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S6E4 - Is It Just Me?

• Jaimee & Dee • Season 6 • Episode 4

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 Have you ever caught yourself doing something so peculiar that you wonder if anyone else on earth shares your quirk? That moment of self-awareness hit Jaimee hard recently, prompting this deep dive into the wonderfully weird habits that make her...well, her. 

 What weird habit do you have that might not be as unusual as you think? Please share it with us on social media or through our website at tieandhighheels.com. Your strange might be someone else's normal, and isn't that a comforting thought? 

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Welcome and Migraine Apology

Jaimee

Welcome to Caught Between a Tie and High Heels. It is Wednesday, the 8th of July 2025. This week's episode we're going to talk about weird stuff. That makes me the unique little snowflake that I am. So grab a gallon of something cold, sit on a block of ice and let's do this, let's do this, let's do it, let's do it. Hello, all my beautiful listeners. Hey, welcome to the episode. I need to.

Jaimee

First of all, we're going to get some business out of the way. I got to apologize. I know I didn't do an episode last week. I was suffering and I know I'm late this week, but again I've been off and on this fucking heat wave, oh my God, as we like to say around here in the homestead. It is like it's fucking hot as balls outside. I don't know what this heat wave is. It's like going on, but like I don't think anywhere is safe, not even in the north. They're just sweating bullets, you know, in all sorts of places around here. It's just crazy.

Jaimee

And of course, the barometric pressure has an effect on my migraines. So that's what was killing me. Last week I was down and out for the count. I had to go get a new prescription filled and I can't think of the medicine that it is. But basically, if you catch it in time or you've got to, as soon as you start feeling that that migraine is, you start getting light sensitive or whatever. You get this, you take a pill and it just I mean it fucking knocks you out. But the good news is you don't have the migraine anymore. So, yeah, I had to take a couple of those in the last week and I'm still not 100%. My sinuses are still like raging.

Jaimee

Yesterday we had rain a little bit and it just fucked with my head. I hate it. I can't. The temperature dropped, you know, and like, if it does from really really hot to like 10 degrees down, I'm screwed. So I really apologize that I didn't want you to think that I was getting back into my habit of not doing anything Because we were really getting going, you know, with everything. But anyway, I just wanted to apologize. I am doing better.

Jaimee

So I've got my drugs, we're okay. I've got my tea. I've got my iced tea. Oh my god, I love that shit. Okay, it's really. It's an addiction. I'm not joking, my tea is an addiction. Now I've cut myself off of soda. I don't know if anybody else has gone through this crap, the withdrawal that I have from not drinking soda, and I've channeled it all into half and half tea, half sweet, half unsweet. God almighty, it's like cracking a fucking cup for me. Anyway, I'm getting way off topic.

Turning Any Meal Into a Sandwich

Jaimee

This was something that actually came up a couple of times. Dee and I were walking around and, like I don't know, there were things that like, really, really Like, I'm the only person that does this. Are you kidding me? So we're going to take a look at a few things in depth. Look, if you will of, is it just me? Am I the only one who does this?

Jaimee

I mean stupid stuff, and I will warn you ahead of time that a lot of it has to do with eating. I never really realized how much of a foodie I mean. I love cooking, I love, you know, finding out new dishes and tasting new dishes, and that type of stuff, as long as it's, you know, meets my requirements, because I do have a couple of restrictions here and there. But I didn't realize. Once I started writing all these down, I was like, holy shit, there's a lot of these that are food related. So, anyway, you might get hungry after this, but we'll, you know, that's another podcast in another episode.

Jaimee

All right, the first one we're going to do is that. Is it just me, or am I the only one that turns just about any meal into a sandwich? Now, I'm not joking about this. I love sandwiches and around our house here at the Homestead, once again, we call it sandwiches because anybody can make a sandwich. I mean anybody's. You know any Joe Blow on the. Anybody can make a sandwich. I mean anybody's. You know any joe blow on the neighborhood can do a sandwich. You know, you throw a piece of bologna and a cheese, you smack it between two breads and that's a sandwich, you know. But it's not a sandwich. So I know that there's people out there I know that it's not just me that calls it that. Anyway, I will turn literally anything if there's bread within arm's reach. I don't give a shit if I'm eating. Let's see. Well, spaghetti Spaghetti was the first one.

