WEBVTT 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:01.280 Welcome, podcast family. 00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:03.600 My name is Joanna, and thank you for tuning in today. 00:00:03.759 --> 00:00:07.599 If you haven't already, please be sure to follow our podcast to stay up to date each week. 00:00:07.759 --> 00:00:09.919 We believe that God has a powerful word for you today. 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:12.080 So let's dive into this amazing message. 00:00:12.320 --> 00:00:16.800 If you're taking notes, the title of my sermon is Become Whole. 00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:18.320 Become whole. 00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:20.239 It's kind of like part two to last week. 00:00:20.719 --> 00:00:21.359 Become whole. 00:00:21.839 --> 00:00:22.480 Become whole. 00:00:22.800 --> 00:00:28.480 I'm gonna lay principles in this series, and then I'm gonna lay uh practicality, and then it's gonna get really powerful. 00:00:28.719 --> 00:00:30.239 God's gonna start healing and restoring stuff. 00:00:30.320 --> 00:00:32.799 So that's kind of the trajectory of this series is going. 00:00:32.880 --> 00:00:34.799 So it's gonna shift and it's gonna be amazing. 00:00:34.880 --> 00:00:36.320 We're we're going up from here, okay? 00:00:36.560 --> 00:00:37.600 But today's gonna be good. 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:39.280 Become whole. 00:00:39.840 --> 00:00:41.600 You wanna become whole in every aspect of life. 00:00:41.759 --> 00:00:42.399 You wanna be whole. 00:00:42.560 --> 00:00:44.159 If you're married, you wanna be whole in your marriage. 00:00:44.240 --> 00:00:45.920 If you're dating, you wanna be whole while you're dating. 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:48.320 If you're single, you wanna be whole while you're single. 00:00:48.479 --> 00:00:51.359 You're actually supposed to become whole while you're single. 00:00:51.600 --> 00:00:52.240 Be whole. 00:00:52.320 --> 00:00:53.119 It's a beautiful thing. 00:00:53.280 --> 00:00:55.679 God has called you to be whole. 00:00:55.840 --> 00:00:56.880 And what does whole mean? 00:00:57.039 --> 00:00:58.560 It just means to be complete in Christ. 00:00:58.880 --> 00:01:02.079 It means to be complete in Christ, you're called to be complete in Christ. 00:01:02.240 --> 00:01:04.400 And if you're whole, it just changes everything. 00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:06.959 It changes your life, it changes everything that's surrounding it. 00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:08.879 Now, I have a question. 00:01:09.519 --> 00:01:17.120 My question is what does being whole do for your current or if you're single, your future marriage? 00:01:17.599 --> 00:01:20.640 What does being whole do for your current if you're married? 00:01:20.799 --> 00:01:25.760 And if you're not when you will get married, what what will being whole do for your marriage? 00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:34.799 And I hope we can take the rest of this time to answer that question so you can see the benefit of being whole and how it changes your marriage completely. 00:01:35.120 --> 00:01:38.000 And I hope you have a desire to be whole. 00:01:38.560 --> 00:01:41.760 Now, why do most marriages struggle? 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:47.359 Most marriages struggle is because most marriages have never seen a healthy model. 00:01:47.599 --> 00:01:50.480 You need a healthy model so your marriage don't struggle. 00:01:50.560 --> 00:01:52.799 Some of you guys' parents didn't have good, healthy marriages. 00:01:52.959 --> 00:01:57.599 Some of you guys never seen a good, healthy marriage up close, so you don't know what it's like to have a good, healthy marriage. 00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:02.159 And a lot of you guys have only seen marriage on TV, have only seen marriage in movies. 00:02:02.239 --> 00:02:05.599 And let me tell you something movies always have bad marriages. 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:08.159 And why would a movie always have a bad marriage? 00:02:08.319 --> 00:02:12.639 It's because good marriages are boring. 00:02:15.280 --> 00:02:18.080 Who wants to watch a movie of a good marriage? 00:02:18.319 --> 00:02:19.120 Not I. 00:02:21.039 --> 00:02:23.360 Hey, hey, hey, hey, you go first. 