Adulting Decrypted
We prepare young adults to be independent powerhouses for life.--Who We Are: The Adulting Decrypted team is composed of a Dad and his three sons: Roscoe(Dad - age redacted), Ashton(22), Gene(18), and Gideon(14). How We Started: As a family we have always tried to have at least one meal together daily. The meal that typically ends up being is dinner. One night in particular near the beginning of the COVID pandemic, our conversation started with Roscoe mentioning that he had recently read a news article stating that an Ivy League college was offering “Adulting,” classes. These classes were being offered in the hopes that they might be able to educate students who were struggling with common “Adult” tasks. It didn't make sense to us that someone would have to enroll in an Ivy League school to learn things that nearly every person has to deal with daily. To us it seemed that things like shopping, laundry, mental health, communication, taxes, loans, and so much more should be basic knowledge before taking on the substantial challenges of modern life. Eventually the idea was floated that there should be a podcast that can be accessed for free that would help people gain insight into these things that we thought we knew fairly well. Since COVID-19 had caused unemployment and school schedule changes for all of us we thought that there could be no better thing than for us to take on this challenge. Less than a month later, after several planning meetings and countless hours of research, we had recorded and uploaded our first episode.
Adulting Decrypted
S-6 E-9 Update and Top 10 Highlight reel
Make a Highlight real! You are not Tom Brady, or Tiger Woods be grateful. You are you, start each morning with reviewing these or any time the negative thoughts become to much!
Welcome to adulting decrypted. I wanted to do a quick update. As we've been recording the summer, we're all pretty busy with life. Summer's an interesting time here at adulting decrypted because we have Ashton who has graduated college, but yet teaches in the high school system. Gideon's a high school and is going into senior year. And then Jean, as you guys know is off on. Church service mission. Last week gideon and Sabrina and ice Breanna's. My daughter were able to go up and go camping in the high UN is wanted to give you a brief update about that. And then the one suggestion that I'd make really strongly encourage you to do this week as you're getting ready to for school to start next week. So we kinda. I kind of created like a top 10 or a highlight reel of camping and just kind of some ideas there and that bleeds right into what we want to do. Basically with Ashton being. Out of commission this week because of band camp, he's working. Starts right around seven 30 in the morning. Make sure he's all prepped and ready for the students. And then he stays in his projects until about eight 30 at night. So he's pretty busy. We did do some recordings in preparation for this. That's just how we get them all, put them back and forth to each other and hand them off. We didn't quite get that handoff done with me being out of town when they get back late from my camping trip. But so we'll do the top few, I've got five ideas here on camping that would, should be helpful. And then we'll go into the mental side of it. And just some ideas. So first off, when you're planning a trip, We were hiking into the, into the high UNSC here in Utah to red castle lake. Red castle lake is about. The lower one's 11 miles in the upper one, they says 14 and a half. Kind of depends on what route. Any obstacles you run into. And our plan was to camping between them. I asked him that about 13 miles. Is where we wanted to camp. The problem was we got out of town a little bit late. Just due to unforeseen circumstances. So we start up on our, our backpack hike and that's number one, when you have a plan and you start late, the reality is is you still can't accomplish your goal. Sometimes you have to stop and rest. And part of that was, you know, we stayed up too late the night before. We ended up with the late start. Because we had a family emergency how to cook some meat real fast. Because the freezer got left open. And so you have these emergencies that come up that you have to handle. You can't let them go. So we handle them, but we still got there and like, okay, we're going to hike the 13 miles. Well, what happens is it started getting too dark, too fast on us. We didn't stop and filter water. We're like, we'll just keep going through, going through. Well, long story short. Yeah, it wasn't sustainable. The pace that we try to set. So we kind of camped on a hill and the problem with camping on a hill. You tend to slide to the bottom of your tent. And so, you know, sometimes you have to