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Namon:   0:02
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Rick:   0:15
the great. That's where you're at. That's where your corns, that's where I'll

Namon:   0:18
be. That's where I'm quarantine. Oh, bunch of chicks. He's just walking around doing anything. Hey, girl, are you keeping social distancing, though, right? You know it.

Rick:   0:29
Speaking of, Ah, social distancing, we're actually in the state. We're in Michigan, so we've been quarantined for what it is. It's been two weeks

Namon:   0:36
now, right? It seems like it's been about two weeks.

Rick:   0:39
Yeah, so it it's just been like a new world. You know, what I'm saying is like new things t learn and can't go outside. Well, you can go outside, but you can. I go to the store and this is like you need something,

Namon:   0:52
right, Right. That's true. I mean, for me, it's I would say, What just going out to do, like, regular stuff. I mean, basically, for rations,

Rick:   1:04
especially what it is, you gotta go get groceries. That's the only time I'm leaving the house like we need groceries like Let's go get some food, Go out, you come back And it's like all those clothes off photos in it in the washing machine and they take a shower, you know? Exactly. So my girlfriend, actually, she sent me a post that somebody had posted, and it's this Facebook page is called Cold, Cold, Red flag. Okay? And it says, recognizing relationship killers. And I had a particular post that I wanted to talk about, and I want to get your year fee back on. I want to see how you felt about it. We'll have someone

Namon:   1:40
lined sitting here. I'm ready to go.

Rick:   1:42
You got some wise. The white wine are ready. I

Namon:   1:45
don't even know it. It's it's ration. So

Rick:   1:48
that's ration. Why, Okay, so I'm gonna go ahead and read the post. It's a re posting this on our cold red flag on Facebook. So it says repost. My girlfriend of six months has been out of work for the past two weeks, and she got she just got word that she will be laid off permanently. She asked me because she moved in with me. I thought her that I'm not ready to share my home with anyone. She offered to pay half the bills. I declined. She then proceeded to ask me and could I pay her rent for her next month? Whoa. I told her that I was uncomfortable doing things that a husband should do for my girlfriend. But I told her that she could borrow $300. She says that I am wrong for not helping her out during her time of knee. And that isn't the case. In my perspective. She says that she isn't sure that we will continue that She'll continue dating me. And then he asked a question in my mind the wrong here. Or is this just another case of a woman feeling entitled? So it is quite a bit on pack in the whole thing. Yeah, son. Hema. First listener for you. Okay, It's given that situation. If you have been with a woman for six months during this time of quarantine, she got laid off and you had a place of your own and she want to come live with you. How would you handle that?

Namon:   3:09
I mean, if she might. Girls, you're gonna be with me anyway, because chances are I mean, we're already hanging out, you know, we already doing this. We're already doing that. I mean, however, we gonna have to set some some type of boundaries, because, I mean, I'm not inviting her to move in, but based on the circumstances, like, yes, she could move in.

Rick:   3:28
Yeah. So you make sure that from the very get go that it would be known that it's a temporary situation.

Namon:   3:33
No, not from the very get go. I mean, but that's That's one of those conversations after she gets settling in. You know, after we've had a couple nights or whatever, I basically looking. I'm like, Hey, so, man, what are you gonna do? You know, like, what are you gonna do? Like what do you What are your plans? You know, it's like, are you Are you planning on paying rent or really,

Rick:   3:58
I mean, so in the post. It says that she asked because she move in and she offered to pay half of the bills, and he declined. Wow. I mean, half is not a significant amount of money, you know,

Namon:   4:11
I don't present. I don't think that's worth it you

Rick:   4:15
don't think it's worth. It's

Namon:   4:15
worth it. I don't think that's worth it.

Rick:   4:18
So I mean so in normal times, I feel like that The response would be quite different, right? Like if it wasn't, ah, pandemic going on sweeping the world. People weren't in quarantine, you know, Like they said, 6.6 million people filed for unemployment this week, and then the previous week was like 3.3 million. So it's like 10 million people who recently just filed for unemployment. Right nuts. It's insane, right? So you're thinking about somebody who is in dire straits there needs somebody you've been with for six months. In this particular instance, I feel like it doesn't seem like he's quite ready to commit to her.

Namon:   4:54
Yeah, I don't know. I wouldn't say he's not quite made ready to commit. To be honest with you, I was I would say he's just not ready for that type of commitment, like I would say, that's a specific type of commitment that he's just not ready for. Not that he's not ready to commit to her. He's just not ready to let her into his space, which is perfectly fine

Rick:   5:16
I mean, it's I mean, I feel like he's there, all right? But I mean, if that if that show girl, though,

Namon:   5:22
what? You mean like her just staying there?

