Fearlessly Facing Fifty And Beyond
The Fearlessly Facing Fifty and beyond podcast encourages women to be fearless and fabulous at any age. Let's be honest, midlife and beyond comes with change. And let's face it, we are a masterclass in reinvention. So let's fearlessly face all the “F” words” together, like fashion, fitness, finances, family, friendships, faith, failures, our futures just to name a few. Let's get fired up about aging and CANNONBALL with confidence into our "next one thing".
Hosted by Amy Schmidt, a sought-after national media expert and thought leader on a variety of topics, an award-winning podcast host, stream show host, TEDx speaker, and author (Cannonball! Fearlessly Facing Midlife and Beyond) who has appeared in hundreds of publications, podcasts, live news, tv lifestyle segments, and radio, she is ready to arm you with all the tools to move the needle on your journey.
As a former journalist, turned what she calls, a ‘trailing spouse’ staying home to raise her children, she believes her voice and action-oriented advice allows people to move the needle on their journey and make positive changes in their relationships. Through countless reinventions, at the age of 49, she knew there was more to do, and she launched her brand and podcast, Fearlessly Facing Fifty.
Get ready to CANNONBALL with confidence and begin pushing play on your next adventure. Let's GOOOOOOO!
Fearlessly Facing Fifty And Beyond
EP203: Makeup Magic with Joshua Hardinger: Unlocking the Secrets of Mature Skin
And the F WORD is: Fearlessly Facing our FACES as we age. Today my guest is Joshua Hardinger, an incredible makeup artist specializing in mature skin who transforms women's confidence through his artistic approach to makeup. He shares his philosophy of enhancing natural beauty rather than changing it, helping women rediscover themselves.
• Joshua's background as an artist from Ringling College of Art and Design influences his approach to makeup
• His specialty in mature skin comes from seeing beauty where women sometimes lose confidence
• The power of seeing someone "perk up and sit taller" after a makeup application
• Practical tips for mature skin: avoid powder, apply concealer strategically at tear ducts
• Place blush high on cheekbones instead of apples for a lifted appearance
• Match foundation to the inside of your wrist to find your true shade
• Women often deflect compliments instead of simply accepting them
• Stop fighting aging and embrace who you are right now
"Let go of the little stuff and just keep killing it. Just keep moving forward. Don't overthink the little stuff or care about what anybody thinks, because it's your mind, it's your matrix."
Connect with Joshua here
Joshua Hardinger is a Makeup Artist and Fine Artist. He is currently a specialist for makeup on mature skin. Joshua paints, draws, and produces murals. He is currently a master makeup artist at Ana Molinari Salon Spa Boutique.
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Hey, fearless friends, it's Amy Schmidt and I'm so excited to be back with a new and improved Fearlessly Facing 50 and Beyond show, a show to inspire women to be fearless and fabulous at any age.
Speaker 1:We're going to be talking all the things fearlessly facing those F-words you know, like fashion, finances, friendship, fitness, foods, faith, forgiveness, fads and FOMO. We are going to be digging into those much-needed conversations and invite you to be part of the fun. Today's guest is the incredible Joshua Hardinger. I met Joshua a year ago. He is an incredible makeup artist and fine art artist here in the Sarasota area and does makeup all around the country. He actually graduated from the Ringling College of Art and Design and is a specialist for makeup on mature skin. So we are already loving this conversation. So welcome to the show, joshua Hardinger.
Speaker 1:Hey, fearless friends, it's Amy Schmidt and I am so excited to be back here behind the mic and you know this show is all about being fearless, being fabulous. But you know what we are tackling. Those F-words, yeah, those F-words. We talk about it all. We talk about fearlessly facing, fashion and fitness and food and family and friendships and our future, and what other words I mean. There's so many, but you know what. We do it with confidence and confidence, and the guests that I have, the experts and everybody that I bring on, all has a special, not only a story to share, kind of, behind their brand, but the expertise that they're going to bring you these tips that are tangible takeaways that you can apply to your life wherever you are. So that's what it's about today and I'm super excited because I will do a drum roll. I you are.
