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Ep.164 - What You Make It Mean Is Everything You Experience

• Kim Mellor

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Soul expansion happens when we stop making external events mean something about our worthiness and instead recognize everything as energy that can be interpreted in empowering ways. 

• Finding beauty in the present moment rather than wishing to be elsewhere
• Breaking free from the ego's tendency to make events mean something negative about ourselves
• Setting clear non-negotiables and boundaries to attract aligned energy
• Shifting perspective on rejection as divine redirection
• Understanding that wealth consciousness is a state of being, not just accumulating money
• Celebrating others' abundance as confirmation that it's possible for you too
• Taking action from the assumption that your desires are already manifested
• Asking "what am I making this mean?" when triggered
• Recognizing that your story either sets you free or keeps you in limitation

Journal prompt: What's one story you've been carrying that isn't actually true?


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Hello Soul Diggers, how are you feeling after the weekend? I hope you're feeling refreshed and rested. Oh, I certainly am. I have found a fantastic place not far from me where I can go swimming in the lake, I can sauna oh my gosh, it's heaven. And when the sun is shining, you could literally be anywhere on earth. And I keep having this feeling like whenever I'm walking in nature, whether I'm walking, mrs Wilson, or if I'm just like with presence, I could literally be anywhere in the world. And how often do we think to ourselves oh, you know, I wish I was here and you know, it's going to be so much nicer when I'm over there doing that in that country. And actually there is so much beauty and magic in the now, in the presence. As we know, as Soul Diggers, we're here to reveal the light, the blessings that are available here right now, wherever we are in the world. And actually I was walking my dog the other day and I thought to myself I could be in Arizona with the rocks and the colours and the heat, like I could honestly have been anywhere in the world. Yeah, that's why I'd share that. So, yeah, just thought I'd share that. But yeah, tuning into today's show I wanted to talk about.

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What are you making it mean? What are you making it? What do I? What do I even mean? What do I mean? What are you making it mean? People talk a lot about duality. You know the good, the bad, the light, the dark. People talk a lot about duality. You know the good, the bad, the light, the dark and, yeah, it's very. It's useful in some situations to, you know, have those different perspectives and also, everything just is. Everything just is energy, and it's only good or bad if we make it mean that.

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And this is the thing that gets people in either the upward spiral or the downward spiral. And you know, I've definitely been in places where I have made things mean things about me and it's had a negative impact on my mindset, my frequency, and it sent me on the downward spiral because I have made this mean something about me, which is the ego. The ego just wants to keep you small. It wants to limit you. Ego isn't always like I want to have these big flashy things to make me look good. The ego can be actually like I'm afraid of stepping into this next life and so I'm gonna play it small, and so it can look for reasons to make itself mean oh gosh, okay, well, that happened. That means that I'm not a good coach, I'm not a good mother, I'm not a good mentor, mentor and so that can create this stuck feeling.

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You know, when you feel like you're just walking in mud and you can't get out, it's like I don't know how to get out, I need a sinking in the sand. Definitely been there and I've also, you know, got myself out of those places. And how I've done that is by stop making anything mean anything about me. You know, it's often the shame and the fear and the judgment that we carry about ourselves that just keeps us from walking the path. You know, it slows us down, and we're here to receive infinite amounts of blessings and to receive them in quantum speed, right? So in order to do that, we have to stop making it mean anything. So, in order to do that, we have to stop making it mean anything, and I've done this a lot around money and as I'm stepping into my million dollar identity, which, for me, feels it feels really fun and playful, because I know that money is energy and it follows our desires, and our desires come to us when we embody a certain frequency, and so it feels really fun for me to be playing with this energy of being a millionaire, a multi-millionaire, because it doesn't really mean anything like I'm. Maybe 10 years ago you know the goal of being a millionaire in my vision board um, I made it mean something about me, like this makes me feel more worthy or more successful. But now I know it doesn't really mean anything about me actually. It just the only meaning I have attached to it is it's actually letting in more love, like I feel more connected to God and consciousness. Because what is wealth, what is energy? It's actually letting in more love, Like I feel more connected to God and consciousness. Because what is wealth, what is energy? It's God creator, you know, creator wants us to have it all and so, because I'm not making it mean anything about me anymore, it's just a really playful energy to be in. How would I act? How would I show up? And if you haven't listened to last week's episode, definitely go and listen to it.