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:24.639 No, you go first. 00:02:24.800 --> 00:02:25.759 No, I pray for you. 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:26.719 No, you pray for me. 00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:27.599 No, I pray for you. 00:02:27.680 --> 00:02:28.639 Hey, we pray for each other. 00:02:28.800 --> 00:02:29.520 No, I'll forgive you. 00:02:29.599 --> 00:02:30.719 No, I forgive you first. 00:02:31.439 --> 00:02:33.280 I love you, I love you first, Tag. 00:02:33.599 --> 00:02:34.319 I love you. 00:02:34.800 --> 00:02:36.800 I don't want to watch that movie. 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:43.599 I want to watch the notebook where it's raining and he's got her in the field, and he's like, what do you want? 00:02:43.759 --> 00:02:45.039 And she's like, I don't know. 00:02:45.199 --> 00:02:46.800 He's like, what do you want? 00:02:48.159 --> 00:02:50.080 He's like, what do you want? 00:02:52.080 --> 00:02:53.360 I wanna watch that. 00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:56.240 I sent you 500 numbers. 00:02:56.400 --> 00:02:56.719 What? 00:02:56.879 --> 00:02:57.280 Where? 00:02:57.599 --> 00:02:58.400 Your mama hit him. 00:02:58.479 --> 00:02:59.280 Your mama did what? 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:01.039 Like, I wanna watch that. 00:03:02.319 --> 00:03:03.360 I want to watch Mr. 00:03:03.520 --> 00:03:03.919 and Mrs. 00:03:04.000 --> 00:03:04.400 Smith. 00:03:04.479 --> 00:03:10.400 And they're in the house, they fighting, and they shooting up the house, and her her hair fell off, and his eyebrow fell off. 00:03:10.479 --> 00:03:12.000 And I wanna see that. 00:03:12.719 --> 00:03:17.840 I don't want to see two people preferring each other, blessing each other, and praying for each other. 00:03:17.919 --> 00:03:19.759 They had a little marriages on little Christian movies. 00:03:19.840 --> 00:03:21.840 I'm a person, I'm not watching that. 00:03:22.319 --> 00:03:24.479 I've been fell asleep in my recliner. 00:03:25.120 --> 00:03:29.280 I want some drama when I'm watching movies. 00:03:30.080 --> 00:03:32.560 Good marriages are boring. 00:03:33.039 --> 00:03:36.719 They're so boring, you barely hear about them. 00:03:37.599 --> 00:03:38.159 Come on. 00:03:38.879 --> 00:03:39.680 And why? 00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:44.000 Because planes that land safely don't make headlines. 00:03:48.080 --> 00:03:49.439 You don't hear about the good stuff. 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:50.479 You only hear about the bad. 00:03:50.639 --> 00:03:52.879 News is like, okay, good, throw it, good, throw it, good. 00:03:53.120 --> 00:03:53.520 Negative. 00:03:53.599 --> 00:03:54.639 Oh, yeah, post it. 00:03:54.800 --> 00:03:55.520 Broadcast it. 00:03:55.599 --> 00:03:56.240 Share it. 00:03:56.400 --> 00:04:03.039 So you don't get to see a model of a good marriage because ain't nobody posting that or broadcasting that or highlighting that. 00:04:03.120 --> 00:04:10.639 So you have to go to the Bible to figure out what a marriage is supposed to look like and how a marriage is supposed to flow and how a marriage is supposed to go. 00:04:11.360 --> 00:04:12.960 Good marriages are boring. 00:04:13.199 --> 00:04:19.120 There are two people that love Jesus, love each other, they love their family, they prefer each other, and they serve each other. 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:22.319 If that's what you want in this room, can we give God a shout of praise? 00:04:26.319 --> 00:04:28.800 And if you don't want that, you're toxic. 00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:30.000 I just want you to know, okay? 00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:31.680 Just throw that out there. 00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:33.360 Matthew 19. 00:04:33.680 --> 00:04:34.959 Well, I need a little drama. 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:36.079 You a little toxic. 00:04:36.160 --> 00:04:36.959 It's okay. 00:04:37.680 --> 00:04:38.800 You're a little toxic, though. 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:40.079 We just gotta let you know that. 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:42.240 We're gonna work that out in the name of Jesus. 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:45.360 Matthew 19. 