Rick:   0:00
this relationship talks with Rick and name and

Namon:   0:02
Omri and I am the deejay Blue and he's name and I am the deejay blue. So naming yourself,

Rick:   0:09
remember that when I was in my twenties,

Namon:   0:11
I was Do you think that's funny? You always reminiscent when you start? I remember when I was five years old. I remember six decades ago when I was with Melinda, while six days ago, however, I'm like five minutes older. Adel's whatever learn anyway, back in the day when you were young United kid anymore, just keep saying the song What's the rest of the So

Rick:   0:44
anyway, when I when I was younger, I was in my twenties. I was

Namon:   0:48
dating one person. Hopefully, you can tell me, and like most of my swings, I was with the same. That's what I Okay, so, um, when I finished, when we broke up like I was in my thirties and, you know, a decade has and things were really different from

Rick:   1:04
the last time I had dated. So instead of being in college and I was out of college on meaning people was a little bit different back in the day when I was in college. You could just

Namon:   1:16
meet people at college. You didn't have to go on after anything. It's like it was more. I mean, Internet dating was a thing, but it wasn't. The biggest thing is, so it was like I came into this world like, Oh, how do you meet people in ours and the belt and everybody? Nobody talks the

Rick:   1:34
same way. And I wasn't in any club or anything. So I entered whose to, um, you know, the app economy of, ah, dating gaps. Yeah. And, you know,

Namon:   1:45
what was the first data nephew used?

Rick:   1:47
I think the 1st 1 I went was maybe Bumble. Okay, Bumble and like, Tender.

Namon:   1:54
This is after your relationship

Rick:   1:56
did this after a 10 year relationship. I was in my thirties. I mean, I still am. I

Namon:   2:01
have to say, you got to confirm what I was saying. I was in my thirties at this time. That was 10 years ago.

Rick:   2:08
Yeah, I'm still in my thirties. But like, you know, I was It wasn't in my twenties anymore. So it was like me learning a brand new thing. And you know, you when you signed up for a dating app, you gotta fill out like a little bit of information you put put pictures up. And my information?

Namon:   2:24
Basically, how long is your body parts? Hardly long enough, are you? Why are you small? What? What? Do you breathe hard When you come down the stairs

Rick:   2:37
and stuff like that? I don't know what actual what happens.

Namon:   2:41
Farm is only dot

Rick:   2:42
com farmers always e no, that wasn't Christian mingle.

Namon:   2:47
We got Italy might be heavy. Sit.

Rick:   2:52
But, you know, so things that really changed and the thing that I really realizes that the way that I was looking at dating had changed so much from when I was in my twenties. Because when I was in my twenties, even though I was in a long term relationship and, you know, I thought I was gonna get married to that person, but it didn't work out. But when I was in my twenties, I wasn't really looking like I wasn't like, let me find a wife right now. You know what I mean? So the difference when I when I started dating again back in my thirties, I my thirties now. So when I started dating again after,

Namon:   3:23
just tell everybody man. Just tell everyone you You are actually 45. Like, just tell everyone

Rick:   3:29
secretly, I'm actually 45.

Namon:   3:31
Just tell everyone like you got this huge secret. You know, when I was in my thirties, Um, it's like, Do just tell everyone the truth, man. So been around longer than most of the, Like what? Sixties? Like G.

Rick:   3:47
So, um, when I when I got back to it, it wasn't that so much that David had changed, but dating had changed. But my my has to change. My mind set had changed because I was looking for something completely different. I wasn't looking for somebody just to have fun with I was looking for. I was really looking for somebody settled down with I was on a course

Namon:   4:06
hold again. So what has been your life with?

Rick:   4:08
Yeah, also, I was more so dating with the purpose more so than I did previously,

Namon:   4:14
right? So you were dating with a purchase your as you did in your 10 year relationship. I

Rick:   4:20
mean, I want kind of became a purpose, and I want to talk about that a little bit, but, you know, it's the difference. Have you ever noticed the difference between dating with the purpose and dating without a purpose.

