What to Do When You Feel Judged

Ever mess up — and feel like everyone saw?

In this episode of the Climb Your Mountain Podcast, life coach Sarah Maurer dives into what to do when you’re feeling judged. Maybe you missed a meeting at work. Yelled at your kid in Target. Snapped at your aging parent. Got dumped and now dread showing up solo to your cousin’s wedding. 

Sometimes people really are judging. But here’s the deeper truth: it only burns when you’re judging yourself too.

We explore why shame hits hardest when you secretly believe you should be better, more perfect, more put-together. Often that harsh inner voice isn’t even yours — it’s an old parent, teacher, coach, or middle school bully living rent-free in your head.

This episode covers:

• Why imagined judgment feels so real
• The two common protection patterns: ruthless perfectionism or freezing and playing small
• Tall poppy syndrome and the fear of visibility
• Why failure is proof you’re in the arena

Inspired by Theodore Roosevelt’s “Man in the Arena” quote, this conversation is about choosing courage over criticism.

You’ll learn practical life coaching tools to build real self love and self compassion:

• How to talk to yourself like a supportive coach (not a drill sergeant)
• Making mistakes an exception, not your identity
• Normalizing failure as part of growth
• Building emotional strength to handle shame, disappointment, and embarrassment without numbing out

When you stop joining in on your own judgment, everything changes. You can make mistakes at work and still believe in your value. Parent imperfectly and still see yourself as a great mom. Ask for what you want in dating. Take the big swing.

Everything you desire lives on the other side of fear and failure.

