Source Post: http://bebetterstupid.com/dont-compare-yourself-to-anyone-ever
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – Episode intro for my episode about how we compare ourselves to others.
1:03 – I introduce my guest, my brother-in-law, and why I thought he’d be a good fit for my comparisons episode.
2:22 – I start to read from my article about why comparing yourself keeps you from finding your own definition of happiness in life. Our tendency to believe this is a competition sucks and it totally gets us off track in life.
4:53 – Jeff argues that comparing yourself to others is a great thing to do with the right intentions. If you do it in an aspirational or an instructional sense. He does however, agree that superficial comparisons aren’t particularly helpful. We agree in both cases that it’s worth asking why you’re comparing yourself to other people.
8:28 – I read from my post about how social media is the basis for our comparisons, and that’s ridiculous because it’s so nearly universally fake. This is harmful for women in terms of how they look, and men in terms of trying to be tough and proving themselves to the world.
11:29 – Jeff talks about how he tends to compare himself to where he thinks he should be rather than other people. Jeff talks about how people need to be more realistic and find what you like about yourself.
13:49 – I read from my article about the other reason that comparing yourself via social media iis toxic. You don’t know how anyone is doing. You don’t know that doing what they would do would make you happy, and you don’t know that it’s making them happy. This is completely a fool’s errand.
15:06 – I go more into detail about toxic these unknowable comparisons are. We don’t know how the people are actually doing. Jeff also talks about how social media is based in advertisement.
18:37 – I read from my post about how even if someone is doing better than you, and you had a way of knowing that, that your comparisons to them are still useless and healthy. I also read about how trying to catch up to them, you could make a variety of stupid life choices.
21:57 – Jeff and I discuss the previous section more in depth, and conclude that the idea is to look at others for ideas, not direction in life. It informs me more about yourself, and you have to step back and wonder what really matters to you. Jeff compares the ability to do this to the ability to going towards the Wheel of Fortune.
26:05 – I read from my article about how we can compare ourselves less. I posit that we should focus on ourselves and our own journey more, and I make my primary point that the only person you need to be better than is you.
27:53 – Jeff and I discuss about the importance of being open-minded, and not getting latched onto a way of life that, to you, equals good. We each talk about how we’ll stay on our own paths in life…kinda.
31:10 – In my final word, I posit a better world in which we don’t feel the need to compete with others to push ourselves. The solution I say, is in noticing our comparisons, and asking ourselves about them.
32:31 – Wrap up.
Source Post: http://bebetterstupid.com/dont-compare-yourself-to-anyone-ever
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – Episode intro for my episode about how we compare ourselves to others.
1:03 – I introduce my guest, my brother-in-law, and why I thought he’d be a good fit for my comparisons episode.
2:22 – I start to read from my article about why comparing yourself keeps you from finding your own definition of happiness in life. Our tendency to believe this is a competition sucks and it totally gets us off track in life.
4:53 – Jeff argues that comparing yourself to others is a great thing to do with the right intentions. If you do it in an aspirational or an instructional sense. He does however, agree that superficial comparisons aren’t particularly helpful. We agree in both cases that it’s worth asking why you’re comparing yourself to other people.
8:28 – I read from my post about how social media is the basis for our comparisons, and that’s ridiculous because it’s so nearly universally fake. This is harmful for women in terms of how they look, and men in terms of trying to be tough and proving themselves to the world.
11:29 – Jeff talks about how he tends to compare himself to where he thinks he should be rather than other people. Jeff talks about how people need to be more realistic and find what you like about yourself.
13:49 – I read from my article about the other reason that comparing yourself via social media iis toxic. You don’t know how anyone is doing. You don’t know that doing what they would do would make you happy, and you don’t know that it’s making them happy. This is completely a fool’s errand.
15:06 – I go more into detail about toxic these unknowable comparisons are. We don’t know how the people are actually doing. Jeff also talks about how social media is based in advertisement.
18:37 – I read from my post about how even if someone is doing better than you, and you had a way of knowing that, that your comparisons to them are still useless and healthy. I also read about how trying to catch up to them, you could make a variety of stupid life choices.
21:57 – Jeff and I discuss the previous section more in depth, and conclude that the idea is to look at others for ideas, not direction in life. It informs me more about yourself, and you have to step back and wonder what really matters to you. Jeff compares the ability to do this to the ability to going towards the Wheel of Fortune.
26:05 – I read from my article about how we can compare ourselves less. I posit that we should focus on ourselves and our own journey more, and I make my primary point that the only person you need to be better than is you.
27:53 – Jeff and I discuss about the importance of being open-minded, and not getting latched onto a way of life that, to you, equals good. We each talk about how we’ll stay on our own paths in life…kinda.
31:10 – In my final word, I posit a better world in which we don’t feel the need to compete with others to push ourselves. The solution I say, is in noticing our comparisons, and asking ourselves about them.
32:31 – Wrap up.