In this episode, we discussed the difference between being productive and being busy.
The 3rd and previous episode, we talked about how to set our daily rhythms. And that can also be applied to this 4th episode. Being productive is when you're able to produce a good number of tasks for the day. That is when you're able to check things on your list and being done with your priorities. It gives such an accomplishment to be productive.
On the other side, being busy is just about getting all the things done just because others are expected you to complete them in a certain amount of time. Again, you're not suppose to do everything all by yourself in an instant. You have to set goals for yourself. The goals that are sustainable and you think you can do on a daily basis.
Always remember, each day is going to be completely different. And make sure that you put at least one goal that you want to get accomplished.
Links mentioned in this episode:
2022 Seed Varieties
Pampered Gardener Box by Kitchen Botanicals
The Self Sufficient Life
Not So Modern Living
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In this episode, we discussed the difference between being productive and being busy.
The 3rd and previous episode, we talked about how to set our daily rhythms. And that can also be applied to this 4th episode. Being productive is when you're able to produce a good number of tasks for the day. That is when you're able to check things on your list and being done with your priorities. It gives such an accomplishment to be productive.
On the other side, being busy is just about getting all the things done just because others are expected you to complete them in a certain amount of time. Again, you're not suppose to do everything all by yourself in an instant. You have to set goals for yourself. The goals that are sustainable and you think you can do on a daily basis.
Always remember, each day is going to be completely different. And make sure that you put at least one goal that you want to get accomplished.
Links mentioned in this episode:
2022 Seed Varieties
Pampered Gardener Box by Kitchen Botanicals
The Self Sufficient Life
Not So Modern Living
Episode Sponsor
Kitchen Botanicals
Use code GROUNDED for 20% off your first purchase.
If you enjoyed today's episode and you love this show, can you help us convince others to listen too? All you have to do is leave a quick review and rating (and subscribe if you haven't already). That would mean the world to us. Thank you so much!
Welcome back to the Grounded in Simplicity podcast. This is Bonnie from The Not So Modern Housewife. And I am joined by my friend Danielle from the Rustic Elk. And we are here to help moms find more joy in being less busy. So this week, we are going to talk about slowing down. And the difference between being productive and being busy. So last week, we talked about how, you know, we use our mornings to kind of set the pace for our day and set our intention for the day. And we really talked about having like1 to 3 main goals that are going to be what we're going to focus on for the day. And, you know,just just try to get that one thing done. And then that's going to kind of be our mark for success. Well Danielle, you told me like outside of like having that one goal, what are things that you find, keep you busy,but don't actually like accomplish your thing for the day. Besides yelling at your children..
Danielle McCoy:Or talking about like things that we find to busy ourselves with as opposed to being bored, or distractions that keep us from doing what we're supposed to be doing so we're procrastinating because of the distraction..
Bonnie Von Dohre:I would say distractions. But also I think sometimes, sometimes it becomes a mindset thing, where we have it in our head that, like these certain things have to be done every day. When really, if we only did them a couple times a week, no one would know the difference. But also things that we do to kind of procrastinate the thing that we're supposed to be doing,
Danielle McCoy:Like picking up your phone and checking your email. Um, I don't know, I mean,I can relate to that and tell you lots of things that I do instead of actually working on my website. Like..Like, adding people to my Facebook group, or scheduling social media or like fixing posts, instead of writing a new post, or, you know, like,looking at other blogs instead of just working on my own, like,you know, finding that shiny object, I guess it's shiny object syndrome. And you know,I..
Bonnie Von Dohre:mean, like,wildly deciding that I'm going to rebrand it. Yeah. Yeah,
Danielle McCoy:like that. I don't I don't notice that so much in my like, day to day life. I mean, I can do the goal.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Yeah, I think if we're talking work related,like, for instance, updating blog posts, if it is a blog post that like really needs to be fixed, then that can be beneficial for work. If it's just a matter of oh, well,here's one or two keywords that I could add in to rank on these keywords like that stuff that's really probably not that important. Which I guess, I guess that's the real defining factor between busy and productivity is what's actually important. I find just in general and life, we have a tendency to have trouble distinguishing between what we need and what we want. So, and a lot of times, I think this comes back to the way we think people perceive us, too. So like, we will think we need the thing,when it has nothing to do with our needs. It has to do with,well, if I don't have this, or if my, if this doesn't look this way, then people are gonna think differently of me.
