Meet Your Committee: The Voice Wars In Your Head | NowShift August 01, 2025

Ever feel like different parts of you are pulling in opposite directions?

In this powerful transmission, Dr. Abhimanyou Raathore — Clinical Psychologist, Functional Medicine Practitioner, and creator of the Antifragilient OS — introduces the life-changing lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Inside each of us lives a “committee” of voices — the one who wants to keep you safe, the one who longs for love, the one who pushes for success, the one who feels tired or unseen. These aren't random thoughts. They're protective parts, formed over time to help you survive.

And they have opinions about everything — from what to eat for dinner to which partner to choose, which job to accept, which car to drive, or what kind of life to build.

But here's the breakthrough: Until these parts feel seen, heard, honoured and loved, they’ll keep hijacking your goals, sabotaging progress, and confusing your clarity.

Dr. Raathore shows how aligning as Self — as a loving parent to these parts - allows you to lead this inner system with compassion and power. When your Self is in charge, your decisions come from wholeness, not from wounded reactions.

This isn’t mindset work. It’s soul-level leadership.

🎧 Listen now. Your Self has been waiting to take the seat at the head of the table.

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Chapters

• 0:01 Introduction to Anti-Fragilient OS
• 0:15 Internal Family Systems Concept
• 1:15 Understanding Our Inner Parts
• 3:50 The Dinner Decision Example
• 6:30 Key Takeaway and Conclusion

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Today is August 1st 2025. My name is Dr Abhimanyu Rathore and I am the founder of the Anti-Fragilient Operating System. Anti-fragilient transmission for the day introduces you to a concept which came from a psychologist called Robert Schwartz, and this concept is called internal family systems. And this is such an important concept that, if you understood this well, suddenly this will change your relationships, your life, your ability to form habits and keep them, your ability to form habits and keep them, your ability to think about goals and achieve them everything. So what does this talk about? This talks about so very simply. This talks about the fact that we have got a self within us with a capital S, which is constantly connected to the source God, universe, whatever you want to call it and we have multiple parts in our psyche that have their own individual feelings and thoughts, that have their own individual feelings and thoughts, and the fact is that you cannot form a relationship with anybody outside till the time you don't have a relationship with these parts. Or, let's put it at this, that your relationships outside of yourself, as in, like outside of this internal family is just a reflection of how the relationships are within this family, just like it happens in a human family, where we have, you know, similar kind of relationships with our partners, based on the relationship we had with our opposite gender parent, or what relationship we did not have, for example, for example. So if you want to have a good relationship outside, whether at work, whether with a significant other, or with your child or anybody, you, as that self that is constantly connected to the source, to the universe, to God or whatever you want to call it, would like to have a great relationship with these parts, where these parts feel heard, seen, felt, honored and loved, because if they don't, then they at any point in time could, out of a sense of self-protection, sabotage any relationship of yours, could sabotage any plan of yours, because they are not feeling comforted, because they are not feeling comforted. So the first way of incorporating this understanding into your life is realizing that whenever you feel that surge of emotions say you are angry, you are upset, you are really feeling that somebody has been unfair to you. You would like to now start talking like this that some of my parts, or one of my parts, is feeling upset or is feeling angry, or is feeling marginalized, or is feeling taken advantage of. Why is this distinction important? Because this creates a possibility for you to unblend from these parts and then cater to them, care about them like a loving parent would Think about it. Now, to just illustrate this, let me give you an example of how these parts behave.

Speaker 1: 4:58

Say, for example, you decide that you want to eat something today and then you're making up your mind as to what you want to eat. So you hear a part of yours say that let's have Chinese today. Then there's another part of you that says, let's have Mexican. Oh, I love the burrito bowls. There's another part of you that says that you know, I really want to have some indian food. You know some chicken, tikka or whatever, okay. And there's another part of you that says, oh, I need some comfort food, like pizzas, burgers, hot chocolate, fudges. And there's yet another part of you that says you know what, maybe you should eat healthy, maybe that'll help you a lot.

Speaker 1: 5:47

Tell me you've not had this situation in your life. Write in the comment, you know, share it with me that, whether you've had such a situation or not because I've certainly had, and it's not just in decisions related to food, it could be in decisions related to the car you want to buy, the house you want to live in, the person you want, date, the career you want to choose. It could be anything. These parts have an opinion, anything. These parts have an opinion. And only and only and only if they feel seen, heard, felt, loved and honored would they let you take an independent decision. So the next time you're thinking about a relationship or how you want to conduct your existing relationship, remember this. Or any significant decision, remember this I'll see you tomorrow. Till then, bye-bye.