Speaker 2:So that's what it's about today, and I'm super excited because I will do a drum roll. I should have a soundbite for a drum roll, right?
Speaker 1:I mean, I need something like that little rockets I have with me today. Joshua Hardinger Got it right. Yes, no, absolutely, Even though the Deutsch way, because I did live in Germany for so long Hardinger, hardinger.
Speaker 2:Yep.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I am so excited to have you here.
Speaker 2:I'm so excited to have you here. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you so much for having me. I met you last year.
Speaker 1:You are so welcome. I met you last year. Joshua is an amazing makeup artist and also an artist. Yes, beyond, just a makeup artist and artist, and we're going to get into all of that. I had the pleasure of meeting you a year ago.
Speaker 2:Yes, it was a year ago, isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1:It a year ago. Yes, it was a year ago, isn't that crazy Time's flown. I was looking at my calendar and I'm like, wow, I went in and I got to share, because I get my makeup done yes, and I love to have my makeup done. And I went into Joshua, and actually he was referred from a good friend of mine from New York. She was doing some research and she said go see if I can get an appointment. I went in, I was going to be on TV, brand new in Florida, hadn't even been to the station before, and you looked at me and you just said this is going to be awesome. And I remember it because you're just like all right, what do you want? This is what I'm thinking. What are you thinking? But then we got deeper than that. We started talking about really the value in life after 50.
Speaker 2:really the value in life after 50. Yes, yeah, how, how, how many women who come sit in my chair, and I specialize in mature skin, that's always been something that's mature skin mature skin.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's, it's. It's so much more than just makeup. It's it's making someone feel like them again. You know, and I know there's a lot that we kind of feel that we don't have. Or people come and sit down and they want a makeup lesson or they want this and like, oh, I've been doing my makeup the same since I've been 16 years old and I'm 60 now, or I'm 50 now and things have changed and it's amazing that we can still be fabulous after 50. It's absolutely possible.
Speaker 1:Well, and you see it every day, I mean, and obviously you do you kind of specialize in mature skin, which I love, but you do all ages, yes, and we'll talk about that and all the services that you offer. But I think that's so cool because so many women, like I said, the F-words, like it's seriously facing these F-words, and there's not a day, I have to be honest that. You know, I don't look in the mirror and I'm like, okay, wow, this has changed, this is shifted, this is dropped.
Speaker 1:This is wow, I look different.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And it's hard to step away from that feeling of oh, it is, it is.
Speaker 2:I think you know, when you stare at the same thing over and over and over again, yeah, and trying to perfect it, when it's like maybe you should just change the whole room, yeah, right, rearrange some things. There's so many people who I know they're like, oh, but do you see, this? This is just a little too low. Or this is this. And their friend will be like oh, that's so silly, you're being so silly, that's such a silly thing. But do you see my eye here? And then they'll go and it's like but don't you see, you're being so silly too. It's like we're going to get caught up on these things that people don't see. And I see a lot of people try to change that and focus on it and they end up making it more prominent, trying to hide it. So much Trying to hide it.
Speaker 1:I want to share something because I think we talked about this last year too. I think it was on what Not to Wear. Years ago there was a segment that had a woman on and she was in her fifties and she was supposed to line herself up in kind of a line and it was sized so smallest to largest and this woman was supposed to go and insert herself where she thought she was in that lineup.
Speaker 2:Oh gosh yeah.
Speaker 1:She immediately went heavier, larger, bigger than she was. You know, we look at ourself in such a way. There's a project I'm going to be working on that I'm excited about. That's how others kind of perceive you and how you perceive yourself, and I think that's immediately what we do. We don't look at our. We're such an inner critic, we have such a strong inner critic. Oh, yes, yeah, and we need the cheerleader. So let's talk a little bit before we get into makeup. I want to hear your story, because that's some of the best part of it why you're doing what you're doing, how your creativity and all that you do kind of intersected your passion and your purpose. I always like to hear the story behind how that happened.
