Relationship Of The Heart

What are relationships of the heart?  Answering that question begins by looking at the check boxes and hot buttons of our lives, which is how this conversation begins.  As it unfolds, William shares the tool of creating a virtual video screen to view the influences of the outside world upon our relationship with another and evolves into experiencing the purity of love to complement each other’s lifestream.

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Speaker 1 0:22

Hello and welcome to the relevance of Now with William Linville. My name is Michael Connell and I'm your host. I'm here with William and today we're going to expand upon a chapter from William's book, Relationships with Everything and Everyone. Relationships with Everything and Everyone, and that chapter is a true loving relationship of the heart with another and William. I wanted to start with a few sentences from this chapter. When two presences come together, there is nothing other than pure and complete emanation. Without work, there is love, honorability and integrity. There are no rule books here, nor work necessary. Your heart and big guns are taking over. You are letting the relationship as the deity, the light beingness, the beautiful gift, the joy and the love that is, take on its own life and become its own life. And as it's taking on its own life, it's growing upon itself without all the primal, carnal levels of rules that are based in fear about projecting and nurturing something that need not be protected nor nurtured not be protected nor nurtured. Can you talk more about this state of a true loving relationship from the?

Speaker 2 2:15

heart with another. Absolutely, mr Michael, and number one, it's when you come together with another, through the heart, where you're feeling that beautiful being in front of you In their own divine, pure perfection. You're going into it with excitement, exuberance, openness, vitality. No rules. You see only and you feel only their perfection of and as another facet of creator, expressing in their own uniqueness in front of you. Where you see and you feel that beautiful radiance of light, that beautiful radiance of love in which they emanate, where, first and foremost, you see, feel and acknowledge that presence of light in front of you. That's totally of the heart, it's totally of openness, vitality, acceptance and a mutual honoring.

Speaker 2 3:50

It goes well beyond the physical, mental, emotional boxes that they check off in the mind or through the ego. I shall say Okay, they have to look like this, they have to have yellow hair, they have to have yellow hair, they have to have red hair, brown hair, they have to be this tall, they have to be that short, they have to look like this, be slender, be like Barbie, whatever, whatever. But we skip all of the superficial nonsense and we go right into the instantaneous heart connection of the light beingness that is presenting right in front of you before there's any superficial carnality, action, words or deeds in your ego levels kicking in.

Speaker 1 4:45

Yeah, and I can feel how, by feeling this within yourself, as you're to be in that state of consciousness, you also are feeling and being in your true presence, so that you can, from that feeling, can see another in that same place.

Speaker 2 5:11

And it's one of those things where you're in your heart which you always are to a certain degree Otherwise your body wouldn't be breathing and letting go, putting aside all of your conditioning, your belief systems, your judgments, your protection mechanisms, and letting yourself really just receive all the gifts the whole universe and you as creator, have to offer in each and every moment, has to offer you.

Speaker 1 5:49

Yeah, it's such you know, being in a relationship of the heart with my wife Jennifer, it is so uplifting to see her in that way, To see her in that way.

Speaker 2 6:05

Yeah, because it's where you really see. Her yeah, not the worker, not the divine feminine, not the divine masculine, not all these other colorful boxes of what she does, what she doesn't do. We really see where you really see her, beyond conditioning, and you see the truth of the one that you're walking with heart to heart, side by side, to emanate, permeate, complement, express and explore this world with, and the whole universe with.

Speaker 1 6:46

Yes, and so here we're talking about a higher state of consciousness, and as we're all going in this body and we're waking up to that higher state of consciousness, many of us experience, you know, relationships that have become work. Yeah, and you address that also in the book. Why has a relationship even begun to start to become work? Relationships don't take work. Defense does Primality most definitely does the winning, the losing does, the who's going to have the control, the domination, the responsibility for the whole, taking care of the whole, putting it into the body principle and so forth. That's a lot of work. But yet what does that have to do with love? Where did that even come from? Besides carnality, survival and the carnality of superseding another to gain momentum within your own life stream, to gain the power, the power of domination, that's collapsing anyway and truly equals aloneness and nothingness absolutely and it's so common for our egos to want to feel upright and justified yeah, upright

Speaker 2 8:43

and justified, yeah, and that steps in, and we have a lot of insecurities and blah blah blah and beliefs about what a relationship should be, and often that's meant to push our buttons, yeah, but it's kind of interesting, right, because ideally you would not have any buttons to be pushed, right. So let's put things in perspective right now. What is a button? Now, if I look at a button, there's many definitions, but if I'm going to just cut to the chase, I would say a button is a place within you, your mind, your body, your aura where you are not. So it's a void within yourself of emptiness. Now, in that void of emptiness, we can call it insecurity, fear, which is all one in the same. It all fits under the same blanket Unsurity, self-doubt. And now your partner comes in and this is no longer written in stone, because ideally this is all kindergarten child's play you push my butt, now push hers, and then we'll play tug of war. That's all man-made baloney and that's even enlightenment, metaphysical 101, total baloney. I don't mean to insult baloney here, you know, you know, in the next you red meat or whatever. But from here it's one of those things where it's just another metaphysical spirituality, one-on-one justification, excuse, rationalization, to say it's okay to judge my partner Well, you're missing the whole boat. Okay to judge my partner. Well, you're missing the whole boat. You didn't come together to push each other's metaphoric buttons which is also the void within yourself all the way to your projection, perceptional buttons, judgments, insecurities, wounded children inside of yourself. Let's just all just take a breath. Let's get over all of our belonging Once again, not to insult belonging, but from here let's take a breath.

