The Wild and Wise
A series of conversations dedicated to the process of creating wellness, within ourselves and in our communities, in this time of deep transformation. We explore processes, practices, and ideas that resource our personal healing and illuminate the interplay between personal and collective liberation. Ashley and Mallika dive deep into these topics, together and with powerful healers, thinkers and change-makers, giving you a variety of ways to deepen your own connection to yourself and those around you. Ashley is Somatic Movement Therapist and ceremonialist dedicated to tending children, body, land, and spirit. Mallika is a licensed marriage and family therapist committed to creating containers that weave together spiritual and relational healing. In this show, you will learn pathways to healing so that you can awaken the wild and wise parts of yourself and grow your capacity to live a connected, sovereign, and creative life, in right relationship with all beings. Hit subscribe and get ready to come alive in ways you’ve always wanted.
The Wild and Wise
A Conversation with My Husband on Growth in Marriage
ep. #25
Mallika welcomes her husband into a conversation about the trajectory of their 17 year relationship, particularly the elements that have supported authentic connection and getting through the dark times of disconnection. He speaks with humor and vulnerability about the reality of conscious parenting while working really hard to meet Mallika in a deep and loving marriage.
The flow of the conversation going something like this:
- The dance of "fighting" that we did for many years - Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
- Mallika's love language not being met well by Steve - Love Languages
- Our Enneagram Episode on being in relationships
- Do we think we are good parents?
- Ancestral wounds and patterns showing up in our kids
- Priorities in parenting - Raising emotionally healthy kids
- When and why to transition out of RIE parenting
- When we thought our marriage might be over
- Main nuggets that Steve took away from couples therapy
- The impact of jealousy early on in our relationship
- Maintaining attraction to each other as we age
- Are we desensitized to what is attractive to us by porn and media?
- The deeper relational work we both had to do to heal
- Getting through the belly of the beast and emerging into a totally new relationship
- The surprising impact of how much their therapist liked Steve
- How distraction can help find connection
- "Don't go to bed angry" isn't good advice
- Hidden Brain episode on marriage
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