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Ep.163 - The Secret To More? Raising Your Standards with Mystic Millionaire Danielle Amos
Danielle Amos, the Mystic Millionaire Mentor, shares her journey from debt to wealth by raising her standards and setting clear boundaries in all areas of life.
• Creating non-negotiables in business, money, and relationships transforms results
• Setting boundaries doesn't mean being unkind - it allows the right energy to flow into your life
• "Wishy-washy vision equals wishy-washy results" - clarity creates transformation
• When faced with debt and despair, Danielle put "earmuffs on" to block outside noise
• Creating a clear vision requires taking time to go inside and listen to yourself
• A powerful vision should evoke emotion and feel scary yet exciting
• Morning and evening rituals reprogram your subconscious for success
• The fastest way to build confidence is keeping your word to yourself
• High-achieving women are self-disciplined and consistent with their practices
• True luxury is the freedom to choose what you want, when you want, with whom you want
• Abundance is our birthright when we're willing to do the inner work
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Hello Soul Diggers. Welcome back to another guest episode with my friend, danielle Amos. Otherwise known as the Mystic Millionaire Mentor, she empowers ambitious, high-performing women across various industries to unlock their full potential and achieve transformational success. As one of Bob Proctor's protégés, she blends timeless wisdom with modern strategies, guiding her clients to shift from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to confidently pursuing their dreams and manifesting their highest goals. Now I have known Danielle for a good 10 years and I have seen this woman grow into this wealthy, empowered version of herself, and I wanted to know what were the secrets to her success, and I felt like I had a one-on-one conversation with her on this episode. It was packed full of gold Standards Setting standards, prioritizing the foundations of what you are and are not available for Non-negotiables, being so intentional with your energy, what you are and what you are absolutely not available for.
Speaker 1:Guys, in a world of opportunity and distraction, in a world of opportunity and distraction, it's now more than ever to be disciplined with your focus and raise the bar. Your focus matters and your results tell the truth of what is happening within your internal standards that you're setting. It's a good one. Grab a paper and pen. You will probably feel inspired to redefine your morning and evening routines after listening to this. So please do head over to Instagram and share with me your main takeaways, because this one was a juicy one, enjoy. Welcome to the Soul Digger podcast, danielle Amos.
Speaker 2:Hi, hi, thank you for having me.
Speaker 1:Gosh, I've been so excited to get you on the show. I honestly have seen your journey unfold in such the most divine, powerful way and, having this personal connection with you as well, like I feel this deep resonance with your soul, and I love inviting people onto the show who walk their walk, you know, who are a deep embodiment of, of what they teach, and you are absolutely one of those mentors, inspirations and friends in my life. So thank you thank you.
Speaker 2:It's an honor to be here and it's such like a full circle moment. I know we've talked about this offline, but our connection through the network marketing company and I like I remember seeing you on the dance floor on that boat OMG, was I intoxicated. We both were and I mean what it feels like lifetimes ago different priorities, different versions of us, beautiful in our own right, like I remember connecting with you on the dance floor then absolutely, and here we are now.
Speaker 1:Here we are now and I mean we were just chatting before we hit. We press record about standards and settling and do you believe that this thread of conversation is a big reason why you are where you are today? You know, going from us dancing on the boat many years ago to living this very wealthy, luxurious life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean there's been different phases in my life where I've had to address boundaries and standards and recognize where I've been settling, and it's not something that I did all at once as far as, like all areas of my life, I first probably addressed what was easiest or had I had the biggest desire for, so I addressed where I, where I was settling in my career for, so I addressed where I was settling in my career First. I addressed where I was settling, where I was not living my purpose, and actually that started with saying yes to network marketing. I knew that I was in a career, in a job that I I loved, but it wasn't what I was supposed to be doing. And I think for us women they're like.
Speaker 2:Even for me right now, there are areas where I have to constantly be willing to be honest with myself and look at my life. Where am I, where am I settling Like? Where am I letting the boundaries slip? And it's not easy to look in the mirror that way but and to answer your question like it's it's a huge reason why I am where I am and why you are where you are, that willingness to be honest with oneself yeah, because I think you know, my past self was always a people pleaser, very mindful of what other people thought, and so I associated setting boundaries with not being very nice.
