The Relevance Of Now
The Relevance Of Now
Breaking Free from Relationship Blockages: The Path to Loving Freely
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What if intimate relationships didn’t have those struggles that feel so challenging?
In this podcast, William offers a refreshing perspective on intimate loving relationships that challenges conventional wisdom about partnership. He provides straight forward advice about communicating feelings and needs with ease, and the natural growth of relationships. What about the elephant in the room? William also addresses relationships that have reached their natural conclusion.
This episode invites you to move beyond drama and conflict by approaching partnership from wholeness rather than lack. Join us next time for more insights that bring relevance to your now.
Hello and welcome to the Relevance of Now with William Linville. My name is Michael Connell and I'll be your host here with William. Hey, William.
Speaker 2Hi Mike, How's it going, buddy?
Speaker 1Wonderful. How are you? I'm doing great as always. Fantastic. Well, today the topic for this podcast is something really important for all of us, and it's around intimate loving relationships of the heart with another. When it comes to intimate loving relationships with another, will you share how having that relationship with another can be easy?
Speaker 2that relationship with another can be easy Absolutely, buddy, and it's such a beautiful topic because it's where so many get in their own way due to their own defenses and their own fears. But a relationship can be easy when you're expressing from the heart, without any ego in the way. In a relationship of the heart, the ego is put to the side and where you really just break energy with the ego, where you can be fully heard and accepted for who you are, in your unique view of things, based upon your experiences, and where there's no one wrong, because so often the ego gets in the way, trying to prove itself to be upright and justified. But in a relationship of the heart, you're actually taking a breath, you're actually hearing your partner. You're not looking for fault, you're hearing them. You're not judging them, you're not condemning them. You're actually hearing them and being able to receive whatever they're sharing. You're not trying to change them, you're not trying to make them any different, you're just fully loving them and accepting them.
Speaker 2It's kind of like when I met my bride, the beloved of my heart, my angel baby, one hypothetical hiccup in her mind was that she didn't like to fly. And I was going to fly a lot, but it was so cool because it's like, well, I don't have to fly, I can drive, I can take the train. I mean, there's many ways to get to the same place. But it was for herself. It was something she was concerned about because she wouldn't be able to take many trips with me until we started traveling all over the US. And then that worked itself out. And now, because there wasn't any condemning, because there wasn't any judgment, because it was not an issue, now she enjoys flying whenever we go places. It's not trying to push them to overcome their fear. It's accepting them for their programming, their conflicts, whatever it may be, but you love them through it. That's not your goal to love them through it. So they change, you just accept that part of themselves and everything continues to flow.
Speaker 1And so when you're talking here about egos getting in the way and I'm reflecting on my own relationship and some of my blockages in the past were around integrity of keeping my word with certain things that I wanted to improve upon myself, but I wasn't in the moment yet consciously able to improve upon myself. And how do partners in an intimate, loving relationship handle when their partner isn't moving beyond their blockages?
Speaker 2You be open with them, you share how you feel and you ask for what you want. You're not asking for them to change, but you are asking like something like that being more courteous. But you are asking like something like that being more courteous, you're asking them to stop, take a breath and ask themselves how best can I be more attentive here, how best can I actually hear what you're saying? And what I have found is where you stop, you take a breath, you close your eyes, you focus your eyes towards your third eye for a moment, bringing yourself consciously through the heart. That's where you're able to get past these little blockages and where they're actually hearing what you're saying. They're not already creating a defense, they're not already condemning you. He's never going to change. She's never going to change. So what am I doing?
Speaker 2You stop the scapegoat there before it becomes an issue, and you hear what they're saying, like they're really wanting to make improvements. They're just having a tough time and you take that to heart and you do what you can to make it easier on them. But you also are there to watch them. Watch them, celebrate them for even wanting to create that change, because they're becoming cognitive and conscious that, okay, this is something that I need to work on.
Speaker 2Sometimes I'll ask you for ideas. As long as you're not condemning, as long as you're not trying to argue, trying to play, I'm better than you're less than Well. If you skip all that stuff for a moment, you're actually able to hear your partner and your partner being able to share what they want, how they want, and your partner being able to share what they want, how they want and how they're wanting to change. Sometimes they don't know how, so you're able to, with an open heart, be able to be that of assistance if and when they're asking, but you're not condemning them to hell per se for having issues, issues right, because there are people that haven't found their way out of the, the consciousness that's blocking their full expression, their loving beingness, their ability to be more conscious and to be more present, exactly, and.