Speaker 2:Well, I grew up in a very artistic home. My mother was an artist, my father was an artist, my grandfather and grandmother on both of their sides were all artists, really. So I absolutely did not have a choice. Looking back and I loved figurative art and doing faces and portraiture. I ended up going to Ringling College of Art and Design and graduating from the illustration department which was number two in the United States.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I do a lot of photorealistic portraiture and as a young kid I don't know beauty somehow came into that. I had an older sister who's a few years older than me and I think she was getting ready for a party or something. I just remember her big, brown, curly hair in the mirror and she put on this earring and she did something with makeup and I thought and that was it. It was so cool just to watch the transformation of that. So then I fell in love with makeup and painting faces or painting on faces. It was very, very blended how light and shadow and anatomy and coloring and all that goes into makeup as well as fine art and portraiture. So yeah, I came from the outside Philadelphia area and went to college here and I loved it and I've stayed.
Speaker 1:And you stayed. Good old Sarasota, it's not a bad place to be. Not at all. No.
Speaker 2:It's amazing A slice of paradise, absolutely here yeah.
Speaker 1:So when women come into your studio and sit in the chair, what's the first thing?
Speaker 2:you think? The first thing, I think, is I quickly grab everything mentally around them to gather their personality. That, I think, is a huge part of me.
Speaker 1:Walk me through that, that's so interesting.
Speaker 2:There's people who I see them walk in the room and they're kind of very simple and they're first going off. Oh no, I know I don't have eyebrows or I don't have that or I can't do this. I'm like okay you're all natural. I understand. You don't have to worry about it. There's other people who they come in and they're, they want this, and I can just tell that they're glam. They're just a glam. That's who they are. They want big lashes. They want you know that's just who their personality is.
Speaker 2:And then also evaluating and asking what do you wear every day anyways? Yeah, you know, cause I kind of want to understand like some people love, like they wouldn't leave without lipstick, right, right, you know. So my mom told me that every day, and there's people who just need mascara and that's it, you know. So I kind of want to go okay, so you're more, you want to go with stronger colors here. You might want to go with more eyes here, right, and just evaluating and making sure that they, they look like themselves. Yeah, cause that's something I cannot stand.
Speaker 1:We're getting away from that so much.
Speaker 2:Why make you look like someone else? You don't want to be someone else. I want to enhance every part of you and I think the biggest compliment in the world is if, when I show someone in the mirror and they cry and they're like I didn't know.
Speaker 1:That's their mascara. Yeah Well, it's the ultimate test, because nothing moves. That's their mascara.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, it's the ultimate test, because nothing moves, I love it. You know, I say to them every time you know, I didn't give you anything you don't have. Now you see what I see.
Speaker 1:I got goosebumps. I didn't give you anything you don't have.
Speaker 2:Exactly, it's not. You know, this washes right off. This isn't plastic surgery. This is you. Yeah, I'm seeing who you are on the inside and I'm bringing that forward. Yeah, instead of you. Why else would you find me Right?
Speaker 1:Right, right, exactly, and it's enhancing those parts of you that I remember. On me specifically, you were like, yeah, and I'm sure and I preach this all the time because I try not to get into the habit of oh, my right eye.
Speaker 2:I don't want the camera from this way, and I know I do that?
Speaker 1:Yeah, we all do. Yeah, I know I do that. I share the story of when I was on the Mel Robbins show in New York City when she first launched. It was one of her first shows. It was all about something about life after 50. And I felt like I rocked it. The segment it wasn't live, it was being taped and I'm like, oh, this was awesome. My team was there and I had some friends there and I'm like this is so awesome. Until the day that the producer called and said, hey, this show is going to air like on Wednesday, so now you can get it out in your social media.
Speaker 1:I was like, oh, no, Like I don't want a lot of times watch myself on TV.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I completely understand that.
Speaker 1:And what I appreciated about you and when you worked with me several times it was like just be yourself, like just you know. You never said your right eye is really droopy, amy, like I really need to pick that up. You just went in there and have this ability to take the authenticity not take that away and just enhance your features in such a way that are and what a gift that is.