Speaker 1:But what I'm really understanding about spirituality is, you know, unless you set boundaries, then you let any energy in, good or or bad, and so actually, what these boundaries and non-negotiables do is they allow the universe to bring the clarity of energy that you do desire, and as long as you set them with love, then it's essential if you want your life and business to change.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I often say to my clients wishy-washy vision equals wishy-washy results, Wishy-washy desires, wishy-washy boundaries right? If we are not clear on what we want and what we don't want, then you're going to get what you get. I can hear a voice and you don't get upset, you know, because it's, it's. You're the cause.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and particularly, I'd say, my love life is something I've been really looking at lately and I'm like where is my 10 out of 10 soulmate love, my husband, my family, my babies? And I had to take a hard look in the mirror and go oh, oh, I'm not fully clear and I'm not fully choosing what I want, whether there's fear of is it possible, is it going to happen, is that available for me?
Speaker 1:and I just decided that hell yeah, it is and in order for me to have that 10 out of 10 level extraordinary love, I have to set these non-negotiables. Because if I'm just going on the dating apps or going out into the world and I'm meeting Barry who's like so hot, you know, he's like out of a Diet Coke advert, like I can get distracted by the looks, and so if I am not clear, it's soul aligned, deeply, clear boundary, I'm just gonna go back in the same place yeah, I think that there's this uh interesting dynamic with that, because I often hear people say to say to me they're like well, because I very rarely swipe the way that is a yes, like on the dating apps.
Speaker 2:I think that's right, right. So I'm like constantly swiping one way and they're like but if you don't swipe the one way, you're never going to find someone. I'm like, yes, and I don't want to lower those standards. I believe that there are someone that can meet them all and at the same time, I'm open, and so when the person looks like they walked out of a Diet Coke advert and that's also like something on my list, so I get to have that and all the other things that I desire, and so I don't want to lower my standard in that, because at the moment, maybe I don't believe that they can be super hot and genuine and loving and you know. And so I think we've been.
Speaker 2:I believe that we've been programmed to to think that we've got to sacrifice one thing to gain another, and we do this in so many other areas of our lives.
Speaker 2:Like I work with a lot of women who sacrifice their being a mom for their business or vice versa, or they don't want this huge business because of it might impact their marriage or their relationship. And that's not true. It's literally like whatever we desire this and that and that and that and that. But if we don't claim it and I think, as I was listening to you speak, I think it has a lot to do with our self image, in the way that we view ourselves. You know, do we really believe that it is for us like you said? And that goes back to our own self worth and our own image of ourselves. We might say, oh, you know, sarah, over there, of course she found it. Look at her. There's no difference between us and that person. We all have the same mental faculties. We all have the same ability to manifest using our inside tools, our mental facultiesies. So everything that you desire in a man is there for you, or you wouldn't desire it.
Speaker 1:He exists absolutely yeah, and I feel like men and money are very connected very much. And so what would you say? The main boundaries or standards that you raised in your life to be where you are today?
Speaker 2:Well, like I said, I started with a career and really I got clear about how I wanted to feel while at work and while I was serving others, and what I was not willing to feel, and that's that really is how I I started. So I quit my job, my corporate job, and I don't um for those of you listening, this is not something I recommend Um and I quit in a haste because I didn't like the way that I was being treated. I quit without any backup plan. However, I was in network marketing and that my income in that company was about 2500 bucks a month and I was earning quite a good paycheck with my job. But I quit my job assuming that if I went all in in my network marketing company I would go straight to the top, like I blamed the fact that I didn't have enough time or enough focus on it, and which was not the truth. But it was like it was my limited paradigm, my limited programming at the time, and so I quit because I didn't have enough time and I really didn't like the way I felt at that job. And so I remember, driving home from work, I got on the phone, I gave my notice and then wrote up a resignation letter and I had been there for a couple years and people thought I was absolutely crazy, because I was a director of a provincial organization here in Canada and it was a really good job on the outside, but it didn't fit. It didn't fit the, the dream and the vision that I had, and so I needed to do something about it and, like you said, raise those standards and no longer settle. And that's the. That's the area that I started with.
Speaker 2:I like to say that my network marketing career like went gangbusters after that. It didn't. I found myself in a lot of debt because my, like my, the cost of living didn't go down when I quit my job. I still had the same cost of living and and I had faith and I remember praying for an answer and that's when I really got into mindset. Work was was.
