Ep Local Players: Importance Of Family Values With The Pedroza Sisters (Dr. Kayla Pedroza, Dr. Deeandra Pedroza, Serena Pedroza)

In this week's episode, we dive into the mind of 3 successful sisters in the first round table concept. Throughout the conversation, you will hear about the experiences that helped guide them through their journey. It's unique to listen to the three different perspectives these ladies share, but one thing is for sure they had a great foundation to build on. With two sisters already obtaining their Doctors in Physical therapy and the youngest on her way, these sisters will bring a lot of value to the table.

Transcript

spk_1:   0:00
and said You are really great at school. Your grades are high, your leaders and you're on your campus. It is. You're on your way to do great things, but who cares? How are you going to use all of these really great talents that you have to change the world? What is it that you're doing with all of these talents that we know? You have to make a difference in the world? And it was, honestly, the first time that anyone had ever asked me What are you gonna do with all of these talents that you have?

spk_3:   0:38
Welcome back. I appreciate you all tuning in during these crazy times while experiencing where bringing you a first for the opening involve podcast introducing a round table conversation. And I couldn't think of a better way to roll this out that with none other than three strong minded sisters, I've had the pleasure to see this family grow. And I can tell you there Chase for excellence is like no other. It's my pleasure to introduce Dr Kayla Pedrosa, Doctor Deandra Pedrosa and the younger sisters here. Serena Pedrosa, You ladies want to go ahead and introduce yourselves?

spk_0:   1:06
Sure I am killing purism. I am the oldest of the three of us, and I am a physical therapist. I live in the suburbs of Chicago right now, Um, born and raised in all paso. I lived in the Dallas area for seven years after school of finished or excuse me during school, finished Petey school out there and then have moved up here. Um, I specialized in dizziness and, uh, women's health, physical therapy. And I'm super excited to be on this because I've known you for a long time, John. And it's so exciting to see you really follow, um, What you really want to do. And it's super inspiring to know where you've come from a cz well, and be able to see you get where you are now. So it's It's just a cz much an honor for me as it is. Ah, Tau. I guess that sounds not humble, but e i e I

spk_3:   2:11
appreciate that. You're gonna go ahead and introduce yourself the engine.

spk_1:   2:15
Yes. My name is Deandra. I am the middle of the three of us. And I have no you, John. It's weird for me to call you that because I've known by the nickname for a long time for 10 ish years or so, but I So I also born and raised in El Paso, went to succor Oh, high school and moved up here. Um, you'll notice a lot of similarities in mine and careless story for everyone listening. We would and Serena as well. Um, but I'm also a physical therapist. I live in Dallas, and I work for Children's help, Um, at an outpatient clinic, Seeing pediatric patients. Um, I really love working with all of the babies and pretty much everybody from birth to 20 years old. Um, compassionate about it. I'm new in the field. I'm only been out of school or almost two years at this point. Um, so, yeah, that's a little bit about me. I'm kind of slowly trying to find what the next journey is. Their next step in the journey is so we'll get more into that a little bit later. But of course, I'm super excited to discuss this with you and B on this platform with you.

spk_3:   3:28
Sweet. And then we're gonna introduce the youngest sister. She's still creating her story, but I think this sister is gonna bring a lot to the table as well. So you wanna go ahead and introduce yourself? Serena?

spk_2:   3:38
Yes. So I am Serena. I'm the youngest of the three of us and, like my sisters are unlike them. I was born in San Antonio and raised here in El Paso. We all into the same high school Secor High School. And we all went our currently attending the same undergraduate school Texas Woman's University. So currently, I go to school and live in Denton, Texas, and I am studying communication sciences Toe hopefully become a speech language pathologist.

spk_3:   4:13
Perfect. So I think right off the bat, just from you guys introducing yourselves, I think everybody can see 03 of these ladies have their heads together and they're definitely trying to do something. They're all going to the medical field. So I want to start off with asking guys, where does that come from? And what do you think? I mean, you're all really determined. I mean, knowing person, knowing you guys personally, I can see how much you always had a drive to do something. I mean, from when we knew each other in high school. You wanna go? That's not office arena. We'll start off with.

spk_2:   4:43
Wow. I wasn't expecting to start with me, but I would say that we all had a strong foundation. We're talking about it earlier. And our parents set very high standards for us from a very young age. And I think that we all have a lot of respect for them. And the sacrifices that they made give us the life that we had. So and everything we do, we try toe not only make ourselves proud, but to honor them in their sacrifice. And personally, I have a lot of cried. And with sisters as successful and intelligent is mine. I feel like I almost had no choice but to rise to the occasion sometimes and push myself a little bit harder than I thought I needed to because I wanted to be like them, if not better,

spk_3:   5:37
that answers. What about yourself, Deandra?

spk_1:   5:40
Um, just the echo. What Serena says. And you've seen this too? I think we come from a very strong and dedicated group of individuals, not just our parents. Our parents are fantastic, but we've just got a We're very, very lucky and very blessed to be surrounded by a bunch of people who have wanted better for us since we were born a sense before we were born like there. I mean, you really have just an extended ah network of people who have been rooting for us even when we didn't know, Like Serena said, like how much potential we had with Dennis? Um, And for that I think that's where all of this determination, perseverance kind of comes from and kind of like in sits with us in a proud matter to kind of say, and everything that you've given us is not in vain. And everything that you provided for us has really amounted to something because it would kind of be a disservice if if we were provided with all of this love and support and weren't able to really live up to our full potential.

spk_3:   6:47
Okay, Perfect. And Kayla?