Namon:   4:31
Absolutely sticking it in because you want to sticking it in because you have nothing better to do.

Rick:   4:37
That sounds like the same thing.

Namon:   4:39
Is it kind of crap? I guess you're great. Wait, let's see dating with a purpose and dating without sticking it in because you want to and then sticking it in because is the same thing. I would probably say it the same way.

Rick:   4:53
Your very special

Namon:   4:55
t say it the same way. Either way, it goes on to say it the same way. That's terrible, man. I'm a terrible person.

Rick:   5:05
So naming. Do you understand what dating with a purpose means?

Namon:   5:08
Obviously not. I mean, I guess. And I e I mean pretty much based on what I just said. That it Let's see. Let's see if I could think we're gonna

Rick:   5:17
break it down for me,

Namon:   5:18
all right? Dating with a purpose. Now, if I was to be the type of guy to date without a purpose, okay, I would probably say I would be just boning pretty much anybody that I came into contact with. Okay, But let's see everybody. You deposed tohave. I'm about to get deep for you was on a roll. Okay. If I was dating without a purpose, that means that I'm legitimately just shooting my cept er eyes. That what it would be called like it because the magic wand don't know shooting my scepter in each direction. I don't feel

Rick:   5:58
like you got to shoot us up there, but

Namon:   6:00
if I'm a wizard, I don't know what I don't know. I don't even know what if wizards care receptors. Is that a thing? That's the thing. I

Rick:   6:06
don't know anything about it,

Namon:   6:07
right? We're just going to say this analogy is wizardry. Okay, If I'm a wizard, I have a want That means I'm just putting my wand legitimately on any other female wizard, Harry. But I find right any other female wizard. I'm putting my Harry Potter honor. Thank you. I'm putting my Harry Potter on everybody. I

Rick:   6:27
hate that. I contributed in

Namon:   6:28
that, but And when I shouldn't say but as well as, um, I'm just constantly casting magic spells with everybody I come into contact with. It is just magic spells. And I'm just doing the magic spells because hey, I love magic, whatever. All right. But if I was dating with a purpose, I would Onley be doing spells for those wizard women that I found to be magical. What I'm saying there would only be a few spells. You get a couple one now it's with the tree. I don't visit tree. It's

Rick:   7:03
all the confusing me. So I'm gonna break it down for you. So whatever. So basically, let me break it down for you. So if you're dating without a purpose, then you're just kind of dating with no intent per se.

Namon:   7:14
That's what I say,

Rick:   7:15
right? Right. But when you're dating with a purpose, you're dating with the purpose of possibly marrying someone or

Namon:   7:21
somebody into a

Rick:   7:23
was throw. Our life partner,

Namon:   7:26
right? Exactly. Said the same thing.

Rick:   7:28
It's that what you meant, which was that's

Namon:   7:31
exactly the same thing I said. That's what you

Rick:   7:33
That's what That's what that equated to.

Namon:   7:35
Because you're not doing magic with everybody. You're just doing magic with one specific person. And the the goal is to make your magic stronger with that person. Okay, Just you see that? I

Rick:   7:46
guess I just think that analogy I'm sorry.

Namon:   7:48
Thank you. Said I'm saying is the difference between strengthening your magic and working on your magic and making your magic stronger than just doing magic everywhere just to do magic? You know, there's no personal love, magic magics beautiful magic is like Love is something you can't love this but it's it is it is. Love is magic because it's something you can't see. It's something we believe in. It's just it's beautiful in itself. It's really beautiful because it can play tricks on your life.

Rick:   8:19
Love can play tricks on your life,

Namon:   8:21
period poo. I

Rick:   8:22
knew I was coming. That's like a drinking game, People. If you're following along at home, whenever he says period pool does Go ahead, take a shot.

Namon:   8:32
I take a step, period. Poopy! Poopy! Poopy people! Period, Pool Everybody drunk! Get him smashed.

