How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that? As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when they ask why you aren't drinking. To be able to love yourself, the other AND tell the truth. The aquarian age is about living 5D, where paradox is the way of life. It's way more fun. You don't need to break the rules, there are none. The are all illusions. It's not either or, it's both and. The truth is, alcohol is stripping you of your life light, your prana, your grace, the holy spirit within. Whether it's one drink a week or 20, there is an unnatural alteration. We aren't saying NO to alcohol. The future of joyful living is evolving past the need to alter ones natural state of being.
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Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that? As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when they ask why you aren't drinking. To be able to love yourself, the other AND tell the truth. The aquarian age is about living 5D, where paradox is the way of life. It's way more fun. You don't need to break the rules, there are none. The are all illusions. It's not either or, it's both and. The truth is, alcohol is stripping you of your life light, your prana, your grace, the holy spirit within. Whether it's one drink a week or 20, there is an unnatural alteration. We aren't saying NO to alcohol. The future of joyful living is evolving past the need to alter ones natural state of being.
FAST TRACK TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL IN 40 DAYS! Get on the list, find out the detail and start the process HERE
If you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE
Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
NYT Article Article: Vodka in your Coffee...
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Welcome, welcome. My name is Mary Wagstaff. I am a holistic alcohol coach who ended a 20 year relationship to alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses. Now I help women just like you from around the world do the same with my one on one private coaching program. In this podcast, we will explore my revolutionary approach to getting alcohol out of your way that breaks all the rules, life enhancing tools that make not drinking exciting and joyful, and the profound and sacred journey that it is to rediscover who you are on the other side of alcohol. The show is not a substitution for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. So please talk to a medical professional if your alcohol consumption is at risk to your mental or physical health. Now on with the show. Happy New Year, my beautiful listeners. Oh my goodness, I cannot believe it. We're here for another full year. I actually didn't start the podcast until February of 2020. But we'll celebrate every marker and every milestone I've dedicated myself to another full year of evolving with this concept of stop drinking and start living if you're new to the show welcome. And I just hope you're thrilled about possibility. So if we stay in the mindset of, you know, all of the negativity that is being kind of spewed at us from this concept of these stories, that we keep telling ourselves over and over again, what's not possible, we never step into a future of possibility. So it is the year of you it is the year of really stepping into that philosophical mind of what's possible in thinking not only outside of the box, but getting rid of the box all together. So the first way to start to do this is to really curate your consumption for about the last year. And I won't say 100%. If any of you guys have looked for me on social media, you know that I'm really not there. I do post things about the podcast. And it's not because for any particular reason, other than I think it's a very unhealthy environment. It there are ways I find information that I wouldn't necessarily know about weather events and things that I love. But it is such a bombardment of other people's minds. And right now, it is the the invitation to be managing your own mind, to really confronting the story of old belief patterns that were created from an old paradigm from before you were ever born in. This includes the story about alcohol, I have some exciting news, I did not even know this was going to come through and it is actually so in alignment with the truth of who I am as a teacher, as a healer, as an entrepreneur. And as a lover of life and spirit. I am going to be launching February 1, a fast track to freedom from alcohol in 40 days forever. So what this will be and I'm going to leave a link in the show notes for you to get on the waiting list, it is going to be a intensive fast track of finding of working through my five shifts approach with support directly from me for 40 days, but the program will actually be 33 months long, excuse me. But the first 40 days will be intensive self inquiry with an online course. But then also one on one support for me with live coaching for the first 40 days. And then it will move to an online coaching format where you will be directly interacting with me through email. This is like no other program that is out there. And it's a holistic program. So we're not just doing mind work and thought work but we're actually moving through the endocrine and the neurological system that has become so imbalanced from the mind and from the toxins of alcohol. So the whole thing is, is a holistic process and right now it is your spirit that needs to come through you need to detoxify the mind, body and heart so that you can start to step more into hearing that voice of yourself. And so the invitation will be to really shut down any external entity. influences and come into the present moment. So that you can take the most out of this program, I had such a huge demand most of the biggest demand that I've ever had, and all of my coaching over the last two weeks, and I'm seeing that not only do people need help, won't help, but