spk_0:   6:49
Yeah, I think I'm half of everything that they said. One of the biggest things that both our appearance were really big on especially was, you know, this is your life. Like we already went to school. We have drugs, we have all the stuff that we have, and like, whatever you're gonna do with your life is what you're gonna do for you. And I know at least our mom was always like I already had my you know, I already much school. So whatever you guys do is for yourself. And I think, you know, really giving us ownership over everything that we did. I mean, if we said we were gonna start something, they were like, Well, you better finish it. If we said we wanted to try something, they were like, You better give it your all. I don't care what it is. Um, we I talked to my mom about this all the time, and I talked with my sisters about this all the time. Where I remember my mom used to always be like, you know, even if you're going to be a nice remain better be the best ice cream man or woman that there is like, you have to try your hardest, no matter what it is. And I think, you know, on top of the love and on top of the support there was this very big understanding that it's it doesn't matter what it is that you do. A cz long is you know you do it to the best of your ability and you try And I think that that has carried me and Tori um, today definitely. And in many raised on. And I think my sisters would agree with that as well.

spk_3:   8:22
Okay. And I love that we're starting with this cause, as Serena mentioned the foundation of this to build a great home to build yourself, you need to create that foundation. And all three of you have been blessed, as you're saying with amazing foundation that comes from your family support. So in this podcast, a lot of times we talked about remembering when you're a kid and kind of key moments that really shaped you. So with the experiences that you guys have had in the top of support that you've had yet can you guys talk about any moments? Maybe that you could remember at a young age, that kind of gave you those life lessons that really stuck with you like a This will. My parents are trying to teach me. We'll start with a list.

spk_0:   8:56
Okay. Um, so one of my dad's favorite sayings was mind over matter, girl. It was always mind over matter, mind over matter mind. And, um, even we were sick. It was, like, mind over matter. Um, and which is funny? Because now we've all done into the medical field, and I feel like we're so much more care. Like giving them that I would never tell my patient mind over matter. But, um, you know, huh? At the time, I didn't understand it, but it's definitely one of those things. Is an adult that like everything that I've come up to? You know, even as an adult, he'll still tell me the same thing, you know, And it's It's one of those things that like I mean, I roll my eyes in here, but I completely understand the sentiment, like I understand where that comes from. And, you know, now there's this whole Everybody's talking about it right now, especially amid the times that we're in. You know, it's it's about your mind, said it has to do with your mindset. And so I've been thinking a lot about that, especially in these last couple weeks. It's just like, wow, like this is, this is where that really comes into place. It really is mind over matter for a lot of things. So that's that would be the one thing that I touch him.

spk_3:   10:11
Okay, Mind over matter for for Let's see, Serena, is that something similar that you've remember what has infected you?

spk_2:   10:18
Yes. I don't think that any of us can forget the mind over matter. Staying, Uh, any time I'm struggling to get out of bed in the morning or struggling with an assignment that I just don't have the will tow work on, I always think mind over matter. Um and also, humility is a big thing that my dad always said Humility, girl. And no matter what any of us have accomplished, I don't think that you'll ever find any of us acting as though we're well, except for Jean, I was over better than anybody. I will. We carry ourselves with a great sense of humility because my dad is a very successful man, but he's also one of the most humble people I've ever met. So I think it's set a great example for the kind of people that we all would like to be.

spk_3:   11:16
I want to touch on that really quick before we go to De Andrews answer and when you say humble enough, But I think all three of you you have a weird mixture of like You're extremely humble but also confident. And a lot of the time of the confidence might come office something people thinking that you're cocky or someone thinking that you're overdoing it. But in your sense, I think that blend is really well. And I think that gives you a lot of the tools to get where you're at right now. Kind of no matter what room you go into, you guys know you condone that room. So you think that kind of that's the way it works or where does that confidence come from?

spk_2:   11:48
I think so, too. I think that also going back to what we were saying before growing up in such a loving home. I feel like my parents always laugh at my jokes. I feel like I'm the funniest person in the world. I feel like I'm great, and so just growing up with that background has given me the confidence to fight. It really makes you feel like you can do anything when you're that supported at home, so I think that's where a lot of that confidence comes from

spk_3:   12:16
okay. What about yourself? The under?

spk_1:   12:20
I was just born of magic and really no other explanation than that. I'm totally kidding, but, um okay, I'll touch on two things. Um, and they both come where they come from, Both my parents. But I had, like, my mom a little bit of both of these. Um, so first thing is, my mom will say this time and time again. She always says, you can mess with me. You can talk to me. You can say anything about me and I don't care. But the minute that you say something about my kids like you're asking to really see the worst of me or you will not win this fight with me. And so I grew up knowing that I grew up knowing that so long as I was trying my best, giving my all, holding my own and being the most authentic, truthful person that I could be. My mom always had my back. Um and so I think the confidence then kind of comes with Well, I've got my right hand woman right here. And so long as I'm in the right, um, to my knowledge that then I'll be OK. Now, that's That's not to say she would back us on something if she knew that we were not in the right because that that happened a time or two. Uh uh. So, yeah, just just I think for me, it was easier for me to maintain that confidence knowing that there wasn't anybody. Like Like, my parents would be doubting for the most part. And then secondly, um, just kind of you mentioned liken experience or something that we take away from our childhood. I think this is very common in Hispanic households, but just maintaining respect and manners for everybody that you come in contact with. So saying thank you when anything is given to you shown to you What? Um what have you just please and thank you? I know that sounds very, very simple. Simple, but maintaining those like that standard of respect continues to carry me in my adult life. I still hear responses from people to this day who are like, Wow, it's so refreshing to hear a pleaser. Thank you. It's so refreshing to hear a guest, Mama. No, sir, Um, and I think those just like a little tidbits like that that were instilled in us is, as young women have really carried us to kind of hold ourselves to a little bit higher just of a standard by saying please and thank you. It's not a huge deal, but it makes a big difference.

