The Six Human Needs - Part 3 - Growth and Contribution

Welcome back to the final installment of this trilogy! In this episode, I wrap up the deep dive into Tony Robbins’ “Six Basic Human Needs,” zeroing in on the last two: Growth and Contribution — arguably the most fulfilling and soul-level needs we chase (consciously or not).

I break down how these two needs show up in our lives, what happens when we neglect them, and why chasing growth without contribution can leave you empty. You’ll get real talk, some personal storytelling, and a clear challenge to start asking: “Where am I growing?” and more importantly, “Who am I helping?”

🔥 What You’ll Learn 

• What “mental clutter” actually reveals about your unmet need for growth.
• How unchecked self-improvement can become a trap without contribution.
• Why the most successful people are obsessed with giving more than getting.
• The surprising connection between “stuckness” and a lack of service.

#PersonalGrowth #HumanNeeds #TonyRobbins #SelfImprovementPodcast #ContributionMatters #GrowthMindset #LiveOnPurpose #PodcastMotivation #PurposeDrivenLife #EmotionalWellbeing

Transcript

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James Dunn: All right. Welcome back, everybody, and let's wrap up this series of 3 episodes. This might be the 1st trilogy I've ever done, if not the first, st

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James Dunn: no way. Well, I don't know. I might have actually done it done, maybe one before, or a variation of something like this before, but anyway, it's 1 of the very few trilogies that I've ever done. And we're gonna wrap this one up today. We're gonna bring this home.

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James Dunn: I've actually enjoyed breaking this out into a multi episode arc, instead of trying to cram it all into one. Because give me a little bit more time to focus on each individual section here, breaking it into sections of 2, instead of trying to cram everything all into one episode.

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James Dunn: because I know there are times when I love having hour long, 2 h long, even 3 h long episodes like the Joe Rogan podcast or other podcasts like that. But those are more conversational, based podcasts. It's a little easier to digest those conversations because you can come and go as you please. And you can kind of listen to them

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James Dunn: for a little bit, get pieces of it. Come back later. Pick it up again, like, Oh, yeah, I remember to talk about that or whatever. But when you have information like this. It's a little bit harder to digest an entire hours worth of it in a podcast and really absorb it really, let it soak in versus when you're live event, and you've got somebody right in front of you. Got time to sit down and write things out or talk to the person sitting next to you at an event.

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James Dunn: So I've really enjoyed breaking this down a little bit more. Hope you are enjoying this because I do plan on bringing more things like this to the podcast, get a little bit more deeper into

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James Dunn: specific things that I've learned and and maybe a little less. You know some of the vague things, but very specific tools and ideas and concepts that you can lean into some of the things that I have listened to or read or attended and learned from different places, share those very specific ideas with you. So again, hope you've hope you've enjoyed those as we wrap this

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James Dunn: series up today with the final 2 of the 6 basic human needs. If you are tuning in for the very 1st time. And you're like what the fuck is this guy even talking about what we're doing is we're wrapping up the 3 episode arc of the 6 basic human needs. If you've not listened to the

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James Dunn: previous 2 episodes. I would highly encourage you. Go back and listen to those. First, st because I will be referencing some of the 1st 4 basic human needs that I've already gone over. I am going to touch base on them. Give you a quick recap real fast at the beginning episode. But you're not going to understand truly in depth what we're talking about. If you don't go back and listen. Those 1st couple of episodes, or last 2 episodes. Actually, it's probably a much better description.

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James Dunn: Go back and listen the last 2 episodes. So you have the full understanding of what we're talking about with these 6 basic human needs.

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James Dunn: And just a quick recap. What we got is in life. We have 6 basic human needs that really drive a lot of our of our decision making. You know the feelings we have, the thoughts that we have. They're all

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James Dunn: almost all driven, based on these 6 basic human needs. And these are the needs above and beyond food, water and shelter that every animal on this planet has to have. We're talking more as human beings, as evolved beings. We have these 6 basic human needs. Now, the 1st 4 that I share with you are certainty.

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James Dunn: the need to be certain about things in life, uncertainty, or also known as variety. So the need to not know what's going to happen all the time need to have some things changing, some, you know, variety in our lives. Significance need to feel important in this world. That's a very important factor. And the need for connection and love, you know, having that

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James Dunn: connection. There's another way to say it. But really, being around other people.