Speaker 2:I was really in the depths of debt and despair and a lot of misery around money, but it was really essential because again going back to where I had was lowering my standards and where I wasn't keeping boundaries I allowed at that time wasn't keeping boundaries. I allowed at that time a lot of outside noise around network marketing, around money and the decisions I was making to go into my mind, and I didn't. You know, I didn't hold a tight space for myself and I was easily influenced by others. And so I would say that that was the second place that I really held boundaries.
Speaker 2:It was like I put earmuffs on at that point and I heard a voice that said, really, if it's meant to be, it's up to you. Like, what are you waiting for? You're waiting on other people, you're blaming other people for your success, like, get the fuck up and go, be who you're supposed to be. And to do that, I had to put earmuffs on and blinders, like literally, I had to ignore my circumstances, my situation, and that was my answer at that time circumstances, my situation, and that was my answer at that time In order to raise my standard in the money, the financial, and put a boundary in place. And then the third place was to address the noise and the distraction in my relationship. But that took many years, kim, like a long time, because it was easier for me to put the earmuffs on than to really be honest with myself about where I was settling.
Speaker 1:I don't know if that definitely resonates. Yeah, and what year was that when you put the earmuffs on 2017? Right, because now we're in 2025 and there's even more noise, yeah, even more distraction, and I've definitely noticed that when I thought I had boundaries. What's happened is they've kind of slipped, because there's just so many different ways that you can go and different people saying different things, and I'm sure you'll agree that now more than ever, it's so important to put the earmuffs on the blindfold, on like lock the door. Sit with yourself and ask yourself what it is that you really want, not what the world is trying to say that you think you should want yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:I think it's not easy to do, um, especially with so much opportunity and with the. The noise of the news and all of that is so loud, whether you listen or not. There's conversations going on and and it's yeah, it's it's more important than ever, and I think we're, we'll see the person, the people, the women who are rising. They have had the courage to create a very clear vision and clear boundaries about what they want. Any of us can do it. Any of us do it. That's, that's the thing.
Speaker 1:Like, we all have the capacity I love what you said there about there's so much opportunity. You know, yes, there's lots of noise and there's lots of opportunity, like anyone can go and be a millionaire, literally like we're in the biggest transfer of wealth I think we've ever experienced as humanity. But with that immense amount of opportunity also can come chaos and overwhelm and too many places to put your attention and focus. So I loved what you said there. Around, the women that are rising are clear and focused on their vision. So how do people create that clarity of their vision in such a distracting world?
Speaker 2:Yeah, taking the time to go inside and listen to yourself. I love to take pen to paper. I believe that we are meant to write. There is magic in writing and not typing, like really writing. And when you write, writing causes you to think, and we think in pictures. And so you want to give yourself the time and the space to answer the very simple question what do I want, what would I love, what do I prefer? And think about the different areas of your life. So think about your relationship, think about your financial situation, your career, how you're servicing others, where you live, and become as clear as possible and write a picture, describe it so that you can see it in your mind.
Speaker 2:And for many of us it doesn't come the first time you sit down. The first time you sit down and take pen to paper, it might be very vague and if you continue to come back to it and read it and vision and visualize it because, like I said, the writing causes the picture so what you'll start to do is create literally a picture on the screen of your mind and as you continue to add detail to it, it becomes more clear. And then you want to be warned of a few things. The first thing is your programming, or your subconscious mind, will not want you to change, so it will want you to play small and to understand that it's a con artist, and it does. It's doing that on purpose to keep you inside a box and to keep thinking you having you think the same way you've always thought. So you've got to get outside of that and really tap into your imagination and say things to yourself, like in a universe where anything's possible, like absolutely anything.
Speaker 2:What do I want and do I want? Like even more than that, if I didn't care what the neighbors thought or what my parents would say, or what my my upline or sideline, or, like I, if I didn't care about any of that, what do I want if I knew I wouldn't be judged? And continue to ask those questions and you know you've got a strong vision. When you can see it clearly, it evokes emotion and you have no idea how you're going to achieve it, and so it freaks you out and excites you at the same time. That is really important.