spk_3:   14:48
And I love that you say that also because I think growing up, I noticed a lot of people kind of compliment the way you treat people in the way you go about things and me Looking back, I've always told my mom, You know what? I'm extremely grateful that what what you done for me? And I'm extremely grateful for the way you raised me, right? So now do you think you guys saw that at a young age? Or is it something that you appreciate more now that were a little bit older Dandruff?

spk_1:   15:10
Oh, sorry. I was like, I think I seen it both. I don't know that I saw less of it as you know, a child because I think it was also refreshing. You know, being like a 11 year old or like a teenager hearing the please and thank you come from someone at that age is still kind of refreshing to two adults when you're that age. Um, but I definitely appreciate it more as an adult because I see the way that unfortunately, other people carry themselves sometimes and just kind of seeing like Okay, not everybody was brought up with this expected respect coming from, um, the people who there were raised by. So, yeah, I definitely gained a greater respect for as I went out into the workforce or went out into graduate school and kind of just all the way that I hold myself compared to the way that people who were be, you know, 10 years older than me managed to carry themselves.

spk_3:   16:05
So definitely a lot of similarities. And as everybody can see you once again, the foundation was there. Right now, the journey continues for all three of you. And that journey starts getting different issues get started getting older. You start getting different interests different, obvious, everything that you guys are doing. So we all life is based on experiences. What kind of experiences can you say that you personally gone through that have influence the where you're at now and influence the journey that you've been. We'll start off with Kayla on this one.

spk_0:   16:32
Sure. So I feel like I've left home twice. Now. I feel like I left home when I was 18 and and, you know, made all my decisions for myself and did everything for myself. You know, I said I was gonna leave. Oh, Paso. I said I wasn't to go to school. I said I was gonna go to P T School. I said it was gonna be a physical therapist, and I did all that. And

spk_2:   16:58
then it was like, what a regular Joe After,

spk_0:   17:01
um, and I met my now husband and I He's from the scrambler, and I moved up here and, you know, having left what seemed like what you know, opacity being home. Having left at such a young age, I was like, Well, surely you know, leaving another place will be just is easy. And this experience, I've been appear going on four years now has been So I opening and humbling and flat out difficult for me, and I feel like so much has gone on in these last four years that, like, it's just been really unexpected, and it's truly shaped me. as a person. Um, when I was done with Petey school, I was like, This is why I am like, I am. This is this is you know, me. And I felt great. And then I threw me into all of these interesting situations, and it was just like, What does this version of me do when you know you're faced with adversity and and you're alone? I mean, I was alone when I left for college anyways, but and this was the first time in my life, but I feel like I had made a decision that wasn't wholly in fluent like that. I wasn't 100 per I should Hold on. Let me choose my words wisely. Here, um, that I made a decision that was kind of influenced by somebody else. Um, generally and all of my previous decisions were just something that I dumped for myself by myself. I came up with it, I did it. And this was the first time that I had done something that somebody had kind of, you know, either provided me with an option for, um and so that definitely in these last four years has for sure shaped who I am now in this moment, um, and then to kind of touch back on my past. Um, so when I was in high school, I did really awesome. Um, but at the end, there I let myself slip up a little, too. You know, all these other great things that were saying about my parents. They were also very strict, especially on me and I everybody, hardly anybody believes me, but then they get to know me, and then they understand I wasn't bad, but I like 8 38 45 every school night until I was like, almost 18 years old, I would have liked sleepovers, and I'd be the first to fall asleep. You can ask any of my like childhood friends like Jesse and Celia, and they'll tell you I was always asleep like I had a bedtime. And so when I turned 18 and my mom was like, Okay, you know, we'll loosen the reins a little, and I left some of my great slip and I I dropped drank in high school, and because of that, I actually almost lost my my scholarship that I went to Texas Woman's on, and that was just a huge blow for me, and, um, to kind of go into something and feel like I almost already had something to prove was really, really tough for me. Um, but, I mean, I feel like I definitely came out on top after that, but that was definitely something, you know, in the past that, like, I never took any part of anything that I did an undergrad, whether it was, you know, involved involvement and extracurriculars or school. I never took any of that for granted because I knew how hard I had to work to get there because I had almost lost it. Um, and so those are just too different experiences in their entirety that have definitely shaped. Um, where am today? And, um, not only in in career, but also just personally.

spk_3:   20:49
Okay. Perfect. So I want to touch back and little bit later on which you talked about that you recently went through in your move. Yeah. And then we'll jump to the dander next. We'll go ahead and talk about that after we finished the segments and Leandro experience. Have you had that kind of shape you so far? What started creating your unique Mr. On your journey.