Rick:   5:24
I mean, sir, stand there temporarily and especially if she's talking about, like, paying half of the bills like but

Namon:   5:30
no, that's not That's not the same. That's that's not the same. That's like whether that's your girl, doesn't matter who it is. It could be your brother. Your brother could say the same thing like, Hey, you know what? I need this. But the thing is, if you're not ready to make that type of commitment, then you're not ready to make that type of commitment it

Rick:   5:48
So it's not? No, I was just saying that you don't feel like the circumstances kind of changes that a little bit.

Namon:   5:54
No.

Rick:   5:55
So I mean, like, an irregular situation. Like I feel that, but like I mean like you and like to be fair, like you don't know what the background of their situation is like the things they've gone through previously before this happened are there's a state of a relationship. But you think I mean I'm thinking about it like if I had been with somebody for six months at that point for me at least, like I know. All right, Like I'm filling this out. This is somebody I want to be with. Our someone that I don't want to be with for the long time are like, you can see yourself making a person or not in the six months paying. You know what I'm saying? You know, if you want to marry them or not. And if you're somebody that I want to marry in, this situation comes up like it's somebody that I see myself possibly marrying and we're going in that route. It's like, No way that especially in a pandemic, when when my girl needs me, she needs a place to stay. And I have place available. I wouldn't like I'm not shacking up. I mean, I've done it before, not something I wouldn't want to do again.

Namon:   6:55
You've shacked up of oranges, you know? But you've shot you shacked up before What? What? What year were you born? It's

Rick:   7:05
talking about the word. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway, So, like, that thing is like, I would be let letting known like we would have a plan like, All right, so this is only temporary. This everything gets back on his back to normal and you get back to work, and then we'll go from there, You know what I mean? Because unless we're engaged, like, I really don't want to live with a woman and I'm dating for four permanently. You know what I mean, right? No, I mean, like, everybody is different in that. Like, I mean, I know plenty of people cohabitate with their there's mates, and they're perfectly fine. But that's just not what I'm into. That's not what I'm looking for.

Namon:   7:44
Yeah, Yeah, I agree.

Rick:   7:47
So I'm thinking so So All right, so for you. All right. Six months. Middle of a pandemic, right? Right. You dating somebody for six months? They say, Hey, can I come live with you? And I pay half the bills until I get back on my feet. What are you saying?

Namon:   8:05
Um, it is temporary. Do we discuss temporary nous or

Rick:   8:14
All right? I mean, so So I mean, in the specific example, it's No, no, Think about temporary, but, I mean, you could set the guidelines like at the beginning of it,

Namon:   8:23
so I mean, you say we've been dating for six months,

Rick:   8:26
You've been dating for six months,

Namon:   8:28
so yeah, I would just basically say Yeah, of course. I mean, like I said, it's not an issue of of the amount of time it's the issue of, Let's see, like it's the issue of just the timing. So it isn't the like that the amount of time I would say whether it's six months or or however long she's gonna be there, it's just the timing. So with it being so soon and so sudden and an emergency setting, it needs to be discussed in an emergency setting like Okay, well, you know, this is temporary. You know, you can move in temporarily like, but But I'm not ready for you to move in because if you're not ready for her to move in and that's gonna cause issues for you and it's gonna cause issues for I'll drink all ready for it.

Rick:   9:16
I definitely agree. You definitely have toe set up the expectations right at the beginning, but I mean, that's like, that's that. You got to do that at the beginning of a relationship and any kind of change and you gotta kind of have a conversation about.

Namon:   9:27
Yeah, and that's what I say. Me personally, I'd be like, All right, cool. But, um I mean, I don't know. I don't honestly with me. I don't know, because I might just be like, All right, fine. Whatever. You don't mind. I mean, I'm saying, like, but I'm I'm the type of guy. If I'm with you, I like you, so I mean in my mind. Hey, I could be comfortable with you. 24 7 That's not an issue. Yeah, exactly. But if you're that guy who's like, Hey, I'm working on my space. There was a reason why they didn't move in with each other

Rick:   9:59
initially, right?

