Adulting Decrypted
We prepare young adults to be independent powerhouses for life.--Who We Are: The Adulting Decrypted team is composed of a Dad and his three sons: Roscoe(Dad - age redacted), Ashton(22), Gene(18), and Gideon(14). How We Started: As a family we have always tried to have at least one meal together daily. The meal that typically ends up being is dinner. One night in particular near the beginning of the COVID pandemic, our conversation started with Roscoe mentioning that he had recently read a news article stating that an Ivy League college was offering “Adulting,” classes. These classes were being offered in the hopes that they might be able to educate students who were struggling with common “Adult” tasks. It didn't make sense to us that someone would have to enroll in an Ivy League school to learn things that nearly every person has to deal with daily. To us it seemed that things like shopping, laundry, mental health, communication, taxes, loans, and so much more should be basic knowledge before taking on the substantial challenges of modern life. Eventually the idea was floated that there should be a podcast that can be accessed for free that would help people gain insight into these things that we thought we knew fairly well. Since COVID-19 had caused unemployment and school schedule changes for all of us we thought that there could be no better thing than for us to take on this challenge. Less than a month later, after several planning meetings and countless hours of research, we had recorded and uploaded our first episode.
Adulting Decrypted
S-4 E-3 How to be Better at Dating(ft. Leta Greene)
In this weeks episode Leta Greene takes us through how to properly date people. What are the things you should look for? How should you work on yourself? Where does this learning experience come from? If you have ever wanted to get better at dating and want to find someone that is actually right for you Leta has some of the best advice we have ever heard! We hope you enjoy this weeks episode!
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SHOW NOTES:
0:00 - Intro : Leta Greene is the author of, “How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness,” and “Love Me Too.”She talks about her journey and how she became hot and embraced herself as an awkward teenager who was missing her front three teeth due to a biking accident. She shares her strategy for loving yourself and how that applies to us in the dating relm. Honestly, there probably isn’t anything more exciting then hearing some boys getting made uncomfortable by a confident woman!
2:30 - Saying Hello to Leta: Her bike crash, start of her career both as a makeup artist and motivational speaker and author. She talks about having to deal with sexual abuse and how she learned to value herself and the dating process.
4:20 - What is Gene’s dating age?
5:40 - Ashton is struggling with dating. Is it because of self-confidence? Expectations? Or perhaps is it both?
7:25 - The most successful dating you can be doing right now is getting to know how you interact with others and how they interact with you. Service projects are a great tool for getting to know people.
9:00 - The brain doesn’t finish forming until around 24-25 due to cellphones.
12:10 - Knowing how to talk to someone rather than just distract each other with a good time. Talking is much more valuable for lasting relationships.
13:50 - We have to be like the person we want to find.
15:20 - Character is far more important than looks.
16:00 - Leta Pro tip: Asses how your potential suitors treat all other people.
17:45 - Ashton Asks when Leta started thinking of all these amazing tips.
19:30 - Why Adulting Decrypted wanted to talk about dating.(basically Dad forced us into it but it was worth it.)
21:40 - The Objectification of Women, what is it all for and where did it start?
23:10 - Gideon’s Interjection leads to a discussion about flirting and interracting with the opposite sex.
25:35 - Leta’s 5 year; 3 year rule.
28:00 - Sticking to the rule and not being willing to bend on your personal standards.
30:40 - 1*0.5 vs. 1*1. Why is it important? And what does that mean in relationships.
33:30 - Leta went on a mission(what she calls entering the mormon nunnery) and how that played into her finding her husband.
35:00 - Character Traits vs. Physical Traits
38:30 - You won’t be happy in marriage if you don’t like you.
40:35 - The T&T effect
43:00 - Kids just need the psychological reason why to not have a girlfriend, and why it is more benifical to use their time to learn about people. Finances are a good convincing point.
45:00 - Every Statistic are people who once loved eachother.
47:00 - Wrap up and Where to Find Leta’s content.