Enjoy ❤️ 

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Transcript

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Welcome to Climb Your Mountain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use coaching, neuroscience, and mindfulness to overcome life's challenges. I'm Sarah Mauer, a certified life and performance coach, front work facilitator, and trance geek. Each week I show you how to change your brain fast for good and without struggle. Whether you're training to climb an actual mountain, building a business, dating, or claiming a fucking rebellion, these tools will help. Listen and learn so you can enjoy more of what you want. Happiness, fun, convection, creativity, courage, and the occasional mountaintop moment. Ready? Let's do this. Hey friends, how you doing? It's so funny. Usually, this is the part where I say, I am so good. And it's hilarious. I have actually kind of spent the last 10 minutes really just reconnecting to my desire to do much of anything. I am kind of going through it right now. I um I've shared a little bit about this on Instagram. I've had a return of my long COVID symptoms. I am doing well with that. I'm currently on my medication that helps with that. And when you start this medication, you have to like increase the dosage slowly and titrate it up just to see what's going to be the effective dose. And you do it slowly because it does have side effects. It makes it hard to sleep. And sometimes honestly, it makes me happy. And honestly, some days like today, it makes me a little bit like grumpy and unmotivated. And it's also very gray today here in Colorado, which I feel like is not helping. But like one thing I've kind of been realizing as I've just been watching my thoughts today is that I'm very disconnected from my own desire. And what that means is I am going through a lot of action in my life. I'm taking a lot of action toward my business. I'm taking a lot of action with family stuff and caregiving stuff. And I feel like there's nothing on the other side that's pulling me. It's almost like, because I do, I think, through all my coaching, all my personal development, have this pretty high capacity to do. I also have a pretty high capacity to just like drag myself through the mud, and it feels terrible without like feeling like I'm going somewhere great. So what I've just decided, I'm so excited about this, is on my Instagram, I am going to be doing a challenge for myself where I rediscover what fun is for me, which means I'm gonna spend 30 minutes every day just trying something that might be fun and seeing what still really is fun, what lights me up, what pulls me. Some of these will just be like fun things, like everyday things, like hip-hop dancing. I used to hip hop dance and also country line dance, and I don't do either of those much anymore. So I might actually, you might actually get to see me do it on my Instagram if you tune in. And maybe some of them will be business things, trying new formats on trying new like artistic outlets and creative things for my business. So if you're interested, definitely tune in, check it out. I'll put a link to my Instagram so you can follow along. I think I'm gonna start this today. I almost said Thursday, and I'm like, no, we need fun today. So that's what's going on in my life. And let's talk a little bit about today's topic, which is all about what to do when you're feeling judged. And I don't know about all of you. As I'm recording this, the Olympics are on, and I am so addicted to it. This Olympics has just been so great. There's been so much drama, so many stories, and some of my favorites. I love the guy who's cross-country skiing, who can like run uphill at like world-class marathon speed and skis. Like, how crazy is that? I'm like, when I get back to working out, which I will, once I get my long COVID symptoms under control, he is gonna be my inspiration for everything. And then another thing I really enjoy watching is the figure skating. I've talked a little bit on here about some of my favorite skaters, Amber Glen. Um, one of the most really I made an Instagram story about this because it just like hit me like right in the heart. And I'm gonna talk more about it today. I think of the story that just like really, really moved me was Ilya Malinen. I'm trying to say his name in American English instead of Russian. I know how to say it in Russian, and I'm like, it's so hard not to do it. I don't want to respect how like people say their own names. I mean, my name is Sarah Maurer, and Maurer, in if you have an actual German person, say it is not how I just said it. Anyway, so Ilya went out there. He was heavily favored, so much hype around him. He was first place after the short program, and then just had a freeze skate where he fell a couple times, made a few big mistakes, and he came in eighth instead of first, didn't even meddle, and it was just so shocking to the world. And I just remember seeing his face at the end of it, like where he was just like, What the fuck just happened? And what the fuck did the whole world just see me? They just saw me like have like this massive veil. And I remember just thinking, Oh my gosh, friend, I have so been there. My heart just goes out to you so hard. So he's a little bit of the inspiration behind this episode. And let's just talk a little bit about you. We talked about Ilya Malinan. What's this look like for you? So you probably had experiences in your life, large and small, where you feel like you failed, you fell on your face, you didn't meet expectations, and other people saw it. So maybe this looks like missing a meeting at work. Maybe you were out with your kid at a store and your kid was being annoying and mouthy, and you finally yelled at your kid in public. Or maybe you lost your kid in a store. Has this ever happened to you? I don't have kids, but like this happened to my parents all the time. I was like the most absent-minded, like exploratory little kid. I was like hiding in different corners of the store. I remember having to be like paged to come up to the counter because my dad had lost me in Sears. That's how old I am. Like we used to shop at Sears. Or this happened to me yesterday. Like this, I think it happens with kids, and I like I kind of have the opposite of like I'm taking care of an older parent. So yesterday I went over to see my mom, and she kind of does this thing where she doesn't like to go out that much. She almost has to be, even though it's good for her, she and she likes it once she's out. She almost has to be like kind of taken by the hand and like dragged out of her house to go out and walk in the