Danielle McCoy:Right. I find myself, like when we're gonna have company, like for the holidays, or something like that, like, everything has to be a certain way. I think it's for my mom. And so I will do things that aren't really necessarily productive and don't really need to be done. And then I don't get my done on those days. Right.Right things that, you know,it's not necessary. I don't have to do that. But I do it because I don't know. Because my..
Bonnie Von Dohre:brain did us.Yeah. Right. And that's, and that's an interesting thing,like, especially when you talk in terms of hospitality, is, you know, we have this idea that all these people are going to come over we don't want them to need for anything. So we got to make sure we have all of the drinks that they might want and all of the snacks that they might want.We have to have the big dinner plan when they're just coming over. I mean, hopefully, they are coming over to see you and spend time with you. But if you're spending the entire time they're there and I mean I am so guilty of this especially for birthday parties. But if you're spending the entire time there,they're running around making sure that everything is done,everything is perfect, then have you really been a good host?Because you haven't actually had a chance to like, talk to them and spend time with them, which was the reason they came in the first place.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:But we stayed busy.
Danielle McCoy:Yeah, well, and I think, you know, I think we've talked about this before, how busy is, you know, like,supposed to be a measure of success in our society. So we feel like we constantly have to be busy and busy and productive are obviously two very, very different things. And we don't always have to be busy, which brings us to, you have to slow down and sometimes not be busy.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right? Well,and also, I mean, just in taking care of yourself, you do need to build in some of that downtime.Which is why? Well, okay, so I'm seeing this trend, like, like you were saying, our society has really kind of put a gold star next to this whole hustle culture. And I am seeing a lot of people that either they did hustle for a lot of years, and it may or may not have gotten,you know, been what got them to that point. Or they tried to keep up with hustle culture and realized that they couldn't keep up and this isn't sustainable.But there's a lot of people now going, you know, what we don't need to focus on like all of that. And being busy all the time is not necessarily a good thing. But focus on the things that are actually going to move the needle and get you to your goal, which again, is you know,comes down to that, like you pick one thing for the day. And that, that is good. That is I mean, if you did that one thing,you're doing a whole lot better than most people.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:But we have a tendency to go. But so and so did all of this, who cares? So and so could be in a different season of their life, they probably have more support, or they're hiring more stuff out,or, I mean, there's so many different things that, you know,vary from person to person. And it's like, it's, I'm finally coming to terms with, you know what, like, Yes, I see a lot of other moms that seem to be able to get all this other stuff done. But that doesn't work for me, and I am coming, you know, I need to learn one, what are the things I'm really good at. But then also, what are the things that I actually can reasonably accomplish, because when I tried to focus on what everybody else is doing, then I end up getting a lot less accomplished, because it's not sustainable. And because by trying to keep up with all of them, I just end up burning myself out. And I end up you know, with all of these,like half done projects, when if I just would have focused on one and finished it before moving on to the next thing, I would have had a lot more to show for it in the end.
Danielle McCoy:Right. I think,you know, it's not even just like, my productivity is obviously different than your productivity. But it also varies from day to day like today, I didn't really get crap accomplished, I got my goal accomplished. So one thing, but you know, and then yesterday, I got a whole bunch accomplished.So you know, every day, you just kind of have to roll with it.And you know, each day is going to be completely different. And make sure that you put at least one goal that you want to get accomplished. And maybe it's something that you don't really like to do, and you just eat the frog and do a first thing in the morning and get it out of the way. And then you can do whatever you want for the rest day. Not necessarily whatever you want. But
Bonnie Von Dohre:right, but it gives you a lot more mental space. Yes, you do the hard thing, first thing, that's going to be your biggest hurdle. So eating the frog, get that out of the way. And then everything else throughout the day just becomes easier. But that way that thing is out of the way.You don't have it hovering over your head, you're not procrastinating it all day, it's not building up anxiety, you just get it done and move on.And not every day is going to be like that. But we are gonna have days like that where, you know,no, it's not what we want to do.But in order to move forward or,you know, do the things that we do want to do that thing has to get out of the way first.