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:46.720 And I get it. 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:47.839 I was a little toxic in high school. 00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:48.160 I don't know. 00:04:48.160 --> 00:04:48.639 I want some drama. 00:04:48.720 --> 00:04:49.360 Boy, I got some. 00:04:49.439 --> 00:04:51.759 I said, never mind, Lord Jesus. 00:04:52.079 --> 00:04:54.079 I repent and turn, okay? 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:56.000 I repent and turn. 00:04:56.240 --> 00:04:57.519 Thank God for my wife. 00:04:57.680 --> 00:04:59.199 Matthew 19, verse 3. 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:04.399 It says the Pharisees also came to him, testing him. 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:06.480 Why are the Pharisees always testing Jesus? 00:05:06.639 --> 00:05:08.160 Like they always testing him. 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:10.319 At some point, do you know that you're dumber than him? 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:11.759 Like, when you gonna catch a can? 00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:18.800 The Pharisees came testing him, saying to him, like he created you, and you're testing him, you're dumb. 00:05:18.959 --> 00:05:26.800 And saying to him, It it is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any, for uh just any reason? 00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:33.439 And what they're trying to do is make him contradict Moses, because if you talk about Moses, it'll turn everybody against Jesus. 00:05:33.519 --> 00:05:35.759 Because how dare you talk about the prophet Moses? 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:37.360 This is their angle, right? 00:05:37.519 --> 00:05:52.480 And he answered and said to them, Have you not read that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man should leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 00:05:52.560 --> 00:05:55.120 So then they are no longer two but one flesh. 00:05:55.199 --> 00:05:57.680 Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate. 00:05:57.839 --> 00:06:02.879 They said to him, Why didn't Moses command to give a certificate of divorce and put her away? 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:05.040 Okay, we need you to talk down on Moses. 00:06:05.439 --> 00:06:15.600 He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, because you with them permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 00:06:15.839 --> 00:06:17.279 Now I want to show you something. 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:24.399 If you read the Bible and you look at it, it seems like Jesus don't know how to answer questions. 00:06:25.279 --> 00:06:31.120 Because every time someone asks Jesus a question, if you read it, you're like, Jesus, what you talking about? 00:06:31.759 --> 00:06:35.120 But the truth is, Jesus knows what he's talking about. 00:06:35.360 --> 00:06:37.360 They question don't know what it's talking about. 00:06:38.560 --> 00:06:39.839 Jesus knows what he's talking about. 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:47.680 That question doesn't know what it's talking about because Jesus is so wise, he can answer your question and change your question at the same time. 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:53.120 He answers your question, then he changes your question to the question you should be asking. 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:55.519 And what Jesus is saying here, I'm gonna show you his wisdom. 00:06:55.600 --> 00:06:57.199 Sometimes it just goes over the head. 00:06:57.279 --> 00:06:59.839 They're asking Jesus, what is the reason for a divorce? 00:07:00.000 --> 00:07:02.560 And Jesus is saying, Ah, wrong question. 00:07:02.639 --> 00:07:04.560 You should be asking what a marriage is. 00:07:07.920 --> 00:07:12.319 Because if you knew what a marriage was, you wouldn't have to know what a divorce is. 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:19.920 You only need to know what a divorce is because you didn't take your time to know what a marriage is. 00:07:20.560 --> 00:07:24.319 In other words, Jesus is saying you're asking the wrong question. 00:07:24.480 --> 00:07:26.160 He said you're asking about a divorce. 