sun, or even like ride in the sun in her little transport wheelchair that we use because she doesn't like to walk sometimes. And so I'm usually pretty forceful when I go over. I'm like, hey, we are not staying in bed, we are getting up, we are going. And she yesterday to kind of did her whole normal song and dance. She was like, Oh, I don't feel good. This is happening, that's happening, and she didn't want to go. And like, I was like, We're going. Sun and sunshine and being out in public and hanging out with your daughter is good for you. And staying here, which you will totally do if I don't get you out, and like laying around in your bed and doing nothing is not good for you. So I put a lot of pressure on her to go out. I was getting kind of annoyed, to be honest, because she was really fighting it. And then I kind of realized, like, after like really putting pressure on her for about 15 minutes, I'm like, I think she's genuinely like doesn't feel good. This might be the rare occasion where she actually is sick. So I finally like let her go back in and like lay down. But I felt like the worst daughter ever. I'm like, I just can't win. Like, either she kind of sits in her house and rots and never goes outside, or I'm like the mean daughter. Like, I don't know. It just I just feel like I can't win. And also, it was like the part where I felt like it was kind of a public fail was like, of course, as soon as I brought her back in the house, like the girl who works at the house, who is this most sweet, kind, gentle like woman. She's very young, but she's very like motherly. And she comes up to my mom and gives her a big hug, and she's like, Oh, how are you? I'm glad you're not feeling I'm so sorry, you're not feeling good. And um, like my mom, of course, is like, yes, my daughter doesn't believe me, blah blah blah. I'm just like, I feel like the meanest person in the world right now, like the worst, meanest, awful, most unfeeling, lacking in empathy, daughter. And I feel like the like the lady who works in the house is seeing it, and everyone else there is too now. So, and maybe this looks like you got broken up with right before you have to go to a wedding, and it's the wedding of your snottiest cousin, who you feel like is always like kind of judging you and competing with you, and now you gotta go to her wedding all alone. And with any of these situations, what's probably happening is you're imagining other people laughing, judging, talking about you, looking down on you. And in some instances, I think in a minority of instances, but this might also be true, you might actually experience people like judging you and saying it directly to your face. So, like the the above example, um, like where I took my mom back in and the caregiver was very kind to her. She didn't say anything to me, like about that was judgmental or say anything that made me feel like a bad daughter. I have had experiences where I'm over at my mom's. I can remember one time I was over like having dinner with her and all her friends from assisted living. There's seven of them that live that live there, and they eat around the table together, and they were all just kind of slagging on me for being a bad daughter. Like they were saying things like, Why aren't you here more? Why don't you live closer? And why don't you let your mom come and live with you? And like one of them asked, Why don't you let your mom come and live with you? And another one said, Oh, well, she has to go and do all her things and like hike and travel and do all that. And I'm just like, oh my god. And I was like kind of mortified. So sometimes you might actually like have some judgment on you from other people, but it's almost as bad if you're just imagining it. Like, oh, they really must be thinking all these things about me. And I want you to consider that why this is so painful is that when you imagine other people looking down on you, usually that call is coming from inside the house. And I would take it a step further. Even when people are actually judging you to your face and saying it to you, even when your snotty cousin says, Well, of course, you're coming to the wedding solo because you can never like keep a man. You date everyone for two weeks, and that's all your relationships ever last. None of that hurts. When uh when other people look down on you, it doesn't hurt unless you are also looking down on you. And to kind of illustrate this, here's an example. I want you to imagine, if you are someone with a college degree, I want you to imagine someone you just met saying to you, what a waste of time. College degrees aren't worth anything these days. And if you're a woman, your place is really to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. You don't need a college degree for that. Or if you're a man, like a real men, just go and do manual labor or work in factories or work in construction. And who needs a degree for any of that shit? And if you are someone that is like like has worked hard for four years to earn your degree, this might be a little shocking to hear someone say to you, but not in a way where you take it personally. You only feel ashamed when deep down you actually agree that you should be different. So, for example, I feel shame when I'm getting picked on at my mom's assisted living, not because those ladies are saying words to me, but because there really is a part of me that believes that a good daughter would actually quit her job, move to a two-bedroom house. Right now I live in a one-bedroom condo, and then I would move my mom in with me, and then I would dedicate my life to her care. And there's a part of my brain that really believes that that's the only way to be a good daughter. And usually, whenever you are judging yourself, really you are making yourself, you are believing that you should be near perfect and that you should not make mistakes ever. And that's the only way to be good, worthy, lovable, and I mean, to earn your your like justify to justify your existence as a human, basically. And often this way of talking to yourself comes from someone in your life. I really want you to notice this. The voice in your head that likes to tell you that you are not good enough. It's usually the voice of a parent, a coach, a sibling, a teacher, the middle school bully. So take a moment just to notice who it is for you. And what this all creates is a is like a life where we don't want to feel the shame and the self-judgment that comes with failing in public and being judged. It's just so uncomfortable, right? So you protect yourself in one of two ways. One is to become like super ruthless, competitive, and