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James Dunn: finding ways to connect, I was, how else do you? What? What would be a synonym for connection and love, I don't really know. But

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James Dunn: that's the 1st 4 of the 6 basic human needs. And as I shared at the end of the previous episode. Those are the needs of the personality. Those needs of personality are the ones that are more

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James Dunn: me focused. I focused, you know, about you as a person you know the need to feel certain about, I need to feel certain I need to feel variety. I need to feel significant. I need to feel connection and love. It's all looking at things for yourself. It's a little bit more ego based. It's a little more about just you and not anybody else. So those

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James Dunn: are the needs of the personality. And as I said, they're they're not bad because they're focused on you because you, as a human being need to express yourself, you need to be able to

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James Dunn: satisfy your own desires, your wants.

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James Dunn: your feelings need to be felt. So those are important. But once we've gotten those set, we really want to start focusing on the rest of the world a little bit. We want to start focusing on what we want to call our

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James Dunn: I'll get it here in a second. There, there we go the needs of the spirit. We want to focus on the needs of the spirit. These are the ones that make us feel really good on a much deeper level. These are the ones that are going to be more outwardly focused. They're going to be focusing a little bit more on the world at large. So

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James Dunn: need number 6. And I want to share with you is growth

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James Dunn: growth, I mean, and I don't have definitions for growth of contribution.

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James Dunn: But growth is just that feeling that every single day I wake up, and I want to be just a little bit better than I was the day before.

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James Dunn: I don't know about you, but I imagine if you really stop to look at your life. If you really want to think about your life, and how you evolved, how you've grown.

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James Dunn: The times that you've enjoyed life the most is when you are feeling like you're progressing. If you're in a workplace. If you have a job which most of us do or have a career, you have a business of some form fashion you're bringing in money somewhere. Growth is what makes you the happiest. If you're not making sales, if you're not

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James Dunn: So let's just focus on a job for a second. If you're in a job

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James Dunn: and you're not getting a raise every year, if you're not getting promotion from time to time for not getting some recognition from time to time. Well, let's just get rid of the recognition, because that rolls back to significance. But if you're not getting promoted from time to time, if you don't feel like you're making progress, if you're going in doing the exact same thing over and over and over and over again. That can be very deflating that can be very

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James Dunn: demoralizing. I think I know people that, you know, work in factories. That's really where I feel like I see it the most is, I mean, I know people that work in both factors and people work in tire factories, in warehouses, and they're doing pretty much the same jobs.

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James Dunn: same job over and over and over and over again. They're just literally putting widgets in a machine, pulling other widgets out, and they're doing ding to ding, to ding, to ding. And

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James Dunn: those are not people that I see that are very happy with their life, that feel excited, to wake up every single day and go to their job and do their work. If you are somebody, you know, who has a business, and if you're not making sales, if you're not growing year over year, this doesn't have to be astronomical growth. But if you're not

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James Dunn: That's when you're you're not feeling very good, but it's we really want to focus this more on ourselves. I think, even though I did say that this is going to be more towards the spirit, and outwardly. But

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James Dunn: the feeling of growth, the feeling of expansion, the feeling, like every single day I'm waking up and getting a little bit better, a little bit better at what I'm doing. So whether it happens to be if you you have a habit that you know, like, if you play music, you're a guitarist, you play piano, you play the drums, whatever it happens to be. If you're into sports at all. If you're just getting a little bit better at throwing the the football, hitting the baseball.

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James Dunn: If you're a runner, getting a little bit better time if you're lifting weights, if you're in the crossfit we talked about in the last episode, you know, it's a big, huge community, if you're in the crossfit community and you're not, you know, setting Prs and weightlifting, or push ups, or whatever exercise it happens to be. If you're not having that growth on a consistent basis.

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James Dunn: you're feeling stagnant. You're feeling like, I'm not really getting anywhere. And and that's when life gets to be really, really boring.

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James Dunn: you can have some variety. But if you're not having growth. If you're not feeling like you are growing on a regular basis, it can really just bring you down.

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James Dunn: growth is so critical to your evolution is something that you really just need to have in your system. And the 6th and final of the

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James Dunn: contributing to the world. Feeling like you are contributing. And this is part of that growth. It's part of. It's not the growth part, but contributing to the world. You know, when you are going out and you're helping others. That is such an amazing, incredible feeling.