they want to do it and get on with it, the people I'm supporting. And my approach, if you haven't already taken this, and maybe you're new here is that we don't substitute alcohol for sobriety. We substitute alcohol with more of ourselves. So if you are a woman that doesn't want alcohol to be in the headlines of your life forever, even if you're drinking or not drinking, this program is going to be for you. This is about saying yes to more things. This is for the woman who has a lot of interests and different skills and hobbies and talents, or the woman who wants to take her business, let next level show up for her family in a different way. For for the woman who is open minded into experiencing how to solve this problem, not just with the thoughts of the mind, but through the body, spirit and heart also. So it is going to be a full embodied practice. That will be techniques and tools I used myself, and I use currently with my clients to fast track you to flip the switch in your brain. So that from that point, after 40 days, you will have rid yourself of the habit. And the only thing that will be still lingering, are just the imprints of old thought patterns that you'll be able to recognize with ease that won't be pulling you into making decisions that you don't want to make. And from the from the two months after that, you will be implementing then new habits based on your heart's desire from that place, not just constantly talking about sobriety, but living life now that alcohol is out of your way, you don't want to just replace it with being a sober person, you want to replace it with living your dreams, stepping up to, you know, whatever was on your bucket list. And really getting those things done connecting with nature growing a garden, taking that online course to become a cook, to dancing, your yoga practice. And just really taking that next level step from all of this energy that you're going to have. It is amazing, I am so thrilled to be putting this out there, there will be limited space because there is a one on one coaching component with me. And I only have so much time. But it is going to be amazing. So definitely, definitely if this is something that is interesting, interesting to you, please get on the waiting list. The link is in the show notes 40 days, to a fast track to freedom from alcohol for ever. And this is guaranteed if you show up for this work. Your results are guaranteed and it is a step by step process that will be laid out for you. And so you can do anything for 40 days. And that is what it takes to dismantle the habit of alcohol. And then the next 80 days after that we'll be rewriting new pathways with saying yes to new things in life. So instead of just focusing on alcohol, now you're saying yes to life, it's going to be affordable. It's going to be exactly what you need to have accountability to say yes to yourself, and I couldn't be more thrilled to offer it's gonna come through and just be shiny. And I'm just so so thrilled. So what I wanted to talk today about on the episode is how much is too much. So this idea is kind of a silly question. I know that I was there. If you are googling Am I an alcoholic? How do I know how much drinking is too much? Your it's too much right? If you have that concept in your mind that you think you might be drinking too much. There is no one right answer that any CDC or any other organization based on research can define for you remember doing this so many times googling, what is the limit? What is the cause for breast cancer, so on and so forth. If this is your concern, and you want someone to give you permission for drinking, then it's time to take a new approach. It's time to look at the why. The only person that needs to tell you if it's too much is you. It doesn't matter if there is a definition for a label for an alcoholic. That is a belief system created by a human mind and the process of unraveling Your relationship to alcohol is defined by you. And I cannot emphasize this enough, there is no one that can give you parameters or rules or labels or counting days. Or if you don't you start over. No, none of that is true, what's true is for you, I can give you the step by step process to get there based on how we deconstruct a habit, and how we can balance the systems of the hormones and the nervous system of the body. But as far as what feels good for you, what's acceptable for you, is completely subjective to your own standards and your own needs. And that is why you do not have to be rock bottom, or a hot mess, to be questioning your relationship to alcohol, it could be that simply, you know, you sign up for the gym every year, and then every year come February, you've only gone twice, right? It could be because you are arguing with your partner, every time you drink, or you're starting to black out and not remember conversations that you're having with your children, or maybe you're drinking alone and you're isolating yourself, there could be any reason and it doesn't have to be that you have these major hangovers every day and you're getting arrested. Or it could be that you're starting to see the health implications that your your levels of testing for liver enzymes have gone up. It could be anything for you. And so you need to get very clear and very honest with yourself. How much is too much could be one drink every single day. So there is no one else out there going to define the story for you, rather than what you can do for yourself. In this world, right now, we are being called into a new age of perception and thinking some people call it the Aquarian Age based on astrology and astronomy and the way that the planets have aligned, where we are shifting away from this physical manifestations of what we've been able to make. We have everything that we could possibly ever want in our lives for luxury, right. But yet, we're still so afraid of living I had three people last week send me the New York Times article