like go really hard so that you never fail, or you try really hard to never fail. And that can look like competition with yourself, with others. It can look like never feeling satisfied even when you win. And I think it's pretty common, like you might notice this in yourself, but you probably know people that do this with you. If you are annoyed by someone who you feel like is really competitive with you, this is probably what's going on in their head. They need to be perfect to be love. At least that's what they believe. And being perfect means being the best, so they are always trying to one-up you, trying to be superior, trying to be the best. And just know that that comes not from anything that you're doing. It doesn't mean a thing about you. Think about how exhausting it must be for them, though. So that's one way it can look. I think it's more common is the second way, and that's an unwillingness to take risks. And this may actually feel unconscious, almost like it's happening against your will. So, for example, if you are dating, if you are trying to find your person, you might notice yourself going on lots of dates, but you're not really letting yourself get close to anyone, even the people you kind of like. There's just something that stops you, there's something that sabotages it. You always find a reason just not to get close to them, not to get serious with them. And deep down inside, it's because you don't want anyone to be able to hurt you by actually caring and putting yourself in a position where rejection would really hurt. This can also feel like resistance or block. For example, you might notice that you have a goal to get in shape, and what the way you're gonna do that is to get on your treadmill after work, and you may notice yourself just every time you think about going to get on, feeling like there's a brick wall between you and that treadmill that you can't walk through. And if you really look at why that is, if you really dig in, oftentimes it's because there's a thought process going on that goes something like, This has never worked before when I've tried to get in shape. I've only gotten so far and then I've quit. And I hate that feeling when I quit on myself, and I never want to feel that again. So it's almost like your brain protects you by not even letting you start. And this can all add up to feeling frozen or stuck in life. It might feel like kind of like I was describing at the beginning of the of this episode, where you're taking a lot of action but never really getting anywhere. And you can think of it as the person who has started a million diets or fitness programs, but they've never stuck with it long enough to get results. They've dated a lot, but they've never found their person. Maybe you know someone that started three businesses but never really gotten one off the ground. And that it all kind of adds up also, I think, and to an intense fear of being visible. And it kind of, there's kind of a thought in the back of your mind, like I can be successful, but not too successful. So you might find yourself not raising your hand for the big project at work. And I love the Australians, they have actually a word for this, they call it the tall poppy syndrome. And they it it's it's almost like the the idea that either you hide your successes or you avoid becoming too successful because you believe the tall poppy is the one that gets clipped off and that successful people kind of are putting themselves out there for criticism, putting themselves out there for judgment of others. And what this all adds up to, ultimately, is not really being in the arena of life ever, never being in the arena fighting for what you want. And I'm gonna share a quote here. This is Theodore Roosevelt. Brene Brown also quoted this in her TED talk, and here it is. I think this is the best quote for anytime you are feeling judged. It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes sh comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming, but who does actually strive to do the deeds, who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory or defeat. So if this just really moved you and you're like, how do I get in the arena? I feel you, Sarah. Like all the things you're describing, and I'm done. I want to be in the arena. I want to be daring greatly. I want to be like fighting for my dreams and for the things I want in life. And the mindset shift that needs to happen for you to get back in the arena is you have to decide that you have your own back no matter what. You have to decide that you're gonna love yourself when you're losing as much as when you're winning, and you have to decide that other people will judge. You don't get to control that, but you are not gonna join them. And you are also going to think about the difference between learning from failure when it happens and being mean to yourself because you can only love yourself whenever you're winning. So, how do you do this? I'll give you some skills. The first one, I talk about this so much on this podcast, and it really is to talk nicely to yourself, to really get in the habit of that. To be encouraging, I want you to think of maybe being at a child's sporting event, and there's always that one coach who's like the dad that wanted to play professional baseball and never got to play, who is treating the kids like they are much older than they are, who is being really hard on them, who is shaming them when they are not performing well. And think about that coach, and then I want you to think about a nice coach. I always think about Andy Reid, who right now is the chief of the Kans or the co the chief, he's the coach of the Kansas City Chiefs, and he is very famous for just really creating a positive, encouraging environment with his players who are adults, but he knows that adults still need like they they need space to grow and fail and try and dare greatly and whatever they. Fall down. They need like a family and a culture in a community to pick them back up. And he really creates that on that team. There's no hazing on that team. Whenever players are new and coming onto the team for their first year, he like assigns them a buddy who's been there for a while to really show them the ropes and check in on them and make sure they're doing okay. And you might say to yourself, Well, that's easy because the Kansas City Chiefs have been good forever. Like they've been the last I think this was the first Super Bowl in forever. The Chiefs were not in. And I can tell you, as someone who is a Broncos fan who is in the same conference as the Chiefs, I can remember when the Chiefs were really