Rick:   8:41
So intentional dating. So when you're intentionally dating, what are you looking again? From a relationship? What is intentional? Dating for you? Like what would it So 11 Number one. Are you intentionally dating right now? Are you dating with intent?

Namon:   8:55
Um um um um No, I'm not dating at all because I'm quarantine. Nobody wants me. I'm a bear man. No, I've shaved a little bit, you know, I keep myself meeting nice. You know, I got to do that because I have to look at myself in the mirror, but no, I wouldn't say I'm not dating at all, but I went out once. I do start dating and getting back on the quote unquote seen, my goal is to date with a purpose.

Rick:   9:26
What's the purpose of your dating?

Namon:   9:28
The purpose is to find someone to create a bond with you, create a relationship with to create, You know, something better than single life, you know? I mean, because in my opinion, single life you can date a lot of people and still be single.

Rick:   9:42
So are you looking for someone to Mary? Possibly.

Namon:   9:46
Absolutely. I'm too young to just be looking for people to smash. That's that's old. I mean, I think

Rick:   9:54
you said that Backers you to go to just be looking for people to smash. Is that what you mean?

Namon:   9:58
I'm too young. Does a too young.

Rick:   10:00
You said to young? Yeah,

Namon:   10:04
my words were jumbled. I'm too young not to be looking for people to smash. But what? But what I was going to say is I am also to go toe, have that on my list of dating priorities, he said. I'm Sachin is exactly that's That's a silly priority. I can play with my own. Squishy. In the rocky words of Andre 3000

Rick:   10:28
3000 players,

Namon:   10:29
I couldn't I could play with my own squishy and and realistically, you know, I want to be more attracted to somebody without the sexual aspect. So if if if I am just attracted to you sexually, that's all it's good for is gonna be, is gonna be just me trying to get in those pants and that's it. And that's it. That's not sustainable. It would be nice being that I'm a Scorpio. Apparently, we're just, you know, dirty dogs. I've heard some things which they are line correctly, some of those things that so I'm not a dirty dog and say, I mean, I'm clean and I wouldn't consider myself an animal by any shape we're talking about right now. Aussaresses.

Rick:   11:13
So you said you were a Scorpio and Scorpios are apparently

Namon:   11:16
score. Bills are Scorpios aren't animals. They happen to be amphibians. OK, so I think they're water animals. Whatever, Richard. Whatever. I'm not here to be your I'm not here to be your your animal, Nala, Gist. Whatever the bottom line is, you know that if that was the case, that that would that would be the case. But it isn't, you know, But I want something more. I want something meaningful, You know, it's there's not much time. And the thing is, I'm not looking to date someone who only wants that, you know, because I want a lot more. Exactly. I need a lot more. We all need a lot more. We need just more than just a flick of the bean.

Rick:   11:58
A flick of the bang. I would ask you to explain that, but I feel like a

Namon:   12:01
period pool. No, it's not.

Rick:   12:04
What's if Licata being sir?

Namon:   12:06
Okay. On the vagina. Okay. China, you. I was trying to help, you know, try good. Really?

Rick:   12:17
We're gonna leave that one right there.

Namon:   12:19
I could I could explain. Really? PG,

Rick:   12:22
Trust me. It's fine.

Namon:   12:23
Let me pizza. That's

Rick:   12:24
okay. So you know when when you're intentionally hitting things matter way more than they would if your temporary dating. So if you're looking for if you're looking for temporary bay like some questions that I was asking when I was looking for temporary very is like, Oh, is she cute? Oh, can I have for her? Oh, you know, like it's to see someone that I can take out. Can I take around people? Can she meet people? Can she had Or so I mean, you know what? Honestly, sometimes it didn't even matter. She can handle herself because she went by the meat. Nobody hurt, right? But when you trying to find that permanent bay, things get a

Namon:   12:58
little bit is a little bit different

Rick:   13:01
things that matter matter. Ah, a lot more than used to. And, you know, course when And then when I got back on the dating train, that was one of the things that really like shocked me because I was looking like, you know, like, I was wondering if oh, does she have a degree? You know, like a degree kind of matter.