Speaker 2 11:17

Let's ask ourselves in that moment, where do we get so distracted, so pulled out of the love that is there? When I look at it, I look at the most important part here the love is there. The hearts are connected. Now let's bring you both together, side by side, heart to heart, and let's ask ourselves, side by side, like you're sitting in a theater together, like a movie theater, and you're looking at the screen and I'm going to ask yourself, heart to heart, with your partner, hand in hand, lip lock, heart to heart, whatever. Let's look at the screen and let's ask ourselves where here did we let the outside world come between us? That also includes the ego that is part of the outside world, the ego. It may sound like your voice at first, but I guarantee you it's not your voice. It's all the voices from in the womb, all the way to first separation, sometimes incarnationally, soul fragmentations that are still running around, running around.

Speaker 2 12:33

So how does something so pure, so passionate, so innocent, where did you get pulled into letting the world come between you? And at that point let's step back and ask ourselves where within ourselves did we decide that we needed, or perceived that we needed, to put our partner or this love in a box for our own survival mechanism, so that you could feel safe within yourself as long as you had your partner in a box, so you could feel safe. Secure, which goes to pain is bad, comfort is good. A point of life is to be undisturbed. So if you're way up here, if your partner is way down there, or if you have your partner in all these different boxes, so you can feel superior. It's the same line of Balagni, you're telling yourself.

Speaker 2 13:45

Because, unfortunately, when you start to put love in a box, which is not another four letter caricature, that's all emotion, love that is unlimited, and I say unlimited because it's constantly growing. There's no box for it. True love, call it unconditional, on and on and in words, do not even barely scratch the surface at all. It's that presence when you're taught, you have to grab onto it, put it in a box, keep it safe. Well, that's the quickest way to literally strangle it out of your life rather than letting it flow. And all of that comes down to the individual survival mechanisms of where you try to grab onto it. Hold it, hold it over here, put it in a box, bury it in the sand or whatever, whatever to once again something so pure. Put it in a box, bury it in the sand or whatever, whatever.

Speaker 2 14:50

To once again something so pure, so innocent, so passionate, so life, affirming the light, affirming natural, where you start to limit it rather than letting it on its own grow, continue to emanate, radiate that once you woke up to that's how it unfolded in front of you, to where now we can celebrate the differences between you and your beloved of the heart, because you came into each other's live stream to compliment, to add to one another's live streams, not to change each other, because neither one of you are broken. It's to add to one another's live streams. It's like my angel, my bride I add to her live stream, she adds to mine. Neither one of us were looking, sinking or lacking. Before we met. We were both happy, healthy, whole and complete, happy on our own journeys and when we came together which was a surprise for both of us it was like great Now, it just made it more fun. It just made it more fun.

Speaker 1 16:08

I love what you were sharing there, william, about seeing it all on a movie screen, yeah, and you're seeing yourself and your partner, divinity, and then outside and your connection with each other. And then outside of you, you're seeing your ego and their ego and all the the uh fears that they might have, which are from the ego and other insecurities or whatever we might want to call them that they have, and what I take from that is, if you do that as an exercise together, it really just simply provides real, true clarity about the relationships.

Speaker 2 17:09

And, yeah, I remember very specifically my angel and I were sitting in. We used to call it a sanctuary. It was a room off our bedroom at Terra Villa Circle in Las Vegas. And she was really dismayed because she said well, you know, honey, you know, I never want to hold you back and I know you're going to be traveling a lot and things like that. And, honey, you know, I'm just and tears were coming to her eyes. I just, you know, I'm afraid of flying, I don't like to travel.

Speaker 2 17:44

And there was just she and I putting everything on that movie screen, and so, to me, I don't understand what the problem is. So we take a train, or, honey, I, I just fly off, I go wherever I go, and I come home and we have another celebration, we just keep running forth. I didn't see an issue with all of the above, so it was on the screen. It was like, well, how is this an issue I don't need? And this was a very important part, because I wasn't looking for a codependency, neither was she. These were humanity assumptions. And it was like, huh, ok, well, now that one's off the table. So nothing held back and then, yeah, but you need, you deserve someone that. Oh well, honey, you know, honestly, that would drive me absolutely batty, Because I don't need someone constantly with me and I do enjoy my alone time, great. So it's like it's you, didn't?

Speaker 2 18:52

That led to a conversation where, for a dialogue that we've created and we named it, mary time and will time. Now it's our code words. So when I say I'm going to take will time, then she understands that, ok, I'm going to take some time with myself. Or she'll say I want to take some Mary time, and I'll understand she's going to go take some time with herself. Just, it doesn't mean something's wrong, it just means she'll go walk around the mall or she'll go out and do whatever she does I may go on a drive, whatever just to enjoy some time and space with myself. It doesn't mean it's anti-Mary, it doesn't mean that it's anti-will, it's not personal, it's just I'm with yourself. So we came up with these code words so that everything's on that screen Doesn't mean something's wrong, doesn't mean a lack of love, it's just we all require our downtime, our quiet time require our downtime, our quiet time.

Speaker 1 20:01

In summary, will. Are you saying that a true loving relationship of the heart is acknowledging all of what the other is in a body, on a planet and, most importantly, you're acknowledging the unique divine creator that's in front of you and that's the? That's where the love is. And then everything else is outside of us and may need to be discussed, just like you're talking about. There's things that come up for us because we're human beings and we have certain beliefs or judgments within us, but if we can just look at them outside of ourselves and talk about them, If we can just look at them outside of ourselves and talk about them.

Speaker 2 20:57

It resolves and dissolves them. There's always a solution.

Speaker 1 21:03

Fantastic. Well, thank you, william, this is very simple, very clear. I do know as a listener, that William has a few books and they really simplify life in the way that William has just simplified. A relationship of the heart with another today, living in a body on a planet is one of those books, and and Relationships with Everything and Everyone is another. Thank you,