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James Dunn: because then it gets past you. That's if you ever had one of those really bad days you just man life sucks. I'm so down on myself. This this sucky thing happened, and that sucky thing happened. I got a flat tire, and then my girlfriend broke up with me, and

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James Dunn: then I got a past due notice on my mortgage payments, and just all these things were going wrong.

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James Dunn: But then you saw this, this little old lady. You're at the grocery store, and yeah, you just spent your last 5 bucks to get groceries which saw this little old lady, and she was trying to get in her car, and she was having a hard time picking, picking up that 12 pack of coke out of her

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James Dunn: out of her shopping cart, and like. You know what man life sucks right now. But I'm gonna help this lady, and you help her put it in the back of her little vehicle there in the back of her car and just feel really, really good. It suddenly changes your perspective, like, Yeah, you know, I got all this crappy stuff going on. But, damn man! That felt really good. And that's just a very small, simple version of contribution. But finding ways that you can help humanity help other people help.

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James Dunn: help people live a better life, something beyond you. This could be volunteering, you know, at a homeless shelter it could be, you know, at a soup kitchen it could be.

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James Dunn: you know. I talked about rotary where I found great joy in going out there and helping those kids, giving them backpacks, giving them school supplies. That was a form of contribution trying to help. You know, I was finding community, and I was also finding contribution.

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James Dunn: I was helping the world. And so if you've got places in your life where you are contributing to the world, and you are making other people's lives better. This is what's going to fill your soul. It's what's going to help make you feel really good, even though you're helping other people. These 2. As I said, these are the needs of the spirit, this growth and contribution. These are the ones where you feel like in your soul. You are feeling so much better about life they're not based on.

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James Dunn: Really. I don't say they're not based on anyone else at all, because growth is really, that's you growing

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James Dunn: contribution. Yeah, there do have to be other people involved, but you don't necessarily need something back from them. You can contribute to their lives without them ever even knowing it, without getting that significance without getting any kind of recognition, without getting any of that.

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James Dunn: you know feedback from them. You can just do things. I can go out and pick up

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James Dunn: damn man! Here we go again with, you know the rotary. I can go out and pick up the trash along the side of the road and feel really good about myself, and nobody has to come along and say, Hey.

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James Dunn: James! That was really cool man, that was a really fucking great job. We really appreciate that I can get, and you can get

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James Dunn: value out of that. I'm going to. You're going to feel so much better just by contributing to other people by helping them be better human beings, or by improving this world.

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James Dunn: by making this a better world, to live in a much nicer, happier, cleaner place you can contribute to the world, and feel much better without getting any kind of response from somebody else. A matter of fact, some of the things that you do. This is where things can get really tricky is if you're trying to get if you're trying to do contribution. Okay, I'm gonna go out and want to help this homeless man. I'm going to give him 10 bucks.

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James Dunn: and then he doesn't thank you. He doesn't say.

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James Dunn: that might piss you off. But if that's the case, what I want you to recognize is you were looking for significance. So you put

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James Dunn: you put oh, my, gosh,

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James Dunn: you oh, man, it's gonna drive me crazy.

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James Dunn: You put conditions. There we go. Why was conditioned such a hard word find you put conditions on your contribution to the world.

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James Dunn: You don't want to go contribute just for the sake of getting that recognition. Because then again, as we talked about before, that's significance that you're trying to fill, and that's not a positive way to get significance. Now, if you go out there and somebody happens to recognize you. Okay, so be it. You see, the

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James Dunn: the John John F. Kennedy honors awards whatever I think that is, that they give out once a year, or something like that, or humanitarian awards, or or whatever you see, people get those from time to time. But people hopefully aren't necessarily going out there wishing and praying that they get these awards. Some people will do it, but ultimately I think they're doing it

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James Dunn: for the right reasons, and it happens to be they get rewarded for it, and they get awards for it and recognition for it. But they're not going out doing it for that. We don't want to put those conditions on the contribution that we're sharing with the world, because that

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James Dunn: will not make you happy. That will not satisfy you in the way that you want it to, and the way that it's capable of doing

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James Dunn: we want to give to the world. We want to contribute to the world in a way that we feel really good just for the sake of doing it, like, I just know if I go out there, and I walk down that street, and I pick up all that trash. I'm going to feel really good about it.