look at it and say, we should've stopped maybe a half hour, 45 minutes around there. So we could have found a better camping spot and didn't try and figure that out in the dark. So you, so when you set a goal, you can't go the same distance with the late start. It just it's nearly impossible. And that's why this episode's coming out. It's going to be a shorter version. It's going to be a highlight reel and then the. The ideas are to give you some highlights and some ideas to work on. The next one is Always if your tent when you come in and out and most of the times we've we've we suggest that based on bugs, right? You get into your tent, you want to Zippy, you get out, you want to unzip it. Bugs are out of control right now. Now they're not. Like our Australian friends flies, but there's a lot of mosquitoes, some biting horse flies, but just a lot of bugs. Well, we left our tenants zipped. The second night, sometime during that day or 10 got left on zipped, we don't keep any food in there because we're out in that. Out in the Outback. UNSC. And we're really worried about bears. So we hang our. Fill it up in a bear bag. And. We keep this away so that bears can't get into it. when we have it open. Apparently chipmunks like to get in there. It didn't realize that till Sabrina had laid down, as she laid down to go to bed she's done all their stretches and did all of her ready for bed, extra, you know, changed her clothes and did all this stuff. And literally was laying down for bed. When she said she heard a noise and then looked over and was eyeballs to eyeball with the chicken monk. So she screamed. Course I got me excited. We're both trying to get out of the tent, get out of the tent. And long story short w it took us another 40 minutes to get a chick muck out of the tent, and then she couldn't fall asleep because she was so nervous about it. So we played card games and stayed up way too late and still had not drank enough water. So still not feeling great. So make sure you zip your tent. Can't start late. And still apply getting their bug spray. It's not the only solution. Make sure that you have some type of net. We had some great face and adding that we're able to keep on Sabrina is still. Got about. I think she said she stopped counting at 70 bites. I got to three or four. But just, I guess, old men, they don't like So bugs spring. It's not the only answer, but it's a good help. Just like most things in life. Sometimes you need two forms to really help you be protected. Okay. The other thing we noticed on our way out, we're hiking down and. There there's these rules about camping 200 feet off the trail. And so that's what we did. That first night. That's why we slept in a little bit of a weird situation because we knew we had to get far enough off the trail on our leaving. I saw a$500 10. Now keep in mind that my tents right around.$80. Maybe, you know, cause I don't worry about it as much. I worry about the experiences, not about my gear. So this is like a four or$500 north face tent. You know, Really nice gear. And their camp, like two feet off the road in the swamp. So. It gear doesn't always buy you smart. So make sure that when you're getting ready to do these, that you read the rules, read recommendation, read reviews. Kind of get a feel for where you're going in any guidelines I gave you. I would have said, make sure that you stay at a swamps and. Get at least 200 Feet. And that's not much off the trail. Nice gear. Doesn't always mean somebody smart. Sometimes it just means they have money to have the year. And then. The last but not least. Really don't take as many clothes as we do. I tend to, to over-pack, you know, I was thinking, oh, just one more thing. It's going to help me. A little bit better than normally doesn't so there's a camping advice. Now now onto the next thing that I wanted to visit about. Visit with a good friend of mine and he's trying to accomplish some big goals and he's pretty frustrated at certain things and kind of stressed out. I get it. It happens it's life. It's adulting. One of the things I, I. I realized as he was talking, is that there's a lot of negative. Self-talk. They, there are somewhere between 40,000 to 50,000 thoughts we have in a normal human brain. We have about 40,000 maybe negative thoughts everyday. That's that's pretty sad. Pretty hard to think about it. When we're, when you're going through your life. So there's a lot of stress. So, this is why my suggestion to the listener this week is to go out and get a highlight reel as you're getting ready to go to school. You know, you might actually hear negative things. I was thinking today I was out golfing and I didn't really interact with anybody. And the guys that I was golfing with it were very nice or like, oh, good shot. And