Namon:   13:20
That was one of your That was one of your takeaways.

Rick:   13:22
I mean, what? It wasn't a take away, but it was more

Namon:   13:26
snow. I'm saying I'm saying is that one? It was that one of the things that you would have been like, Well, does she have a degree? If she doesn't, then that's gonna make you. You know, being less interested is what I'm saying. I

Rick:   13:36
mean, yeah, less interested, depending because I mean, degree doesn't necessarily mean everything, but you know, is more so. Do you have something going on in your life? Are you building toward something that you have goals? Do you have a five year plan? You know what I mean? You have a good credit score. Do you still like? Are you living with your mom? If you live with your mind, can you move out if you wanted to. The department, like all of those kind of things. Do you want kids? What's your religion? What are your religious views? If we have to think how we were

Namon:   14:03
talking about that before we talked about that before because we were talking about how it's age, and that's that's what I was saying. It's ages like we've We've done the silly stuff. We've had an opportunity to do silly stuff and me personally, I used a small window, and when I say a small window, I took a small amount of time to do stupid stuff. If that makes any sense, No. And I learned from the dump stuff and I realized immediately that that's not what I want it, that I couldn't do that. You know, I had to have a lot more in order to even have a relationship there. So it's like, Yeah, you really can't. You have. I have to have a purpose. I have to have a purpose. I can't. I can't. I just have to have a purpose. It has to be something else.

Rick:   14:51
So that's something that I used to think of it, like dating in my twenties versus my thirties. But then, you know, I start to really think about it. And we both know people in their forties and fifties that still daylight

Namon:   15:03
left of your peers

Rick:   15:05
most of my peers way. No people that are older, both of us. We won't say their names, but we know people who are older who are still like running around with no intentions of marry anybody. But they're just out there.

Namon:   15:19
But I think, honestly, we have to look at the statistics of those particular people. Okay? All right. I think about it like this. I think for us. We weren't really sheltered. We actually could doom. Or But we didn't want to because of our upbringing. Okay, you know, maybe those particular people, they were in a structured situation where they couldn't do anything. And the thing is, they did have those bounds. So when they had an opportunity, they did break the rules. And then when they got older, it just became, like, a situation where they constantly did it and constantly did it. We didn't have that. Our parents, while they structured and basically kept us hidden from the frickin world. They didn't have to worry about us doing anything so outlandish that it would cause us pain or cause them pain. They didn't have to worry about those things, You know, we weren't We weren't ever like me. Personally, I don't know about you, but I think I think it's similar. Like I was never put on punishment. I never got a weapon. I

Rick:   16:20
don't think I maybe 54 maybe three times I got a weapon.

Namon:   16:25
You see what I'm saying? So is that less than a long time? Because you're, like, 40 something, So I'm not. Will you look at that when you look at that statistic. You look at that statistic you can count on three fingers. You know how many times that you had to be disciplined because I keep you in line? Me personally, I have not had that. I just didn't have the goals to just go out and just, you know, do stuff. I had an opportunity. I took it, figured out it wasn't for me, moved on

Rick:   16:54
understanding the whole topic, you know, like it has more to do it Asian. I think he even has more to do with, um, more to do than being shouted or not, I think is Maura about intentionality? Like, what are your intentions? What do you plan on doing? What do you want to achieve out of life? Because if I wasn't trying to have a family, you know what I mean? If I wasn't trying to build ah, generational wealth and and all of these things that I'm trying to do, it really wouldn't matter. You know what I mean? If I got married or not, I could do whatever I want, right. But I have goals and I have things that fulfill me. And I won't be able to be fulfilled fully. I feel like in my life, unless I find unless I'm married, you know what I mean? Unless I get married and have kids. So that's something that it's a it's a goal of mine. It's an intentional goal. Everybody don't have a go. Everybody does. Everybody is not built for marriage. Everybody doesn't want to get married and it's not the wrong with that. But you've got to really be no, no, yourself. And I felt like that has a lot to do with whether or not you're gonna date where the purpose or not,

Namon:   18:00
Almost certainly it most. Certainly. If you don't know yourself, you do. You don't know your purpose like for me. I think it took me a while, but I finally learned where I'm supposed to be in. You know those types of things. If you can learn where you're supposed to be and what you want out of life and and learn that things that actually can gain you success, peace and happiness, then you're on that that path so you can look for somebody with the purpose. I think it would be almost unfair to say Hey, I want to find somebody with a purpose, and you don't have a purpose.