When Relationships Reach Their End
Speaker 1And so what I hear you also identifying is that the judgment of another is also a form of blockage and control, total control. Because you're playing better than less, then and this really comes down to everyone is so unique in what's in the way of the full expression of love Exactly to will. What if your partner isn't willing?
Speaker 2to talk about their blockages or is shutting down. Well, the first thing I would do is I would put them in the palm of my hand and I would light them up. I'd welcome in their higher levels to take command. Put them in the palm of my hand left hand on the bottom, right hand on the top and I would run energy to them, not because I want them to change, but because I see them struggling. I'm not trying to influence where they're at. I'm holding them in that love as they find their way through whatever they're struggling with as they find their way through whatever they're struggling with.
Speaker 1Right, Because the other partner's love you're just lighting up their love that's already behind the blockages.
Speaker 2Exactly and helping bringing that forward. And what you start to watch is they start to get more of a pep in their step. They start to want to work. I didn't even like the word work, but try harder.
Speaker 1You're really getting through to them and sharing how you feel and asking for what you want. So there may be a period of time that you do that and there are ones that can't move beyond their blockages. And well, can you talk about, you know? Is there a point where, when you've communicated from the heart, that there might be an end to the relationship?
Speaker 2Absolutely, and you'll know, because you'll keep hitting the same roadblock time after time after time and they'll start becoming defensive and becoming more and more defensive and trying to dig their metaphoric heels in and where they start becoming abrasive and wanting to bicker all that nonsense and wanting to bicker all that nonsense.
Speaker 1Wow, I'm tuning into a relationship like that and how it does become so obvious that if you've really worked on yourself and been able to tune into your own presence and share with the other what's not working for you and light them up as a compliment you know there's no have tos here, but you could also light them up, as you mentioned, over time and at some point you'll just know yes, it becomes so obvious because it'll be a lot of nitpicking, a lot of bickering, a lot of attempts to create arguments like locking heads with egos, and that's where it's like okay, you know, I've done what I can do.
Finding Wholeness in Loving Partnerships
Speaker 1It feels so amazing, when I'm feeling it within myself, how the journey within myself to get to the point where I'm not judging my partner, that's its own journey. It is Because of my blockages and my programming and my programming. And I find, when you can see yourself that you have blockages and they have blockages, but behind that is their loving presence and you can tone down the judgment over time. Yes, because of that realization that if I could have gone through my blockages earlier, I would have Exactly. If they could get through their blockages, they would have. Yes, and what if we can help each other get through our blockages?
Speaker 2Yeah, because when there's willingness, it's a done deal, right.
Speaker 1It's willingness, with the clarity. Yes, you know you're sharing with us the clarity that we are loving beings at the core of us and I've always liked your analogy of you know, a free flowing stream of water. And then if you could just see the judgments, the guilt, the shame, whatever the emotions are as little rocks in the stream blocking. If we acknowledge that within each other, the willingness to, and both parties are willing to, move beyond those misperceptions and blockages of emotion and trauma and patterns of behavior, then a relationship can become easy.
Speaker 2Exactly Because you start watching those blockages dissolve away. It's not about me getting my way, you getting your way, it's more like our way.
Speaker 1That's that feels really wonderful.
Speaker 2Because if the love is there, you know, the success is absolute. Now it's just a matter of getting rid of the ego that's trying to put things in boxes.
Speaker 1Wow, I can feel it, and is there something you'd like to share to wrap this podcast up, to compliment all of us?
Speaker 2up to complement all of us. Yeah, I want people to feel like they no longer have to settle for conflicting relationships full of traumas, dramas, in their lives anymore. It's right there for you. Maybe it's with your current partner, maybe it's not, who knows? But as long as your heart is involved, it's success guaranteed, even when welcoming in a new partner Not a better partner, a new partner From the intimate loving relationship of the heart, where you're wanting ease and grace, you're wanting peace and tranquility, you're wanting passion and that passion of love to emanate through you. Because you're coming from a whole place. Not I need not that I'm lacking of something, but no, you're coming from being healthy, whole and complete in your own right, to where you start welcoming in dear ones to become a part of your life dream.
Closing Thoughts and Appreciation
Speaker 1That match, that deer, wants to become a part of your life, dream that match, that, yeah, they can communicate with, they are willing to share what's going on for them. Exactly, you can really love and and assist in the journey, as it is a journey for all of us, individually and collectively, to move past things that aren't an expression of love through us, exactly. Thank you so much, Will for this clarity. This is such an important topic for all of us. Important topic for all of us. I really appreciate you sharing more about the intimate loving relationships of the heart with another, giving us this clarity, thank you, thank you and thank you all for joining us. Thank you. This is the Relevance of Now with William Linville. Join us next time. Namaste, namaste.