Be present with yourself. You can fuss over the task of living your life, or you can just live it.
Do you really want to do the thing?
How do you motivate yourself? Shame? Bullying? External pressure? Manufactured rewards/consequences? Which part of you does the motivating, and how does that part treat you? Is there a kinder, less judgmental, yet equally firm part that can take its place?
"Get yourself up, kick yourself in the ass, and go get another beer." - Grams
As long as you look to others to be your source of love/validation, you will depend on them for it. That becomes a problem when it chokes out room for them to be on their own journey. Bring it home: your highest self is the source of its own love and validation.
Learn to love yourself so that you can teach others by example how to love themselves.
2:00 - Abby reflects on her grandmother's final days: "you fuss, we live." - Mary Oliver, "The Good-Bye Fox"
11:45 - On upgrading our inner motivators
39:22 - On being your own person
53:22 - On breaking generational cycles