Rick:   18:30
I mean Oh, that's that's like, That's an excellent point, man. Like, you really gotta be on point. You can expect somebody to be on point if you're not on point, are working towards us, Debray. You can

Namon:   18:42
be like how you got to be

Rick:   18:43
stable. But I'm not stable,

Namon:   18:45
right? You got to be stable. But, ah, I live with my grandma because me and my mom's fell out,

Rick:   18:52
man. So I mean, this thing is that you that you want to do toe get to that point Because, I mean, if you want to get married, it's not. I mean, get married is expensive, bro. Fat. I mean, you think about it. You get married. It's like it's a ring is awaiting. Weddings are expensive.

Namon:   19:10
Mayor, you have rings with the rings, and the wedding is the least expensive.

Rick:   19:15
You think so? What's more expensive than the redwood over

Namon:   19:17
everything else? The life, the relationship? I mean, you gotta understand. Like the ring of relationship is the cheapest thing When you think you're bringing a little perspective, huh?

Rick:   19:29
You said new ring gonna wedding you may be right.

Namon:   19:31
That's what I said.

Rick:   19:32
You say relationship.

Namon:   19:34
The ring in the relationship is what I said. Yeah. Oh, that's what I meant. Their relationship. Okay, I don't know what I was saying, but but but the natural, the natural spirits knew what I was saying. OK, bringing the relationship is the most expensive thing I say. Because when you pay for that wedding, do you know what you're paying for? You know, you know, you can set that up and create that exactly how you want it and pay for it, and that's cool. You can't do that with the relationship. You can't say I want my relationship to be this perfect People can have the most perfect weddings. All right, pay thousands and thousands of thousands of dollars to have the perfect hundreds of 1000 those weddings will be perfect. Can't do that with the rest of the relationship.

Rick:   20:22
That's funny. You can think of even like especially celebrities who have spent tens of hundreds of thousands of dollars. Kardashian, Mary. They give Davy mayor for less than a year.

Namon:   20:34
Kim, particularly Kim. She spent, I think Kanye that wedding clothes like 500 k the wedding with Chris that she had was like, what was It was like It was like I

Rick:   20:44
thought I was like,

Namon:   20:46
Yeah, it was like, right? It was like a mill. She spent cash. It was very lessening big money.

Rick:   20:51
Like she was already a with kind eyes, baby before they like, kind of divorce.

Namon:   20:56
And in that logic, they're the most expensive. Part of that was the most inexpensive part of that was the wedding. Do

Rick:   21:04
you think so?

Namon:   21:05
So, yeah. You think of the time they spent together the amount of stress and and pain that they had to go do toe deal with each other like it wasn't even though breaking up. It was just me. The it's. But I'm saying you think about it like this. They pay for the perfect wedding, right? You can't pay for the perfect wedding. It's expensive.

Rick:   21:29
You mean you can't pay for the perfect life? You can pay for a perfect wedding. What? You can pay for the perfect life.

Namon:   21:33
Hang. I just said the same thing over and over again. I think I'm There's something going on with me.

Rick:   21:37
Does he not? Did you not have any brisket? today.

Namon:   21:40
I actually did. I had brisket and I had some some Mac and cheese to go along with it with a row with barbecue sauce on it. So

Rick:   21:48
what's the problem? You should be on your A game right now.

Namon:   21:50
I should be on my A game, But you know, I'm tired and, you know, everything is just Corn team is Corrine team.