Jaimee

When I was a kid, anybody do what we called a bender. Growing up, you basically you get a couple of pieces of bread. My dad always had bread, two slices of white bread, with every meal and he always drank a glass of milk After that. He would drink coffee for the rest of the day Didn't matter. I never saw the man actually physically drink water. It was coffee all day, milk for meals and two pieces of bread, and then, of course, he had his main entree or the plate of food. But this is what my dad would do, is he would use it in order to be able to sop up all the stuff and everything else.

Jaimee

Well, when we did spaghetti, you end up curling that up and, for me, you kind of fold it in a triangle shape, you put the, the noodles that are on your fork, you pull that out and again my mom always made meat sauce, so it was perfect a little bit of parm cheese on that. You just went to town. I don't see anything wrong with that, not at all. And then I got really fancy as I grew older and then I started doing open face sandwiches or tartine, where it's just literally one piece of toast and I I know that's not a sandwich, but it's still. It's incorporating these things.

Jaimee

And even if it wasn't on the anywhere on, I will ask for bread sometimes. That's something that's really weird with this. Is that like if we go out to eat, can I get, is there any rolls, or do you have any? I will. I will do that. I've only done it a couple of times, but it's just like I was just dying for some kind of a sandwich. So anyway, yeah, that's me.

Jaimee

I can't be the only person that does that. I really can't like cordon bleu, beef stroganoff, chicken pot pie. I mean any of these things I would. I'm trying to think of what else, what else, what else, what else? Oh, southern style green beans I have turned into a sandwich. I'm not shitting Cheese, green beans, you know southern style. They've got onion in there, a little bit of bacon oh man, that's so fucking good, yep. So there you go, that's I turn just about any meal into a sandwich.

Bunny Ear Method for Tying Shoes

Jaimee

Uh, okay, here's another one. This one's gonna be a little hard to explain, but I don't think I've ever seen anybody else do this, so I'm except for the people that were in my kindergarten class, I think we're the only ones in the world. Thank you to mrs polanski, who taught us how to do this. Am I the only one that ties my shoes using the bunny ear method? Now, if you don't know what I'm talking about, then you definitely don't do it, because it's like I'm going to try to explain this, but I don't think I'm going to do a very good job.

Jaimee

So there's a story about how to learn to tie your shoes, and I still remember it as the fox and the bunny, and so the whole thing is that you've got the fox, you're holding your two ends of your shoestrings in both hands. In one hand you've got the fox, in the other hand you've got the rabbit, and they start heading towards each other, but they dodge and they weave, and then that's when you form the basis of the knot, and then from there, the fox loses the bunny, but then, all of a sudden, the ears pop up. And this is where you take your first finger of both hands and you make bunny ears and you hold the bottom of the bunny ears with your thumb in your middle finger, and then what you do is the story goes is that the fox saw the bunny ears? Well, in your middle finger. And then what you do is the story goes is that the fox saw the bunny ears? Well, then they got into a fight and the bunny ears went everywhere. And this way, and next thing you know, and then the bunny's ears go in opposite directions. You're now twirling them. You know making a knot with them and you twirl them in opposite directions and that's the bunny ears, if that made any kind of sense.

Roller Coaster Safety Concerns

Jaimee

You are not the only person that does that. And then I'm not the only person that does that. But is this really weird Because I've had people point this out to me that I tie my shoe funky, like my own brother bet me that if he tied my shoe one shoe in his way, my shoe, you know, another shoe in my way we'll see who comes undone first, and sure as shit it was his. The normal method where you make the loop, you loop around that and you pull that through and then that's the tie. I can't do that. I don't know what it is. It's very strange, but am I the only person who does that? All right, am I the only person, or am I the only one who does this of having trouble going on a roller coaster that doesn't have over the shoulder straps? I don't know how many badass roller coasters that I have passed up that don't have.

Jaimee

I want to feel secure. You know, I hate these little clips with the lap bar and that's it. And now some of them are coming down where they've got the harness from overhead and they come down and they clip onto your legs, the top of your legs, and kind of sandwich your thighs in there. But no, no, no, I don't want that. I don't feel secure there. I want a vest of safety when I ride a roller coaster. I don't know what it is, but I will. I have a very, very, very difficult time in riding a roller coaster that doesn't have shoulder straps. You know like you're buckled in. I will tell you my favorite roller coaster of all time. Luckily, my favorite roller coaster is it's either Cheetah Hunt or Cheetah Run. Um, in Orlando or Tampa, excuse me, busch Gardens, tampa. That is a cool fucking ride. I love that ride I got we rode it one time, dee, and I rode that, I think, five times in a row. It was insane man. But yeah, I can't be the only one that feels that way.