Speaker 2:Thank you, it is. It is an absolute honor to do that with people, um to to really just truly make someone feel like in their own skin. Again, I remember this one woman sitting in my chair and this still gets me to this day. But she sat down and she was like I know, I understand. Before she said anything, she's like no, I understand, if you can't do my eyes, I understand. My eyes are very difficult. And I was like Whoa, what are you? What are you talking about? Like I've already figured in my head, I've already figured out what I'm going to do Right but she's.
Speaker 2:She's like well, I know my eyes are very difficult and I'm like I don't, I don't foresee any difficult difficulties with your eyes and I kind of was like, where's this coming from? And she was like, oh well, you know, one day I went and got my makeup done and the makeup artists you know got really from what I understand, we got very frustrated because she had hooded eyes, naturally hooded eyes and couldn't figure out her makeup. Anyways, wiped it off, gave up and said your eyes are too difficult to her.
Speaker 2:Really, she was 13 years old and she was in my chair at 47, carrying that with her for 35 years, yeah, and I did her makeup and, of course, there she's crying, I'm crying, yeah, and I'm just like who? Like shame on that, exactly. Exactly Little teenager who couldn't do it. Maybe they weren't an adult.
Speaker 1:I don't know Right, who knows yeah? You know, when in your life?
Speaker 2:when in your life did you stop being fabulous? Right, you know when. When does that really come to a fall? When? When are you going to realize that you are fabulous? Yeah, you know, and you are fabulous, and I love giving that back to people. It's like when did you stop? I see it, Other people see it. Now it's your turn.
Speaker 1:It's your turn to see it. Yeah, exactly, exactly. Oh, I think that's so great. So give me another story, because I love the stories, because women that are watching and listening will say I don't need to get my makeup done, I don't want to. I shouldn't even be wearing makeup anymore, I'm too old.
Speaker 2:Any stories Like somebody's come in and you've just, I mean, I love that story about the eyes because I had this one woman who came in and this was actually pretty recently and she had one eye More. We all kind of have different differences in our face, but her one eye was a little bit larger than the other eye yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't know if that was just birth or an accident or whatever, but she was kind of curious on how to do this and I was like, well, you just make the eyeliner thicker here and we're just going to change this, I'm going to lift this eyebrow and we're going to create the illusion. And that was the whole point of it is like the illusion. Yeah, you know, it's not because the shadow of how it hit her face was already making the illusion that she had a deeper set eye than the other.
Speaker 2:Right, so it started as an illusion, right, you know, it is light and shadow, it is changing that and she looked, she was like, oh my God, she was like I, that's me, yeah, I look like, I, look like me, I look like me. And just her confidence just the way you literally see someone perk up and sit up taller is amazing. Gosh, I have so many. I'm trying to think of a few, but it's very nice to just give that to somebody.
Speaker 1:And have that gift of confidence again, I think that's huge. And I think one of your gifts too because I've had a lot of makeup artists over the years is the fact that you're kind of a mentor, you kind of teach as you, you have a conversation, and unless it's five in the morning, which we've done- a couple of times and we have coffee and that's about it. But you do, you have a conversation, you kind of get to know the person and you also kind of teach Now that woman can walk away with a tool in her tool belt.
Speaker 1:That's like all right, I can do this at home.
Speaker 2:Yes, timeless. That is something that's very cool too is when I do someone's makeup and it's not a lesson I just do their makeup Right, and maybe they go home now they see what I saw. Yes, and it can be simple, right?
Speaker 1:Let's talk about that because you know people watching. I mean I have drawers of makeup, although here I really pared down and I only I'm really trying to be very intentional about what I'm using and how I'm using it and you've taught me a little bit of that.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That know you have to be. You don't need a ton of products. But let's walk through a few easy steps that somebody listening today can say okay, I'm going to do this, I'm going to go to Target or I'm going to go to Sephora. I'm going to go somewhere.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you can, whether it's drugstore or it's high end, it's more at your taste or your budget. It's high end, right, it's more at your taste or your budget, and I think a big one is the eyes. Okay, a lot of of my mature skin clients are terrified of, like, what I'm going to do with the eyes. Are you going to put powder under my eyes? Are you going to make me creepy and crinkly?