Rick:   21:57
But, you know, what's funny is that I've never I've never watched keeping up with the Kardashians or anything like that. I've never care. But I think I don't know if somebody else is watching it or what I saw one episode, part of episode. I didn't even see the whole episode. It's about a episode when Kim was with Kris, Kris Humphries, right, and they were sitting there and they were having these conversations and they were about to get married. He had already proposed or whatever and the conversations was going and he was like and they were talking. He was saying like Oh, like, you know, I can't wait to take my name and she's like, I'm not gonna take your name, I'm gonna keep my name and then, um, the next thing he says. I all I can't wait. He's like, What do you What do you mean? Used to be modeling like we'll have kids by then. She's like, I'm not having any kids. What are you talking about?

Namon:   22:40
And then it shouldn't had Kanye, like all is key. And

Rick:   22:43
what's crazy is that she gives May right, get she gets married to Kris and then they get a divorce. And before they even get a divorce, she's pregnant with his baby. She marries Chi, and then she changed her name and Kim Kardashian West G so that I mean, the thing that I got from that is that people are willing to do stuff, but they only willing to do stuff for the right people.

Namon:   23:06
Absolutely. That was the thing. She married him without a purpose. I mean, I guess

Rick:   23:11
that's possible. Maybe maybe it was whatever cause I like what Chris was her second marriage.

Namon:   23:17
I think I thought he was a first.

Rick:   23:19
I just use May before that. Pretty

Namon:   23:20
sure I don't

Rick:   23:21
like and you know what kind of get someone there is Is that I know, like, way too much about don't tell, not even pay attention to the show. Why do I know so much about them? Agreed. But so, yes, So I mean, it's funny because until you find that right person, those things that you would do, you know, it's people you know. Sometimes you get the people, and it's like, Oh, I don't want to have any kids but will apply But then you meet that person is like, You know what? I didn't want to have kids with you. I do, so sometimes you gotta find that person that makes you want to do something that you normally wouldn't do.

Namon:   23:53
Oh, precisely. And I mean, that's what kind did but kind a super aggressive. So who knows how that went?

Rick:   24:00
So it's funny, like it's funny sometimes when you have, like your temporary bay and they start to become permanent bay. That's why sometimes it's kind of risky, depending on what kind of kind of person you are. Teoh have like a whole bunch of temporary base because temporary baking become permanent. Be real quick. You talk about if you slip up and you have a kid by accident, are you know, sometimes your feelings just get there and you think that something's gonna be temporary and as a being more long time, you know, you know, like this saying where people is one of time and you're looking to be booed up for the winter. But you after winners up and somewhere it comes. You know, everybody. It's time to break up because somewhere here, yes, that's like every year,

Namon:   24:40
time to spread out.

Rick:   24:42
But sometimes you blink and you end up being with a person longer than than the winner. And you are winners over on. This temporary thing is still going on.

Namon:   24:50
You do? Then? I

Rick:   24:51
don't know. I feel like at that point the conversation has a shift, right? Of course. So all those things that didn't matter at the beginning, like, you know, like, ah, how many kids do you want to have? Ah, how What would the nomination? What kind of church do you want to go to? Do you want to go to church? How do you want to raise the kids? Do you want to stay in the state? Does your living in our do you want to live abroad? Do you want to travel abroad? All those things need to be talked about and those things are not always covered when you're not planning to be with somebody for the long term.

Namon:   25:21
Oh, absolutely not.

Rick:   25:22
And it's something that you can forgive for a temporary relationship that you cannot like, really just rock wit in a long time relationship. Something like what? So you start thinking about those dealbreakers right? You think about certain dealbreakers something's ideal burger. So let's just do it, for instance. Example. So say you're Christian, right?

Namon:   25:44
Okay, let's just say I'm a Christian.

Rick:   25:46
I know you're but so say a Christian person is out there dating and it's like they might be dating and they might just be one to be out there. Whatever I say. You know what? Like I don't have today somebody as a Christian, that's gonna be temporary, and then you don't really care what religion of the person is. But then wonder becomes permanent. You kind of care, right? You make it. Take it a step further, they say, Um, say it's like you want to have kids, right? Are you don't

Namon:   26:11
wanna have cookies? Let's say, let's say I wanna have kids.