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:28.399 That's when something is defective and broken and damaged. 00:07:28.480 --> 00:07:32.480 He said, but if you were asking about a marriage, you wouldn't have to ask about a divorce. 00:07:32.639 --> 00:07:34.560 He said, You're asking the wrong question. 00:07:34.720 --> 00:07:37.279 Jesus is saying you need to be asking a different question. 00:07:37.360 --> 00:07:42.079 And then he said, You're asking about a divorce, but really you're trying to ask about a marriage. 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:48.079 And when you ask about a marriage, you have to go to the foundation of the marriage. 00:07:48.720 --> 00:07:58.160 So here's Jesus' answer: Jesus said, From the beginning, the Father created them, male and female. 00:07:59.040 --> 00:08:00.399 What is Jesus saying? 00:08:00.560 --> 00:08:05.920 Jesus is saying that marriage wasn't the foundation of society, singlehood was. 00:08:06.560 --> 00:08:13.120 Jesus is saying, before we talk about husband and wife, we first got to talk about male and female. 00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:19.439 Because a marriage only breaks when it doesn't have the proper male and female. 00:08:19.600 --> 00:08:23.279 A marriage only gets in trouble when it doesn't have the proper male and female. 00:08:23.439 --> 00:08:26.879 A marriage only leads to divorce when it doesn't have the proper male or female. 00:08:27.040 --> 00:08:29.519 And Jesus said, Don't start with divorce. 00:08:29.680 --> 00:08:31.279 Don't even start with marriage. 00:08:31.439 --> 00:08:34.080 Go back to the individuals at the beginning. 00:08:35.840 --> 00:08:41.600 So when we go back to the beginning, here's what we notice: God didn't create Adam and Eve simultaneously. 00:08:41.919 --> 00:08:44.559 God created Adam and He created Eve. 00:08:44.720 --> 00:08:46.960 Do you know God could have created them at the same time, right? 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:48.799 But he chose not to. 00:08:49.039 --> 00:08:50.720 And why did he choose not to? 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:55.120 Because so Jesus can tell you and show you how it's supposed to be. 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:56.799 Adam had dominion. 00:08:56.879 --> 00:08:59.440 He was walking and talking with God in the cool of the day. 00:08:59.600 --> 00:09:04.480 He was loving his life, conquering, becoming a man, becoming everything he was called to be. 00:09:04.559 --> 00:09:06.080 And let me tell you what Adam did not say. 00:09:06.240 --> 00:09:08.480 Adam never said it's not good that man should be alone. 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:09.759 God said that. 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:12.480 God saw him become the man he was supposed to be. 00:09:12.559 --> 00:09:14.559 And God said it's not good that man should be alone. 00:09:14.639 --> 00:09:17.279 For this reason, the man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. 00:09:17.360 --> 00:09:18.399 This isn't what Adam said. 00:09:18.480 --> 00:09:22.240 This is what God said, because he saw that Adam was the man he needed to be. 00:09:22.320 --> 00:09:24.720 And he said, Now you shouldn't be alone. 00:09:25.840 --> 00:09:30.080 Then he put Adam to sleep and he fashioned Eve out of the out of his side. 00:09:30.240 --> 00:09:32.399 And then while Adam was asleep, guess what? 00:09:32.480 --> 00:09:34.080 His bride was with God. 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:38.000 And now God's doing what God does in her. 00:09:38.080 --> 00:09:40.240 Then God brings her to the husband. 00:09:40.320 --> 00:09:43.360 The first person Eve met was not Adam, it was God. 00:09:43.519 --> 00:09:48.879 And some of the times we're having marriage problems because you met your spouse before you met Jesus. 00:09:49.039 --> 00:09:51.759 You had time with them before you had time with Jesus. 00:09:51.919 --> 00:09:54.000 You served them before you serve Jesus. 00:09:54.080 --> 00:10:02.799 Oh, but if you would ever go back to the male and female in the presence of God before they got in the presence of each other, now, my friends, we have a marriage. 00:10:03.039 --> 00:10:04.559 It's not good that man should be alone. 00:10:04.639 --> 00:10:08.240 Now this man should leave his father and mother and be joined to his what? 00:10:08.399 --> 00:10:08.960 His wife. 00:10:09.039 --> 00:10:09.360 Why? 