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James Dunn: You know that if you see the neighbor across the street struggling to get their lawnmower started, and you go over there and you help them fiddle with a little bit, and you get it started for them. You're going to feel really good about it, whether they say thank you, whether they don't or not. It probably wasn't the greatest example, because that wasn't really going down what I was looking for.

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James Dunn: But even if it's something that you do that nobody's ever gonna see, you're just gonna know? Like, Hey, you know what

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James Dunn: there is, Karma in this world. And even though nobody's going to come over here and thank me today. Nobody's going to even know that I did anything here today.

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James Dunn: Maybe here, here's a perfect example.

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James Dunn: We get some pretty nasty storms here in the St. Louis Metro area, and I see it all the time. When these storms blow through. We got a lot of trees that are not in the greatest of shape, and so you'll see a lot of branches fall down over in the roads.

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James Dunn: Maybe sometimes it's a full size branch. Maybe sometimes it's smaller pieces, but they'll fall down in the roads, and if you happen to be out driving late one night, and this has happened, and you can drive around a ranch, or you can get out, and you can pull that branch off to the side of the road because you're afraid somebody's going to come along. They might hit it, or it just would be a bad scenario for somebody.

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James Dunn: Nobody's going to thank you. Nobody's going to see that you did that. But you just know you know what Karma's Karma is a real fucking thing, man, and I just want to put this good karma out into the world. I want to do something nice

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James Dunn: just for the sake of doing it. I know I could drive around. I know I could just ignore it. I could let it go, but not you, man, you're going to go ahead and move that out of the way, because, you know, the next person coming along might not see as quickly as you did. They might rack. And you just you don't want to see that happen. You want to do something good for somebody that's contribution in its purest form. That's just going out there and saying, Hey, I want to make this world a better place. That's what we're looking for.

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James Dunn: So find ways in your life. Or let's start asking yourself, you know, where am I finding growth? Where am I finding contribution in my life? What am I doing to

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James Dunn: really bring those into my life on a more steady, more regular basis.

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James Dunn: if you have any one habit or any one action in your life that really hits on 3 or more of these needs. That's that's a very powerful habit. It's a very powerful action. It's very hard to break that if it's a negative one, and if it's a good one you wouldn't want to. But I mean, those are the ones that are really, really going to

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James Dunn: that you're going to really stand out in your life. And so I'm going to give you an example of a very negative

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James Dunn: variation of this. You know, I've shared with you in the intro to the podcast you know, as a wrettable Tim to arm Robert. He was 17 years old. So you might ask, how the fuck do you get to a point in your life where you

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James Dunn: point a gun at somebody and say, Give me your fogging money.

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James Dunn: How the fuck do you do that?

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James Dunn: Let me share with you through these 6 human needs. How I hit on so many of these human needs with

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James Dunn: so the very 1st human need is certainty.

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James Dunn: How certain was I when I pointed a gun at somebody's face? They were going to listen to me.

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James Dunn: I was goddamn certain they were going to listen to me. Plain and simple. I knew they were going. I was going to get their attention. That was going to happen plain and simple. So I hit on one human need right there.

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James Dunn: How did I know how the rest of this whole thing was going to end. Did I know if somebody was going to show up? Did I know if you know the cops are going to show up? And if there was going to be a shootout, or if there was going to be, you know, once this person listened to me for at least that 1st couple of seconds. If they were going to then react in a way that was going to challenge me and challenge my authority, and maybe try and overtake me and take the gun away from me.

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James Dunn: There's some serious uncertainty. So I'm hitting uncertainty and uncertainty, at the exact same time doing doing this thing

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James Dunn: now. Significance was I significant, holding a gun to somebody's face.

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James Dunn: Fuck! Yes, I was. I was the most important person in that room, at least for a period of time. With that gun.

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James Dunn: I was very significant in that person's life. Was there a connection?

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James Dunn: Fuck, yeah. Me and that person were connected so tight? I was also connected with the group of guys that I was with when these robberies were going on. There was a connection with our little gang there. Our group.

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James Dunn: There was a massive connection that built us that bonded us for life because of the things that we were doing together.

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James Dunn: So I hit on 4

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James Dunn: human needs. There wasn't growth. I mean, I guess you could say I was growing skills on how to be a robber. I wasn't contributing positively society. So that wasn't wasn't good. I mean, I was contributing to my pocket because I was making a lot of money off of it.