Speaker 2:And if you don't have it, so it's, it's that big, then you're still playing small, and I believe that what happens when I, when I see most clients is something will happen where they kind of get tripped up if it's not a big enough vision for themselves and they'll go back to settling very easily. So it's got to be big enough that they have no idea how they're going to do it and they're hesitant to share it with people because they might others might say you're absolutely crazy, like how you know, like who do you think you are? That's a good sign when you feel that I love that.
Speaker 1:Who do you think you are? Yeah, yeah, it's really interesting this piece, because I've I've taken many leaps of faith in my life and things have always worked out. And then, you know, other leaps have. They've always worked out, but not as I had maybe expected them to. And so I'm curious, because you had a job and you completely quit that. So you said you wouldn't recommend that, right? So what is this balance of taking a leap, living in the unknown whilst also making sure that your reality is taken care of? You know it's this conversation of yeah, I'm manifesting amounts, amount of wealth and how much of how much, like how much of my time needs to be spent learning how to manage money in the real world so that you know I feel safe enough to leap into the unknown is because it takes a lot to hold debt and to hold this like that amount.
Speaker 2:It like in the real world what it looks like on paper, and you know it was an uncomfortable experience. Now I understand that it was totally one for me, and how could I explain and teach about money if I haven't experienced the extreme opposite of like not having it and $100,000 in credit card debt? But what I do recommend is absolutely taking big leaps, just like you know, if you want to quit your job to be mindful of. I could have saved saved for a few months and had a pocket of money for my corporate job so that I could go out comfortably and worked on my business without it being so desperate, you know, because that desperate energy does not work, and so instead I had to do other things, like I created a debt repayment plan to get my debt out of my face, really. So that's why I say I don't recommend it.
Speaker 2:I think there would have been or could have been like a smarter way, but obviously it was the right way for me because of what I do and what I teach now, and and so I don't have any regrets there. But I want to be mindful of like Danielle tells me to quit, or quit my job right now, and like this is what happens. Well, it's not quite what I'm saying. So what was the question?
Speaker 1:I mean, you answered it perfectly. Yeah, I, I can really resonate with that experience because, um, it was a couple of years ago that you know, the network marketing company that that I was in as well just decided to remove my paycheck overnight and I realized in that moment, shit, like I god, I had like 13 grand months, some months and I, where is it? Like I didn't take care of it and look after it. So my lesson was it's not always necessarily about making more money, it's what you do with it. So, when I was completely like left, like what am I gonna do, that was a stressful time and that's what triggered my broke as fuck era, which is why, like you said, you know, we as leaders, we go through things so that we can teach things.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um, but you know, this podcast is so that you don't have to, you know, necessarily do that guys. So, uh, learn from, learn from our experience. Um, okay, so someone has sat with themselves and asked themselves in a universe where anything is possible, what do I want? Where does the boundaries come in? For someone who's maybe been a bit of a people pleaser and someone who's easily influenced, I loved it when you said that, because I think a lot of people can be easily influenced by marketing and the outside world. So how does one start creating boundaries and non-negotiables, and what does that look like?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think it goes back to that picture of what it is you want and then highlighting specific standards that you're calibrating to. And so, if I think about money and career so that, like I said, that was the first area that I really addressed Like what, how do I want to feel, what is the standard, what is the amount of money that I'd like to earn and I desire to earn in a month? I always do things on a monthly basis and then moving and writing that as part of your list and getting really clear. And I desire to earn in a month. I always do things on a monthly basis and then moving and writing that as part of your list and getting really clear. And I love taking highlighters because you can highlight some of those words that literally become like. I see it like a line like this and everything, this is the minimum and everything above that is amazing.
Speaker 2:Anything below that is not for me, and so and you can do this in your partner, okay, so this is like I had a standard of like six, three or taller, like you know, like things. You're tall, yeah, I'm tall, so I needed to, you know, wanted to wear heels and he'd be taller than me and so. So these are become the standard, and then it's like, okay, well, who do I need to be in order to attract that standard in my life? So it comes back to us always so who do I need to be to hold and to attract $10,000 months or $100,000 months? Here's the thing. It doesn't matter what the number is, it doesn't matter if you want the 6'3 person or the 5'10 person. It's like it's just a standard that requires you to calibrate.
Speaker 1:To first, you to calibrate to first, and why do you think that can be uncomfortable or scary for people?