Namon:   10:01
Initially. So yeah, I don't I don't know. I

Rick:   10:05
mean, it's hard won like talking about them now, the amount of time, like six months, it's not an insignificant amount of time to be with somebody. The thing that I'm thinking of is that regardless of time, you have levels where you are as a boyfriend and girlfriend as a couple. That's different levels. Just because you've been together for six months doesn't come with a certain level. You know what I mean, you could be somebody with a short amount of time and like you because, you know, it's been people who have been with people for three months and like, after three months, they're like, Yoda is the person that I want to be with, and they know, and they've been married for years. So some So you know what I'm saying? So some people, some

Namon:   10:44
people are just

Rick:   10:46
people just No, you know what I mean? Some people know that level of relationship is stronger. I guess so. I agree. Is so, um the person who the core if, like, who posted this are reposted that had a thing to say about and I'm going to read their response. So their response is an austere since people I'm sorry and all seriousness. People don't know how to dio court. It says too often and too quickly. We can flame men with husbands and women with wife without doing any of the work or laying the foundation necessary to go from one to the other. Yes, that's it. If I don't know where I want to go with that, if you don't know where you want to go with this woman and then and parentheses, and it sounds like you don't. Then you should be clear about that with her, and you should probably stop sleeping with her until you do know. Yes, I said, I'm sure you've test driven by now, so put the car back on the lot until you're ready to pay for it. It's pretty clear to me that what her idea of being a boyfriend means and what yours is is not the same. Totally different. I mean that to a point like that just sums up like a lot of my thoughts on that whole situation. If I don't if we're in the middle of a pandemic. We've been together for six months, and I don't want you to move in with me, and I don't think we should be together.

Namon:   12:12
I don't think that's it, though.

Rick:   12:14
I mean, for me. I'm saying that if we're not at that level where it's like I don't feel comfortable enough to let you come stay with me temporarily,

Namon:   12:22
I mean, and

Rick:   12:23
I feel like for me, it's time for me to say good bye

Namon:   12:26
is perspective. His perspective, I mean, because you could be, you know, It just depends on the conversation. There could be reasons why you want that temporary stuff. Or it could be reasons why you want her to stay, or I mean, think about it. The opposite. What if, you know, she wanted it to be temporary. But then you end up wanting it to be, like a for everything.

Rick:   12:47
Yeah. I mean, so I mean, it's that's crazy. I feel like is about establishing what is expected at the beginning. Like, Hey, this is gonna be for, you know, three months or four months or to The pandemic is over and everything gets back to normal. You get back on your feet, I'll give you, you know, two months to save up, and then you gotta move back out. I mean, whatever it is, however you feel about it, I feel like that needs to be discussed Before anything was agreed upon. The thing that got me is that he was like, No, you can't move in. No, I can't pay your rent, But you can borrow $300 like that. Kind of sound like a slap in the face

Namon:   13:23
a little bit.

Rick:   13:24
But it's like you can power you got about $300. It's like, You know what that reminds me of. Not only did I cannot get a chance to spit it but Carly and told me I could

Namon:   13:32
buy tickets exactly I mean, is it? That's what I think. That's fair, though. It's like he's allowing, he's giving the help. And I mean six months for a lot of people is not that a lot of you know, it's not a lot of time in half a year.

Rick:   13:46
It depends. It all depends on the person and the situation that people like. I was like, You really don't know what their situation is. And maybe he's already seen things, too, where she has tried to put him in a position that he's not ready to be in yet. He's not mature. If our relationship isn't there yet, so on that side of it, like maybe he's not ready,

Namon:   14:05
there could have been an instance where that was something they had already discussed.

Rick:   14:09
I could have known that he could feel like she's using this to her advantage, to try to do something that she wanted to do all along. Yeah, it's possible, but we never know exactly. So my question A follow up question I have for you. So how would you feel if the situation was reversed? You have been with someone for six months, and you ended up losing your job. And you can't pay your rent. You're gonna have anywhere else to stay. And you asked your girlfriend, could you stay with her? And she said no. Even though you said you would help with half of the bills, she said you could borrow $300. How would you feel if you're on the opposite? And would that would that be a rat for you? Are you

Namon:   14:47
not at all because the thing is, I mean one thing. A personal person's personal preference is their personal preference. So it's not for me to take it personal, basically. So if she has whatever reasons, whatever believes why she doesn't want to think cool. I get it. I mean on and she let me brought 300. So I was like, That's not an issue like you already helping out. You're helping out, and it is basically not saying, and this goes for the other one, too. It's like I'm not saying no, I don't want to help you at all. I'm saying this is how I'm going to help you. I can help you. And this is how I can help you. I can't help you that other way. But I can help you in this format, which is monetary at that point, which is still good. I mean, that's still great help.

