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The Silent Wedding Struggle That Can Ruin Your Wedding MMW 218

• Yvette Sitters • Episode 218

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There are often overlooked challenges of wedding planning that can silently sabotage your big day. From managing overwhelming tasks to dealing with family opinions and financial stress, Yvette Sitters reveals the hidden struggles that can turn your dream wedding into a nightmare. With practical advice and actionable steps, she helps listeners navigate through the complexities of wedding planning with confidence and ease. Learn how to break down tasks, stay organised, and enjoy the journey of planning the wedding of your dreams.

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Yvette Sitters:

Welcome to the Manage my Wedding podcast, where we believe your wedding is the most important time in your life and you deserve to feel supported and organised when planning the wedding of your dreams. I'm your host Yvette Sitters, . Hello, welcome back to the Manage my Wedding podcast. Wedding planning can be so much fun. There are so many fun tasks to do, like dress shopping, hair and makeup trials, menu tastings but there can also be the tougher times. You know those other things. They're things we look forward to and that we love and enjoy, and we're getting spoiled and enjoying ourselves with our family and friends. But we all know that it's extremely hard to juggle one family opinions and two finances. And the third one that's super tough to juggle is the guest list. Who's on the guest list? But there is also another struggle that I want to say is more like the silent struggle, the one that can make you feel overwhelmed and stressed, and it's something that affects the fact that there's so many things to do. And how can you ever get through them all without forgetting something? And what is that silent killer for wedding planning? And I'll tell you what it is. It is the fact that there are sometimes like 10 tasks within the one task, but on your wedding checklist you only have knowledge of that one task and when you go to tackle it it then ends up taking way longer than you expected. And because it takes longer than you expected and because that one task has so many little tasks within it, it ends up being so overwhelming and stressful. But we don't realize that that's what the problem is. We just think, oh my gosh, his wedding planning never, ever ends. I'm never going to get through it and I feel like I have a second full time job. So that's why I'm calling it the silent struggle, because it's actually the fact that in one task a 10 smaller task. So let's give you an example. Right, you might be looking at your chest checklist and the next thing on that task list is invites and that's all your checklist says. Your checklist says invites, but let's break down that one task of invites.

Yvette Sitters:

One finalize the guest list names. That takes long enough. Two create reserved list in case somebody can't come off the original first list. Three you've got to then finalize how to spell all the names, because I remember having to ask my parents how to spell family members' names because I've got a big family. Then you've got a number four collect everyone's addresses. And then five you've also maybe got to collect emails and phone numbers in case you're having digital invites. Six you're going to spend hours googling or pinning invites that you like the look of Like. That takes so long. Task seven, within invites, is finding your stationer or somewhere you can DIY and make it yourself and where you're going to print it and everything like that. And let me tell you be careful on that number seven task, because sometimes it's not cheaper and it's hours of work more. So you've got to make sure you weigh that up.

Yvette Sitters:

The eighth task is you've got to work out what wording sorry you want on the invite. That can take ages too, right, unless you're in my calm bride planner where we give you all the correct wording for tricky situations so you can pick the right ones for you. Because we've got to think of wording. You know our parents' name on them, yes or no, what conflicts are going to cause, and what about separated families? And then what about no plus ones? And then what about saying there's no kids? And you know that's tricky invite wording. That takes a long time too to work through. Then number nine is not only the wording but you need to have an idea of your wedding day timings because you have to have times on the invite, so you've got to have a rough draft of your timings put together.

Yvette Sitters:

Then number 10, so this is still the invite task list, right? This is the invites, that one task that's on your checklist. We're now up to number 10, which is then that you've got to get the names to the stationer or print them yourself, and then you've got to make them. Then 11, you've got to proofread all the names are correct when the invites are done. And then 12, if you're not if you you know posting you've got to go to the post office to get the stamps. And 13, you've got to envelope them all. And then 14, you've got to take them back to the post office to get them posted.

Yvette Sitters:

And DIY can have more than that because it takes so long sometimes, right, but I just listed 14 tasks within one task, which was invites. And, as I said, diy can take even longer and digital still takes as much time as you've got to navigate the platform you're using. And then you have to deal with people not getting your email because they don't look in their junk or spam, because that's where the digital invite went. So that is just one example of how one task is actually broken down into now 14 tasks and why everything becomes overwhelming and exhausting. Because you have to know exactly what to do. And in that one task and you've got to get onto it ASAP, because your task list currently might look small, because you're like, oh, there's only 10 major tasks to do, but it's maybe a hundred tasks, right, and I'm sorry, I'm not trying to scare you, I'm just trying to give you a reality so you can always stay ahead of that.

