Parenting Decoded

10 - Punishment vs. Consequences: What's the most effective discipline?

April 13, 2020 Mary Eschen Season 1 Episode 10
Parenting Decoded
10 - Punishment vs. Consequences: What's the most effective discipline?
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Parenting Decoded
10 - Punishment vs. Consequences: What's the most effective discipline?
Apr 13, 2020 Season 1 Episode 10
Mary Eschen

Getting our kids to obey and comply is a daily struggle for so many.  Our classic styles of punishment just seem to be falling on deaf ears these days, doesn't it?  You can take stuff away or give time outs until your face turns blue and the next day your kids are right back on their bad behaviors.  Right?  

In this episode we'll talk about why "punishments" are only temporarily effective.  Instead, using a combination of 

  • Natural Consequences - when something has happened that has enough natural "pain" to it so that the teachable moment for poor behavior can do the teaching for us --  like breaking a toy or losing a backpack or not finishing homework.
  • Energy Replacement - when there's no logical consequence (like hitting a sibling or violating electronics limits)  and so we have our kids come up with ways to replace the energy and peace and harmony from our lives when that happened.  Our kids do chores or acts of service to replace that energy.  

We need to change the hearts of our kids by letting them own the consequences of their poor decision to misbehave. 

Here are the links for further material I refer to in this podcast:
Love and Logic Energy Drain - audio
Energy Drain Idea List 

Show Notes

Getting our kids to obey and comply is a daily struggle for so many.  Our classic styles of punishment just seem to be falling on deaf ears these days, doesn't it?  You can take stuff away or give time outs until your face turns blue and the next day your kids are right back on their bad behaviors.  Right?  

In this episode we'll talk about why "punishments" are only temporarily effective.  Instead, using a combination of 

  • Natural Consequences - when something has happened that has enough natural "pain" to it so that the teachable moment for poor behavior can do the teaching for us --  like breaking a toy or losing a backpack or not finishing homework.
  • Energy Replacement - when there's no logical consequence (like hitting a sibling or violating electronics limits)  and so we have our kids come up with ways to replace the energy and peace and harmony from our lives when that happened.  Our kids do chores or acts of service to replace that energy.  

We need to change the hearts of our kids by letting them own the consequences of their poor decision to misbehave. 

Here are the links for further material I refer to in this podcast:
Love and Logic Energy Drain - audio
Energy Drain Idea List