Living with a critical spouse

Your husband is critical? Guess where he probably learned it from? It’s not always the case, but it very often is, that our weaknesses in relationship skills come from the very family in which we grew up. I’m not putting the blame on mothers and fathers who did their best, or who made mistakes along the way, as most of us do to some extent, but rather I’m saying that we do learn what we live, and we live that out in our own marriages. If critical words were the norm in your home, we’re likely going to become that same voice when we get married ourself. Criticism is a strange bird. We can live surrounded by it, deflect it in an effort to shield ourselves and at the same time, in doing so, not recognize we have become a walking, critical machine ourselves. It’s almost like criticism is a silent killer for both the giver and receiver.