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:11.840 Because she was already a wife when he got there. 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:16.639 So Jesus is saying you're asking the wrong questions. 00:10:16.720 --> 00:10:20.480 You're asking about divorce, and you want to know what's the requirement of that. 00:10:20.559 --> 00:10:22.799 And you never ask the question, what is a marriage? 00:10:22.960 --> 00:10:26.399 Because if you knew what a marriage was, you wouldn't have to know what a divorce was. 00:10:26.559 --> 00:10:30.960 Jesus is just saying, Hey, I want you to know we didn't create divorce up here in heaven. 00:10:31.039 --> 00:10:32.000 Y'all did that. 00:10:34.559 --> 00:10:39.919 And the reason why you created divorce is because you never figured out what marriage was. 00:10:42.000 --> 00:10:44.639 And it was a male and a female from the beginning. 00:10:44.799 --> 00:10:46.080 So here's the problem. 00:10:46.639 --> 00:10:51.840 When people come to me and they say something, I have to try really hard not to laugh because I know what they mean. 00:10:51.919 --> 00:10:56.480 They come, they say, Pastor KJ, we're having marriage problems. 00:10:56.960 --> 00:10:58.720 I'm like, no, you're not. 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:00.480 I don't say it because I'm nice. 00:11:00.720 --> 00:11:02.720 But I want to say, no, you're not. 00:11:02.960 --> 00:11:05.440 You're having you and him problems. 00:11:06.080 --> 00:11:08.960 Because before there was a marriage, there was you and it was him. 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:11.360 And both of y'all was crazy before y'all got into this. 00:11:11.440 --> 00:11:13.519 And now you wonder why crazy is in your marriage. 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:15.840 It's because both of y'all walked it in there. 00:11:16.960 --> 00:11:17.600 Wow. 00:11:17.840 --> 00:11:19.759 Our marriage is very bitter. 00:11:19.919 --> 00:11:25.440 Uh, yeah, because both of you guys walked in bitterness and you walked it straight into your union. 00:11:25.759 --> 00:11:26.480 Oh my god. 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:28.159 There's no forgiveness in this marriage. 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:30.559 Yeah, how did you forgive people before you got married? 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:31.759 Oh, you didn't? 00:11:32.000 --> 00:11:32.799 Oh, okay. 00:11:32.960 --> 00:11:35.279 So you thought marriage was hocus pocus. 00:11:35.600 --> 00:11:45.679 You thought that you would get married and all your mess would disappear, and it doesn't work like that because marriage don't create two new people, it joins two old people. 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:55.360 Which means if you go to that altar and he got stinky feet, guess what? 00:11:55.519 --> 00:11:57.679 You take stinky feet home with you. 00:11:59.120 --> 00:12:01.840 You go to that altar and she got an attitude, guess what? 00:12:02.000 --> 00:12:04.080 You take attitude home with you. 00:12:04.720 --> 00:12:06.960 You go to that altar and he don't read his Bible. 00:12:07.039 --> 00:12:07.440 Guess what? 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:09.919 You take no reading Bible home with you. 00:12:11.759 --> 00:12:13.039 That's not marked. 00:12:13.759 --> 00:12:16.320 You are marrying who you marry. 00:12:17.919 --> 00:12:22.480 Which means that if the omelet's messed up, there's a rotten egg somewhere. 00:12:23.519 --> 00:12:25.519 And most of the time, there's two rotten eggs. 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:28.960 And I want you to know something about the Holy Spirit. 00:12:29.120 --> 00:12:31.120 The Holy Spirit is a good, good cook. 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:34.879 And if he got two good, good eggs, he can make a good, good omelet. 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:41.039 But if something's wrong with that omelet, I want you to know it's not on the cook, it's on one of the eggs. 00:12:42.720 --> 00:12:43.600 That's all right. 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:46.159 Because he's a good cook. 00:12:46.320 --> 00:12:49.600 In other words, Jesus said in the beginning he created male and female. 