Danielle McCoy:It was Mark Twain.
Bonnie Von Dohre:It was Mark Twain. Do you have the actual quote?
Danielle McCoy:This is eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Well, and I think something to, I think we we tend to get worried that things aren't going to get done.And really like it seems like that anxiety of not getting stuff done or missing something or forgetting something or not being perfect. Like that tends to be what leads to a lot of our busyness is Just our anxiety around the task. So one thing I've been trying to work on is really like planning stuff out.And I know, not everyone is good at this not everyone is good at like taking a project and breaking it down into tasks. But even if you can just figure out like, different segments, or do different goals you're gonna have along the way, right, and then you take that thing, and then you break it down further,and then you take that thing,you break it down further, and maybe you need to have a mastermind session with someone whose brain does think that way.And, you know, they help you outline it until it is a skill,it is something that you have to practice and develop and learn how to get better at. So it's okay to be like, hey, you know,I noticed that you're really good at x, y and z, could you help me learn how to be good at x y&z or, you know, hey,hopefully someday you get to the point where you can be like,Hey, can I pay you to do XY and Z for me? I know most of us are not to that point, especially if we're stay at home moms. Or being stay at home mom, we just have this mindset that everything is on our shoulders,and we have to do everything ourselves, which is so much fun.But anyway, so you go ahead and you you map out that project,and you give yourself outlines of, okay, I'm going to shoot for, you know, this this week,and this that week, and I mean,it's going to change, you're going to have some days, they're going to be less productive than others, you're gonna have some days that are more productive than others. And you can always adjust that schedule. But I think that laying it out and giving yourself a timeline one,it sets more realistic expectations in terms of how long it's going to take you. But then also, it helps kind of alleviate some of that anxiety of worrying that it's not all going to get done, because you've kind of created this roadmap for yourself to follow.And it helps you like really stay focused. So that you're not, you know, allowing yourself to get distracted with all of the other things that you think you should be doing, you're just focusing on the things that are actually going to create the result that you want.
Danielle McCoy:I'm terrible at that. So I am..
Bonnie Von Dohre:don't have a mastermind session.
Danielle McCoy:I am I'm I'm one of those, like fly by the seat of your pants type people. So when I have like a big massive project, I cannot sit down and plan it out. Like my brain just does not work that way. I'm very, very type A until it comes to like sitting down and like taking something a big project and breaking it down into steps.I just I can't. And then even if I attempt to, and I start to write stuff down, it gets overwhelming to me to try to you know what I mean to break, I start to break it down. And then I'm like, Well, how long is that going to take me? Well, maybe I should do that first. And so I just my brain just doesn't work that way. So I have to just do a project.
Bonnie Von Dohre:And then get halfway through a course and forget to finish it.
Danielle McCoy:Yes, yes, I think that's it..
Bonnie Von Dohre:it well. And like I said, it's, I don't even understand because I'm really not type A. I don't know, if it's from years of working around type A people from being in the military. It's just,that's one thing that I have found that I'm pretty good at is breaking things down. Now,staying on task, and getting the things done isn't always one of my strong suits. And I'm really bad at having like,accountability partners. Because at some point, my brain goes,You know what, I'm going to let them down anyway, so I just don't even care anymore. Maybe that's the Gen X in me. So I don't know, there's there's a lot of things that could be but and I've also run into that where I lay everything out. And I have my list and then I'm sitting there and I literally will give myself an anxiety attack just looking at all of the things because like, all of a sudden it's like, holy crap,what did I sign up for? Who do I think I am to think that I can do this total imposter syndrome.