Speaker 2:Chalky looking Are you going to put black here? Are you going to you know? And it's like, and it's all horrifying, we're all going. Oh yeah, we hear you. I'd say always avoid powder. You almost never need powder unless you have very oily skin. Now there's some people who just have skin that eats makeup and it doesn't matter what you do and they look just great. I'm one of the people that you put the wrong product on my skin. You could count my pores. I look oily, so it depends on your skin chemistry.
Speaker 2:but taking concealer and I always see people doing concealer the wrong way- and they'll take it and they'll put it right under their eye, right on the purple spot, right, cause that's what you want to cover. Right? No, what you want to do is never put makeup here. I would put it right here, in the darkest corner of your eye.
Speaker 1:Okay, darkest corner of your eye.
Speaker 2:Bring it down into your nose. What that's going to do is flatten this whole plane and make this plane look flat. Gets rid of the ring. It gets rid of the darkness here. The bags, the bags.
Speaker 1:Oh wow. And you can take the concealer here. Yeah.
Speaker 2:And pop it here and clean this up, almost go. You had a straight line. Everything you want to do is keep at these angles. It'll lift the face, lift it the jawline, the cheekbone, the eye. It'll all coordinate the same, like 45 degree angle wow and you keep the light here and keep the light here and blend that all and what you do is you don't know when it ever has, unless you have darkness which you can still bring the concealer to, but you have less happening in the middle.
Speaker 2:I mean there's just less product there. Less product to crease, less product to it keeps it smooth.
Speaker 1:Yeah, good point, and leave it wet.
Speaker 2:Unless it's a super oily concealer. Keep it wet. Interesting, I would never use powder and you're going to kind of glow.
Speaker 1:Which is very in supposedly Glowy dewy skin. Glowy dewy skin, yeah. So for those that aren't watching, that might be just listening. So you're kind of taking it right at the tear duct, basically. Yes, exactly and over out to the outer edge.
Speaker 2:Exactly Okay. Yeah, because the purple that's dark here in the eye is really what's making us look tired. There's not so much the under eye as much as it is the inside. You want to brighten that area. Yeah, interesting, just open your face make you look a little bit lighter. Yeah, I would say keeping your now I'm careful when I say this but keeping your brows not dark, but maybe a little colored.
Speaker 1:Yes, you have to.
Speaker 2:Even if you have microbladed brows and they're still kind of going gray or green Right, just popping a little bit of an ashy brown with your blonde, like for you, or maybe like a honey or a chestnut brown if you have dark hair and putting blush, a little bit of blush A little bit of blush.
Speaker 1:How do you do the blush? I mean, do you really smile and then put it in your little apples of your cheeks? I wouldn't do that. My mom told me that.
Speaker 2:I would actually keep it high on the cheekbone.
Speaker 1:Yeah, everything. That way, I would keep everything high on the cheekbone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that would be helpful Because with this you putting product here is going to make you look is going to make this look droopy, right? So if you keep the product here, it's going to make you look carved. Yeah, yeah, I honestly some people this might sound crazy. Take a shimmery pretty pink lipstick or lip gloss. Pop it on your cheek.
Speaker 2:Okay, a little hack right there, it'll be so glowy and dewy and just give you that kind of youthful blushed. You know you look at young people. They have, like rosy cheeks, bushy eyebrows. You know what? I mean so it's a really quick way to just kind of bring a useful. Those are great tips, yeah.
Speaker 1:Easy peasy and out the door and you feel good, you feel confident. You know it's funny, I don't know what it was. Several months ago I was in New York and I had to be, and my makeup artist there actually was sick and ended up in the hospital, and called me and said Amy, I can't do it. You know I don't.