spk_1:   21:06
OK, interestingly enough, Um, my experience has some of the same like value behind it as Kayla's does, but it just happened in a very different way. So my let's see the summer before I started my last year of undergrad. So right after I finished my junior year of undergrad, I was a part of this leadership institute at Texas Woman's University, and they offered to send certain students to this program called Leadership, and I had heard really great things about it and all that. I all to my knowledge that I knew was that it was just another leadership conference is what my brain kept telling me it was just another leadership conference. I had been to conferences before, where they do ice breakers and they encourage you to improve your resume or things like that. That was my original thought on what I was getting into. So I showed up really, with not the most open of a mind, to be honest and all just kind of come right out and say, You guys know this, But for anyone listening, I did not have the most open mind was very resistant to change during undergrad on. So this was kind of a turning point for me. It was a six day long retreat, essentially where they got together, a bunch of students to re leaders on their campuses all throughout the United States. And they pretty much put us in a room and said, You are really great at school. Your grades are high, your leaders and you're on your campus is you're on your way to do great things, but who cares? How are you going to use all of these really great talents that you have to change the world? What is it that you're doing with all of these talents that we know you have to make a difference in the world? And it was, honestly, the first time that anyone had ever asked me What are you gonna do with all of these talents that you have? Because for a lot of my academic career, it was just kind of like, you know, you're doing you're making great grades and you're doing well in school, and that's gonna get you to the next step for you. But no one had ever really said, like, and how are you gonna better the world by this, but with all of what you've been given, So we're so they pretty much took us through different techniques. It was the first time I had ever been asked to reflect on my life on what I was doing on what I was thinking. It was the first time I had ever been introduced to active list sitting and to really listening to what people had to say prior to actually responding, uh, listening to understand. It was the first time that I really was presented with the question of what does it matter that you're so successful, or what does all of your success mean if you're not able to use it to help others? And so I came home from that retreat with such a refreshed mindset, and I went into my senior year of undergrad, um, and it reshaped everything it reshaped to I welcomed into my life. It reshaped the way that I approached situations. I took 19 hours that fall semester and got the best grades that I had gotten simply because I was thinking outside of myself for the first time in a very long time. So this. Kim was laughing. Uh, so, yeah, this That was probably one of the bigger turning points or bigger experiences for me that really shaped the way that I go into things now in the way that I have attacked things since that are just challenges, since that time is you can be successful and you can be, um, really awesome at what you're doing. But what does it matter if you're not benefiting people?

spk_3:   25:04
I love that, and impact in the world is, I think, where everything really comes down to right. You want people to remember you. You want to make sure that you're not just here to think about yourself, but that you're making everybody around use life better. So I think those moments are extremely impact on the fact that you were put in a position like That's really thinking. I guess I'm not going in there with an open mind. But coming out with not much value, I think, really shows how impact for that moment was, and starting off with you and Caleb before you want to Syrian. I think it's great because you guys have accomplished so much being in the top of your school's accomplishing these programs, getting your doctor. It's but it seems like these moments that really tested you have been really vivid for both of you. So far, so extremely excited. Let's see, Serena, is it something similar that you've faced?

spk_2:   25:44
I feel like being on Lee, 19 and in my head, having not lived as much life as my sisters have. My experience isn't as big or impactful. I would say to where I am, but it's something that has brought me tow the person that I am today. So my a senior year of high school, I applied for the Terry Foundation scholarship, and it was a really big scholarship that not many schools offer. They were offering it at a couple of schools in Texas, and it's pretty much of a full ride scholarship to, uh, the school of your choice. And so I applied, and I made it past the first round and I was super excited. And they were doing interviews for the second round at Texas Women's University, which is about nine hours from where we live here in Old Paso. And so my parents said, Okay, let's drive over there. She lives there anyway and we'll see her and you get You'll get to interview for your scholarship. And I was so excited. I was telling everyone about it and the interview went horribly. I can't express how horrible it wind. It was not my best moment at all. It was horrible. And I went in feeling very confident because, like the was saying all through my life, people have been telling me a wow, You're so great. You're so good at school, your grades, air this. And so at my school, I felt like I was at the top. Not that I didn't need to prepare for my interview, but I just had too much confidence going in, and it was sort of a slap in the face because I didn't make it to the third round. And after driving nine hours just for the interview, I felt like I'd let not only like myself down, but my parents down. And it was a really hard feeling toe sort of cope. I guess you could say after so long of thinking that, or of having the things that I strive for, um, be scene. I guess so. Now, today, though, I'm I'm grateful that I didn't get that scholarship because I got the honor scholarship, like both of my sisters did. And that program has helped me out a lot in my college experience. And I have a job now on campus that I would never have tried to get if I was in that position. I've met so many amazing people that I wouldn't have if I were in the cherry program. And I'm just really grateful for the way my college experience has turned out despite that one dumb

spk_3:   28:52
fool. No. And this is exactly why I wanted to have you out, because I think a lot of time when we're younger, I don't think you realize, like the wisdom that you have and what you really bring to the table. And you said your moment wasn't as impactful, but I don't know if Kalen D'Angelo agree. But when you look at this and an old when you get a little bit older is gonna be kind of that crossroad that you that put you in the direction that you're in right now, and I think what that teaches you now you're not gonna go into the next moment I'm prepared. Right? So when there is a bigger opportunity on the table for you, you're gonna come ready. You're not gonna be overconfident. So I think those lessons, you might not see it as impactful as you would think. Some of the other moments happen to be entering Kayla's. But I think looking back when you get a little bit older, it's definitely gonna be a big moment for you.

spk_0:   29:33
Yeah, exactly. A Greek

spk_3:   29:35
Sweet. So, you know, you guys all once again, you guys all focused kind on those moments that were more of a failure to learn from right now what? Some mindset light there Because a lot of time life is going good. Life is going good, right? You're thinking positive with the gate. And I know as you get older than it's gonna get worse. But out of the time, you don't know how to deal with that. You don't know how to get back on track. A lot of time you've fallen so negative. Two weeks, three weeks mindset. And before you know what? A lot of times past. So what have you guys use? What kind of advice would you guys give as faras the way you're able to reset yourself and make sure that you're on a clear mind set to accomplish whatever you need, Thio. And we'll start off with the Andrew on this one.