00:12:49.759 --> 00:12:53.120 He said, if you really want to understand marriage, you have to go back to the male and female. 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:54.159 What kind of man is he? 00:12:54.240 --> 00:12:55.840 And what kind of woman is she? 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:58.320 Because they're going to determine what kind of marriage is it. 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:06.320 Which means if you want to fix your marriage, fix yourself. 00:13:11.440 --> 00:13:13.279 We just need to get unforgiveness out of our marriage. 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:14.639 Well, there's two ways we can do it. 00:13:14.720 --> 00:13:20.480 We can either get you out, which we can't do that, or we can get unforgiveness out of your heart, and we can do that. 00:13:21.039 --> 00:13:21.679 Right? 00:13:22.320 --> 00:13:23.279 Get it out of you. 00:13:23.360 --> 00:13:23.759 Get it. 00:13:23.840 --> 00:13:29.440 If you and him both say, you know what, we're walking in forgiveness, and we're gonna trust Jesus to forgive, guess what happened? 00:13:29.600 --> 00:13:31.360 Forgiveness has just left your union. 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:32.159 Come on, somebody. 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:34.080 Give God a shout of praise. 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:41.360 And I'm gonna say this. 00:13:44.000 --> 00:13:47.519 Why you guys that are single, watch this. 00:13:49.440 --> 00:13:53.840 Unhappy single people don't make happy merry people. 00:13:55.440 --> 00:14:00.320 Unsatisfied single people don't make satisfied merry people. 00:14:02.559 --> 00:14:08.080 Because many of us, we enter something hoping that somebody would fix something in us. 00:14:08.159 --> 00:14:10.159 And it doesn't work that way. 00:14:10.559 --> 00:14:14.960 They're not gonna fix anything in you, but I know one who can, and his name is King Jesus. 00:14:15.039 --> 00:14:16.159 Let's read about him. 00:14:17.519 --> 00:14:19.200 Colossians chapter 2, verse 9. 00:14:19.279 --> 00:14:20.320 Y'all, this is gonna get good today. 00:14:20.399 --> 00:14:21.279 You guys ready? 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:24.879 Colossians chapter 2, verse 9. 00:14:25.600 --> 00:14:31.840 It says, For in him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily. 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:38.320 And you are complete in him, who is the head of all principalities and powers. 00:14:38.559 --> 00:14:40.000 Let's read again. 00:14:42.480 --> 00:14:46.559 For in him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily. 00:14:47.279 --> 00:14:48.879 And you are complete in him. 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:56.000 You are complete in him, not in them, him, who is the head of all principalities and powers. 00:14:57.360 --> 00:14:58.639 Here's what the Bible is saying. 00:14:58.720 --> 00:15:01.679 It said he is the Godhead in bodily form. 00:15:01.919 --> 00:15:03.039 Here's what the Bible is saying. 00:15:03.120 --> 00:15:04.159 I'm gonna break it down for you. 00:15:04.240 --> 00:15:06.559 It's saying all of heaven dwells in him. 00:15:07.519 --> 00:15:11.360 Then it says he's above all principalities and powers. 00:15:11.440 --> 00:15:12.159 What does that mean? 00:15:12.320 --> 00:15:14.639 That means all of hell dwells under his feet. 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:23.279 So if all above is inside of him and all below is underneath him, it's saying he has the authority of heaven and he has hell under his feet. 00:15:23.759 --> 00:15:27.519 In other words, there is nothing you can bring up that he don't have control over. 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:34.879 And it says that guy that controls heaven and hell, it says, You're complete in him. 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:38.399 So I don't care what kind of hell you've been through, you're complete in him. 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:41.440 I don't care how good you've been blessed, you're complete in him. 00:15:41.679 --> 00:15:44.320 Your complete, your completeness comes from Jesus. 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:45.360 It doesn't come from us. 00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:47.039 I'm complete in Jesus. 