Danielle McCoy:Right. That's the other thing that if I do manage to get it, I get that imposter syndrome. Like there's no way I could do this. How who am I to think that I could even do this.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right. And then I see other people that come in some of these Facebook groups and I'm going how on earth are you successful? So that's how I bring myself back.But sometimes it also takes some hypnotherapy sessions where I need to like reprogram my brain.I mean, yeah, the anxiety and the imposter syndrome are very real things. And they'll I mean,they will hold us back more times than not because if I sit there and look at stuff logically and I think no, you know what, these are the things that I have accomplished in my life. These are the things that I have learned how to do. These are the things that I'm good at.There's no reason why I can't do this. Right. But there's it's just that like, initial, like,No, you know what, like, I just like I can't turn the key.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
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Danielle McCoy:I think that we have to rely you mentioned that sometimes you get anxiety that you're not going to get all the things done, I think that we need to know that we're not going to get all the things done.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Yeah..
Danielle McCoy:Like you need to know that going off, okay, there is no way you're going to accomplish everything that you think that you have to accomplish, because you really don't have to accomplish all of those things. So like we talked about last week, picking your one goal or your two or three goals is really, really important. And just making sure that you can scratch that one thing off your list, no matter how small it is, I don't care if it's I fed my kids dinner, you accomplish something and then you get that feeling of accomplishment, which helps boost your what's the word? I'm looking confidence! Yeah, like totally when it helps boost your confidence so that tomorrow instead of just feeding kids,you can, you know, get the laundry completely done and not leave it in your dryer.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Well, and I think too, like a lot of times that anxiety comes from unrealistic timelines. Like we think that I mean, maybe it's just the culture that we're in.But you know, we think that we do the thing, and we should see instant results from it.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Or, you know,like, I go to the gym, I should be 10 pounds lighter tomorrow,right? Like..
Danielle McCoy:110 pounds heavier. So..
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right. And so it's, you know, it's like, you have to, you have to keep showing up. You have to, it's,it's not about like, giving it100% Every single day.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Most most successful people have seen that success by 1% increments. In fact, like I was I was reading one book, one of the many self help audio books that I've been listening to lately. And it was something regarding habits, but they were talking about the British Cycling Team, and they had like, never won a Tour de France. I'm pretty sure it was Bretton. Anyway. And so they brought a new trainer in and they're trying to figure out like, what can they do? Because they've already been through Alright, well, let's try this training program. And let's get the nicest bikes and let me know let's do this, this, this, this.And this new trainer came in.And all he did was he would make1% changes. Like, you know,every month or whatever his his goal for the entire year would be just to improve something by1%. Right. And you know, it was just it was tiny changes to the workout program. It was tiny changes to the way the bikes recalibrated tiny changes to the diet, you know, just little little things that were easy to incorporate, that were sustainable. And within a couple of years, the cycling team who had never won, were actually winning consistent. Year after year,
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:And it wasn't because of any drastic change they made, it was just these tiny little things that they change day by day. And you know,that made it made a lasting impact. Because I think that's the big thing, too, is finding,finding systems and habits and routines and rhythms for ourselves that are sustainable that we can stick with. And I think that's a big thing with rhythms in general is when we go with our natural rhythm, we find that it just it, it's almost like a puzzle piece, like finally fitting into the puzzle,like everything else just finally comes together. Because we stopped worrying about what everybody thinks and what we you know, and what we think that we need to do are these unrealistic expectations that we've set for ourselves, and we just allow ourselves to find a flow and go with that flow. And, you know,we end up being a lot happier as a result, right. And then we have children that completely disrupt that entire flow.