Rick:   15:30
Yeah, but, I mean, I know that's tough.

Namon:   15:32
What about you?

Rick:   15:34
If it was reversed, I mean, so for me, I feel like I'm I feel like we do think alike differently from a lot of people. I won't be insulted, but it would make me seriously question the seriousness of the relationship that I'm in. If after six months, we don't, we can't. Sarah space. Like, if I may need you can't help me. You're after six months that tells me that you're not sure about me are even vice versa. If it was me that tells me that I'm not sure enough about you and that probably chances are like coal red Flack says, is that maybe you need to put the car back on a lot. So at that point for me on either side, it might might be time to put the brakes on.

Namon:   16:15
I could see that. I could see that. But like I said, depending on what the discussion was at that time, that's basically depending on what it waas. You know what I mean? Like this. It would've had to been some type of discussion that would either say, Hey, this is why I can't do this, you know? I mean, if she was just or he was just like looking at Nam, I'm a G 300 u K moving we good on that, then that's what

Rick:   16:40
I mean. Is Farrah supposed? Did he just say he wasn't comfortable?

Namon:   16:44
Well, the Nazis not comfortable that you can't fault a man or woman for not being comfortable. You can't fault anybody for not being comfortable. That's the whole no means. No thing. I think that should apply there, too. It's like he's not. He's not comfortable with it. No means no, you do good.

Rick:   17:01
I think that goes into intentions, too, if I see you with somebody that I'm about to marry, all right, I'm going to marry on plan in the mirror. We're going towards marriage, and that comes up, then I'm already kind of in that role where it's like, I'm gonna do everything I can to protect you and make sure that you prosper. I trust you. And okay, like, this might not be a long time thing, but hey, come on over this. Figure this thing out temporarily and then go on from there. But it's not like I know you can brought the honey. I feel like that's just asking the break up right there.

Namon:   17:31
I don't think I like. I said, I see a different simply because I'm like, Hey, the help is there. If you tell anybody hey, you can browse 300 like Hey, you can browse through, honey, I'm gonna help you out. You know, I just don't feel comfortable with you moving into my space right now. I mean, you know, I mean, you could easily say that without that being like a butthole like I don't feel comfortable,

Rick:   17:51
That's cool. But I mean, like, when leg. So why now? When she's sleeping on homeless couch or something like that? You know what I'm saying? And you go, you go to see her and you're expecting to get some lovey dovey, and she lying. Ah, you can borrow the kiss like I mean, like, I don't know how that dynamic works. After that,

Namon:   18:07
I would say I would say that, Steve, The thing is, there's there's more than the story that we're not getting.

Rick:   18:12
I mean, I'm sure it iss

Namon:   18:14
because, I mean, you'd have to ask that question. Well, if you have no place to stay where you gonna go? I guess she said she absolutely has no place to stay. And

Rick:   18:21
that's more of an issue, right? If you if she has nowhere to go, she's about to be on the street and you say

Namon:   18:26
no. But if she can go stay with her mom's. Okay? Go stay with your mom. What do you think, E? But I know it sounds kind of messed up, but if I'm saying, if you're not comfortable, then yes, she could stay with her mind. But if she got no spot to stay, then yes, she can come over and stay. But, I mean, you would have to make sure that in that case that you said it was temporary.

Rick:   18:45
Yeah. Yeah, for sure. I mean, I feel like it is a lot of unknowns that could change the way that I felt about the situation in one way or another. But without knowing those, we just got to go off of the surface level part of the conversation, right? I mean, speaking, speaking of this whole thing is funny. Six months, six months, right? Right. My my perspective has always been like until I'm engaged. Like I do not wanna cohabitate permanently. Like so weekends are fine. Like, come over for the weekend, like I'm all houses. Come on, come over. Um, stay with me and then, you know, like, you go home. All right. So I remember a situation that I was in, and it's probably like we have been together for maybe six months. Wanna happen? It was a, uh my girlfriend at the time she was staying with me. Are She wasn't standing me. We were dating.

Namon:   19:29
She was staying

Rick:   19:31
right. And she, uh she We used to be over on the weekends and sometimes, like it would be like on Monday. And it's like I would be going to work and she won't have to work so later. So I was like, Here's my key. You know, it is giving Mikey, When I

Namon:   19:42
see, that's I'm sorry, but that's just stupid in itself. You don't want a white coming in your house and standard don't give him a key.