then when I had a bad shot, they didn't say anything. No, they weren't rude. They only reinforce good things. It might even brain. Going. Oh, I saw that was a bad shot. I'm frustrated. I get I'd get mad and I'm like, wait, who cares? It's just me. Right? So, so how did these. You know, 40,000 negative thoughts a day. Man. You've just got to be prepared for that and realize that it's okay to come up with some good, positive thoughts. That you want to, that you want to now plant in that brain. And get working for you. So as you get this highlight reel that I would recommend everybody do and listeners make sure you get it done, Ashton, get in and make sure you get it done. Plant these good, positive thoughts in there. So what is the highlight reel? Well, something like Tom Brady. Would I use Tom Brady because. Love him. Hate him. He is. Amazing at football and he's and really he is. Like there's there. Wasn't a great desired pick. So if you look at Tom Brady's highlight really has 251 wins. He went to the pro bowl 15 times is Superbowl MVP. There's five of them. He's completed 7,753. Passes out of 12,000 attempts. He has over 89,000 passing yards. He has 649 touchdown passes. So you look at that and you go, wow, that guy's got a lot of positive things. Now, the reality is, do you know what? 650 or 649 passes are? Passing touchdowns are no doesn't mean much to you. Well, only compared to. Insert your favorite quarterback here? Peyton Manning. You know, you compare it to him or you compare it to John McEnroe, you know, you compare it to somebody else. That's the only way. That it makes sense. But the stat in and of itself doesn't really matter what my point is. Is that what matters to you and what you deem is important should be on your highlight reel. It should be your list. It's not necessarily something that other people are going to love or even appreciate. Give you a second to think about that. If I'm a high school senior, you know, I'm looking back at my senior year. If I was just getting ready to get started, I would have said, oh, I was able to ask. The prettiest girl, at least she was to meet a junior prom. I was able to keep a job at 40 hours a week. I have. I was able to save$2,000 for big New York trip, you know? Those would have been my highlight reels. I would've had at least 10 of them that I could draw on when I'm having negative thoughts. But, but the reality is, is on this highlight real life. I strongly recommend that you do it every morning, sir. Morning, wake up and you look at your top 10 highlight reels. And then when you get frustrated or down or sad throughout the day, hoping up your top 10. And guess what your friends might not even care. You know, they might go. All right. Who cares that you ran an eight minute a mile? I can run a four minute mile. You're like, look, I'm not comparing myself to you. I'm just saying it was good for me. These are good for me. These are my top 10. Now I look at them and it's stuff like, man, I graduated college and I was told I was too dumb in high school to get there. It might maybe took me 20 years. But who cares? I did it. That's why it's on that highlight reel. I have four amazing kids. Subjective. I understand that, but it's my highlight reel. Been married to the same one woman for 27 years. And that's awesome. You know, so there's all these things that you want to look at on your personal highlight reel that might not matter to anybody else. So my big challenge to you is to create this highlight reel. Realize it could be physical. It could be mental. It could be. I got a 4.0, or I got a C plus because I I'm really struggling in math. I met five new friends. It doesn't matter. It's your highlight reel. It's not, that's not Roscoe's, it's not Gideon's it's not Sabrina as it's not. Ashton's that your highlight reel. So when you get up in the morning, go through your highlight reel. I throw it in a Google doc, that way I've got it in doc form. And I look at it. Be honest, I've got more than 10. Because some days I need to dig deep. After a day, like today with golf, I had dig deep and look at all my other amazing places and go. I'm not tiger woods. It doesn't matter. I'm trying to do my best. So. I didn't want to let a week go without giving some advice and some thoughts about how to adult. So create your highlight reel. Go out and camp, go out and enjoy the great outdoors into the rest of the summer. And find some quiet time and create yourself a highlight reel. If you have any thoughts. Or questions or ideas or things that you would wonder if it should be on a highlight, put them on there. You know, work hard on it. And as you create this highlight reel, please feel free to share what's most important to you. And what's your highlight. Now go out and become a powerhouse.