about women and their increase in drinking and about people, you know, putting vodka in their coffees, and that the laissez faire drinking of the pandemic has really increased overdrinking for so many women. And what they are talking about is the the coping mechanism for I guess, quote, unquote, isolation is non existent for so many women. So think about this. You are, have time with yourself, you have time with your family. And yes, there are stressors of basic needs. And I'm not discrediting any of that. But people have more time with themselves in a space. And even if you are, you know, a lower income or even poverty level, and you are experiencing financial hardships, we still have more luxury, when you have a roof over your head and a cell phone and connection, and access to fresh drinking water and food than people have ever had in history. And yet, we're terrified of it. So we still have all of the luxuries that we could ever possibly want, in a say isolated or quarantined situation, but we don't have the inner resilience are the coping strategies. And we're terrified of it. Because we're not actually alone. We're just with ourselves, but we have no idea how to connect with ourselves. Because the way that we've connected with the world has been through the outer environment, through traveling through entertainment, through through all of the things outside of ourselves. So we're being challenged, just based on you know, what's present in our world right now with a pandemic, to not only just physically go indoors, but have to turn the reflection inside. And one of the things that is so terrifying to all of us and this is why, you know, the medical industry is as big as it is. It's this need to want to push to keep people alive for as long as we possibly can to cure disease is that we're so terrified of dying, but we have no idea how to live and when you are altering the state of who you are uniquely, you are not open to the invitation of what life has to offer you. And now there's no shame or blame or punishment for any of this, except for the punishment that you're giving yourself and you need to stop and flip the, in the reflection of Why? Why is there any need to alter? I don't care if you're having one drink a day, or if you're putting vodka in your coffee, which I could think of so many more desirable choices for alcohol, by the way. But why are we altering our consciousness? And every moment? What is that about? What is that need for? And it's because we don't have a relationship with self, we are taught from the moment that we're born, that we need to create an identity, but you are the identity, it is the I am that needs to develop fully. You are not a mother, a doctor, a wife, a lover, you are you at the end of it all you are you I am. So what we need to do, this epidemic of self medication self altering in this Aquarian Age is finding the tools that there is no longer the need to alter our natural state of being. Right. And this has been something that has existed for all of humanity, right? This is why that people know about what mushrooms kill you and what mushrooms create a psychedelic experience and what mushrooms you can eat for dinner, right is because we are curious beings of habit. But we know so much now. And we have all of the technology that we need for our basic needs and our survival, we're coming together as community to rebuild a new paradigm. So that all opinions, diversity is included, we're not even going to try to fix the broken one, right, we're going to just throw a better party on the other side, because you can't fix that broken system of power over and the one that does not support peace, we have to come together as a collective. But that has to start from the inside first. You simply cannot continue to wait for permission from the other person to live your best life. This is so much bigger than alcohol. And you're probably doing this in other ways. Right? Where in an AA model, they tell you to change your people, and they change your places. So you're trying to change the circumstances of the world. how exhausting is that? And I know a has so many other positive things to it. But that is one of the first models is change your people change your places. So we're eliminating the circumstances of the world, rather than tapping into how do I relate to my people in my places? Why are my children so stressful to me? Why am I making that such a problem that I need to check out from being present for them? So really breaking this down and asking yourself, what is so terrible about this moment, that I need to alter my state of consciousness to not be in it? And why am I so terrified of death, but yet I'm not willing to be present for the calling of this moment. So when you ask how much is too much, this is the first opportunity for you to take full responsibility, or yourself and you decide and if you're listening to this podcast, it's already too much for you. No one else gets to tell you how much is too much. And the reason that we are in the situation that we're in with this power over model of the white patriarchy is because they never asked permission. Now they did it with a brute force and that's something that the Divine Feminine has no interested interest in. But But what the Divine Feminine has interested in is fierce love, the fierce love that comes from the most authentic, real place from the depths of the heart of all of humanity and all of existence that is calling to you right now to say Enough. Enough, and yes, there will be A process of having to watch that old habit and that patterning. But when you see it as separate than you, it would be if you it would be just like if you try to stop walking, right. So if you wanted to get from, you know where you're sitting right now out to your car, but you just decided to not use your your ability to walk anymore, you would kind of struggle with that, right? I mean, you could crawl, but it would