Rick:   19:48
I mean, you look so it's like we were together, so I didn't think much of that. Like, I see you later, I get my key, right? So I mean, like, as far as it went like, it always is one. When I got back, I would get my key bag. So it was one particular time I didn't get my key back and I really think anything of it. And I wasn't really a big deal. You fast forward down the line, like one day I was looking at my and one of my guest room, the guest room's closet, and open up the door. And some of my hangers have been missing and demanded. I put him in another closet, opened up the door, and there was a closet full of clothes. And that was all of her clothes. Yeah, and, um,

Namon:   20:26
that sounds like a lot.

Rick:   20:27
Then I had to think about it for him, and I was I was the last time she went home.

Namon:   20:32
She has no home

Rick:   20:34
and long story short like she had moved in with me and I didn't even realize it. Yeah, and that was

Namon:   20:40
that was that Was that, like the one of the straw that broke the camel's back?

Rick:   20:44
I mean, we ended up being together for a while after that, but, you know, for I feel like I should have spoken up and spoken my mind Maur because I let it happen in by letting it happen and letting it continue. That's like me accepting insanity. It was okay,

Namon:   20:59
yes, that I was gonna say after a while, If you don't say anything and we go by two weeks, go by, it's almost like she's fine with it. I don't blame her word for it all.

Rick:   21:07
I mean, so the thing was, it was like resentment from my end, because if you're moving into my house that I say that to buy and that's I decorated about every piece of furniture, it needs to be some kind of type of conversation before use is coming to my spot. And it was never that kind of conversation. Yeah, and that right that I

Namon:   21:28
wasn't out keys,

Rick:   21:29
Not I wasn't coming But it was like it was a temporary thing. And it's like, I wouldn't mind having to keep it. Don't come over like unless you telling me that you're coming over,

Namon:   21:37
all right? Was she not there when you weren't there?

Rick:   21:40
So the thing is, we work different shifts. So I worked, like more of a typical shift, So I would be at work by, like, you know, 7 30 and I'll be back by five. But her her job, she would go to work in, like, two and get off in nine. Wow. You know what I mean? So, yeah, it was this a whole different things. So it's like sometimes you wouldn't even realize that I saw her for our and she was actually at my house or I woke up and she was there, you know what I mean? It was something that just didn't equate right away. But when I figured it out, I didn't really address it the way that I should have and bye bye. I allowed it to happen, so I mean, I put that on me, and I don't put it all on her, but I'm just saying it did cause a lot of resentment. It's like you're just gonna move into my house without asking me, like you don't get invited like So

Namon:   22:23
you're saying you're saying that was more or less percentage of the reason why you no longer talk to her?

Rick:   22:30
I feel like that was definitely part of the reason.

Namon:   22:32
Yeah, because it's good customer. I mean, at least you can assess it.

Rick:   22:36
I mean, like, how? How do you feel like how do you feel about living with the person that you're dating?

Namon:   22:41
I don't think that's what I said. It just depends on the situation. If we've discussed Hey, we want to live together, then cool. But I mean, I like my space just like anybody else does

Rick:   22:50
and something about having your space, especially for people like as we come from a big family and you know, like I'm or like we're more in the middle of the age groups. So it's like it was always a ton of people and never we never really had our own space growing up. So it's like to have your own space like your personal sanctuary. It's like just something that's your

Namon:   23:11
sanctuary. I mean, like sanctuary is that what it is that gave

Rick:   23:15
your home? Is your sanctuary

Namon:   23:16
willing? Your dwelling

Rick:   23:18
you're back. Hey, like the whole house is your man cave? You know what I mean? It's just something about having your own space and having somebody come in without permission. Kind of I feel like that left a lot of resentment, you know, And it made. And it made it harder to separate two because it's like, for I feel like we might have would've broken up quicker if it wasn't like, man, if we break up, it's gonna be inconvenient because she got a mover stuff, you know what I mean?

Namon:   23:42
And I think that's important for people to actually to note like, Hey, if it's an issue, say it's an issue at the door at the very no, don't. Don't wait until you come in, sit on the couch and have some beers. Say it's an issue at the beginning.

Rick:   23:56
Yeah, on. I just We just never had that conversation, so that just was never said Well, we mean, But, you know, I've learned from that definitely, definitely, if that if that would happen again. But if I was in that situation now, I don't know

Namon:   24:11
if it if it were to happen again, it ain't gonna happen again. But we were happening

Rick:   24:15
because it's not gonna happen again, because I would speak up like, No, you need to go home.