Speaker 2:Well, I think, because we haven't been doing it and we've been, we've been programmed to settle and so, in that that if it's something that you have highlighted, it's not a standard you're used to keeping yourself accountable to and it comes back to integrity. You say you might want it, but then you're willing to like fall back and not be that person. So you got to hold yourself to that first and that's like it's uncomfortable to look. That's why I think most people don't do it. It's uncomfortable to be honest and say and here's the thing, it's like not to beat ourselves up to say something's wrong with us. I think that's where a lot of us go when we go to shame.
Speaker 2:That's not what I'm talking about. I'm saying really, objectively, look at yourself and how you've been objective. When you look at something objectively, you're looking at it like a scientist would. I'm looking at Danielle and how she's been showing up objectively. I'm not taking it personally. This is like simply, as a scientist or a consultant would, look at how I'm showing up and recognizing where I've lowered standards, where I've slipped back, where I haven't been truthful, honest with myself and be willing to call that out. This is between you and you, me and me. This is not about anyone else and it's not about beating myself up. It's about being honest, so that I can rise and hold myself to a higher standard oof.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the integrity piece you spoke to there is. You know how many times have people who are listening maybe said yes to something and then not continued or not followed through, and it's okay if it's not aligned for you anymore. Be honest with yourself. But actually, if you're not following through because fears come up or you know you've got on your head about something, you know, are you holding that high standard of integrity? You know, and I even relate I relate a lot to like the debt and the car park tickets, and I was like I'm just going to ignore, just ignore the real world, I'm just going to avoid it all.
Speaker 1:And I just woke up one day and I was like this is not how multi-millionaire Kim would act. I would lean in, I would face it and I'd hold myself to a high standard of integrity and I would lean in and I'd be solution focused. And so you can start to feel that because this is about you and you, it's not just the wealth that shifts, it's everything else in your life that shifts, because this is a holistic approach to you know, manifesting your wildest desires is is you're raising that, that standard yeah, and the fact the fastest way to eat away at your confidence is not keep your word to yourself.
Speaker 2:The fastest way to build confidence is to keep your word, and so we know you might be like ignoring the real world and ignoring the parking tickets or whatever, but the truth is it's in your subconscious mind, it's eating away at you and there's an impact there, and there are things that you know that you need to address and you're not. And it's the same thing, if you like. If I say, okay, I'm going to the gym or I'm waking up for me, I I wake up at quarter to six and I do studies, and if I hit snooze, I know I'm not keeping my word to myself and that impacts the rest of my day and my confidence, and I might like rush it to the side, go. Oh, no big deal, I was catching up on sleep, but the truth is, I gave my word to me that I was doing that, and so what happens is when I then say oh well, next month is a $200,000 a month, and I say that our $10,000 a month, and I put that goal, my subconscious mind calls bullshit on me because I can't even keep my word to getting out of bed when I say I'm going to, or to go to the gym or to pay those parking tickets, and so it's calling bullshit.
Speaker 2:But if I can keep my word, could keep my standards is same thing, kim. Let's say in dating it's like, okay, well, a non-negotiable for me is that, xyz and. And then you go on the dating app and the first date and he is not that thing, and then we say, oh, yeah, but I can go back, I'll go back for a second date because maybe that's not as important. Well, we're lowering the standard and so we've got to really decide what the non-negotiables are in all those areas for ourselves and then keep our word.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah, and, like you said, you know, whenever we set a new standard where we're tested, there's the old version of you that wants to pull yourself down and um something that I'm also learning with kabbalah you probably know kabbalah as well um is, you know, the the dark energies can come to test us and distract us, like it's a part of the process, and what 95% of people do is they allow the distraction. Or, oh, let me just go and check my emails, or let me just go and eat another cookie that distracts you from that. That new version that you were stepping into to, to help you cultivate the free will to, to really push that.
Speaker 2:Totally. And it's if we get distracted and we focus our energy on that thing, that's not quite totally what we want, we have no idea. But if we would have said, no, that right, there is exactly what we wanted. So it's like that test, does that make sense? So if we think about a part, so we're like, okay, he's got everything but this one thing and we're spending time little did we know if we would have held our standard and say you're amazing, and I want X Y, z, that the actually the one with all of it is right there. And I've seen this with clients, with people love with houses, their dream house when they will settle there. You know, but little they know. And they've been looking for a house for two years and then you know they anyway. Anyway, it's fascinating, I think I. But how? But like it takes so much courage to wait it out, doesn't it?