Rick:   26:14
I say, You wanna have kids? You out there dating So if you're taking somebody to be temporary bay, right, right, you don't care if they want to have kids. And I because you know every expect to get to the point where you will be talking about having kids fax. But when you with somebody and something extends longer than you anticipating your let's go actually go somewhere, then it's time to have those conversations,

Namon:   26:37
No doubt. I

Rick:   26:38
mean, I feel like if you don't, you end up in a horrible situation where temporary bay became permanent bay and then you looking up and you want the kids. But she's like, No, I'm good And then you sitting there and you're mad because you can you know you with somebody that you love and you want to be with them But they don't want kids, and you do.

Namon:   26:55
It's all bad.

Rick:   26:56
That's not that so I mean, like, just being transparent and being open is there's a winner. When you sang a pillow with somebody, you know? Yeah, I mean, seriously, you know, think about the access that those people have because you're giving up a lot like more than money. We talked a lot about money, but or the money. You given up a lot of time and you think about the time that you spend during a relationship, even just during a temporary thing. It's a lot of time and money you can make. You can lose money. You can make money, but time. You can't get that time back. So you really need Teoh. Be careful with the time that you spend,

Namon:   27:38
that's for sure. I mean, you gotta and that that, like you were saying, That's the purpose. So I guess you could say dating, you know, with a matter of like worrying about how much time your spending or wasting your time. I mean, that's that's that's what's the word. That's deep It is. It's deep. That's a deep concept. It is. It's like you could be wasting time with no purpose, or, I mean, you could be wasting your time looking for purposes. Well,

Rick:   28:04
I mean, still having a purpose and a dating with a purpose doesn't necessarily mean that you sit sat down to be with somebody that is gonna work out 100% of the time, but it just means that you're working towards it working out, and you think about, um, you know those little cars that you drive the remote cars that have, like, a stick that goes up and down and one that goes left and right. And you drive with that?

Namon:   28:28
Yeah. Remote control car,

Rick:   28:30
remote control car. So if you what? So one

Namon:   28:35
of those little cars that you have have what other cars are there?

Rick:   28:41
So that is in control. If anybody has used a remote control car in that way because sometimes I had, like, the little stand wills on, You know what I mean has a trigger in the stairwell. If you if you ever use any of the remote control cars, that has to two sticks, you know that if you just put him in any direction you're going to spend in a circle, right? Absolutely. But so, like, if you focus when you're focused on where you're going and you figure that thing out, you start going in a straight line, and then you can make times, but you're not to spending their circle right. And I feel like that's the difference between dating with a purpose and dating without a purpose, because if you don't know what area where you're trying to go what you're trying to give from the relationship. Just gonna be spending the wheels, and a lot of times you're gonna be going around around the circle. But if you guys both get on the same page and you say I'm dating with a purpose, the intentions of this is to get married one day, and that's what we're working towards. So I mean, I feel like in no situations that you have to yourself and you had to be relationship in a different way. You would if you just like, Hey, I don't wanna have fun because I remember, you know, back in the day is like a I just wanna have fun. I'm in my twenties. I wanna have fun, like I just want to hang out

Namon:   29:48
later in the day when you're in your thirties as well.

Rick:   29:49
No, I'm a I'm still in my thirties. But back in the day, when I was younger, when I was in college, it was like, Oh, I just wanna have fun. Like, I'm just looking for somebody I kick it with. Like if I want to go on that day, I just want somebody that I can call. Maybe you want to go out and the right? Yeah, let's go out. You know, I wasn't looking for anything serious, but then when it gets more serious, you have to really re evaluate the things that you're looking for. Because what makes so fine? Nobody on a weekend doesn't always make a fun buddy. Seven days a week.

Namon:   30:16
Did you just practice that? It sounds like you just looked on the paper. And you've read that that. Did you write that down Richard

Rick:   30:24
Hunt? I was not. I was

Namon:   30:25
That was clever. That was his off the dome.