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Danielle Amos, she is the mystic millionaire and she spoke about how important it is to have boundaries and raising our standards and having non-negotiables. Because, if you think about it right, if you want to have more energy, more love, more of anything, anything. Do you want to allow any energy in or is it specific energy? So, when I've been getting back on the dating apps, for example, when I started going back on them, I was like, oh, I'm not actually clear on the energy I'm inviting in, and so it felt really draining and overwhelming. And so I got really strict on my non-negotiables, my strict seven non-negotiables, and because I have them now, it's very clear what energy is allowed to come to me. And it's the same for the millionaire goal, it's the same for any goal.

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If you do not raise your standards and have clarity about what energy you want to bring in, you're going to get distracted, and this is what I feel a lot of people are experiencing Overwhelmed, distracted. Too many options yes, there's an abundance of options, and Is anything getting done? Is the question. Sometimes it can be apathy of options, which is where there's too many decisions to make, and it actually becomes really draining, which is why I love to have a routine. Actually, I love to know what I'm wearing, what I'm eating, the flow of my day, because it eliminates all distractions. So, as you're expanding into more, it's really, really important that you have those non-negotiables, you raise your standards. So definitely go back and listen to that on repeat.

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But what are you making it mean? Like, what are the stories that you're currently telling yourself about something that happened in the past which, by the way, is in the past? You know, most people live from that place, right? So what are you making it mean? You know, two people can have the exact same experience but create entirely different realities because of the meaning they attach to it.

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I remember when I came back to England and it was miserable and it was raining, and I said to my friend, oh god, I hate the rain. And he turned around and said, well, the rain waters the grass and the grass is green and I love looking at the green nature and the green grass. And I was like, god damn it, you're right, because I was making it mean that the rain is crap, england, england's crap, I don't want to be here. It's crap. You know, poor old me. And then I completely flipped it because my friend had a different way that he was expressing what it meant to him.

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The same as if someone says no to you. The same as if someone says no to you, you know, if someone says no to me. I'm like thank you, god, for redirecting me, because I know something better is on its way. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I love a good no. I trust people that have got a good no. Actually, really important to me that I'm surrounded by friends who can say yes when they mean yes and no when they mean no, because now I don't make it mean anything about me. Maybe before I did, maybe I was like you know. It meant it meant that if you said no to me, that like I'm, I'm not worthy of being a friend. Um, you know I, I just want people to like me and love me, and why would you not include me? And now, if a group of friends get together and you know they do something without me, I'm like great, that's the most aligned thing for them to do right now and I fully trust that whoever and whatever is in my life right now is as it's meant to be.

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So if you think about like this, this, this story like our life is one big story. You are so powerful. Do you even realize that the story, the story that you're giving the most power to right now, is what your reality is? And so if you do not like the reality. Remember you have. You are so freaking bloody powerful. Be mindful where you put the power. Be mindful where you put the power you hold the wand. So your power is your thoughts, your actions and the decisions that you choose to make every single day.

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And so why don't you tell the story of where you want to go, which, by the way, has already happened, like this idea of manifestation, like we have to pull things out of thin air and create something that isn't here, guys, it's already here, it's already dawn, it's already manifested. The visions, the dreams, the desires that you have, they're there, they're available. Visions, the dreams, the desires that you have, they're there, they're available. All we have to do is act as if and actually take action as if, really, really, really important. And you're allowed to desire, you're allowed to want.

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You know, I think a lot of people, especially in a spiritual world, have this narrative around wanting is sinful, or I shouldn't. I should be grateful for what I have. Yes, be grateful for what you have, but God wants you to have it freaking all Like. He created a Lamborghini, he created the Tesla, the multi-million dollar homes, because he wants you to have it Like. You don't have to have a designer handbag. But you bloody can you absolutely can have a designer handbag and want to walk naked as a hippie in Bali. Guys, we need to stop making it mean anything about us.

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The outside world is what we perceive through our own perceptions and our own projections, and so when you shift that internal reality, life just becomes fun and there's no blocks, because if you're judging someone for what they have or don't have, you subconsciously say I don't want that or yeah, that's not for me. Whereas now, whenever I see someone who's like driving a Lambo or is making multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple millions and billions of dollars and pounds and all the things, I'm like, wow, I am open to receive that amount of abundance, yeah, whereas before, maybe, I would look at people and be a bit jealous or I think, oh, that's not for me, that's too much, that's too much money, eight figures, oh, doing what you love, oh gosh, that's, that's only possible for you. What. There are no limits. There are no limits to our consciousness, and so every time you see someone, even if you don't want to have that thing, you might not want to have an eight-figure business and drive around in a Tesla and all that stuff, love, love it, revel in it. Oh my gosh, I am open to receiving that amount of abundance. Thank you, thank you, thank you, because you then remove any blockages and just a conduit for energy to flow through of abundance. Thank you, thank you, thank you, because you then remove any blockages and just a conduit for energy to flow through. So, projection versus reality right.

