Church Killers - Assumptions and Avoidance

In this months episode Andy goes into depth about one of the big church killers: Assumptions & Avoidance.
Show notes for this ep will be below.

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Show Notes:
Let’s start with a guiding scripture from Proverbs 4:7: 'The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.’

This verse reminds us of the importance of seeking understanding in all aspects of our ministry. Let’s delve into this topic with open hearts and minds."

The Power of Assumptions

Assumptions are beliefs we accept as true without proof.

In the context of our churches, assumptions can be particularly dangerous. For example, we might assume that everyone understands the church's vision or that conflicts among team members will resolve themselves. However, these assumptions can lead to significant issues such as miscommunication, misunderstandings, and ultimately, a breakdown of trust and unity within those working together.

Henry Winkler once said, 'Assumptions are the termites of relationships.' Just like termites can silently destroy a structure from within, assumptions can erode the foundation of our church relationships."

Overcoming Assumptions

To overcome assumptions, we need to focus on active communication, education, and building trust.First, we must regularly share our vision and goals with the Team and encourage feedback and questions. This ensures that everyone is on the same page.Second, we should provide clear explanations and training, making sure everyone understands their role and the bigger picture. Finally, building trust is crucial. We must create an environment where members feel heard and valued.

James 1:19 advises, 'My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.' Listening actively and responding thoughtfully are key to dismantling assumptions.There is a great illustration I often use that has a line along the top of the page and one at the bottom.The top line is expectation and the bottom is communication - The gap in the middle is frustration. The only way to close the gap is move Communication

The Danger of Avoidance

Now let’s discuss avoidance. Avoidance is the act of deliberately ignoring or evading issues.In our churches, this might look like avoiding difficult conversations, or ignoring conflicts with team or sin within the congregation.The impact of avoidance can be devastating. Unresolved issues tend to fester and grow, leading to a decline in both spiritual and relational health.

Bishop T.D. Jakes wisely said, 'What you don't confront won't change.'

Avoidance prevents healing and growth, and can lead to further division and dysfunction.

Conclusion

I’d like to leave you with a thought from Simon Sinek, a renowned author and inspirational speaker, who said,'Leadership is not about being in charge. It’s about taking care of those in your charge.'This quote perfectly encapsulates the essence of addressing assumptions and avoidance in our churches.

This approach not only strengthens the individual relationships within the church but also builds a resilient, united community that reflects the love and grace of Christ. Let’s commit to being leaders who truly take care of those in our charge, addressing the issues that threaten our unity and working together to build a stronger, healthier church.