Rick:   30:27
That was straight off the door, man. Oh, man, that Steve, those

Namon:   30:31
you need to get this man's book. You need to get this man's book. This man is it a rideable? It's called his dad's ism. The things Richard said

Rick:   30:40
there it iss

Namon:   30:41
So beautiful is a beautiful book. It's on Amazon prime. Um, it's a beautiful book. I've read it. My mama read it. Oh, yeah, I got my grandma copy. Shut out. The grandma she did. This

Rick:   30:59
knows. But it is really, really man. And, um, you know, like it's Ah, it's a movie. I can't remember the name of the movie, but it was a movie where is like a quote, and it says it's not who you want to spend Friday nights with, but it's who you want to spend all Saturday and Sunday night with Wow, so it's not just the person that you want to have fun with, because, I mean, a lot of times when things are going good, having fun, you don't have to think about anything. But when your chips are down and this is a Monday ing Sunday night, who do you want to spend your time?

Namon:   31:34
Just another manic Monday. Yeah, this gym.

Rick:   31:40
So, you know, hopefully everybody out there confined that person that they want to spend not only Sunday night with but Monday and Tuesday and Wednesday and Thursday and Friday and Saturday

Namon:   31:52
and especially hump day. Okay, Did you say Hope Day?

Rick:   31:56
I said Wednesday, That's what

Namon:   31:57
did you say? Oh, no, no, no. I said hump day. I didn't know you didn't say hope. Is

Rick:   32:02
that someday. Now Wednesday, Its not Mike. Mike. Mike, my mom. Right.

Namon:   32:06
Uh, do you Ah,

Rick:   32:12
yeah. So, um, you know, to wrap it all up, you just really, At that point, you got to be honest with what you're looking for, because there's nothing more hurtful toe. When you see two people in a relationship and one is looking for something a long time and then one is just looking to have fun. And neither one of them talked about it and they're just kind of spending the wheels because one is going this way. Is like I just wanna have fun and I don't like I'm looking for something serious and it's nothing more sobering when you're in a relationship and you're just trying to have fun and you're not thinking about anything serious, and then you get that question like, What are we? What do we don't know where we're going with this?

Namon:   32:49
What? We're human, That's what we are.

Rick:   32:51
And then there's nothing more sobering toe have to say that, and I have a blank expression on the other person's face, and that's why well, we just have a far right. We just we like each other right, that's where were going with it.

Namon:   33:02
But that's when things get muttered. I think when one person says What are we? That's when things kind of get muddled because it brings everything to the surface. So even if that person is, ah, it once more and they're afraid to say it, that just pushes them further back.

Rick:   33:17
That's why I feel like it's important established one. You got to know yourself because every time you all the time, you don't necessarily know what you're looking for. So before you date, you should really know why you're dating. I just was listening to an investment podcast never talking about When you're invested in property. You need to understand what you want the property to do for you. Do you want to hold the property for a long time? I sell it. Do you want the property to give you a residual income? Like what? Are you looking for the property to do so before you get in the relationship? Really think about what you want to get out of that relationship. If you're just looking to have fun, make sure that you find somebody who's on. I say same wavelength as you that you're not meeting somebody who's looking for something serious and you're looking 1/2 on. So knowing what you want is important. And then whoever you're doing those fun things with, it's important for them to know what you're looking for and know what they're looking for. So you guys can both be on the same page and nobody's shocked when that. What are we question? Boom here, your pool. So it's always I like to thank everybody for listening to be a part of the conversation. You can find us on Facebook, instagram and Twitter at Rick and Amy, please. We should have, like a subscribed to the showing favorite podcast you can find my personal account at dies is, um you go find two d. J. Blew

Namon:   34:33
it. I am the deejay Blue. He should

Rick:   34:35
have said a podcast with people who are interested in it doesn't want to talk about relationship. We love to talk to you, but you know, until next time boys and girls

Namon:   34:42
remember, there's always a next time