Danielle McCoy:I was gonna say something, and I completely lost my train of thought, listening to her. When we're developing habits and trying to, you know,like, slow ourselves down, I think that's very, very important that we just do incremental things like, don't take on all the changes that you want in your life, don't try to do it all at once, because you're gonna get overwhelmed,and you're going to get burnout,and you're not going to end up,it's not going to be sustainable, you're not going to continue all of those habits if you try to change everything at one time. So you just have to do one little thing, like, I want to get up at six in the morning,and I get up at eight in the morning, then you need to start with little like five or 10minute increments over the course of however long not try to just instantly change to wake up at six in the morning.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right. And I think like, I think that may have been part of my problem with the whole Miracle Morning was, I was trying to change too much at once.
Danielle McCoy:Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:And it's like,and there's nothing that says that I need to do that at four o'clock in the morning. I just need to, I mean, I either either need to get up an hour earlier,or I just need my kids to leave me alone for an hour in the morning. Haha, good luck with that. But yeah, just like, you know, if you know that you're consistently waking up at eight o'clock or seven o'clock, then you set your alarm clock for five minutes before that. And then once you're consistently
getting up at 6:55, then start setting it for 6:50. You know,and just make those little changes every few days. Until it's natural. Now that doesn't mean you continue staying up until midnight and expecting to get less sleep every day. You know, if you know that you need seven hours of sleep in the night, then you need to start going to bed earlier too.
Danielle McCoy:Right. Right.
Bonnie Von Dohre:But it you know, it's yeah, I think we just we try to take on too much. And then also we tend to quit too early. Because you know, we think that we should see this result you like instantaneously,or after a few tries? Oh, well,that didn't work.
Danielle McCoy:Right. Well,like I think that part of the reason that we quit so early a lot of times is because not just because we're not seeing those instant results. And we live in this world where we think that everything should just be instant. But also because we try to do it all at the same time.And we take on too much. And we just get overwhelmed with it. So we ended up not doing it. Like if you normally get up at seven or eight in the morning and you're trying to get up at four,then you're probably not going to continue to do it. It's gonna last maybe a few days. And then you're gonna be like, You know what?
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right. Yeah,and I mean, honestly, our bodies are going to fight back against trying to change things and trying to do new things. Right.I mean, because I know, anytime I tried to develop a new habit,I am getting so easily distracted, because my brain is just like, No, I don't want to do that. No, that's too hard.No, let's let's go for the easy thing. Right, our brains always gonna want to do the easy thing.
Danielle McCoy:And it takes 30days to develop a habit.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Well, I mean,yeah, on average. I mean,they've they've done some research that they show it, I think it depends on the amount of friction with the habit.Right? So you know, if it's something like making your bed and it doesn't really like you don't have to go out of your way to do that. Then you can usually get into that habit within a couple of weeks. Right? If you have to actually change your clothes and put on shoes and get in your car and drive to the gym. That might take 90 days.
Danielle McCoy:Just so you're into the parking lot forget going inside
Bonnie Von Dohre:I mean and you know you could be like me and you're consistently going for 90days and then there's one little hiccup and all of a sudden you can't seem to get back. So you know we have to we have to give ourselves Grace. but we also we have to, like, do break things down one step at a time. Yeah,making these incremental changes. Like, if we're using the gym, as an example, what I've seen a lot of people do is like, you know, first you just set the habit of, I'm going to change into my gym clothes. And then that's just, you just work on developing that habit, and then I'm going to put on my shoes, and then you work on just developing that habit, you know,if we're talking about like working in the garden. So one thing that I was doing to get myself out into the garden, is,I was just like having my coffee in the garden in the morning,which would at least get me outside. And then once I was outside, then, you know, I would start like doing different gardening tasks and things like that. And then I would just kind of keep adding on to my gardening tasks while I'm outside or keep adding on to my outside chores in general loves outside. Just the act of getting myself outside, because like,you know, I would have not necessarily anxiety but like,you know, I would almost feel guilty, playing outside because there was housework that need to be done.