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James Dunn: I hit on 4 of the basic human needs with this one set of actions that I was taking me going out there being criminal, pointing again to somebody and saying, Give me your money

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James Dunn: of course, this felt very thrilling. It felt very good to me. And even though logically looking back at now, maybe even from an outsider's perspective. If you are somebody who was just looking at this, especially if you know me now, you would never guess that in a million years that I would have done something like that in my youth. But

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James Dunn: looking and seeing these basic human needs, and how I was tapping onto every single one of them, because I also talked about I wasn't feeling significance. Well, I wasn't feeling loving connection in my home. There wasn't enough variety. I was having some variety in my life, but there wasn't enough variety in my life, so this gave me some of that. There was definitely a lot.

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James Dunn: It's so fucked up, man, because there's, you see, both sides of everything. But there was some variety, but not good variety. How's that?

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James Dunn: Because I was having a lot of uncertainty in my life about things in my my home life with my dad is alcoholism, and what he was going to do. So I was getting some variety, but not fun variety, and even though pointing a gun at somebody doesn't sound very fun, it was very thrilling. It's almost like a. And I don't want you to try this just to prove it, but it's almost like a roller coaster ride where it's like what the fuck is going to happen. Oh, my God! Holy shit! Because I was in control!

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James Dunn: I was the person wielding that gun. I was the person controlling that moment, at least for a period of time. So I got to control that uncertainty on a certain level, and I got to dictate the certainty of certain aspects of, and I got again. You look at this. This is how you can end up. You see, people get into addiction

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James Dunn: or criminality. Is that even a word. You know criminal life, anything like that. If you look at these people who are living a life that you can

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James Dunn: not really understand why they're doing certain things start peeling back, the layers start looking at them from a different perspective, saying, Okay, let's look at these 6 basic human needs that James shared with me and and see maybe where they might be hitting these needs at it could be that they're looking for certainty. Maybe they're looking for uncertainty or significance or love or connection. They're finding them in some of these needs

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James Dunn: or yourself. Maybe you've got some habits that you don't really want to be having, that you want to change.

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James Dunn: How you're going to be able to change is is stop and look at what are the basic human needs that you're hitting on right now. That's causing you to feel like you want to do this over and over and over again. What is it, you know, with

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James Dunn: drinking an extra drink, you know. What is it with not doing the workouts? What is it with not showing up powerfully online? What is it about not making sales calls. What is it about? Whatever it is in your life or your business that you know you need to be doing to build the life that you want to live?

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James Dunn: What are the human needs that you're hitting on

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James Dunn: from a negative perspective that are satisfying those human needs? And how can we shift those to make them into a much more positive way, you know. Let me let me see if I can just try and put this together here. So certainty you know how I can flip this instead of finding certainty and uncertainty and

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James Dunn: significance and loving connection, and all that in negative ways, how I can find it in a positive way. I'm going to share with you how I've flipped it from my life, and how I've gotten to where I'm at now, because, let's just talk about this right here doing this podcast one-on-one coaching things like that, sharing what I've learned and

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James Dunn: and putting things like this out into the world certainty.

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James Dunn: By doing this podcast. I'm certain I put an episode out every week. Try to. I've gotten much better about it. Recently, there was a time when I didn't do that. But I've committed this. Now, I'm very certain that I'm going to put out a podcast every week

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James Dunn: uncertainty. Do I know what the podcast going to be on every week? Nope, I knew what these last couple were going to be, because, I said, I was going to do a series of going to be 3 episodes. Bang! Bang! Bang! So I've got me some uncertainty. There's some varieties I get to mix it up. I can talk about whatever the fuck I want to talk about, it's my, podcast I get to decide. So I get to create some variety, to create some uncertainty in terms of significance. Yeah, I mean, I don't do it just to be significant. But there is some significance in the fact that I have the mic. I.

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James Dunn: I'm not making you listen to me, but you are listening to me so I am significant in a way, because I am sharing something with you that hopefully you will take, and it will improve your life, and you'll feel much better about your life, and maybe even help other people through the things that I'm sharing. So that makes me significant. I get significance from that

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James Dunn: love and connection. We are building a community here. We are building a tribe of people that are improving the world, and making a much better place, and improving ourselves, and just making ourselves much happier, which in turn makes the world happier. So there's absolutely connection and love coming through that.