Speaker 1:yeah it's like, oh, this will do, this will do, and then you know, like anything, I feel there's like a shadow and a light side to this. So, high achievers, can you relate? Can you relate? When does that bar actually stop raising? So I suppose this is where the standards come in of. Like okay, the non-negotiables is like the floor, and so to not have like a hundred non-negotiables where fucking like literally everything is a miracle. But like this list is what there's, one poor guy could only fit with all of your standards. Like what is that balance?
Speaker 2:yeah, good question. I, I believe so for me. I created the list, like in a person, of non-negotiables and then I thought, okay, so what areas like? And then I prioritize them, like what is the most important here and like what are foundational for me. And then where could him and I grow as a couple? Because I do believe a conscious relationship is for growth, so when we're talking specifically around standards for that partner.
Speaker 2:So I took the time to really think about that and you know, the 6-3 became a non-negotiable because I didn't think he could grow Um and um and I, yeah, and there was a few other things with like, I think like the looks and and like that kind of superficial stuff is also was also important.
Speaker 2:I asked myself if it wasn't and, and for me in this stage of my life it is important. And then the, the qualities of like how his mind works and what he believed in, and spirituality, and was really important. So I prioritized and then I and then I um thought, okay, so these other pieces are where him and I could grow together and and could I see that happening? So what I threw in that bucket at the moment has been money and I'm I'm still like I you can see I'm still like contemplating this for myself is money, and this is you and I talked about this offline about like is there a part of us as women that we get to be the muse and light to ignite a man's passion? So, yeah, money, income, was a part where I am willing to see that part grow within the container. Emotional intelligence was a non-negotiable for me.
Speaker 1:And how many would you say is a good ballpark to have?
Speaker 2:as a standard, like negotiables? That's a good question. I don't know that there's a specific number of items on the list, but I think it's being really honest with yourself and I think it comes with from what we've experienced in the past as well, because when we have experienced something that doesn't work and what we don't want, that can lead to holding a new standard, and I think we've got to be honest with ourselves with that. Do you know what I mean? So like a past relationship gives us an experience that then gives us a new standard that becomes non-negotiable, and I think so for some women. They might have, you know, two dozen items because of their experience, and others might have three. It's not, it's. I don't know that it's about a number. I think it's more about our life experience up until the point.
Speaker 2:Up until that point, yeah, I also am really conscious of this too, of like I don't, I really do not want a relationship where there's anything for me to fix or change within the person. So like that codependency, that like me being someone that, like that I found a lot of value, let's say, in my past. And and of being help, yeah, and I'm like fuck that. I'm so over it, and so I'm conscious of the things that I can see growing within the relationship, don't? I don't need to be, they don't need to be fixed or changed in order for me to be happy.
Speaker 2:Yeah. And so then those anything that I think that that has to already be there? Yeah, and those people exist, like you and I exist right, with a certain standard, and we're not. I'm not saying that we're perfect. I'm saying that we're holding ourselves to a certain place and a standard, and there is an equal match of a man, but I also don't want to attract someone where, like where I'm at right now, I'm attracting from my future goal, and this is where it comes like I have to be that person now operating in my life, as uncomfortable as that is holding myself to a standard, because if not, then I'm going to attract the same old that I've always attracted and I'm not willing to do that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and so what does that look like for you? Okay, if you were to wear a fly on the wall and you wake up in the morning, do you have any rituals, routines, the highlights you spoke about, to help you set those new ceilings?
