Your Calm Is Your Child's Best Drug, with Hunter Clarke-Fields

Hopestream: Parenting Kids Through Addiction & Mental Health

Hopestream: Parenting Kids Through Addiction & Mental Health
Your Calm Is Your Child's Best Drug, with Hunter Clarke-Fields
Apr 02, 2026 Season 7 Episode 319
Brenda Zane

ABOUT THE EPISODE:

Hunter Clarke-Fields was a painter. She had a graduate degree in art education, a high school teaching job, and what looked from the outside like a creative life. What nobody could see was that she was white-knuckling her way through it, cycling between intense highs and pits of despair she could not explain, having panic attacks in the hallways before she had any tools to handle them. She reached for yoga, then for books on mindfulness, and read about it for years before she finally, at 27, sat down and actually tried.

She set a timer for 10 minutes and sat there thinking the whole time. She was certain she was doing it wrong. But two months in, she looked back and realized she had not fallen into a single pit. Not one. For someone who had been cycling into darkness every couple of weeks for most of her adult life, that was not a small thing. It was everything. And it sent her down a path she never expected, one that eventually turned her into the Mindful Mama Mentor, a podcast host, a mindfulness teacher, and the bestselling author of Raising Good Humans.

Hunter now teaches mindfulness to parents all over the world, with over 20 years of meditation practice behind her and two daughters who, she will freely admit, grew up slightly allergic to the whole thing.

 I wanted to have this conversation because I think mindfulness gets written off as vague or soft, and Hunter makes it anything but. She explains what is actually happening in your brain when you blow up at your kid, why longer exhales are not just a cliche, and what she calls the Three R's, a framework so simple you will remember it in the worst moment. She also says something about feelings being like toddlers that I keep coming back to. 

If you have ever thought that mindfulness is not for you, or that you are too far gone to start, this one is for you.

You'll learn:

  • Why Hunter spent two months certain she was meditating wrong.
  • The part of mindfulness most people skip that changes everything.
  • Her Three R's for the moments you most want to lose it.
  • What she says feelings are like, and why it reframes everything.
  • The one thing she would tell a struggling parent to try today.

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