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Episode #185 Rob Scheer:How About Some Dignity? Rob Scheer on Foster Care and FASD

Jeff Noble

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When Rob Scheer entered foster care at twelve, he carried his belongings in a trash bag. Years later, when children arrived at his own home carrying trash bags, he asked a question that became the heart of Comfort Cases: “How about some dignity?”

Rob is a former foster youth, U.S. Navy veteran, adoptive dad, author, speaker, and the founder of Comfort Cases. In this conversation, he shares what foster care, homelessness, parenting, and building a family taught him about belonging.

Jeff and Rob talk about behaviour as communication, the moments when a child’s behaviour hurts even when you understand the why, and the importance of separating the person from what is happening in the moment. They also talk about the danger of letting a diagnosis, a file, or somebody else’s prediction become the whole story.

This is not a conversation that promises an easy path. It is a conversation about dignity, staying connected, and continuing to see the person when systems only see the problem.

Resources mentioned in this episode

Comfort Cases
https://comfortcases.org/

Learn about hosting a Comfort Cases packing party
https://comfortcases.org/packingparty/

Volunteer, host a donation drive, or support Comfort Cases
https://comfortcases.org/volunteer/

Contact Comfort Cases about speaking, partnerships, or bringing the work to your area
https://comfortcases.org/contact/

Rob’s memoir, A Forever Family: Fostering Change One Child at a Time
https://comfortcases.org/more-ways-to-support-us/

Listen to Rob’s Fostering Change podcast
https://comfortcases.org/podcasts/

Watch Rob and Reece in Somewhat Familiar, Season 1, Episode 5: Foster Families
https://tv.apple.com/us/episode/foster-families/umc.cmc.65ir2q0datcn490zoe79z3s02?showId=umc.cmc.1onsp08upednzqqu3esowinwd

Watch Rob and Reece in Dads, directed by Bryce Dallas Howard
https://tv.apple.com/ca/movie/dads/umc.cmc.5voyewgcndqj0a3i9mp7hbloq

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