terrible. And I still remember hearing about Andy Reid and this amazing culture that he was creating. So what I my whole point with this is you want to really like talk to yourself like an Andy Reed and not like that mean dad coach. You want to say the things to yourself. Like if you were like the coach of the of the little kids who are just like starting their sport and they are loving it and having so much fun and having fun with each other. You want to set them up for like a life of playing that sport, a life of good sportsmanship, a life of you want them to talk, they're gonna talk to themselves the way you talk to yours, you the way you talk to them, right? So you always want to talk to them in a way that's encouraging, in a way that's supportive, in a way that's constructive, in a way that's helpful. When you're giving them criticism, it's it's it's constructive criticism at all times and given with so much love and compassion and a big hug. And that's how you want to talk to yourself. So that's number one. Number two, make your failures the exception rather than the rule. So I think a lot of us, whenever we make a mistake, we're like, oh yeah, that's because I'm awful. That's who I am. If I yelled at my kids, it's because I am a monster mom. I am just the meanest mom ever. And what you want to do instead, for example, when you yell at your kids, is think about how that's really the exception to the rule. So that might go a little bit like, I'm an awesome mom. I love my kids deeply. I would I would give my life for these kids. I I sacrifice so much for these kids. Time, money, emotional energy, because I love them so much. And also, like any human, like every mom on earth, I also have limits. And especially like when my kids are being very mouthy, when I'm not sleeping well, when I feel like I'm working long hours because I'm carrying so much responsibility for this family on my shoulders. Yeah, sometimes my limit is a little shorter than I wish it would be, and I yell. It happens, and that does not take away from me being just this awesome mom who just cares so deeply. Another thing I want you to do is to really normalize failure. When you're failing a lot, that's actually a sign that you are in the arena. If you're if if you're kind of listening to this and being like, yeah, I never feel this, I never really feel judged, I never really judge myself, that might be a sign that you need to get in the re the arena a little more and take a few more risks. And what this can look like. I remember being a freelance writer, and I think it's changed a bit, but at the time, freelance writers, if you wanted to get jobs, you would write pitches. So you would pitch magazines, story ideas, and you would pitch um also to newspapers and trade publications. And it was kind of a numbers game because you would usually send up, send out a lot of pitches. Even the best freelance writers would have to pitch a lot before they would get accepted to actually write a story. And the rest of those pitches, what was it? It was a big old rejection. So you can't be afraid of rejection if you are making a living as a freelance writer. And so what we used to do in my freelance writing community is we would have rejection contests and we would be like, okay, who can send out the most pitches and get the most rejections? And you weren't even allowed to count the ones that get accepted. You can only count the ones that got rejected. And like every month we'd kind of crown a winner who would be like the rejection queen. It was mostly women, but sometimes it could be a rejection king also. And the thing that was invariably true is the rejection queen was also the one like probably making the most money, actually having the most success, but they also had the most failure. They had the most rejections. And it's almost like you think about like someone like Michael Jordan, who scored, I can't remember exactly what his record is. There's one record where he scored the most points in in NBA history. And there's another record he had where he also like had the most missed shots. Because he was taking the most shots. He had to take so many shots to score all those points, and not all of them went in. So that is another example from the world of sports, if that's helpful to think about it. Another thing I want you to do, really build your emotional muscle. So, what that looks like, it's the ability to hold all the big feelings disappointment, embarrassment, shame, without shoving them down or numbing them, especially numbing them with food, alcohol, phone scrolling, anything like that. And allowing a big feeling for the first time, it's not easy. It's a little like walking into the gym for the first time and then trying to bench 300 pounds. It's gonna feel incredibly hard and heavy. And when you try for the first time, you can't imagine that you will ever be able to lift that. But if you start with small weights, maybe if you even start with just the bar and you get your reps in and gradually build your strength, a day will come maybe when 300 pounds feels doable and it even feels pretty easy. And it's really the same with feelings, with practice. You'll be able to hold the big stuff, you'll be able to hold even bigger stuff with less decent discomfort, and you'll be able to process it through yourself faster. And finally, I want you to consider whenever people are judging you, that it's also true that others want to support you. I can't tell you how often we forget this. And when you're competitive with yourself, you just imagine that other people are also hard on you. So I think a really good example is me watching the Ilya Malinan Free Skate, where he came in eighth. And I really noticed my reaction to that. There was no part of me that was like, ah, that idiot, he like let team USA down. Like, who put this guy on the team? My own reaction, just as soon as I saw his face and his disappointment was just so loving. I was just like, oh my gosh, I have been there, guy. Like, I just really like felt so much respect for him for like being in the arena, for putting himself on the world stage when there was so much hype and opening himself up to something like this. A really big public fail. And I just wanted to, I actually like picked up my phone and I'm like, where's his Instagram? I want to send him some words of encouragement. I want to tell him like how much I love his skating, how much I'm such a fan and a supporter, how this does not change anything. This actually like makes me almost like love him even more. And I want him to not be too hard on himself and to just keep doing what he's doing. And we're