Danielle McCoy:Right. I think you know, like, if we're talking about gardening, a lot of people have trouble with weeds, I think just adding like five minutes to your morning routine to go out and pull some weeds can really help if you do it every day. And you just get yourself in that habit of just going out. And it's only five minutes. So it's not like it's really taking away from whatever else you think you should be doing. Because it's five minutes, and you just go out there weeds in a row for five minutes, and then you're done for the day, once your timer goes off, you can stop. If you have time, and you want to go back and do it later, you can but at least helps you kind of keep on top of it without it being overwhelming or feeling like it's taking time like away from housework, or, you know,playing with your kids or whatever it may be.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right? Well,and I know. Like, there's some things I mean, weeding is one of them, where I did have to kind of reframe my mindset around it.Because, you know, it just, it seems like such a chore, it seems like so such hard work.But for me, like, I would get out there and it would almost become like a meditation for me.So I mean, maybe, you know,maybe I put on some music in my earbuds, or maybe I would just talk to myself or whatever. But just kind of using that time that you know, it's like, okay,this is my quiet time, this is my time when I can think and relax and clear my mind. And I just happen to be pulling weeds at the same time, right. And then it became a much more enjoyable experience for me to where, you know, it's like my body almost craved it, because I needed that downtime to go out and think and be in nature and be in the dirt and just like reset my thinking.
Danielle McCoy:Right. I think that's part of implementing systems and stuff too. Because,like I said, if you add five minutes to your door day to pull weeds in the garden, or, you know, get in the habit of always putting in a little laundry first thing in the morning or,you know, get in the habit of,you know, unloading the dishwasher, or loading the dishwasher or doing your dishes,if you don't have a dishwasher,or whatever it is, you know, if you just do it, it only takes 10minutes. It's not like something that's going to take a lot of time. And I think that we we don't like those tasks. So we procrastinate them, and then they end up taking longer because we didn't do them when we should have done them. And so I think that's part of you know,this helps you be productive and feel productive without being overly busy. And feeling like,you know, oh, I need to do this over here. But I have a sink full of dishes to do. But I don't want to do the dishes because I hate doing the dishes and then they just pile up higher. Right? I think that if we start to implement such systems, one little thing at a time, then we're not so busy.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right? Well in to like, you know, a lot of times people are like, oh, we'll just do it before bed. Well, I'm sorry, but I'm exhausted before bed.
Danielle McCoy:And it's also PM.
Bonnie Von Dohre:So, I mean,and that's really where that quote of eating the frog comes from. You know, if we know that,that is going to take a lot of mental energy, or it's just something that we're going to dread doing. If you use the spoon analogy, it's going to be like that's something that just takes a lot of spoons. Then you do it first thing when you have the mental capacity when you have the energy. And I mean, you know, maybe your energy isn't great first thing, like, you know, maybe you're like me, you need a couple cups of coffee first. But you do it before you get into anything else because once you get into those other things, then that's just one more hurdle. And you got to you got to take that biggest hurdle first So that way, it's out of the way. And you know, and you don't have it like, because it has a tendency when it's in the back of your mind. It's just sucking mental energy from you all day, because you're not doing it. But it's just you're still thinking about it.
Danielle McCoy:Right. That's actually why I like to schedule appointments for the morning, as opposed to scheduling in the afternoon, just because, number one, I don't like to go to them.But number two, it messes with my mind when I'm trying to accomplish other things, because I'm worried about oh, no, we have to get ready to leave,because it takes an hour to get anywhere from here. So right. My entire day, I'm sitting there with the anxiety of, well, we have to make sure that we're done doing whatever it is we're doing by x time because we have to get in the vehicle. And it takes an hour to get in the vehicle because I have three kids, you know, right. And so I sit there and try to like,calculate the time and then I end up being non productive,because I'm worried about going to, you know, making it to wherever it is, we need to be on time. So I like to do in the morning, so that they're out of the way and we can come home and finish our day.
Bonnie Von Dohre:After yeah.Well, yeah. And that's, like on days that we have appointments are really days when we have to go anywhere, nothing's getting done that day.