Speaker 1:I'm like, oh no, this is terrible and I was panicking. I gotta be honest, I was panicking. I was with a friend and we went to CVS. It's like eight o'clock at night and I'm on at five. You know I'm in the city at five and my girlfriend and I are. We actually did a funny video about I walked into CVS because I didn't really bring makeup with me, because I knew I was having someone do it and I'm like, oh my God, Like there's 16 different shades of foundation.
Speaker 1:Yes, so give us a quick tip on like if you walk in, whether it's high end, whatever cosmetic or whatever, or you go to Target or CVS, and you're standing there and you're looking at L'Oreal and thinking okay, what matches.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Color matching.
Speaker 1:I would say always avoid oranges.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of people there's few people who are more bronze, or maybe you have a self-tanner that that might suit you.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But I think people tend to be a little bit more of like porcelain pink.
Speaker 1:Yeah, lighter than you normally would think.
Speaker 2:Sandy beige kind of color. That's more me, and then a lot of makeup companies go orange. I don't know if it's a, if it's cheaper for the product manufacturer. I don't know but I know that it's there's. That's very prevalent and you can always match the inside of your wrist.
Speaker 1:I was just going to ask where do we match inside of our wrists, ladies?
Speaker 2:all right, okay, that's good to know you need like a blush or a lip color yeah or maybe a really pretty pink eyeshadow. You can take your finger and squeeze it and then that pink is going to be the undertones that you want to use really. So, like you know, for me, you can see, I'm kind of like a. I'm like kind of red and purple. I am super and you are like, that's why.
Speaker 2:But look at all the pinks and the corals and all the colors that you wear and you like. That is crazy and I'm more mauve, right? Yeah, so I can get away with those darker colors.
Speaker 1:I never knew that.
Speaker 2:That's amazing, Everybody's like whoa, that's a mic drop.
Speaker 1:So we're going to talk real quickly because we got to wind it. I want to have you back.
Speaker 2:And actually.
Speaker 1:I want to do something where you're actually making a couple of women over. Yeah, so we're going to do that. So stay tuned for all of that, because Joshua is just such a talent in so many ways. So let's talk about compliments, because I brought this and for those of you that are listening, you can't see it, but you've heard me talk about it because this tell me something good jar. I have an artist out of New York that designs these little jars for me, and I talk about the fact that so many women deflect compliments. You know you're standing in line at a restroom or something. Because I talk to everybody. I'll be like, oh, that color looks great on you, you look so fabulous. And first of all, she'll be like who is that crazy lady?
Speaker 1:And then she'll be like, oh, really, because I'm 10 pounds heavier because, of COVID or I'm, oh really, Because I got a TJ Maxx for $9.
Speaker 2:I mean how many of us?
Speaker 1:When women, when you give them compliments, did they simply say thank you or do they deflect too?
Speaker 2:I notice the deflection very often and I'm a little. I'm very confident and sassy, maybe.
Speaker 2:So, you know, I remember there was this one woman in the salon and she was just sitting getting her color done and I looked at her and she looked at me and I was. I don't know why she was looking at me, but I know I was looking at her because her face was just so pretty. You know, she just had really just just a very pretty woman and an older woman and older than me. And so I walked by and we catted each other's face one more time and I just turned to her and said you have such a pretty face. And she me and I was like yes, you have such a pretty face, you. And she was just like oh, and I just put my hand on her shoulder and said you're welcome, and she was like yes, thank you.
Speaker 1:I love that.
Speaker 2:But she wasn't going to accept that. Do you know what I mean? And I have people who do that all the time. They're like, oh, no, no, and it's like no, it's like, just take in that, I take it in. Someone else thinks that you're beautiful, oh you know you have to at some point you have to stop fighting yourself and stop fighting aging, and stop fighting what it means and embrace what it is you know.
Speaker 1:Say that again.
Speaker 2:Stop fighting so much what you think it is what it's going to be and embracing what it is what you have, you know and not fighting.