spk_1:   30:16
Okay, um, I will give a little bit of ah anecdote here, Um, for anyone who isn't close to me. When I applied to physical therapy school, I only wanted to go to Texas Woman's Universities Dallas campus. So I only applied to Texas woman universities, Dallas campus and as many people who have gone to graduate school will tell you that is not the smartest choice to make. Um, but I knew I wanted to go there, So that's where I applied. And I kind of just held my breath for it s o. I found out just before Christmas break of my senior year that I was an alternate for physical therapy school, meaning that I was not here and teach a spot. Um, and if somebody who had been accepted chose to not go to the not go to school there than I was, maybe you know, would be offered a spot on. And so this happened right? Actor are not right after But in this in the fall of the year that I went to leader shape. So truly, truly, I think, Had I not had that leader tape experience prior to this, this experience would've crushed me. I would have given up on physical. There'd be all together. Um, I could have easily said, Well, this isn't for me. They don't want me. I'm just gonna sit back and that, You know, it's over. Um, and I really just made the decision that Okay, this is what's given to me. And this is this is the situation that I have to work with, That I'm gonna work my absolute hardest to make sure that I have the best application that they're gonna see next year next round. So I continued working. I worked to get more hours, and I told myself, I'm gonna stay out here. I'm gonna graduate, and I'm gonna stay and continue to work all through the summer. Apply again in the fall and just pick it back up next year. Um, on August, bit of the following year, I got a call that there was ah, spot open and school would star on August 24th and I said, Take me. I'm here. I've been ready for you. Let's do it. Um, Kayla, do you want to say

spk_0:   32:20
something? Yes. Can I just say I vividly remember that conversation and trick fully where you were like, I was put on the wait list and go away. Let D'Andre like, handled. The whole thing was completely different compared to the week that she used to handle things. And she was so calm and so composed and was like, I have a plan. This is what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna take it like a break free. And she looked exactly choosing to do, and it was just even though it was, like, such a hard time for her, she just handled. It was so much grace. And like, she was like, I have a plan. I'm gonna, you know, tough it out. I'm gonna do it. And it was super. It's just it's cool to hear talk about it because I was there and it's awesome, but keep going. I just wanted to add that in there.

spk_3:   33:06
Let me ask really quick. What do you think kept You're so determined. Was it because you wanted it so bad? you Just what was the reason behind you making sure that you stuck along that journey, Especially after you got that put on the wait list?

spk_1:   33:18
Yes, because I wanted it so bad. One and two. I think I was more understanding of the fact that the only thing that I could control at that point in time was me was my actions. And like we talked about before, was my mindset. So it was very apparent to me that I was presented with the choice on and I heard in your previous episode with Angel where he said, You need to make life happens for you, not to you on. And I think that was a very obvious situation where I was able to say, I'm going to make this work for me. Uh and so it really did take a lot of me allowing myself to process that instead of a lot of times when we're presented with something that we're not familiar with that unnecessarily the most desirable way were quick to act, were quick to say This is not what I want. So I'm going to act against it. I'm going to resist it, and I spent a very long time in underground Do we got on. And so I think because I took all of that in and was able to reflect upon it, um, when I was presented with this situation, I was able to approach it and say, This is this is my time to make a decision. And it is up to me to decide how I'm going to approach this. And I think that that really just came from allowing myself to reflect and process prior to one telling my family because I hadn't I didn't tell my family until the spring. I went the entire Christmas break without telling them, um so that I could come up with a plan for myself because I didn't want to present them with. This is a sad situation for me. So everybody, you know, kind of love on me picked me up, told me I needed to make the decision for myself and to make sure that I knew what I was going to do because it was up to me entirely.

spk_3:   35:15
Okay? And I think a lot of people would you need to take from that is, first of all, a lot of times. You can't control everything that happens, but you can control the effort that you put in. And I think you took ownership of that. And secondly, you're humble enough to learn from your past your humble enough to learn from the experiences that you win through once again that at that moment you're able to look at it with a clear head and realized that I put a plan in action and get you. But you'll get there eventually, so I like that experience. What about yourself, Kayla?

spk_0:   35:40
Huh? I feel like I have a lot. Um, so my current model that my friend told me, uh, fear that a friend and I were like talking about different things that you like, Say to yourself when it's, you know, shit hits of him. Um, she was like mine lately. Hers, a TTE. The time lately had been nothing last forever. And it really pissed me off when she said that actually, because I was like, what? I mean, nothing last forever. Like you work hard for these things to last forever. She's like, no, like her and I were talking about, and I mean, this really relates to my transition of here. Um, I feel like my 1st 2.5 maybe three whole years living up here like the 1st 3 when I, like, really take a step back from the big picture. I was just very unhappy. And probably 85% of that was just I was just in a bad neat about it. I don't want to be here. It's cold. It's expensive. The people are freakin route talking about, please. And thank you. Nobody appears this, please. And thank you for anything. So, um, it was it was very difficult for me. Um, my first couple of jobs. I had a really rough time, not because I was in a good worker or not because I didn't enjoy what I was doing. It was just a bureaucracy of it was, you know, not for me. Um, I had some personal issues going on. Um, it's a relationship issues going on. And there was just it was a lot. Um, I had even family stuff going on, so there was just a lot going on over the last few years and looking back on it now. And of course, hindsight is 2020 um I wish, and I and I I shouldn't say. I wish I had people along the way telling me, like, you know, this isn't gonna be for others like you're just in a rough spot right now, but in the moment, like being in it, I was like, Holy cow like this does not stop. And the worst part of it was I mean, I had everything. I had a career. I have, ah, loving president, or doesn't beat me or, you know, cheat on me or anything like that.

