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It is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":658.86,"endTime":665.76,"body":"precious, because you are"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":665.76,"endTime":671.04,"body":"precious and your time is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":665.76,"endTime":671.04,"body":"precious. Paolo suela. And the"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":671.04,"endTime":677.04,"body":"manuscript from acro writes,"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":671.04,"endTime":677.04,"body":"loyalty has its roots in respect"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":677.58,"endTime":683.04,"body":"and respect is the fruit of"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":677.58,"endTime":683.04,"body":"love. 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You can"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":837.54,"endTime":840.36,"body":"sign up in the show notes or by"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":837.54,"endTime":840.36,"body":"visiting my website Jaclyn"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":840.36,"endTime":845.52,"body":"Steele, calm. May you go and be"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":840.36,"endTime":845.52,"body":"big and brave and bold today."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":846.0,"endTime":849.66,"body":"Remember that life gets easier"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":846.0,"endTime":849.66,"body":"when we know who we are, as"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":849.69,"endTime":854.88,"body":"always. And until next time."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":849.69,"endTime":854.88,"body":"Thank you. Thank you. Thank you"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":855.0,"endTime":855.6,"body":"for listening"}]}