Speaker 2:What? The idea of oh my gosh, I'm 50. I should be doing this, I should have this accomplished, or I should have done this. I should have done this better, I should have been a better mom. Whatever, have this accomplished or I should have done this. I should have done this better. I should have been a better mom. Whatever it is it's like. No, you are where you are for exactly the reasons you're supposed to be, and embrace and accept that. This is the version of you, who it is, because, unfortunately, you see it back in the mirror. There's going to be one person staring back Exactly. You have to love that person or accept misery, I guess.
Speaker 1:Exactly, exactly. That whole compliment saying that's why this tell me something good jar. You write down the compliment At the end of the day. If somebody complimented, you write it down, put it in the jar and then, when you're feeling really blue one day, you pull it out and you go wow, this is like the value that I'm giving to other people are recognizing this about me. I'm pretty damn good.
Speaker 2:I agree, and you know I think a lot of people do the opposite. Yeah, you know, I know, for me, I struggled a lot with like my weight and like food and other things growing up that I remember someone you know, someone gave, said something terrible about me. I'd hold onto it and it would motivate me. Yeah, okay, I'm I'm, you know, I'm going to eat less. I'm going to wear those boots. Now I'm going to wear those boots every day. It's like, you know, own it and be who you want to be.
Speaker 1:Powerful, powerful, love it. All. Right, tell us where. Of course, joshua's in Sarasota, but you can be everywhere, because the world of virtual is out there.
Speaker 2:So people listening watching today that are like wow, because there's so much more to dig into and you have so many more tips and tricks that we will share Absolutely it's endless and to cater to the person.
Speaker 1:And cater to the person. How can they get ahold of you, how do they reach you and what do you offer?
Speaker 2:So I do makeup application for every day, for luncheons, galas, you name it, special events, weddings I do makeup lessons. Um, I am currently at anna molinari salon, spawned boutique downtown sarasota. Uh, I also can take care of you privately, virtually. Uh, you can reach me by phone number or email. I'll put that all in the show notes perfect I have instagram. Yeah, beauty by hh design, joshua hardinger art. Yeah, I, I do it all.
Speaker 1:So you've got a lot going.
Speaker 2:I have Instagram Beauty by HH Design Joshua.
Speaker 1:Hardinger Arts. I do it all and you've got a lot going on in the art world here too. Yes, yeah, so just briefly in our last minute here, tell me about that.
Speaker 2:Well, I work with one of my great friends, stephanie, with Bray Productions. She does Art Lab and there's going to be actually a featured Art Lab this weekend, so we're all very excited for that. This Saturday at Living Vogue, we are going to have all these featured artists, local artists. It's like a gallery people breathing and dancing fire. You know we've had live mermaids swimming in the pool before.
Speaker 2:So it's a different theme champagne at the door, so fun. Yeah, I work with a lot of artists and have my art featured a few murals downtown and art elsewhere.
Speaker 1:That's amazing. You got it going on. You got it going on. Thank you. I'm so happy that our paths crossed.
Speaker 2:Me too.
Speaker 1:And I just really admire the work that you do, the gift that you give to women that come in, and it's incredible. So please reach out to Joshua. And then our last question, which I ask everybody, is if you were sitting on the couch and you looked over and there you were, at 30, what advice would you give yourself? What would you tell your younger self?
Speaker 2:I'd say let go of the little stuff and just keep killing it. Just keep moving forward. Don't overthink the little stuff and just keep killing it. Just keep moving forward. Don't overthink the little stuff or care about what anybody thinks, because it's your mind, it's your matrix. Let it unfold and manifest exactly how you want it to be. You get what you focus on, and focus on what you want, what you need.
Speaker 1:Love it. That's awesome. No one's ever said that before in all of the episodes. There's always some overlap. I love that. Thank you.
Speaker 2:I love everything you do, Amy. I love the confidence and support you give to women. It's so important. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1:Well, we'll see you soon. You'll be back on.
Speaker 2:Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1:Thanks so much for listening today. We know how valuable your time is and that's why we keep it short and sweet. Don't forget to follow us on all the socials, and you can check out all the links and resources in the show notes. Until next time, go forth and be awesome.