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Dating in Your 30s as a High-Achieving Woman

Shilpa Cacho

Dating in your 30s as a high-achieving woman doesn’t have to be a cycle of bad first dates, ghosting, and “men are trash” group chats. In this episode, love & intimacy mentor Shilpa Cacho breaks down why dating apps aren’t the real problem, how achievement has conditioned you to treat dating like a performance review, and what actually shifts when you regulate your nervous system and step into your feminine energy.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stop blaming dating apps and start owning your patterns in love
  • Date with intention in your 30s without slipping into control, overthinking, or pedestal-ing men
  • Attract emotionally available, masculine men while staying powerful and soft
  • Tell the difference between high standards and protection mechanisms
  • Date multiple men, pace intimacy, and spot red/green flags with clarity
  • Hold space for a man’s emotions instead of shutting down or trying to fix him

Shilpa also shares her story of going from divorce to meeting and marrying her husband within 19 months, and how nervous system work, feminine communication, and identity upgrades helped her create a marriage that lasts.

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