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The Villain, The Victim, and The Hero
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Welcome And Purpose
0:19
Villain, Victim, And Hero Explained
1:06
Why All Three Stories Matter
3:39
Traps Of Shame, Pain, And Pride
5:45
The Cost Of Denying A Story
6:37
The Gifts Of Each Story
8:29
How Stories Shape Fantasies
11:12
Purity Culture And Role Reversals
12:54
Mapping Roles In Your Fantasies
14:24
Secure Identity In Christ
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The Villain, The Victim, and The Hero
Dec 01, 2025
Drew Boa
How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to change your life? Do you ever feel like a hero, as if you have to succeed because the whole world is depending on you? Today, we’re talking about how to see yourself accurately and understand yourself better through three lenses: your villain story, your victim story, and your hero story. These categories are inspired by “The Karpman Drama Triangle” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman. The original drama triangle describes common patterns in dysfunctional relationships. I’ve adapted it for the context of story work for men outgrowing porn.
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