Food Quirks and Eating Habits

Jaimee

All right, moving on, here's another eating one. Am I the only one who butters my corn on the cob by using a piece of bread with a tab of butter on it? So, basically, you hold the bread in your palm, it's got a tab of butter on it. So, basically, you hold the bread in your palm, it's got a tab of butter in it. It doesn't have to be melted or anything else like that. You just have the tab of butter in there. You then place the hot it's got to be hot like straight out of the pot ear of corn, and then you basically run it back and forth as you gently squeeze, almost like you're doing a bender, as I described earlier. But then you're rolling the ear of corn in the bread. What's happening is it'll melt the butter, butter the bread and it also butters the ear of corn.

Jaimee

I don't know where I picked that up, whether or not it was my dad, or it must have been my father, I guess I don't know. But I can't remember when I first started doing it. But I can't be the only one who does that. I can't be the only one who has thought of that, because it's genius, you get a and it's delicious, you know. But here's the thing you can't. One time I tried to put black pepper on the bread and I thought, ooh, it's going to transfer. No, I just ended up with buttered, peppered bread and I've got to be honest with you.

Jaimee

A regular piece of of Sarah Lee, you know, or Sarah Jane, bread, bread, uh, that's got butter and pepper on it. I mean it's not the most. I mean I hate it, of course, but you know it's not the most appealing. Um, but yeah, I can't be the only one that does that. I just I can't fathom that I'm the only person that does that. Um, let's see, let's see, let's see. Uh, oh, here we go.

Jaimee

This is yet another food one like I can't figure out where my place is on this stupid paper. Uh, okay, here's another one. I can't am I the only one who does this finds an overcooked, thin pointed french fry in my packet of fries. No matter where you're getting them from, it doesn't matter, even at a restaurant, it doesn't matter but you find a overcooked, like really crispy, thin pointed one and then use it as a toothpick to pick up other french fries and eat them. You know, dip them in the ketchup and then eat them that way. I can't. I do that've been doing. I am 55 fucking years old and I still eat, like this Dee pointed out.

Jaimee

The other day we were, we stopped a moment of weakness and had some fast food and bought a packet of fries and, lo and behold, I'm sitting there without even thinking about it. Her and I are having a full blown discussion about something completely unrelated to food. And I start picking up the one, the one little gristly like hard charred up piece of French fry that's hard as a rock and it's pointed, and I start stabbing larger French fries with it and just eating it Like I'm doing hors d'oeuvres off of a serving plate. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Oh and in a uh, in a um, yeah, that one. So in adjacent to this are uh, along with the same idea. I cannot be and I know this is a fact simply for the fact that I know that there's people in Europe that do that or do what I'm about to say.

Jaimee

But I found after my time of living in Germany, you mix ketchup with mustard. You can't get this pre-mixed stuff. I think Heinz actually has a ketchup and mustard, that a mix already. It doesn't work out right. I've tried it a couple of times. I don't like it. I don't like it. You've got to get a big you know of mustard or, excuse me, mayonnaise, and then you've got to do another one of ketchup mix that with a fry, and then you've got something going on there.

Jaimee

But I can't be the only American. So I know that the European, but I can't be the only american, so I know that the european, but I can't be the only american that is into that. I don't think so. I think that's there's very common. I mean, at least I'd like to think that it would be. So, yeah, um, okay, here's one, and I know where I got this from. Am I the only one who eats or uses chopsticks to eat popcorn or Cheetos? Now, I got this from a coworker who said that she ate popcorn with chopsticks and I was like that's actually a really good idea.

Jaimee

The logic behind this, and I've got to express to you the logic behind this. First of all and you can attest to this, with Cheetos, anybody ever eat Cheetos or cheese puffs or something like anything that is that type of a snack you can eat with chopsticks. And the reason is you get all that powdered shit all over your finger and I mean I realized, yes, that's some of the goodness that you, you know, lick off and everything else. But after a while I mean, my fingers are old and they start to prune if I lick my fingers for too long, but it's also messy, you don't need to touch something else. You end up getting that orange shit all over the place and I don't want to do it. Also, same thing with popcorn, butter, salt, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. The oils from the you know cooking. It gets everywhere. I don't want the mess.

