Trisha Stetzel- Success Mindset

Trisha Stetzel’s experience in business ownership and service to others has given her the drive and expertise to collaborate with business owners and leaders to improve their systems, business acumen, and bottom line during the last 25 years. 

Trisha served eight years in the US Navy as a Cryptologic Technician, providing communications services and leading teams in the continental U.S., Japan, and Hawaii.  Upon departing the military, Trisha worked with IBM for ten years.  She managed large teams supporting End User experience, server services, web services, and a Business Office responsible for a multi-million-dollar budget. 

As a champion of all-around life-balance, health and fitness, Trisha has devoted a significant portion of her time to the wellness industry - for both humans and animals.  For the past 14 years, she has owned a local in-home pet care and dog-walking services business while in parallel providing education to both pet parents and pet professionals for the last 10 years as a Certified Pet CPR Instructor. She has achieved Elite Trainer status as a Personal Trainer, Senior Fitness Trainer, and Fitness Nutrition Specialist.   

Trisha also volunteers with Faithful Friends Animal Assisted Therapy, working with animals in Senior Assisted Living and Nursing Facilities and serves on two different Boards: Social Director, Waterford Yacht Club, and Event Director for Second Chance Pets.  

Trisha’s passion for helping others in the community and in business led her to become a leader of leaders and trusted business advisor, allowing her the opportunity to share her gift of knowledge, experience, and altruism with a broader audience.  

Connect with Trisha
https://www.linkedin.com/in/trisha-stetzel/

Transcript

Colton Cockerell: 0:04

Hello and welcome to a another exciting episode of Bridge the Gap where we're balancing life through health, wealth, business and relationships. Alright, welcome to the show everyone. My name is Colton Cockerell. And this is kind of a weird introduction because I have with me my lovely co host and our special guest today Miss Trisha Stetzel. Trisha, what's going on?

Trisha Stetzel: 0:27

Hey, Colton. I'm really excited about today's show. And, you know, we talked about doing the intro a little bit different, but I think we just kind of went with the flow. And we're just where we're at, right? So yeah, welcome, everyone. This month, this month shows are going to focus on business success for the whole month of April. And today, we're going to focus on success mindset. And better,

Colton Cockerell: 0:54

who better? Better to talk to you about mindset and Trisha Stetzel? I mean, business coach, my goodness, I am

Trisha Stetzel: 1:01

super excited. Thank you for allowing me to come on and talk about success mindset. But before we dive in, I just want everyone to know that today's segment is sponsored by Sharer McKinley Group, LLC.

Colton Cockerell: 1:16

Okay. All right now, well, thank you so much for not for getting our part sponsor there. So let's jump in. I know, you know, we don't have a lot of time. So I want to make sure we maximize the time that we have. I think the first question that I have, and a lot of people probably have, too is you hear the word mindset a lot. Can you explain what mindset is? Yeah,

Trisha Stetzel: 1:33

absolutely. So let me give you a picture, I want you to think about a mountain, right in this big mountain, you're standing at the bottom of the mountain, and you're really looking to get to the top of the mountain. And what I want you to think about is the thoughts that you have, or the language that you use. So that self talk the language that you're using outwardly. And inwardly, the way you talk about yourself, will actually drive as we move up the mountain, your feelings and your beliefs. So that talk those thoughts will drive your feelings and your beliefs. And as you climb up the mountain, those feelings and beliefs are going to drive your actions, which will in turn drive your results, right. So we're really starting at the bottom of the mountain, and the language that we use outwardly and inwardly, moving into the way we believe or feel turns into our actions and our results. So if you're standing at the bottom of the mountain, and you're using negative language, and you're talking to yourself negatively, and you're hanging around negative people, guess what that result is going to be when you get to the top of mountain

Colton Cockerell: 2:39

negativity

Trisha Stetzel: 2:40

yeah. opposite of that. If you're using that positive language, that positive self talk, you're hanging around with the right people, then you start to feel and believe that positivity, which drives your actions and your beliefs. So that's really what mindset is all about. It all starts inwardly and with that language that you use with yourself.

Colton Cockerell: 3:03

Interesting. So the whole adage about, you know, the 10 people you surround yourself with that's, you know, that's who you're going to become. That's That's true.

Trisha Stetzel: 3:10

It's absolutely true Colton. So I don't know if I've ever talked to you about this book. I tell people all the time, read the book, who is in your room. It was co authored by Dr. Ivan Meisner, and it is the best book it talks about who you allow in your room. And once they're in how in the world, do you get them out of your room if they don't belong there? Because we know that the five people you spend the most time with you become the average of so if you're not hanging around with people that are smarter, better, faster, stronger than you, you are absolutely in the wrong room.

Colton Cockerell: 3:46

That's that's interesting. I guess I was being generous with the 10. But no, five, I think five people I hang out with

Trisha Stetzel: 3:55

friends. It's okay. Yeah.