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely Well. First of all, it starts with how I actually go to bed, because I think how we lay our head on the pillow at night actually impacts how you wake up, and a lot of science shows that to be true. And so my evening ritual is just as important as my morning ritual, and so I always go to sleep, I always close my eyes in gratitude, reviewing the day and recognizing what's went well and how grateful I am for the day, and that anytime that I miss that one of the reasons I don't drink alcohol anymore is because I fall asleep not intentionally and wake up feeling like absolute crap, but not nothing to do with the alcohol drank, more about where my state was and me worrying. So I've really connected those dots. But so how I go to bed is very important Laying down and re looking at the day and harvesting the good. Many people put their head on a pillow and they worry and they wake up worrying. So literally when we go to sleep, we're marinating in that last thought, our minds marinating, in that last thought, our minds marinating. And so instead I am in gratitude, and then I take that gratitude and I start visualizing future memories as I fall asleep. And so then, when I wake up in the morning, I recognize how I feel and I spend a couple moments with my eyes closed, mentally in gratitude, and I'm like for simple things like the way that my back feels on the mattress, the birds that I hear, the sun as it's hitting my face. If it's sunny in the winter at 545, it's dark in Canada. If it's sunny in the winter at 545, it's dark in Canada. Um and so that those are some of the things that I did this morning and laid there for like three minutes, you know, marinating and and intentionally proclaiming that it's a great day.
Speaker 2:I'm grateful, my eyes are opening and then I get up and I do studies. So I have an hour practice where I'm really disciplined, and this goes back to my mentorship with Bob Proctor. He taught us how to study in three 20 minute chunks and so I study one of his programs today was about imagination and then I journal and reflect so that I can apply the principles that stand out to me to my life, and it's very simple. So I I listen, then I read and then I write 2020. And I do gratitude. Where I actually write gratitude, I write my goal and I write gratitude for five things that are present in my life right now and five things that are not yet here in the physical realm, that are on their way, that I feel gratitude for. And when I do that, I have a practice where I make sure that my mind and heart are in coherence, and this comes from the HeartMath Institute. So I have my monitor it's actually right right here and I don't have to put this on but I can measure that I'm in coherent state while I'm doing that and that's how I connect to source and then from there, I finished that practice with a very simple question and I listened for answers, and I commit to hearing the answers throughout the day, and that question is how can I increase my service today?
Speaker 2:And I listen for any ideas, I write them down. Sometimes they're ridiculous ideas, sometimes they're great ideas, sometimes they're intuition, and other times there are words of affirmations around, like, you know, be the absolute light on Kim's podcast today, you know, and it's it's um. I listen and then I go on with my day. I, you know, have a shower. I have other practices. In the morning, like when I put on my makeup, I'm speaking to myself about who I stepping into. That next level version. That's a habit stacking that I do. I speak nice things to myself in the mirror, I shower, I get ready, I dress with intention. So when I get dressed I'm very much like conscious, about, about. I don't put on any old thing. I'm. What is the goal achieve? Version of Danielle wearing today same thing when I'm doing my hair I put on my lipstick as like a final cap.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, because what you're doing is you're influencing the subconscious. So actually, if you're not doing that work, your day is run by the 95 of your brain that wants to stay where it is. Yeah, you're actually like setting, because some people in the coaching world also say I don't need a morning routine, I just like get up and do me and you know all of that is great. So how important do you feel it is to have those like rituals to help you grow and set those standards?
Speaker 2:100 important and this is why, in your intention matters, your focus matters. And the person that says that they don't need the rituals they are doing something to be to get outside of their comfort zone. If they're successful, they might be doing it unconsciously, but they're doing something because if not, they continue to get the same results they always got. So if their results are shifting and your results always tell the truth, they never lie. Your physical world is just a reflection of what's going on inside. Your physical world is just a reflection of what's going on inside. So I would say to the person that they don't have any rituals. They actually do. They're probably just not conscious of them. They're, they're, they're, they're shifting something in the morning because the the decision to be that next level version of you's got to come at some place Like it. Just it has to, or else you're, you're going to get the same results.
Speaker 1:And so, zooming out, you know, in the coaching world, entrepreneurship world, would you say this is like one of the most common things that you see in high value women, cause I know you've just been to Egypt on a beautiful retreat with high value women who invested a lot of money to be there. Like what would you say that the most common one, two, three standards that high value women have?
Speaker 2:Absolutely every single one of them has some sort of morning ritual, meditation, gratitude, and my meditation is, with my visualization, so like, but they're very disciplined, like they didn't need to be guided, they were disciplined on their own. So when we were on the boat in Egypt, every single person on that boat was in a pocket on the by the pool doing something in the morning, whether it was stretching and yoga, writing, like, but they didn't need someone else to guide them, they were self-disciplined, they were self-led.