Namon:   24:19
You nip it in the bud,

Rick:   24:20
right? Right away. No doubt about it, right? I mean I mean, you filming All right.

Namon:   24:26
Oh, of course, I'd like to say I feel the same way. I don't like because at that point, you're basically being forced to do it. It's no question of that. You're being forced and you don't want to say nay or yea, because you feel like if you say no to look at you a certain way and it's like, Well, I'm already here. Why didn't you say that last night when you were doing these nasty things to me? And then if you say yeah, you know, you can do this, then they'll abuse it and may not, you know, accept it for what it actually is.

Rick:   24:54
I mean, so yeah, but like I said, I remember those times where we where the conversation came up and she was just like that. Silly, Like we're growing like, Why would I move out? That's like going backwards in the site thing. Is

Namon:   25:04
that scary?

Rick:   25:05
Yes. So the thing is is like, No, it's not going backwards. This is my space and you never I never invited you into my space to live like you invited yourself. And I were in a situation,

Namon:   25:15
right? That's crazy. I'm honestly, like I said just at the door, Talk about it at the door. If you got a problem with it, said at the door, you know e mean that I'm saying, like the minute she would have took my keys. I've been like, Look, this is for this and this is for this, like if we're not discussing it because she would do the same thing, it's like I would feel like a creeper pulling up to somebody house, you know? I got the keys. They don't know I'm coming. It's just weird.

Rick:   25:40
And it is for you.

Namon:   25:42
I mean, unless that's like something. Y'all okay with pages, pop up, pop up, pop up. But you don't live here. You don't you don't live here

Rick:   25:49
exactly. I think

Namon:   25:50
that's the dynamic. I think that's the difference in the dynamic.

Rick:   25:53
I felt like now like, um, So since the quarantining started, like when it was even a possibility, I talked to my to my lady and I was like, Hey, like we end up here in quarantine. I want you to come stay with me because I don't give us, you know, it's gonna be like two or three weeks like I just want us to be together like she has her own place. I have my own place, but it's like, Hey, we both have our own places. I just want us to be together so that we could spend time together like already, know, like, I want to marry this woman, and that's what we're working toward. So I feel like it's a different dynamic already like knowing and me inviting her in. Then, like if somebody from the other situation where somebody just invited themselves and we never had a conversation about it, So, you know, quarantine bay or not, it has been a lot of funny means coming out of it, you know, like quarantine and chill.

Namon:   26:40
Yeah, but you're not horning Team Baker and all

Rick:   26:44
Corby in quarantine Beheira? Not exactly. You know what I was gonna

Namon:   26:47
get you a quarantine bay. That's not expensive.

Rick:   26:50
What does that mean? You're painful. Quarantine bags over there.

Namon:   26:54
You pay, you pay for quarantine base. Always gotta pay for them. Quarantine, baby.

Rick:   27:02
That's funny, man.

Namon:   27:03
I guess a guy would go into any situation. I would say Just discuss whatever it is up front, that's what any situation. Discuss it beforehand, Okay, Because you may find out they don't like it the thumb or they could be the living situation

Rick:   27:19
where you're going with this analogy might

Namon:   27:21
say, I'm saying it could be either or my wine is kicking in. So the flavors, the flavors that I'm kicking is his own point. I'm just saying, make sure that you are both comfortable and on the same page before he I

Rick:   27:35
mean, I always say it like going to a relationship being clear on what you want out of the relationship on what you're expecting out of the relationship. Because if those two things, if if what you're expecting, what you want doesn't match up with what the other person is expecting, what they want. I think you're kind of at an impasse already at the very beginning. Don't be with somebody for three years. And that person I want to get married and you do. And you will not talk about it exactly. I just just makes it so much easier to know from the very beginning. I agree. You know? So what I said, we'd like to thank you for listening. As always, to be a part of conversation. You can find us on Facebook, instagram and Twitter at recon. Name it. Please be sure it's a like and subscribe to the show on your favorite podcasting. If you really enjoy it, why don't you share with a friend? You know, convince? It's on social media job of mine. It's something like that, right? You say? Well, one friend, right? Right.

Namon:   28:29
She would share with your boobs. Share true shit. Share records, say right. With your quarantine bay,

Rick:   28:37
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Namon:   28:42
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Rick:   28:54
forgetting your handle? That's funny. Well, until next time, boys and girls remember,

Namon:   29:00
there's always a next time