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James Dunn: I've even, you know somebody out there who may be listening right now. You know I've been on dates with somebody who has listened to my podcast before, and that

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James Dunn: that created a much deeper connection with that person.

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James Dunn: Through this. Podcast so there i've hit on all those 4 basic human needs that I hit on when I was doing my criminal behavior at a much, much younger age. But here's the beauty part is the ability to hit on all 6 human needs through this, podcast through my coaching.

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James Dunn: Because I'm growing every single episode that I create every single episode that I put out. I'm growing, because, even though I'm sharing knowledge, I already know I'm relearning it. I'm reinterpreting it. I'm putting it out there for somebody new, and I've grown since the last time I've shared this information with my listeners or out into the world. So every time that I share this I'm a little bit different. I've got a little bit different.

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James Dunn: history that I can share as part of the stories, a little bit better understanding of what's going on. So there's growth that I'm hitting and contribution. I mean, fuck, like I just said, I'm sharing valuable information with you, the listener that can help you grow your life, help you become a better person, help you to help other people in their lives. So there's absolutely contribution by me, putting this podcast, out there, my me being a coach.

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James Dunn: There's so much contribution. So I'm hitting on all 6 human needs by living the life that I'm living now, and that's why I'm choosing this life now is because I'm hitting on 6 human needs, not these 4, and especially from a negative place. I'm hitting on 6 needs in a very positive way, in a very empowering way, in a way that's making life better for me and the people around me. So this is a very fulfilling a very happy life. And that's what I want for you. And that's really

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James Dunn: why I'm sharing these with you is because I want you to look at your life, recognize where you've been hitting the 6 basic human needs from you know, where are you hitting these in your life? Are you doing it from the empowering way or the disempowering way? If you have been, how can you shift it? How can you find new habits, new behaviors, new patterns in life that will hit on the 6 human needs in a empowering way, in a way that's lifting you up and making you feel better about life, making you happy.

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James Dunn: creating that joy, creating that love in yourself and not having to seek that from outside sources. Not having to. I mean, it's great. You're going to get it from other places, but finding it in yourself first, st

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James Dunn: 1st and foremost, finding all that in yourself.

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James Dunn: once you tap into that. I hope you can hear it in my voice. I hope you can hear it in how I am sharing this information with you. This is, I mean, this shit lights me the fuck up. I love sharing this with people. I love helping people to see past some of the old stories, some of the old beliefs. Some of the things that I held on to that led me down that dark path of the criminal behavior and doing those things, and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world, because it got me to where I am today. It helped me to wake the fuck up.

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James Dunn: You know I was living a life of just blah of skating by, and it had to go to a deep, dark place before I hit that rock bottom point and say, what the fuck am I doing, man? I have got so much more potential. I've got so much more than I can give the world. But I've got to hit this dark spot first, st so if you find yourself ever hitting a dark spot, don't.

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James Dunn: don't deny it. Don't fight it too much. I mean, I don't want you to live there. I don't want you to stay there. I don't want you to feel like that's the only thing that you have in life, and this is the end of your path, your journey, any of that.

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James Dunn: But recognize that. Oh, wait! Wait a minute. Yeah, this sucks.

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James Dunn: but I fucking know, James told me, and I trust, James.

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James Dunn: I know there's going to be something fucking amazing that comes out of this. If I can just keep focusing on the positive side of this and just working my way through it one step at a time, one day at a time.

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James Dunn: and if you don't find yourself in a dark spot. Well, and that's fine as well. But look at your life. Figure out where these 6 basic human needs are coming into play. If they're positive, if they're negative, if they're empowering, if they're disempowering, how they're affecting your life and find ways to get to

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James Dunn: where you can tap into all 6 of the basic human needs in a powering way, and your life will be forever transformed forever. Amazing. And and that's really it. So I hope you have enjoyed this series. Please be sure to rate review the show. Leave me some comments. I love getting comments, especially this particular series. If this has had some impact on your life. If this is something that's hit, you

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James Dunn: leave it in the comment section. Let me let me review and talk about it, share that with people, because the more that you review the show, the more people are going to listen to the show. And we want to get this word out there to everybody's not saying it's probably going to like. Say it as my outro comes up here in just a second.

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James Dunn: But I just want to remind you this week to do that for me. Appreciate you. And here we go. My friends, get out there, have a nice fucking day, and I'll see you next time.