spk_2:   37:57
But like, it was one of those things that, like,

spk_0:   37:59
you know what? I have money like and I just was not happy. I mean, when you looked at it like that, it was like, Well, you know, I often would feel like nobody listened to me. Oh, I was just not I was not happy. Um, and so maybe, like a year ago, a little less than a year ago. Um, I just kind of had, you know, a few months where I was like, What are you doing? Like, you know, my husband. I were constantly fighting about I I just didn't want to live here and he was like, Well, how is moving from here actually going to make a difference? And after, you know, one of those big fights I really like had to sit down and ask myself, Like Is leaving really gonna make a difference? Like, is that really gonna make you happy? And I listen to a lot of podcasts and read a whole bunch of, you know, help yourself books. And it was just not working. Um, and then I kind of had somebody say to me like You're making your own problems for yourself. And I was like, What do you mean by that? They're really you don't really have problems like you're just unhappy. And I was like, Well, that's roots like I I don't know what that's Mr, but you know, and it's true, and I kind of I have. It's something that I have to work on every day, and I think that's one thing with mindset that people forget is it's not something that you just wake up and decide, Like I mean, it kind of is, but it's something you really have to practice, and you really have to work on. Um, I feel like I'm in a really good season right now, despite all of the craziness going on in the world, Um, I feel like, personally, I'm in a really good season. I feel like I just came out of a really, like, raining great season. But I learned a lot, you know, in that season, um, and I feel like the biggest thing that I have taken from a ladder is like nothing truly like nothing last forever. You're happy times aren't gonna last forever. You're really dark and rainy seasons. They're not gonna last forever. Um, it's it's always gonna change. And you can either sit there and cry and throw a fit about it. Or you can put your big girl panties on them and face it like a woman.

spk_3:   40:30
I'm curious to know, because that's the reason I wanted to touch on this. Do you think that happened because your journey, when you planned it, was to get to the doctor's degree and you got a doctor's degree and I was kind of like What's next? Because I feel a lot of time people say your purpose. Your goal has to be bigger than what you're chasing, cause you won't stay motivated. You're not gonna keep chasing once you hit it. So do you think that kind of happened to you?

spk_0:   40:52
0 4000%. I mean, anybody who's close to me have said this to like my whole life was planned to make it through physical therapy school. And then I met Paul, and he was like, You want to move up here? I was again, you know? And then it was like, Well, you know, do you want to work for this company? I have My All I had planned was was to be a physical therapist. And I mean, truly, I I still feel that. And this is, you know, clean Shea, I guess. But I am by myself when I had my therapy self, when I am my therapist self, I that is where I I find my purpose. And that is really where I I get my I feel myself up, you know, I get to help people, and they help me in return in ways that I don't think that they even know. But yeah, that's totally it. And so, you know, over these last few years, I've I've had to find myself again, you know, is more than just Kayla. The P T. Have had to find myself a CZ is I'm killing the runner and kill the weightlifter and kill the white, which is the weirdest one. So here, but, uh, but it's it's that definitely hits the nail on the head, you know, And it's It's so interesting because I think and I mean, I'm sure my sisters could echo this, too. And and if not now, in a different respect. And anybody really, especially when you're successful academically. And I talked to a lot of my friends who have either finished, you know, some type of grad program are have have had to go into a lot of higher education. There's this really weird thing that happens when you graduate and you finally have a job where you're there's, like, this void in your life, like you have you have anxiety about like, not having anxiety. You have, like it's like like you lose a part of yourself because you're so used to always having to do something, you know, and then you you get past that thing that you've been complaining about for, you know, 7 10 years and then it's like I'm done. What? You you know, uh, and so yeah, it's it's definitely That's definitely what it was for sure. And it's yeah, school.

spk_3:   43:26
So I think that's advice that everybody should take. If you are trying to plan out your life, try to make sure that you try to plan out far enough and you continue to involve yourself like a listening Find many things to do than finding new ways to stay engaged in life. Because once you lose that purpose, I think. But like you mentioned, you're gonna go through the motions. But the happiness is gonna be and you don't want to get in that in that situation. So I like that advice. So, Serena, that's going to you.

spk_2:   43:49
Okay. Still, I would say, um, I recently sort of felt a little not lost. But like when Kayla said that she started reading her Help yourself books, I started reading some Help yourself books, too, and there's one book that I came across called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel. Res and I have basically live by this book since I finished reading it in, like, one day a couple years ago, and one of the four agreements is Don't take anything personally, which I struggle with so much and just it's sort of liberates you in a way that, like the Terri scholarship thing that I was talking about earlier, I couldn't get too down on myself because they didn't make that choice because of me, because I was, ah, horrible person or because they knew me and just didn't like me. It was because other candidates were better. It was their job to pick someone good. And so I think it really helps you let go of a lot that you're holding on to. And so, like, de situation as well. She didn't feel bad for herself, and she wasn't upset at the school for not choosing her. Uh, she took ownership of their decision and she moved on, and eventually things worked out for her. So what she could I mean, she could have wallowed in that sadness and pity because of nothing but like that e she could have. But instead she saved herself those times of sadness and rose above it. And now look where she is. So I think they're a lot can be done in your life with just not taken anything personally,

spk_3:   45:53
okay? And it's great to hear that you're reading like that and mad respect. I think at your age I wouldn't be able to process a lot of the things you just did. So congratulations on that. I'm curious to know all of you guys don't have a great way of thinking. You'll have a lot of advice that you give him a lot of takeaways that I think everybody's gonna get a lot of valley from. But I'm curious to know how impactful hasn't been for you three to be sisters. And how much have you pushed each other to really grow? So we'll start this time with Serena. You've been the youngest. So on a lot of the time the pressure's on. I match more with Kayla being the oldest. I know with us it's a lot more pressure and trying to set the right example for the younger ones. But, Serena, you've got in a chance to see them grow. How has that impacted you? And how does that influence you?

