Source Post: http://bebetterstupid.com/the-idiots-guide-to-loving-humanity/
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – I introduce the episode.
0:51 – I introduce my guest, Mackenzie, and we talk about quarantining, and how especially in this time, the idea of kindness and love are things that are evolving.
04:29 – I start to read my source post, in which I point how much we love being kind and the idea of loving everyone, but we normally don’t really execute this in our own lives.
06:04 – I talk about how we’re evolutionarily predisposed to look out for ourselves except for the purpose of maintaining social bonds. Mackenzie talks about how we care for others by looking after ourselves, and how that’s kind of the source of all kindness. I wonder if it’s good to always be coming from a place of kindness, and how the priority needs to be more on creating common ground with people, and to mix criticism with positivity.
09:32 – I read from my post about why universal kindness matters. I talk about how kindness has such a consistently positive impact on the world. I also talk about the positives of loving everyone, and the challenges of that when it really means “everyone.”
10:51 – I start off this discussion by talking about the exact way to be kind to assholes. Mackenzie talks about approaching smaller scale versions of this daily. She talks about the need to prioritize finding the parts of that person that you really like. We also talk about the benefits of coming from a place of neutrality, and why it helps people to want to hear you out. I also discuss the benefits of knowing that you did what you could to be kind in a given situation, and Mackenzie goes in detail about how to kindly tell people harsh truths.
17:15 – I read from my article about how real kindness is often totally inconvenient, and how hard it is to deal with this inconvenience, especially when your kindness goes universal. Part of this can even entail lying.
19:16 – Mackenzie and I talk about how we’re so addicted to convenience that doing small things for others can feel annoying, but is worth prioritizing. Mackenzie makes the point that kindness doesn’t have to entail grand gestures. She talks about her version of kindness is largely about reaching out to people, and about really seeking to understand others.
24:56 – I read 50 kind things to do all the time from my article, and conclude it by urging my listeners to really intentionally take time out of your day, and give it to others.
29:48 – I talk to Mackenzie about being kind to herself, and it’s about doing things that you are very deliberately doing for you, and cutting ourselves some slack. I add that it’s also important to do nice things for future you, which is manifesting earned pride for yourself. She wraps it up by emphasizing the importance of seeing yourself in the other, and how you relate.
36:34 – In my final word, I support people adding consideration to their lives—both for themselves, and others, and how simply doing that creates a better world.
37:51 – Wrap up.
Source Post: http://bebetterstupid.com/the-idiots-guide-to-loving-humanity/
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – I introduce the episode.
0:51 – I introduce my guest, Mackenzie, and we talk about quarantining, and how especially in this time, the idea of kindness and love are things that are evolving.
04:29 – I start to read my source post, in which I point how much we love being kind and the idea of loving everyone, but we normally don’t really execute this in our own lives.
06:04 – I talk about how we’re evolutionarily predisposed to look out for ourselves except for the purpose of maintaining social bonds. Mackenzie talks about how we care for others by looking after ourselves, and how that’s kind of the source of all kindness. I wonder if it’s good to always be coming from a place of kindness, and how the priority needs to be more on creating common ground with people, and to mix criticism with positivity.
09:32 – I read from my post about why universal kindness matters. I talk about how kindness has such a consistently positive impact on the world. I also talk about the positives of loving everyone, and the challenges of that when it really means “everyone.”
10:51 – I start off this discussion by talking about the exact way to be kind to assholes. Mackenzie talks about approaching smaller scale versions of this daily. She talks about the need to prioritize finding the parts of that person that you really like. We also talk about the benefits of coming from a place of neutrality, and why it helps people to want to hear you out. I also discuss the benefits of knowing that you did what you could to be kind in a given situation, and Mackenzie goes in detail about how to kindly tell people harsh truths.
17:15 – I read from my article about how real kindness is often totally inconvenient, and how hard it is to deal with this inconvenience, especially when your kindness goes universal. Part of this can even entail lying.
19:16 – Mackenzie and I talk about how we’re so addicted to convenience that doing small things for others can feel annoying, but is worth prioritizing. Mackenzie makes the point that kindness doesn’t have to entail grand gestures. She talks about her version of kindness is largely about reaching out to people, and about really seeking to understand others.
24:56 – I read 50 kind things to do all the time from my article, and conclude it by urging my listeners to really intentionally take time out of your day, and give it to others.
29:48 – I talk to Mackenzie about being kind to herself, and it’s about doing things that you are very deliberately doing for you, and cutting ourselves some slack. I add that it’s also important to do nice things for future you, which is manifesting earned pride for yourself. She wraps it up by emphasizing the importance of seeing yourself in the other, and how you relate.
36:34 – In my final word, I support people adding consideration to their lives—both for themselves, and others, and how simply doing that creates a better world.
37:51 – Wrap up.