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Often what we make things mean comes from old wounds conditioning projections. It's not the truth of this moment. This moment is pure potentiality. It's infinite. Anything is possible in this freaking moment, but you have to take your power and be responsible with where you direct it, and so, speaking as if, acting as if, like it's not just a concept on a vision board, like you have to start making decisions differently and acting differently and having different habits.

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You know, for example, you know wealth. You know many people can make money and make it mean safety, status, status, self-worth, but then you also embody wealth consciousness where money is simply a resource. It's not your identity. You know, and I think we are now getting more examples of wealthy, successful people who are wealth conscious and understand that money is a tool. It's a divine tool that God gave us to be resourced to be able to give, to live, to serve, to have it all, to give it all, and you get to have both. You get to be extremely wealthy in abundance. It's not just money, right? Wealth consciousness is a state of being. It's having the money and actually feeling wealthy, right.

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The wealth consciousness piece comes first. Your mind, your connection to your presence is ultimately what world consciousness is. It's a state of oh, I feel so, so abundant right now, and from that place more of it comes. The trap is when people again make it mean something about them, their identity, their safety, their status, because then we become a victim to it. And so I'm going to be talking a lot more about this because it's really, it's a huge. It's a huge topic for me because I've I've lived a life where, you know, I had a lot of money and I made it mean something about me and then I one-way ticketed to Bali, proved that I didn't need money to be happy and then kind of rejected it all.

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And now, like you know, the whole of this year been really diving deep into wealth consciousness and like what would it feel like to just feel wealthy and hold more and receive more and circulate more, and I just feel so fun to me, like, like, I love the idea of expanding consciousness and seeing what is possible with our mind and our being, because ultimately, it's our being, it's our being that we're seeking, it's the already having the feeling, the ability to be present with friends and family, the ability to be open to receive magic and miracles, and all the beautiful blessings that are available to every single one of us. So next time someone or something triggers you, just pause and ask, like, what am I making this mean? What am I making this mean and what else could this mean that feels more empowering? What else could this mean that feels more empowering? Oh, my gosh, wow, that person, I'm seeing this person.

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And if you're seeing someone show up in your life, that's successful, it's because that's also meant for you. Like, if it's on the same frequency, you know the radio dial we speak about, you know dialing your frequency to 1111 FM, you're going to pick up on the abundance that you're seeking, whereas if you're in shame, lack, fear FM, you're not going to be able to pick up on anything that's around you, because your dreams are already in your field, they're already manifested. So when we get on the right frequency. We are open, we release any judgment, any fear, any shame. Oh, we allow those blessings to come into our life a lot faster. It gets to be so, so freaking fun. So, if you want to take out a little pen, have a little journaling prompt to start the week off strong.

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What's one story that you've been carrying that isn't actually true? What's one story you've been carrying that isn't actually true? Guys, the story that you tell yourself will either set you free or keep you in limitation, wondering why everyone else is successful and you aren't. Let me tell you there is no difference between you and me. There is no difference between you and me. There is no difference between a multi-millionaire. What's his name? He was on amazon, jeff bezos. Like there is no difference between him and you. He just acted on the assumption, when he was sat in his bedroom making amazon, that it was done and he took action from that place. He made decisions from that place because he had his boundaries. He was acting from his identity of having a multi-million dollar business and brand.

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That's the thing that we're seeking the freedom to fully be all that we can be, and money is just a reflection of that. Like now, I see money through a very, very different lens. When I see someone who's I mean this one woman that I love. She's made like 40 million in five years and she was a nurse for 20 years and to hear her story of how she shifted, that it's just a story, it's a consciousness. You know, she just decided to be a different version of herself and stop making things mean anything and just see everything as energy. So, guys, the freedom that you're looking for, it begins when you stop letting circumstances define who you are and you start consciously choosing what they mean for you, and you may as well make them mean. You're on the right track.

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This is good, this is positive. Oh my gosh, thank you, thank you, thank you. More of this, please. I am open to receive this level of abundance. Yes, it's for you, and if you're listening to this episode, all of your dreams and desires are for you, and this is a reminder and a wake-up call to fully believe that and know that and trust that and take actions towards that. Oh gosh, life feels so light and free when we stop making our decisions. Our past actions mean anything about us and we see them all as lessons and learnings and experience, because that is all that this life is. It's soul school, it's the way that we are learning and growing, and every single thing, every person, it's just been an opportunity to grow. Every person, it's just been an opportunity to grow. So shift your thoughts. Shift god, I can't say that, pop me teeth in. Shift your story and you'll shift your life. I love you.