be really weird because your natural tendency would be to stand up and walk. And that is the exact same thing with alcohol, it is so ingrained in your brain. But when you if you decided that and you had an urge to walk, you wouldn't shame yourself, you wouldn't make it feel like anything about you, you would just think you would just remember, this is how a habit works in the brain, it is very simple. There is an illusion that my brain is creating to try to get that chemical reward. That is not real. It's not the way this isn't it. So if you could take anything away from this episode, today, I want you to remember the next time you go to reach to alcohol because of a feeling because of an emotion, that alcohol, this isn't it, this is not what's going to fill that hole, this is not going to fill that void, what's going to fill that hole or fill that void or that desire, or that boredom is you experiencing that emotion from the beginning, middle and end. And maybe you get bored, maybe you lay back on your couch and you stare at the wall and you just watch your thoughts all traveled by you. This is where we experience peace. This is where we experience a sense of grace, and connectedness to all where we the illusion of separateness falls away, when you're spinning in your head about things should be different than they are, you lose the magic of the moment. And the moment is not even accessible when you are drinking alcohol. So you can overcome the habit by pre planning a different time to drink. But you will still be strengthening the need in any way to alter who you are. Because even one drink shifts the chemical process in your body. And so that is unnaturally altering the state of what is to what you think should be. And this is what takes away your power. If you haven't read the New York Times article, I'll also put a link in the show notes for you. It's fascinating. And I totally understand our need, that we are, you know tribal people, we work in community, and we do need the support from the other. But if that is a codependent relationship, and without that women are needing to solve their problems, then we need to work together as women and sisterhood and unite each other so that we have that deep internal resources and strength to know, what are our What is your job here. I always say to myself, the work that's right in front of me is the work that I'm supposed to be doing right now, if that's trying to figure out how to balance a business, and also be a full time caretaker of my son. And I do that with presence. And with pride and with privilege. And pleasure. The only way to find pleasure from the present moment is to be in it. So the question that I'm going to leave you to ask yourself today is can I give myself permission to know that my experience with alcohol right now is too much for me? Can I give myself permission to stop waiting for someone else to tell me that it's okay to live my life exactly the way that I want to. And now we have moments of self discovery. We life isn't a linear experience from A to B it's a spiral, right? We the Earth moves in a circle and then we circle around the sun. There is no a to be it's spiraling. So we're always rediscovering new parts of ourselves in relationship to our experiences we've had and evidence that we've created. Now you just have to be on to the mind that tricky little mind that doesn't want to create change that resists change. And that's simply out of habit that's about being efficient, seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. But what is being called to us now as humanity as we are evolving the needle for alcohol really no longer exists, we have everything we need. Sign up to get on the waitlist for this 40 days fast track to freedom from alcohol, you will be amazed at what you're able to do in this process for 40 days, I cannot wait to launch this and get this out there, it's going to be so much fun, it's going to be amazing. You will have access to my weekly live movement classes, and also to my monthly sister circle that I host, in addition to one on one support, and an exact daily process for you to really start to see your mind to really get to know yourself and honoring this process of self inquiry so that you can walk away from alcohol and get alcohol out of the headlines for your life. It's going to be irrelevant. You're going to be feeling amazing. You might think about it a lot because you're gonna be like what the hell, I can't believe I spent all that time doing that. And if you're feeling bored, think about alcohol, like alcohol is boring. It's just sitting around drinking a beverage. So there is so much to do out there. meetup.com if you're feeling isolated, there's sister circles out in the world. go onto Eventbrite. Go find a place to connect with people if you're really feeling isolated. And remember, your emotions are not problems to be solved. They are experiences to be felt. Everyone experiences depression, everyone experiences sadness. But when you add booze to it, you you compound the negative effects, if any, when you open and you honor and you accept all of who you are. Those processes of emotion turn into wisdom for you get excited about getting to know yourself. It's 2021 My name is Mary Wagstaff. I think you are gorgeous and amazing. And I can't wait to work with you and talk to you in the future. Have a wonderful, wonderful week. Bye. Hey, if you're loving this podcast, you are definitely ready for the next step. I would love to invite you to learn my three shifts process to interrupt any craving and get you started on your journey to finding freedom from alcohol. All you need to do is click the link in the show notes or on my website Mary Wagstaff, Coach calm to schedule a private call with me. You will leave the call with the tools for success and feeling competent and excited about entering into your new phase of life and it's completely free to you. I look forward to connecting