Speaker 1:Wow, yes, so much yes to this. This, this podcast is full of so many codes. I'm gonna personally listen back to it over and over again. I feel like I've just had a one-month coaching session. I love it and I'm honestly. I am just want to just reflect back at you like wow, to have been where you were in the depths of debt, which I feel could be a whole different podcast in itself to be where you are now, just before we wrap up. Like, what is life like for you now? Like on instagram, on social media, you look like you live the most glamorous, luxurious, wealthy life. Like what does it look like and feel like?
Speaker 2:It feels like I get to say yes to what I want, when I want, how I want, with who I want, and that kind of freedom is what I define luxury as. To be honest, it's like who do I want to surround myself with? Where do I want to go? Like Egypt, twice and within six months. Yeah, because I feel like it, because I feel called to it. Yeah, because I feel like it because I feel called to it. And, kim, I want to say like I'm go.
Speaker 2:I am also going through a really stretchy period. So in reality, there's a lot going on in the background with a team of lawyers, with paperwork around court cases and my divorce and separation. That isn't pretty and I get to have it all. I get to live my best life, even while that's going on in the background. So I don't want to paint the picture that my life is perfect. I'm like being tested just like everyone else and you know, paying lawyers bills that I used to make that much in a year and that's my lawyer's bill for a week. That isn't, you know, that's not ideal, and yet I'm like. Really, I keep hearing my mentor's voice in my, in my head. Do you believe in what we teach. Danielle, this is part of the lesson, because if you believe in what we teach, the lawyer's bills are no problem with where you're going. They're small in comparison to who you are and what you're doing and the impact.
Speaker 2:And I'm being stretched, and so it would be dishonest of me to paint the picture that it's all sunshine and roses. I'm dealing with a lot in the back end and and it's not a but it's, it's an and I get to live this most amazing life because I choose it, because I created the picture, and so I. You know, I just had a week's vacation where it was a staycation and I had. I filled that week with allowing myself to be completely adored by a man that I've attracted into my life by being pampered.
Speaker 2:We got massages and went hiking and really simple things, drove a convertible Audi around which I absolutely loved and it was. It was fabulous and yet so simple and exactly what I wanted. It felt peaceful and grounded and calm and yeah, that's what life is right now, and I'm also in a stage where I'm creating that next vision for myself. So we spent two days talking about our dreams to each other and vision and we've got that's one thing like I've really learned that we have to go back and continuously have the courage to ask ourselves what do we want in the universe where anything's possible, and grow that vision, and then the goal becomes a bite out of that vision. Yeah, so that's.
Speaker 1:That's where I'm at well, thank you for being real and this is why I had to get you on the show, because you are. You are the example of wealth that I, you know, want to see more of in the world, of, like, heart-centered women who are honest and authentic and unapologetic. And yeah, I want to buy Gucci and I want to drive in a Lambo and I just want to do the simple things. You know it gets to be however we want it to be, and thank you for being real and sharing your magic on this episode. It's been absolutely incredible. Please do tell all the listeners where they can find you and anything that you've got coming up that they might want to work and collaborate with you, with amazing.
Speaker 2:Well, the best place is on instagram at the danielle amos, and we've got a bunch of things. We launched podcast, relaunched a new podcast called the mystic millionaire and I'd love for you to check that out and we've got masterclasses coming up in the fall. We're taking a little bit of a break at the moment, uh, for the summer, and in the fall you'll be able to catch some live classes and you can join me there. Um, in the meantime, we've got lots of things on evergreen that you can listen to, and I dive into the podcast because there's. I don't really hold anything back, so there's lots of juicy content there for everyone thank you, we'll make sure everything is linked in the show notes.
Speaker 1:And just to wrap this in a bow, we have soul diggers listening. How would you describe the heart and soul of a woman who is a soul digger?
Speaker 2:she knows that she's willing to work for it. Let's define that, not the hustle, the old way that we were taught, but instead the work is the inner work. The digging is the willingness to put herself truly on the table and observe who she is unapologetically, and be willing to grow. I think she is unapologetic in that and she desires to have it all in her soul because that's what we're made for, like. Abundance, literally, is our birthright.
Speaker 1:Amen, and so it is Danieliel amos. Thank you so much, and I'm gonna see you on one of your retreats very soon, girlfriend. Good, I love you, thank you.