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:48.320 I love what David said. 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:49.759 David said it so beautifully. 00:15:49.919 --> 00:15:51.840 David said, My cup run it over. 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:53.120 My cup run it over. 00:15:53.279 --> 00:15:55.600 I serve the kind of God that makes my cup run over. 00:15:55.759 --> 00:16:00.240 You can't make my cup run over, he can't make my cup run over, she can't make my cup run over. 00:16:00.320 --> 00:16:04.080 Oh, but God makes my cup run over, he brings me overflow. 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:09.679 The Bible says he leads me into green pastures. 00:16:09.840 --> 00:16:10.639 What is green? 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:15.679 It's a picture of health, and then he leads me beside beside still waters. 00:16:15.840 --> 00:16:16.879 What is still waters? 00:16:17.039 --> 00:16:18.159 A picture of peace. 00:16:19.120 --> 00:16:23.519 Which means he makes me healthy, he gives me peace, and he makes my cup run over. 00:16:23.679 --> 00:16:26.240 Which means I'm complete before I ever meet you. 00:16:28.799 --> 00:16:30.720 I'm whole before I ever meet you. 00:16:30.960 --> 00:16:32.639 I know my identity before I ever meet you. 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:36.559 I know I'm the imagade of God, made in the image of God before I ever meet you. 00:16:36.639 --> 00:16:38.399 I'm complete in God before I meet you. 00:16:38.559 --> 00:16:40.080 I don't need someone to come complete me. 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:41.120 I'm complete in God. 00:16:41.200 --> 00:16:42.480 I don't need someone to come make me whole. 00:16:42.559 --> 00:16:43.440 I'm whole in God. 00:16:44.720 --> 00:16:48.559 And one of the most dangerous statements that people say is cute, but it's dangerous. 00:16:48.720 --> 00:16:51.039 They say, I'm looking for my better half. 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:58.320 The only problem is if you're looking for your better half, that means when you find them, you get whole. 00:17:00.480 --> 00:17:07.839 And the danger of them making you whole is if you complete me, the moment you decide not to, now you deplete me. 00:17:12.559 --> 00:17:17.440 If you make me happy, the moment you decide to not make me happy, guess what? 00:17:17.519 --> 00:17:18.559 You just made me sad. 00:17:19.359 --> 00:17:25.599 If you are my peace, the moment you remove yourself for a day or two, now it's my anxiety. 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:32.079 So anything that I'm getting from you, the moment you don't want to give it, it it I know well. 00:17:32.160 --> 00:17:33.119 My husband and never do that. 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:35.440 You put an actual man woman in this room. 00:17:35.680 --> 00:17:36.559 You don't know that. 00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:38.400 Well, my wife would never be like that. 00:17:38.480 --> 00:17:42.480 I pray not, but I'm just saying, I know who definitely will never be like that. 00:17:42.559 --> 00:17:44.079 And his name is King Jesus. 00:17:44.160 --> 00:17:47.519 He didn't say yesterday, today, and forevermore. 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:50.720 Some days I'm in a good mood, some days I'm in a bad mood. 00:17:50.880 --> 00:17:55.200 His mood's the same, which means he is stable ground to build on. 00:17:55.359 --> 00:18:03.599 Everybody else you build on is sick and sand, but when you build on Jesus Christ, he's the rock, he's your firm foundation, and he is steady. 00:18:04.400 --> 00:18:06.079 Sometimes you're gonna get on my nerves. 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:06.559 Guess what? 00:18:06.640 --> 00:18:08.480 He has everlasting patience for you. 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:12.000 Sometimes I get tired of your dumb questions. 00:18:12.079 --> 00:18:12.480 Guess what? 00:18:12.559 --> 00:18:13.279 He don't. 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:16.160 So he makes your cup run it over. 00:18:17.680 --> 00:18:22.160 Which means you're not looking for a better half, you're looking for a better whole. 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:27.039 You're not looking for someone that completes you, you're looking for someone that compliments you. 00:18:29.440 --> 00:18:30.960 I just need a compliment. 