spk_2:   46:38
So I know Kayla's gonna have a lot to say about this because, like she mentioned earlier being oldest. I know I've seen it from down here. Daniels was easiest for kids. Tallest, though, Uh, actually from appear against, I have the tallest. But growing up with people like Hill and Deandra is so incredible. And I am just so grateful that I have them as role models because I feel like I think about it all the time. If I were in Kayla shoes, if I were the first of all of us, I don't think that I would have been successful as she is. She is so like despite how strict my parents used to be with her, because I know that as the generations go on, sometimes they let the reins loose a little bit, and we've seen that with me. But I'm just really grateful that they turned out to be the kind of people they are because because of them, I'm the person that I am. And growing up without them was actually hard, too, because when Deandra or when Kayla left for college, I was in middle school, I think, and then when d left for college, I was also a middle school, maybe like in eighth grade. I can't do math but that's too much to think about. Yeah, when they left for Stan. I've been living here with does my parents for a long time. And so I think not living together all this time has made me appreciate them more and appreciate their struggle and their willingness to make it without the guidance of two people come before them and sort of paving the way.

spk_3:   48:36
All right, so I'm grateful. Dander. How have you seen it?

spk_1:   48:41
Goodness, uh, I could talk about this for the next hour, but all sparing the time. Um, it's been I'm so lucky. First of all, just to be in the position that I'm in, um, Kayla is the reason. Not the reason, But the reason why I think I've gotten so far as faras academics go, Um, I'm just gonna put this on record. I skipped the first grade because you're younger, but my mom wouldn't let us watch TV on. We had a chalk board in our garage, and Kayla would force me to play teeth through with her so she would teach me everything that she was learning in her classes. And I was forced to learn that, uh, so then I got to first grade and my teacher said, You know everything already so it's great, Um, and that that is just like, Boom, there's your foundation of You're going to know not only everything that she knows but then a little bit more. Um, and so being that I've had somebody that close to talk things through about two grow with toe, learn with toe fight with, um, it's just been really the biggest blessing for me because if I didn't have someone as graceful and understanding and intelligent as her, I wouldn't expect as much of myself. And then I wouldn't make it through as many obstacles in my opinion as I have without, you know, crashing and burning a time or two and then being in the middle. I mentioned earlier that I was just very resistant to change during underground. It was it was a hard time for me. It was a very close minded time for me and I I'm I fully, fully all that, Um and because of that, I have said to Serena 1000 and one times you're going into this new journey when she stepped into college and I said just Please, please, please do your best to be present. And please, please, please try and just show up and and make the effort to make friends because I did it and and it it was an experience, and I learned for mating and grew from it. But I think it was something that she needed to just kind of have thrown at her 1000 times so that she didn't make the same mistakes that I did. And I think she's doing a fantastic job with it. She is handling undergrad just beautifully and so much better than I would have expected, um, myself, too. And so I just think that it's time on Austin position. I'm grateful on both ends as well. Um, and I think that as we've gotten older, we've just gotten a lot closer to even though we're not geographically close together. Um, I feel like we just kind of have grown a little bit closer in that regard.

spk_3:   51:25
All right, Kayla,

spk_0:   51:28
I don't know. I'm not gonna cry. Thank you. Um, there's the best things that my parents gave me. Honestly, um, you know, they're both They're both my best friends in different ways. Like I, um I'm so humbled by both of them, um, serene eyes, like, so wise beyond her years. I don't like what kind of kid says that about, Like, don't take things personally. I still take everything personally, and I'm a solid 10 years older than her. You know, I would never get that advice. So, uh, you know, in my relationship with each of them is is so strong but so different. Like, um, Serena and I were just always in, like, different phases of life just by the nature of our each difference. But we still managed to, like connect. And I can definitely say that like, I mean, it's it's work on both our parts, like any relationship. But, you know, we always try to find our middle ground, and I I'm just so impressed, right by serene on her ability to to just cope with the stuff that stone at her. And I mean, she really grew up like an only child in a lot of ways. But then, you know, I'd come home and she was like my baby. And so then it was weird because then it was like she had three periods because I was like, Wait, I was not disciplined this way. I was not allowed to do these things, and I

spk_2:   53:09
was, like, wait to shake it

spk_0:   53:10
to do them. And so then she was, you know, she would get mad at me and whatever, but, um, I I I love my relationship with my little minion. And then d is my best friend. I mean, they're both my best friends, just in different ways, but like these, probably like the first person that I tell everything to. And then we take Serena and then then it's funny, But like I, you know, they both make me laugh so much. And we all talk, if not every day, like, at least twice a week, e feel like, um, I I don't I honestly likes Thank goodness that I saw them at Christmas time because especially with all the stuff that's going on right now, I keep I was telling my friends at work today I was like, I'm so bad. At least got to see them then and that we have, like, technology and stuff because I can't imagine like being away from my sisters for that, like they're just they're both so special to me and so important to me. And we're just our whole list and funniest and, you know, cute ourselves when we're around each other. And I mean, it goes without, you know, saying that like, thank goodness for my parents for making us this way. But, like, I really appreciate the fact that, like all three of us put the work that we do into, ah, relationships with each other