Jaimee

So when I saw my coworker do this, I thought that's a genius fucking idea. I that was like. The logic with that made so much sense. So ever since then that's been oh my God, when was that? 2014, no god, even earlier. No, 2014, 15 somewhere around in there.

Jaimee

So literally a good 10 years now that I've been eating, and so I know that I'm not the only one there. There is one other but her and I cannot be the only people that do this. So it's not a completely is it just me? Because I know it's not just me, because she's the one that taught it to me, but we can't be the only ones that do this. I don't think that it's weird. Dee thinks it's really kind of strange, because when we pop corn here at the house, then I always whip out the. I've got metal chopsticks and I always break them out, and that's how I eat my popcorn, plus the other benefit to it.

Planners, Pens, and Organization Obsessions

Jaimee

I'm going to add this on the other benefit is that you don't sit there and gorge yourself like a handful of popcorn, or shove it all in your mouth and you can't even breathe, or anything else. It forces you to eat slower and enjoy the popcorn more. Or, of course, the cheetos or the cheesy puffs or whatever else that you are hence snacking. It does not work very well. The peanuts, by the way, it doesn't work very well. Cashews not bad, peanuts not so much. Okay, okay, okay, I cannot.

Jaimee

Am I the only one that talks back to audio books? I like stories. I don't see that there's anything wrong with this, but it has been brought to my attention that I will do this, and sometimes I do it unconsciously. It just sort of it's a reaction that I do. Or the other part about this is I take on facial expressions that are described in the book. I don't really realize that I'm doing that half the time.

Jaimee

Dee saw me washing dishes one time and I'm listening to my book, not on earphones. Dishes one time and I'm listening to my book, not on earphones, but just, you know, having my phone play it. And it said that you know, so-and-so raised an eyebrow. My eyebrows raised up, so-and-so, you know, looked at him with a shock and awe. I did a shock and awe face. I had no idea, but then I also talked back to it. Like there was a series, a two book series that I ended up doing and the author was very good.

Jaimee

I like the character building. However, they made the character, the main protagonist, a bit too stupid. A bit too stupid, while I'm yelling at them, at the protagonist, because they're just not understanding the key points of the clues that they've already seen and you know that type of stuff in order to be able to get this, the mystery, taken care of or solve the issue that they're trying to take care of. So I talk, I talk to the audio books. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but am I the only one that does it or does anyone? Just, you know, keep quiet and listen to the books. I mean, I also sometimes yell at movies, so I mean kind of the same thing. I guess I don't know all right, uh, onward and upward, uh, this one's kind of funny uh.

Jaimee

Am I the only one who buys a yearly planner and then never uses it? I have got one, two, three, three yearly, uh calendars that I purchased back last august, last August, okay, so it was the, the, the final months of 2024 and all of this year haven't written a single thing in them, not one. Not one thing in any of them. And they're awesome notebooks. Why do I do this? Why do I buy more than one? I, I have no idea. I have no idea. I know that this is probably an illness and this goes to. Actually, what's really funny is that this goes to the next thing, that I can't be the only person. It kind of ties in I can't be the only person. At least I don't think that I am, maybe I am, I don't know. I cannot make it out of an office supply store without buying something like a planner, a yearly planner or something I'm.

Jaimee

Also, I am such a pen snob, I have to tell you I am. I am a huge pen snob a person locally that shows up at the art festivals and will make pens like hand spun wooden pens or lathe pens. But there's also uh, right now I'm kind of fixated on this. Um, I'm trying to see if I've got one around me. Hold on, yep, I'm very well organized. If you haven't been able to tell shit, uh, hold on, yep, I'm very well organized. If you haven't been able to tell Shit, hold on. No, I don't know, fuck it, I don't know. Nope, I don't have one. Anyway, it's a Inkjoy but it's a stick pen, you know, like a Bic stick pen, and they are the smoothest excuse me, the smoothest writing pens. I'm still looking around seeing if I can see one here close by, but I don't see any. I also like quill pens.