Colton Cockerell: 3:58

So I think so we understand or you've explained what the mindset is, and hopefully you have some type of infographic you can give me so I can see the mountain. But can you also tell me now, what is a success mindset?

Trisha Stetzel: 4:13

So when we, when we think about that success mindset, in a in a business setting, right, the thing that's going to be important for you to focus on is having a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset, meaning you're looking at today, here and now. And you think that that is the end all be all right? If you really believe that that is as far as you can go or as far as you can get. Then it's true. Right? But if you have a growth mindset, and you believe that you can reach that goal, attain that goal, create that vision, then you will, it's the same, right, we talked about that. I'm going to go back to the mountain, you're standing at the bottom of the mountain, and you're telling you yourself you can then you will If you're telling yourself that you can't, then you won't. So you've got to have that growth. mindset. You also need to adapt an abundance mentality versus a scarcity mentality. One of the things that we talk to our clients a lot about is Victor victim. As you can imagine the victim below the line, a little guy with the saggy head, right? He has a scarcity mentality, meaning he doesn't share. He's blaming people all the time. He's always negative, right? Where you've got positivity above the line or that abundance mindset, there's plenty to go around, you're sharing, you're collaborating your mind storming with people. And that is such a better mindset to be in if you really want growth or success in your business. Here's a good one. What if you just stopped fearing failure? Do you feel fear? Fear of failure? Most of us do? Right? in some fashion?

Colton Cockerell: 6:04

Yeah, I mean, I guess I guess I in a sense, I would mean, I feel like I'm doing a private coaching session. This is great.

Trisha Stetzel: 6:11

What if we just stopped it? What if we just stopped fearing failure and looked at it instead? As an opportunity to learn? Yeah, that's interesting, right? Creating long term visions instead of short term goals is where a lot of people get stuck. You know, that is another thing that that a lot of us may do wrong. We're just looking in the short term, what can I do in the next three to six months? What can I do in the next year, instead of looking all the way out to that vision? I want to take a vacation next year, I want to get married, I want to own a business. I want to own 12 businesses, I want my business to earn $10 million. Right? Looking out, that gives us a success mindset, because we're setting that vision out. By the way, what if I told you another great success mindset is don't be afraid to break the rules.

Colton Cockerell: 7:05

Break the rules, so you're gonna have to probably go into that one too, a little bit.

Trisha Stetzel: 7:09

Yeah. And it really is about Don't break the law. Don't break the law.

Colton Cockerell: 7:16

Thanks for the clarification.

Trisha Stetzel: 7:18

Don't be afraid to break the rules, meaning changes, okay. Don't just keep doing something because it's always been done that way. Think outside the box is absolutely okay to go outside of the norm and break the rules, right? Carve your own path, blaze your own trail. That's really what don't be afraid to break the rules is about and the last one that I'll tell you before I let you ask me another question is listen to your gut. If your gut says, ooh, yeah, don't do that. You probably don't want to do that. But if your gut says, You know what? It's scary. But don't be afraid. Listen to your gut, and go for it. Right. And if you're not surrounding yourself with people who support your be hag or your big, hairy, audacious goal, right, your long term vision, that big thing that you really want, you're in the wrong room, you need to hang around with people that support your goal, and trust your gut.

Colton Cockerell: 8:19

So and that said, I mean, again, what what you're describing sounds incredible. Why aren't more people doing it?

Trisha Stetzel: 8:27

Because it's not easy, right? It's not easy. Now listen, Colton, you and I are both people who live above the line. I know this about you, right? We're very positive people, we can typically put a silver lining around just about anything. You know, when we, when we were talking, we're talking before this call. I had some things right. I like but I'm good. We're just gonna get past it. Because I have good news too. And I think, number one, you really need to find a mentor, or an accountability partners, somebody who's going to help you stretch somebody who's going to keep you above the line. find challenging new situations to put yourself at. Think of failure as a learning opportunity, as I said before, right. So don't be afraid to fail. Treated as a learning opportunity. Keep a folder of all your successes. What if every time you started to go below the line and you were that wha wha wha guy you are able to pull out a file of all of the amazing things that you did just in the last six months, or in the last six years, however far back you want to go. But would that help you pull yourself back above the line? Surround yourself with bigger, better, smarter, faster people because they will help you along the way and pull you up back up above the line. Disconnect from things that stress you out. If it stresses you out, stop it If the person stresses you out, leave them. Right. I know that all of that sounds really easy. And I know it is not. It is not easy. But if you start to adapt one thing at a time, it gets easier down the road, but you got to surround yourself with the right people. If you're hanging around with people that are turkeys, you'll never soar like an eagle. Right? So go hang around with those eagles.

Colton Cockerell: 10:23

Yeah, no turkeys. So and and just just for our listeners, cuz I know we've talked about this a lot. But can you just explain the line that you're referring to?

