Source Article: http://bebetterstupid.com/when-to-not-stay-true-to-yourself/
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – Introducing the podcast and the guest: my wife, Morgan.
00:38 – I introduce Morgan, and go in depth on my background. Morgan does as well, and we discuss how coming together is how we let go of a really rigid idea of ourselves.
07:16 – I read from my article about who I was in my old life—where I was a total shut-in who was addicted to a very specific idea of who I was. I also talk about how we (former me included) exalt those who stay true to themselves. But then I give an example of how sometimes staying true to yourself totally sucks.
10:12 – I give examples of how I didn’t change, as does Morgan. We dig into how this unwillingness to change was linked to greater insecurities that we had. We both felt pride in who we were that masked how we felt about that person not necessarily fitting into the world. Morgan brings up how important it is to stay flexible in who you are to really stay true to who you are.
16:03 – I go in depth about how we exalt stubborn individualism, and the negative results of this.
17:35 – I review this section and go in depth about how this is a mistake to exalt this behavior, and how we did that in ourselves. Morgan points out exactly how people who engage in this tend to be pretty insecure.
19:15 – I read from my article about how being happy with yourself isn’t enough. The problem, as I point out is that you miss out on the rest of life when you accept this as adequate.
20:06 – Morgan points out that when you’re happy with yourself, you miss opportunities to connect with others. She also astutely points out that being happy with yourself should be a feeling, not a state that you’re just in all the time.
22:44 – I read from my article about just how vital self-evaluation is, and how you need to really look at how your life is measuring up, and how you’re impacting the world around you.
24:23 – We talk about how you need in-person experiences to really see how you should be changing in life. I make the point that you can reconsider who you are all the time, and how you can still keep the best parts of yourself, but you can change the parts that suck. I talk about how important it is that there will be security blankets that you need to throw out if you want to advance in life. Morgan goes into detail about how to constantly re-evaluate yourself and where you are at a given moment.
29:03 – I read from my article about how hard it is to decide to change yourself because it’s such a hit on the ego. Fortunately, I’m able to find a solution.
30:37 – Morgan discusses how we resist change because it’s comfortable to fall back on a script that you have in your head, and it’s also an issue if you’re happy in your day to day. Even in that case, she argues, it’s important to still step outside of your comfort.
31:47 – In my final word, I talk about how it’s good to stay true to yourself, but only in the moment, not in some falsely permanent idea of who you are.
32:45 – Wrap up.
Source Article: http://bebetterstupid.com/when-to-not-stay-true-to-yourself/
Theme Song: “Yawn” by Nick Dorian
00:00 – Introducing the podcast and the guest: my wife, Morgan.
00:38 – I introduce Morgan, and go in depth on my background. Morgan does as well, and we discuss how coming together is how we let go of a really rigid idea of ourselves.
07:16 – I read from my article about who I was in my old life—where I was a total shut-in who was addicted to a very specific idea of who I was. I also talk about how we (former me included) exalt those who stay true to themselves. But then I give an example of how sometimes staying true to yourself totally sucks.
10:12 – I give examples of how I didn’t change, as does Morgan. We dig into how this unwillingness to change was linked to greater insecurities that we had. We both felt pride in who we were that masked how we felt about that person not necessarily fitting into the world. Morgan brings up how important it is to stay flexible in who you are to really stay true to who you are.
16:03 – I go in depth about how we exalt stubborn individualism, and the negative results of this.
17:35 – I review this section and go in depth about how this is a mistake to exalt this behavior, and how we did that in ourselves. Morgan points out exactly how people who engage in this tend to be pretty insecure.
19:15 – I read from my article about how being happy with yourself isn’t enough. The problem, as I point out is that you miss out on the rest of life when you accept this as adequate.
20:06 – Morgan points out that when you’re happy with yourself, you miss opportunities to connect with others. She also astutely points out that being happy with yourself should be a feeling, not a state that you’re just in all the time.
22:44 – I read from my article about just how vital self-evaluation is, and how you need to really look at how your life is measuring up, and how you’re impacting the world around you.
24:23 – We talk about how you need in-person experiences to really see how you should be changing in life. I make the point that you can reconsider who you are all the time, and how you can still keep the best parts of yourself, but you can change the parts that suck. I talk about how important it is that there will be security blankets that you need to throw out if you want to advance in life. Morgan goes into detail about how to constantly re-evaluate yourself and where you are at a given moment.
29:03 – I read from my article about how hard it is to decide to change yourself because it’s such a hit on the ego. Fortunately, I’m able to find a solution.
30:37 – Morgan discusses how we resist change because it’s comfortable to fall back on a script that you have in your head, and it’s also an issue if you’re happy in your day to day. Even in that case, she argues, it’s important to still step outside of your comfort.
31:47 – In my final word, I talk about how it’s good to stay true to yourself, but only in the moment, not in some falsely permanent idea of who you are.
32:45 – Wrap up.