Jaimee

So going into an office supply store, this is very dangerous for me because one of the few things that I will go is I will go into organization because I'm adhd, pretty much, I think, undiagnosed. I'm self-diagnosing by saying that because I like the hyper organized shit that's not in my immediate work area. Um, I love these things, so I'll go down that aisle. I'll then the next one that I go to is the notebook or ledger aisle where you see the planners, the yearly planners, and then I go to the pens. That's my dessert, if you will, is the pen aisle at the office supplies store.

Jaimee

Only person that feels this way? That's why they have these big stores, at least in my opinion, that's why they have them. It's for folks like me that can't control themselves. So I can't go down that. I can't go down to that store without knowing or having adult supervision. Dee's got to go with me because she keeps me honest. And I was like, do we really need that? I mean you have me because she keeps me honest. And I was like, do we really need that? I mean you have, I don't even know. I mean I'm looking right now. I'm looking right now. I've got so many sets of markers. It is kind of embarrassing. I am a 55 year old grown ass woman. Yeah, very proud of that. Okay, moving on. We're not going to dwell on that. That's you Moving on.

Gas Pumps, Power Cords and Earrings

Jaimee

Am I the only one that when I'm filling up my car, I only stop the gas pump at the quarter dollar? So that would be like, you know, $10.25 or $10.50 or $10.75 or the whole number like $11. Am I the only one that does that? I also really love quarters. I don't know whether or not that has anything to do with it, but it's like if I paid cash, then I get quarters back and the quarters means that they go into my quarter piggy bank, because I have a piggy bank just for quarters. I live a very complicated life. I hope you all aren't judging me, but this is just what makes again me the unique little snowflake that I am Moving on All right. I cannot be the only person and I think this has to do with a little touch of OCD that I have, or ADHD, I don't know. There's some letters that are involved.

Jaimee

I cannot just let a power cord lie loose. I have to wrap it up. I have to organize it in some way, either wrapping it around something or making sure it's tied off with a rubber band, a twist tie, a hair elastic, something in order to organize that thing. I cannot have. It's just so bothersome. The back of my computer all the cords are all wrapped up, they're all connected, they're all zip wired together or zip tied together. The back of my computer all the cords are all wrapped up, they're all connected, they're all zip-wired together or zip-tied together.

Jaimee

I just can't. I don't like the spaghetti. I hate cords. I love cordless shit. We still cannot.

Jaimee

I'm not allowed to get a cordless vacuum for the house. We have one for upstairs and I absolutely love that thing, absolutely love it. I've got a cord for the big monster vacuum that we have downstairs and I hate the fucking cord, cannot stand the cord. It just gets in my way and again, I don't know if it has anything to do with me not being able to Christmas time. Oh my God, I love all the pretty lights, but I've got to wrap all that shit up. I can't be the only person that feels this way. Please, somebody Commiserate with me, please. Ugh, okay, okay, here's the last one, and I'm sure there's more. I just these are the ones that I really always get brought up and get, you know, brought to my attention all the time.

Jaimee

Is it just me, or am I the only one that has to put on earrings using a mirror? Mirror, now, I will qualify this as it's on my right side only. Now, here's the qualifier for this. I believe this is my theory. I have discussed this with Dee. Dee says that she doesn't believe it and she's not buying it. But I'm telling you, I think there's something to it.

Jaimee

I am so predominantly left-handed that I have no problem taking and I have two holes in my ears. I have no problem taking and I have two holes in my ears. I have no problem taking earrings and putting them in my left ear without a problem, no problem at all. But I can't, for some reason, zero in on those holes using my right hand or even my left, and the holes in my right ear. I have to line them up in a mirror for some strange reason, and I don't understand what it is, and she laughs at me. Every time we're getting dressed or we're getting ready to go out, I'm putting on my earrings for the day. She always gives me a rash in the shit. Can you believe that? You know, I'm just, I don't know. I mean, I love her but still gotta ration a shit because I can't put my right earrings in without looking in a mirror.

Jaimee

So there you go. There's me, uh, some of my, a window, if you will, into the idiosyncrasies of what it is to be one Jamie, uh, queen of weirdness, I guess. Um, and co-chairman of the itty bitty, titty committee, there you are. That's me. I'm feeling weird, I don't know, I'm feeling like punchy, I'm just looking.

Jaimee

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Jaimee

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Jaimee

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Jaimee

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