Danielle McCoy:Right. Same here. But I still like to give away. Well, right. But I mean,it's
Bonnie Von Dohre:one it's it's,you know, pulling teeth to get my children out of bed anyway.But just because I know how much time it takes us to get up, get ready, get in the you know, get in the car leave. I'm usually trying to make appointments,either right before lunch or right after lunch. So it's not like first thing. But yeah, by the time we get home, well, now it's time to start dinner.Right. So, you know. But it's, I know that though, like, I'm not I'm not feeling bad or making myself feel guilty about not being more productive. Because it's like, well, my entire goal for the day was just to make it to that appointment. Right. So that was my productive thing for the day.
Danielle McCoy:Yeah, I always make that my goal, but still I try to, you know, get them done.So at least I can come home and make dinner. Or, you know,right, if it's late enough in the day, in the morning, I almost always make my appointments the morning, but if they're late enough that I can get dinner prepped or putting up, you know, like, I'll make something in the crock pot or something so that we can have food ready when we get home.That type of thing, right. Which is another thing about, you know, implementing systems when you talk about cooking from scratch and things like that,trying to utilize things like the crock pot, or the Instant Pot or, you know, whatever it may be, so that you can still have a home cooked meal that's got you know, fresh ingredients in it without having to slave over a stove for three hours.
Bonnie Von Dohre:Right. Yeah,and I'm that kind of goes into like my weekly flow, because right now I'm using this one service that actually does my meal planning for me. And so my meal plan is done on Fridays, I go ahead and order my groceries,they're usually delivered on Saturday. And then I kind of spent Sunday, not necessarily meal prepping. But usually what I'm doing is going head like pulling out me if I have meat the needs to fall, if there's anything needs to marinate, I'll go ahead and put in the marinade. You know, maybe I'll mix up vegetables, whatever. So then, if it's a crock pot meal,all I have to do is throw it in the crock pot. If it's something that I'm roasting, all I have to do is spread it out on the roasting pan and throw it in the oven. Like you know, the bulk of it is done. So that way it's not taking me like two hours just to prepare dinner. Right? Because like, you know, like we've said,by the time dinner rolls around,we're exhausted. And yeah. And the kids are driving us nuts.Because you know, when is the dinner going to be ready and everybody's getting hangry and right faster, I can get dinner out and served then, you know,the less likely I am to lose my mind. Hopefully, hopefully,theoretically. Or what mind I have left? Yeah. Oh, but anyway,if you know that leaving your house is going to eat up the majority of your day. Maybe you should not sign up for things that have you out of your house every day.
Danielle McCoy:Actually, this odd part about living out though, because it takes forever to get anywhere. And then your takes forever to get back and then you know we left it like nine in the morning and got home at like five
Bonnie Von Dohre:Oh my goodness. Well in for us like in terms of extracurriculars. Ours really aren't that bad. And in terms of like the distance we have to drive up is probably the furthest and it's 35 minutes one way. But thankfully I did not we did not sign up for soccer this year. Because like last year, I about lost my mind because my daughter did not have dance, but I had two kids in soccer. And we were at the soccer fields every day except Sunday and Friday. Oh my And it was, you know, like, I mean, okay, yeah, it only takes15 20 minutes to get to the soccer field, but then practices an hour, hour and 15 minutes,and then get back home and it's bed time and Alright, so it's like we're either eating dinner before soccer, or we're eating Thank you for listening to this episode of the Grounded in Simplicity podcast. If we were able to help you in any way,dinner really late. And then yeah, it just was not a good please share this episode with a friend. And also leave us a review on Apple podcasts. You can also join us over on Patreon combination. Anyway, topic for another day. No. All right.at Grounded in Simplicity, and help to support this podcast as well as become a patron and get a behind the scenes look at the Well, we are glad that you guys could join us this week. And we creation of our podcast and even have some input on future episodes.Try not to be so busy this week.Remember to slow down.look forward to seeing you next time. Or join us over on our Patreon.
Danielle McCoy:Yes.
Bonnie Von Dohre:All right.Well, we'll see you next time.