Trisha Stetzel: 10:33

The above the line and below the line? Yeah, absolutely. So it goes back to my vector victim that I described right when I talk about. So I love to all of my friends know what above and below the line me because we know right everyone smile, we go below the line. So that below the line, meaning that you're really taking on that victim mentality, you're negative, you're blaming you, no matter what you do, it's all wrong. You're talking to yourself in a negative way. Right? So that is below the line. And I'm not saying that we don't go there because we absolutely do. And it's that mentality of scarcity as well. Right? I hold things close to the vest, because I'm afraid somebody's gonna steal my ideas, whatever that looks like. And then above the line is your your Victor. And that is your positive silver lining person, they probably drive you insane, because you think they're there all the time, right? Is there a positive and they live in a world of abundance, and they share and they collaborate. And that's really what I mean, when I'm talking about above the line. And below the line is, when you're below the line, be aware of it and pull yourself back to the top and create that positive space that success mindset.

Colton Cockerell: 11:52

And so let me ask because I think and I want to hit on this still, because I think this is so important, especially for, you know, business owners, what besides the, you know, keeping a folder of you know, your successes, what are other ways that you can get your mindset, right back out of the view below the line mentality?

Trisha Stetzel: 12:12

I really believe that if you take inventory, and you look internal, right, you're looking intrinsically to yourself, What are the words that you're saying to yourself, because I'm good. And I'll go back to, which is why we talked about the law of self control at the beginning, right? This amount. If you're talking negatively to yourself, if you believe negative things, and everything that comes out the other end is going to be negative. So all I'm asking people to do is shift one thing. And if you say to yourself today, here's an example. I am not a morning person, I don't like mornings, I'm terrible. In the morning, I don't like to get up in the morning, if you tell yourself that consistently, you will believe it, you will take action or none. And the result will be you don't get up in the morning, right. But if you just take one small shift, and sleep is just one of those things, right? It could be coffee or tea, I don't know, whatever, whatever the thing is, right? If you tell yourself today, maybe I'm almost a morning person, or I could be a morning person three days a week. Try it and see what happens. Right? I'm gonna be a morning person on Thursdays. When you tell yourself that you start to believe it, you feel it, you take action on it, and it becomes a result for you. It all starts with the language. Its intrinsic, right? The constraints that we have with anything, when we talk about change the constraints 80% of the time is something between your ears, it's your mindset 80% of the time you're getting in your own way. So get out of your way and make that 1% change. And you could be actually a morning person. How about that? Yeah. So you put your you play golf, right, pull it off. So if you hired a Swing Coach, and they came out and checked out your swing, and they made an adjustment, it would be a very small adjustment, I assume, right? Move your thumb or your wrist or your hip or your ankle, right one way or another. How much of a difference does that 1% that tiny little shift in your swing make when you drive the ball?

Colton Cockerell: 14:34

Oh, it's pretty significant. And Another great tidbit by Trisha Stetzel, and I

Trisha Stetzel: 14:35

it's huge, right? It's the same thing when we talk about success mindset, tiny little shifts, right? Don't try to turn your whole day upside down and say, Trisha said I need to be a morning person. I'm gonna get up at 530 every morning and work at No, stop it right, baby steps. It's all about creating that 1% shift that's going to run result in something really big, right? How much work could you do if you think you're really kind of hovering into I feel like habit actually decided you are a morning person on Thursday? Huge. forming territory, because that's kind of what that sounds like with the mind with as you're continuing this success mindset, you're having to form new successful habits. And so real quick, we've got about 30 seconds, tell me, what is the best way to form a habit? Best way to form a habit? Well, number one, you just kind of start practicing it right. So you have to decide. So that's the very first thing so decide and start practicing it. And you need to do it for at least a minimum of 21 days. 21 days is what's going to help you create that habit. It also takes that long to get rid of a bad one.

Colton Cockerell: 15:51

Trisha, thank you so much for being on my podcast just kidding. Being on our podcast. It was great having you and again hearing insight from one of our own. I'd love for you to come back. Do you mind coming back next week and hosting you

Trisha Stetzel: 16:05

know what I would love to come back next week Colton. Thank you for inviting me.

Colton Cockerell: 16:10

Well, just as a reminder, Trisha's information will be in the description lane of the podcast again, great mind, and a great friend as well. always love hearing from her. Thank you all for tuning in to this week's podcast. We're excited to hear more next week as we continue through the business success trilogy plus one. And we're gonna be talking to Coach Shawn next week, and we're really looking forward to it. So thanks again and have a great rest of your day. Thanks again for tuning into this week's podcast. Don't forget to subscribe and share this podcast with the most important people in your life. Colton Cockerell with Sharer McKinley Group, LLC is located at 820 South Friendswood Drive Suite 207 Friendswood, Texas 77546 phone number to 281-992-5698. Securities and investment advisory services offered through NEXT Financial Group, Inc. member FINRA/SIPC Sharer McKinley Group is not an affiliate of NEXT Financial Group, Inc.