Visiting the past and future in healthy ways:
What to bring back from the Past: Gratitude.
What NOT to bring back from the Past: Remorse, Regret, Self-Judgment, Rumination.
What to bring back from the Future: Open-Minded Anticipation.
What NOT to bring back from the Future: Fear, Controlling Motivations, Baseless Projection.
Regret: "I'm suffering the consequences of what I did."
Remorse: "You're suffering the consequences of what I did."
If you're habitually in the past/future and being present takes effort, it's probably best for you to stay out of the past/future;
If you're habitually in the present and visiting the past/future takes effort, it's probably safe for you to visit the past/future.
MINDFULNESS IS A GREAT WAY TO CULTIVATE PRESENCE
Single-tasking is a great way to be mindful.
There are not backward steps. Not in relationships, not in your own growth journey, not in potty training. Every step is a forward step: The thing you think you might be moving back to weren't built upon the foundation of everything that's happened in your life since then.
Your mental/emotional/spiritual growth is not a straight line.
1:30 - Healthy Past/Future
13:46 - Regret vs. Remorse
22:08 - Mindfulness and Singletasking
28:42 - Moving Backwards