like, like, I know I'm behind him, all his fans are behind him. And I wasn't the only one that felt this way. If you watch like the the press coverage of it, I think Scott Hamilton in particular just spent a lot of time like talking about like what that feels like when you kind of bomb on the world stage at the Olympics in front of everyone and sending like like um encouraging messages to Ilya, like whenever he was doing his social media or his press appearances. And it got to the point where there was almost backlash because there was actually a winner, and the winner did not get any attention because everyone was just so like wanting to encourage and talk about and like like build up Ilya Molinan after this big fail. So I think the press kind of felt the same way, which I thought was interesting. And I want you to really consider this for yourself. When you're in the arena, there are people, not all the people, but I like to think of them as your people who will really see themselves in you. They're gonna respect you for being there, they're gonna empathize when you get beat up, and they're gonna just want to reach out a hand and pick you up. And if you can get really good at just having your own back in the face of judgment and especially public criticism, I want you to consider how this is gonna change your life. Because the truth is everything you desire is on the other side of fear and failure. And it's really hard to always fail in private. Like people are gonna see you struggling. And so that might mean the big things are on the other side of fear and failure, whether that is finding your person, having a great romance, whether that is writing a book, whether that is training for your dream career or landing your dream job, whatever it is. And I also want you to think of this on an everyday level. So when you're making mistakes at work, when you have your own back, you can still believe that you are valuable, that you belong, that people value what you do. I had a boss, this was a while ago. It was actually when I was a school counselor, which was a long time ago. And I remember my boss, who was the vice principal, we were sitting in a meeting, and all of a sudden he remembered something he forgot in his eyes. I just watched it happen, got like so big, and he slapped the table and he just started laughing really hard. And I'm like, dude, what's going on? And he's like, I just forgot something so important. Like, I just screwed up something so huge. I was supposed to meet with his parent who's really angry, and I totally like didn't go. It would happen like an hour ago. I'm sure they're gone. And like I just felt so much love for him in that moment, like his ability to laugh at himself and to like really screw up in a high-stake situation, and just be like, man, that is just me and my humanness. It was so apparent in that situation. And I also like love the idea of rip and repair. Because what I think he did after this, I wasn't actually there for it, was he actually called their parents on their cell phone. He's like, hey, where are you? I am so sorry. Like, I know this is important to you. I will make time. You let me know like when you can meet, and I will definitely make it up to you. So there's the whole idea that anytime we do make a big mistake with someone else, like an interpersonal mistake, often the act of like going back and like letting them see us in our humanness and be vulnerable and saying to them, I messed up, I will make it up to you, and then actually following through on that, that actually strengthens relationships. The relationship is actually stronger at the broken place, if you can think of it. It's actually stronger than it would be if we had not messed up and had an opportunity to like really repair it and build that trust. So I love the idea of rip and repair. This is great for work, this is great for relationships with your family, your partner, your kids. Really consider that rip and repair is actually a good thing. And this is also gonna allow you to be human. You're gonna be able to make public parenting mistakes, like yelling at your kid in the store, and still believe that you are a great parent. You are going to, if you are like me, be able to like put pressure and get cross with your elderly parents and get impatient and still believe that you are a good daughter, a good son. And I do know that's true. Like my intentions, even when I'm being like really impatient, are always good. And I honor that caring for others is a really hard job. It is the hardest job. And I won't always be perfect at it. Like, the only way to be perfect at it is to not do it at all. And I honor myself for making the choice to show up, even knowing I'm gonna make mistakes and it's gonna be a mess sometimes. And whenever you are able to have your own back, you're able to talk to that person you're dating about getting exclusive, about taking it to the next level, because you're able to actually risk true intimacy. You're able to like go all in on a relationship and open yourself up to rejection because you know that you can handle it. You know that there's nothing that's gonna take you out because that emotional muscle is so strong. So, friend, this concludes my episode for this week. And if you're ready to get in the arena, life coaching can really help with this. Having an hour a week where you can unpack all your battles from the week, having someone to pick you up and dust you off when you get knocked down, and also someone to celebrate when you win. When you are doing big things, consider that it can be lonely. Other people will not necessarily get your wins and your losses. And you've probably experienced telling someone, maybe you've told your partner about something you did at work that you feel amazing about, and they just like don't quite get how amazing it was. And maybe they don't get it at all. Maybe they're like, oh, and how about them calves? Which is which is what we used to say in Cleveland when people would like not get it and change the subject. So, anyway, this is where having a one-to-one coach can really sustain you if you're in the arena or if you're thinking about getting in, if you're just like dipping your toe in, I'd love to be there in your corner. So, to learn more about life coaching with me, click the link in the show notes. You can schedule a free consult. Tell me all about like what you're doing or what you're about to do, and we'll talk about how coaching can help so you can make a decision if coaching might be something you want to invest in. Okay, friends, that's what I got. I will see you here next week. Until then, go get it.