00:18:31.039 --> 00:18:33.920 I'm not looking for completion, I'm looking for a compliment. 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:35.759 I'm looking for someone to compliment me. 00:18:35.839 --> 00:18:40.640 In other words, when I used to play basketball, the coach would always send me to the hole. 00:18:40.720 --> 00:18:47.200 And the reason why he sent me to the hole is because I was really good at making my shot while I got hit. 00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:49.200 I would get hit and still make my shot. 00:18:49.279 --> 00:18:52.640 And when I got hit and still made my shot, you know what I used to scream? 00:18:52.960 --> 00:18:53.519 And one. 00:18:53.759 --> 00:18:57.119 And the reason why I screamed and one is because I made my shot and one. 00:18:57.359 --> 00:18:57.920 What do I get? 00:18:58.079 --> 00:18:58.799 A free throw. 00:18:58.880 --> 00:19:00.000 I get a free shot. 00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:08.240 I want to love Jesus in such a way and serve Jesus in such a way and be hulling Jesus in such a way that when I meet a spouse, it's and one. 00:19:08.319 --> 00:19:10.640 I was good by myself, but you're in one. 00:19:10.720 --> 00:19:13.599 My cup was running up above myself, but you're in one. 00:19:13.759 --> 00:19:16.319 I'm a blessing Jesus by myself, but you're in one. 00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:20.240 I'm a force by myself, but multiplication comes when we're together. 00:19:20.400 --> 00:19:23.359 You an one, but you're not the source. 00:19:23.519 --> 00:19:24.559 You a supplement. 00:19:24.960 --> 00:19:28.400 He's the source, he's the foundation, he's my king. 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:31.599 Can we give him a 10-second place break in this place? 00:19:39.200 --> 00:19:42.720 I want to operate in such a way where he is in one. 00:19:44.160 --> 00:19:45.599 She's in one. 00:19:46.319 --> 00:19:47.039 Hey, I'm good. 00:19:47.119 --> 00:19:49.200 Me and Jesus, we score, we good. 00:19:49.599 --> 00:19:50.960 You just in one. 00:19:51.599 --> 00:19:52.880 We want the extra point. 00:19:52.960 --> 00:19:53.839 We want it. 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:56.559 But he's the main reason. 00:19:56.799 --> 00:19:58.160 He's the main point. 00:19:59.039 --> 00:20:03.680 And when you build your marriage like that, you're gonna be alright. 00:20:04.160 --> 00:20:05.359 You're gonna be alright. 00:20:05.680 --> 00:20:07.039 You're gonna be alright. 00:20:07.359 --> 00:20:11.119 So you're looking for anymore. 00:20:12.240 --> 00:20:15.759 So I'm gonna show you something. 00:20:17.519 --> 00:20:18.799 I'm gonna show you something. 00:20:21.359 --> 00:20:26.720 The foundation of marriage is singlehood. 00:20:27.519 --> 00:20:29.039 The foundation of marriage is singlehood. 00:20:29.119 --> 00:20:30.319 The foundation of marriage is marriage. 00:20:30.480 --> 00:20:31.039 It's a singlehead. 00:20:31.119 --> 00:20:32.240 That's what Jesus said in the beginning. 00:20:32.319 --> 00:20:35.839 He made male and female, which means that the foundation of your marriage. 00:20:38.480 --> 00:20:44.799 Who you are as a male and who she is as a female is the foundation of your marriage. 00:20:45.119 --> 00:20:47.599 And here's the problem with most single people. 00:20:48.000 --> 00:20:52.400 Most single people aren't actually single. 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:54.640 Okay, let me explain. 00:20:54.799 --> 00:20:55.519 Let me explain. 00:20:55.759 --> 00:21:01.359 To be single means to be one or it means to be whole. 00:21:01.759 --> 00:21:04.559 It means to be one or it means to be whole. 00:21:04.720 --> 00:21:10.400 Which means if you're not all one, and if you're not whole, you're not actually single. 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:16.000 But when you are whole, you are single, and to be whole means to be an integer. 00:21:16.799 --> 00:21:19.599 An integer is a whole number, it's a complete number. 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:20.640 It's not a fraction. 00:21:20.720 --> 00:21:21.920 It means to be an integer. 00:21:22.079 --> 00:21:25.039 And most people aren't integers because they're fractions. 00:21:25.200 --> 00:21:26.319