Wounds and Wisdom

Sometimes life throws you a curveball that forces you to confront your deepest fears and beliefs. That's exactly what happened when my daughters and their friends flipped our golf cart, leaving them injured and me questioning everything from my parenting approach to my relationship with success.

This raw, unfiltered episode explores the complex emotions that surfaced after this frightening incident. I share how my background growing up without much money has created ongoing conflicts with my current success—the nice house, the pool, and yes, that golf cart. These internal struggles about whether I "deserve" these things became even more complicated when the golf cart became the scene of a scary accident.

The experience served as a powerful wake-up call for my family. For my daughters, it shattered that teenage sense of invincibility. For me, it forced a hard look at the balance between granting independence and ensuring safety. Was I being too hands-off in my attempt to avoid helicopter parenting? The road rash and injuries were healing, but the lessons would stay with us much longer.

What ultimately helped me break through this mental block was applying the same principle I share about business to my personal life: failing forward. By focusing on gratitude—being thankful that the injuries weren't worse, that we had the opportunity to learn and grow—I found a path through the guilt and fear. Whether in business or personal challenges, this mindset of finding gratitude even in difficult moments provides the foundation for resilience and growth.

Have you ever experienced a moment that forced you to reconsider your approach to business or life? I'd love to hear your story of how you transformed a difficult experience into an opportunity for growth.

Chapters

• 0:00 Stuck in a Mental Block
• 0:55 Money Mindset Struggles
• 1:27 The Golf Cart Accident
• 3:21 Finding Gratitude in Hard Lessons
• 4:56 Reflecting and Moving Forward

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Alright, these episodes are called Unhinged for a reason, and this episode, as you may have noticed, is coming to you a little bit later than usual because I've been very stuck on it. I cannot seem to get past it and I think it's because I just need to put it out there. So there's a couple different things that I'm going to kind of unbox for you, and it may sound a little like my own therapy session, but we're going to roll with it because I can't seem to get past it and get out the content that I want to get out to you, because I am kind of just blocked by this right now. Um, we have been very fortunate. I have had a successful business that I love and I love that. I've been able to have a nice house and put a pool into my house and now there's a golf cart. And I say all these things because I also struggle with them. I didn't grow up with much money and because of that it has hindered my money mindset and I often think the fact of who am I to deserve these things? Am I, should I have these things? And those thoughts can absolutely creep in and because of that I think I don't often talk about or show any of what the things that we have successfully been able to have.

Speaker 1: 1:23

Now what I have been blocked by involves the golf cart. So the golf cart is relatively new to us. We've had it since probably the beginning of June, so we've had it two months and my daughters, as many of you may know, are 15 and 12. My 15 year old will get her license in three months. So she's driving a car. She's very capable driver. She's also my little rule follower. She does not like to get into trouble. She is not going to do anything that she's not supposed to.

Speaker 1: 1:51

So Sunday night they took the golf cart out and they had two other friends that were with them of my younger daughter and going down into a cul-de-sac in the neighborhood that we live in. We live in like a golf neighborhood, so golf carts are all around on the streets. Kids drive them. Not that I'm saying that it should have been happening. It's also made me reflect on that. But kids drive the golf carts. My kids were driving the golf cart. They went down a cul-de-sac and the golf cart flipped and all four kids got thrown out of the golf cart onto the road. Um, my little one's leg got caught underneath the golf cart when it flipped and she had to rip her foot out from underneath the golf cart because they of course couldn't lift it up and by the time before she did it, before we even got there. So in ripping her foot out she ripped off her toe nail and her foot was just mauled. My oldest called hysterical crying, didn't even realize that she was bleeding from her legs in every which way, but was just so upset that she was the one driving that she had flipped it and swore up and down that she hadn't been going too fast and she didn't mean to and whatever else. They are all fine. All the kids are fine. X-rays were clean, they have road rash. So it's a lot of healing up the wounds that they have and continuing to cover them and hope that they get better.

Speaker 1: 3:21

Now I think I've been stuck on this because I am the type of person that I believe that everything happens for a reason and it makes me reflect upon being grateful, going back to the fact that things could have been so much worse. The girls could have been hurt so much worse than they were hurt they. They could have damaged not only the other kids that were in the car to property. So many things could have gone wrong. That didn't. Was it awful? Was it scary? Absolutely. And it was also a wake-up moment, I think, for all of them to realize that they are not invincible. These things that we hear about of carts crashing and cars getting into accidents and kids getting hurt can actually happen to them, and I think it made them realize that.

Speaker 1: 4:12

Now, the reason why I felt like I had to share this one I've been blocked by it. And two, I think that it's important that, no matter where we are in our business and in our life, that we take the time to look back and try to see what we can take away from things. I always talk about the fact that it's okay to fail as long as you fail forward and you pick yourself up. And in this case, I see this as a failure on myself as a parent, because I let my 15 and 12 year old ride in a golf cart with two girls. None of them had shoes on, they were in shorts and t-shirts and had music blaring, and phones probably were being used Not by the driver, please, god, not by the driver, but by the other kids, so they weren't necessarily paying attention and couldn't have maybe secured themselves a little bit better or tilted their weight to go to the cart didn't flip, whatever it might be.

Speaker 1: 5:04

So for myself, I see it as needing to be more on top of them and stricter about the way that we're trying to give them their independence.

Speaker 1: 5:16

I try not to be that helicopter parent that's always on top of them and I think sometimes I might give a little bit too much freedom, apparently.

Speaker 1: 5:23

So I think as a parent, I needed to reflect on that, but also to be able to look at it as a situation where I can be grateful for what I am able to continue to pass on to them, cause neither of them will start seriously hurt. We are able to look at it as a learning experience and, no matter what it is in life or business, I want you to remember to take the opportunity to do that to, when you fall down, find things to be grateful for even though you may have been hurt. You might have your, whether it's your ego or whether it's your physical body. You need to take time to make sure that you're being grateful in your business and in your life. So that was my therapy session, that was what has me blocked and I'm excited to be able to move past it now and give you more content so that you can continue to move forward in your business.