, sure entertain the voice a little bit, just to be like, is there something in this? Why am I sabotaging what's at play here? But more importantly than anything, the most important thing to do is to just move anyway. Is to just move anyway. Everyone who you see who has gotten to something that you would like to get to, whether it's a money thing, a business thing, a podcast thing, a confidence thing, the way that they make it look easy now, and this is, this is literally the formula, the amount of ease that somebody displays is directly proportionate to how many times they did it when it was hard. It doesn't feel easy when you're in a dialog and your inner voice is arcing up. But if you can find a way to meet that voice with neutrality, and that is to create a little bit of separation between you and the character, and think of it as a character. The way I think about my inner voices is that there are so many different parts of me, and they're all me, and they make me whole. But this character that was saying, why record today? Is it even helping anyone? You're not blah, blah, blah, I can meet this character and go, Oh, you're a little bit of a Debbie Downer today. And because I've created that separation, because it's coming from a place of, Oh, that's really interesting. It's coming from a neutral, curious even meeting this energy, if you think about it, like positive energy transmutes negative energy. So if you can meet that energy of like, ho hum, Debbie Downer with like, whoa, wow. That's a bit dramatic, or whatever. And if it doesn't have to be that, even just neutrality, even just, Oh, that's interesting, that voice is there today, okay, that's there. Just like you'd say, that's a pen, that's a laptop, that's a microphone. It's like, that voice is there. There's no emotion to it. It's no emotion. It's not emotional. But that takes practice to be able to create separation between your internal chatter and what you decide to do with it and how much you get emotional in response to that voice when you get into a practice of going, huh, that's interesting. I'm moving anyway. Or like, you know, and you can find so many opportunities to do this in your day to day life, to practice this muscle. This is why I say exercise, any form of exercise or ice bath or some sort of practice that you do every single day, you get to prove to yourself again and again and again that the voice in your head is literally just that. It's just a voice, and it's not always right. How many times if you go to the gym, do you go, Oh, my God, I can't possibly get one more rep up, and then you get two more reps up. Or you go, I don't know if I can write, ride, run, another extra k, and then you do an extra couple case. Or you're like, I don't think I can do this. And then you do so the voice that says I can't do this isn't necessarily correct. How many mums have I spoken to who have had children and said there was a point in labor where it's like, I can't do this? And what do you know they end up with a baby in their arms? The voice isn't always true, and so the more times you can practice, a daily practice, an ice bath, a rung, something in the gym, a physical exercise where you get to practice that feeling of like the voice says one thing and you execute the other. The voice says one thing and the ex, you execute the other. That's what helps and reminding yourself too, that the people that maybe you compare yourself to the people that you look at and go, Oh, I wish I had that kind of confidence. I wish I had that kind of ease. Or what do I need to do to get rid of my doubt? Get rid of my fear? Get rid of my internal chatter. You don't get rid of it. You get better at dancing with it. You get better at moving with it. You get better at knowing what to do. In spite of it moving, in spite of it, it doesn't go away. And if it goes away, you've probably just gone back to the comfort zone. And that's also cool. Sometimes you want to be in the comfort zone a little bit. There's nothing wrong with that. Let's not make ourselves wrong for that. Sometimes we can intentionally be like, I'm going to coast for a bit. I'm going to consolidate for a bit. That's cool too. But this is about when the inner critic is really loud and it actually stops you. Yes, there are some things you can do. I think having a mentor, being in a space that normalizes it. This is why people inside my group containers get such big results and take such big action in a really small period of time, because they're in a container where it's normalized, where they when they are getting stuck in their head, they can talk it out and move the energy and have a plan and have someone to actually help them move through it. Do that? Get yourself in the rooms with the right people. Get support if you need to. But ultimately, the work is to do the thing anyway, to hit record anyway, like today me being like motherfucker, this voice in my head is being really loud and quite a Debbie Downer, but I'm just going to hit record, and you can do that too, however it's playing out. So I hope that, I really hope today just is a big reminder that everyone is going through something. Everyone has an inner critic. Everyone has fear, everyone has doubt, especially if you're doing something new, if you're pushing yourself, if you're trying to achieve something you've never achieved before, you're going to feel the most criticism internally. You're going to feel the most excuses, the most fear, the most doubt. That's a sign you're in the arena. That's the sign that you've left the comfort zone. That's the sign that you're about to expand. It's a good thing. What you want to practice is how you respond to the thing. Because the fear itself is not the problem, the doubt itself is not the problem. The inner critic itself is not the problem. How you respond to it is problematic, and you can fix that. You can change that. It's a practice, it's a skill set, and it's something that everybody can do. So I really hope today's episode reminded you of that that is all from me today. My dog, if you can't hear him, he is literally barking and starting to he's starting to hunt my arm. So I'm gonna love you and leave you and go feed my dog. I will be back here next week for those of you who have made it to the end and if you are actually growing a coaching business, and you want to leverage your superpowers the way I have, the way I leverage my superpower, which is my teaching archetype, my personality, my energy, to make a really thriving business that actually just feeds off me being more me. If you want to know how I've done that, and here in a three day workshop, all of the juice that I'm sharing come to leverage that is running next week. So the link is in the show notes. Thank you for tuning in to the mind school podcast. It is a massive intention of mine to continue to grow this show, because the more the show grows, the better the guests get, and I know that is going to be so powerful for you listening. 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