Why You Can't Get What You Want (And How to Climb Higher)

Engineering Emotions and Energy with Justin Wenck, Ph.D.

Engineering Emotions and Energy with Justin Wenck, Ph.D.
Why You Can't Get What You Want (And How to Climb Higher)
Oct 13, 2026 Season 1 Episode 237 Justin Wenck PhD

Feeling stuck? Like you’re climbing toward something you want but can’t quite reach it?

A barrier doesn’t automatically mean you’re failing. Sometimes you’re not ready yet, and the next step is to grow. Other times, you’ve already outgrown the place behind you, and the barrier is helping you from going backwards and getting stuck.

Standing in front of a stairway at the beach, we use the metaphor of child safety gates on the stairs to explore what life's obstacles may be telling us. We’ll look at why forcing one path isn’t always the answer, how going sideways or even backward can still be part of moving higher, and when the real problem may be that you’re climbing the wrong stairway.

If you’re working on overcoming obstacles or learning how to get unstuck in life, this is your permission to stop fighting the barrier and start growing through it. It's time for personal growth for a fulfilling life

In this episode:

  • Why some barriers protect you until you’re ready
  • How to stop fighting where you are and grow through it
  • Why returning to an old place doesn’t always mean you’re going backward
  • How a job, relationship, or passion can become the wrong stairway
  • Why what worked then may not be what works now

👇 Next step: Try LEAP—my four-minute compound wellness and energy practice for getting out of your own way and finding your next step:

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💬 What’s your stairway right now? What do you want to experience, contribute, or enjoy that feels blocked? Drop it in the comments—I read every one.

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