True North with Abby & Ryan

Abby & Ryan Coach Each Other

• Abby & Ryan • Season 1 • Episode 35

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Abby opens up about how lapses in her ritual self-care practices can throw her life into disarray (read: a total #shitshow) and make her more easily triggered by small stuff.

Ryan opens up about the arbitrary benchmarks he uses to measure his worth, and the ridiculous metrics he uses to make said measurements.

Ryan channeled his dad through his guitar, and the message was "let yourself be what you are."

The Four Stages of Competence (2.5 is the sweet spot - the Beginner's Mind):

  1. Unconscious incompetence
  2. Conscious incompetence
  3. Conscious competence
  4. Unconscious competence


TOOLS:

  • Feeling defensive? Ask yourself what you're really defending yourself against.
  • Feeling like you don't measure up? Ask yourself what you're comparing yourself to.
  • Wondering if what you're doing is working? Stop doing it and see if your life falls apart.


GRATITUDE:

  • Ryan is grateful for his "For When You're Feeling Defensive" tool.
  • Abby is grateful for her sister! Again!


TIMECODES:

  • 0:00 - Abby's #shitshow
  • 26:26 - Ryan's self worth issues
  • 39:03 - Ryan played his dad's guitar for the first time since he died.
  • 57:38 - Housekeeping:
    • We now offer dual-coaching with both of us (email us for more info)
    • We're doing a Q&A for our 1-year anniversary episode (email Abby your questions for Ryan, and vice versa)


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