Yvette Sitters:

And let's do another one. You might have wedding dress on your task list, so one, you've got to scroll and Google for hours to find the looks that you might like. Then, two, you've got to pick some stores to visit of the dress you like. Then, three, you've got to ask friends and family who are going to come, what days and time suit them, and everyone's busy these days. So, tanya, find a day and a time to suit everyone can be impossible.

Yvette Sitters:

Four, you've got to contact all the stores and book a time. Five, you've then got to turn up and show up at all the appointments, and sometimes that can be spread across a few days. Then six you've got to decide which you liked the most and go back and maybe try it again and check the size and put the order in is number seven. Number eight you've got to make payments. Number nine you've got to go back to collect it. Number 10 is you've got to get alterations and organise that. And number 11, let's not mention the hours that they're going to finding the appropriate matching wedding accessories jewelry, you know, veil, earrings, whatever you need and shoes and underwear. So, with all the tasks, this is what causes wedding overwhelm and feeling like you have a second full-time job. So that's why it's super, super important to know how to break down each task and have a full list for each.

Yvette Sitters:

Now I break down another, even longer task list in my recent secrets to planning the best wedding ever masterclass and I spill all my expert wedding planning secrets so you don't get caught not knowing what you're missing and wasting hours of time googling what to do and when. It's basically my stress-free guide, so make sure you watch it, as it's free to watch and it will save you time and money while you're wedding planning. So it's linked in the show notes, so please go there. But if you're wanting to jump to the website now to watch that. It's managemyweddingacademycom slash wedding masterclass. So I highly highly recommend you go and watch that, because it's free to watch and, as I said, it'll help you save time and money, which is super important.

Yvette Sitters:

Now, again, this episode it's not to scare you about how much it is to be done, but it's to help you understand how the stress can creep in and why it's there. You don't know what you don't know right. So I like to help you understand that wedding planning can be enjoyable with those fun tasks that I mentioned at the start, but it can also be a lot, and you just have to break it down and you have to keep a really positive, organised mindset right. We have to constantly check in with ourselves, and I've got so many episodes on anxiety and stress and just staying positive and getting in the right mindset and doing things to help that. So that's super, super important.

Yvette Sitters:

So what can you do now? Basically, though, from listening to this episode to take action? One, I'm going to give you two things that I really want you to do to help you. One I want you to look at your next couple of tasks on your task list and see if you can break them down with as much info as possible and work out exactly what tasks are within that task. So then you actually have an idea of how long that's going to take you and whether you can now get someone to help you as well on that, and I want you to work through those couple of tasks so that will help you. Honestly, it'll make such a big, huge difference. So go and do that. That's step one, and then action number two. Step two is I want you to watch the free masterclass, as I mentioned previously to help you. So that's managemyweddingacademycom forward slash wedding masterclass. They're the two actions I want you to take because I honestly want you to enjoy planning and if you understand what needs to be done within each task, you are going to enjoy it so much more because you know what's next.

Yvette Sitters:

What's the next step? What's the next step? What action do I need to take to get me one more step closer? Can we get overwhelmed and stressed, aside from it being, as I mentioned, family opinions and the finances, and what was the other thing? I'm trying to remember what the other thing was.

Yvette Sitters:

I said the stuff family at the guest list, like those three things in themself can be stressful enough, right, but the silent, silent killer for wedding overwhelming stress is not knowing what task for within that task, and it's honestly not something that's talked about a lot by any other wedding planners. Because they are thinking high level, let's find a venue. That's what they think. They don't think of all the little tasks that falling within that. So, yeah, I thought that this episode would really help you understand how to move forward with your planning in such a more clear way and such a way that, once you have that written out in front of you, it just can relieve so much pressure from your mind and help you feel calmer.

Yvette Sitters:

And yes, it might seem like a lot she like whoa, that's a lot of things to do with one task but now you know what you need to achieve. So I hope that helped you and, as I said, all the links will be in the show notes. But, honestly, enjoy your planning, enjoy coming up with checklists. Who doesn't love a checklist? How good does it feel when you tick things off like it feels amazing. So I wish you all the best. Go take those two actions and, honestly, you'll enjoy planning so much more and it will stay smooth for you. So thank you for listening and until next time, enjoy being engaged, stress free and organized while planning the wedding of your dreams.