spk_3:   54:46
and the reason I really wanted to touch base on this is myself having to use your sister's. I think a lot of looking a lot of people can relate to how important it is for you to make an impact. And, um, I think what you guys really highlight is, well, the Times research for five people that are gonna make you level up rights five people that you're chasing. But in your family, you guys were able to create where you all kind of pushing each other, even from the youngest one to Kayla being the oldest when you know you have to constantly making yourselves rise to the next level. And I think that's been extremely impactful for all three of you. Perfect guy. So I think we're getting pretty close to the end. And I think from everything that we've talked about, we really had a chance to highlight your mindset. I think family was a big thing that we took from it. And for anybody that's trying that's listening. Take some key ways on how important that foundation is, and I packed. It was on these three ladies at a young age, kind of looking back and seeing how that was gonna create an influence, your life forward. So before we finish off, guys, I want to know what? What's your biggest advice to the people that are listening as faras, whether it's to be successful to get through the hard times, too, just anything that you might want to buy, something that you found that has really helped you along the years and we'll start off with ganja on this one in the middle. But right before we finish up, as I want to say, Thank you for having being on and being a part of this seeing you guys throughout the years and everything, I have a lot of respect for everything you've accomplished. I have a lot of respect for your parents for the great job they've done. So I'll continue to be role models for the people the people that you are and continue to influence. Because I know once people hear this lost people gonna be inspired by the story. So, Dan, you're going to go ahead and cut us off?

spk_1:   56:17
Absolutely. Um, I can't listen to you say that you appreciate us being on here without going that we're just so grateful and so proud of you. Like,

spk_2:   56:29
look at how you are gotten

spk_1:   56:31
and look at all the growth that you, um achieved and just look at what you've become and what you made. So just so completely honored to be on this and so excited to see where this project goes and how big it becomes. But all of that to say, um, piece of advice. And this is just life and mind set in general on and hopes that it will translate to success. Whatever that definition is for you. Um, I think it's very important to maintain a love full of gratitude while you're working through whatever it is that you're trying to get through. And I think that it's important um, I think that it's important for us to mention to that success looks different to everyone. Yeah, successes is not defined by one achievement. It's not defined by one degree. It's not defined by a title. Success is defined by what by you taking what you're passionate about and making it impact the world. Um, so that's my biggest piece of advice is find what you're passionate about and while maintaining a mindset of gratitude and an open mind, um, work toward growing whatever it is that you're passionate about and making it something that's impactful, because I think that that's the the greatest way that we evolved in taking it back to the title of this podcast. Um, the best way to evolve is to find what you love and run with it and be grateful for all of the obstacles on the failures and the successes that will come.

spk_3:   58:21
Yes, when it comes to the don't get caught in someone else's past. A lot of the time you get so caught up in trying toe thinking that what someone else is doing is gonna make you happy here is gonna make you successful. But I think being self aware and really taking a look at what makes you generally happy and being honest with you, so is really gonna help you figure out what you're trying to accomplish on what success truly means to you personally. So I love that advice, Kayla.

spk_0:   58:44
A couple of things. So the 1st 1 would be own your stuff. So that was one thing that I've definitely learned, Just like, what is your role in your own story? You know, sheared spending time, you know, thinking about poop. Eventually, everything's going to smell like it like that. I don't think that's what the sink says. But if you're if you're constantly, you know, finding all the bad himself, you're gonna end up in in a bad situation. And so, um, to kind of echo and to pile onto a D said, you know, make yourself happy, like find what actually makes you happy and and work for that. Um, and then the second thing is definitely nothing last round. So you're you're gonna have happy times. You're gonna have hard times. You're gonna have sad times. You're gonna have these really weird, like in between times where you're like, I I'm not quite where I like. No, I'm going to be. But I'm, like, on my way to it, um, and just try and pull out as much as you can from each time. So through the hard time, we're gonna learn something from it during the happy time. So can every single minute of it and enjoy it. Um, if you're in one of those in between times, um, be thankful for the little bit of rest because you're either going up or you're going a little dumb

spk_3:   1:0:28
s o on that wing. I mean, it's so easy to play the blame game right? And so easy to accomplish in this because of this person, because of this person, this happened. But a lot of time when we're not accomplishing something we really want, it might be our fault. And I think the moment that you're able to take ownership of that, things really start to change. And but what? You another thing that you said everything doesn't last forever. I think that's so impactful because especially right now we know this time is that it comes on in. We don't know when it's gonna come to an end. You know everybody the economy and everything struggling. But, you know, we know there's gonna be an end on end date and it's just a matter of taking it day by day and trying to take it step by step. So I think that's great advice. And Serena, what you want to finish this off with?

spk_2:   1:1:06
Okay, so I guess this is something that we hear all the time. But I always say, Always do your best. And remember that from one day to the next, your best isn't always going to look the same. And so just know yourself and know that it's okay if your best isn't as good as it was yesterday, and you can still accomplish what you're trying to do. Even if you have a day or two, that doesn't go like you thought it would.

spk_3:   1:1:38
Okay, that's great. And I think talking about that I'm always being your best. I think sometimes we get some reality checks, and I think I heard it, and all your stories was you guys kind of leveled up and then you got a reality check. They I might not be performing at the high level, right, So that happens to you in high school and college and go in your career. So I think, understanding that you might have just taken the next step and you are doing your best. It's just a matter of getting my experience is extremely, in fact,

spk_0:   1:2:00
one and the open to evolving.

spk_3:   1:2:04
Yes, that's head Life is definitely about that. I always got to continue to have your mind open. So I think that was a great way to finish this off. Guys. Three Great cheese. Three great life lessons that they gave. And once again, you guys heard from three amazing sisters, two doctors and one on her way to be one so amazing family guys with a lot of accomplishments and thank you all for listening.