Your Birth Experience and Why it Matters

What do you know about your birth? 

According to shamanic tradition, up to one third of our energy is determined by our time in the womb and our birth experience. This is why it’s so important to heal birth trauma and the negative experiences around birth.

In this episode, with the help of client stories, we look at how a person’s birth experience can have a major impact on their subsequent experience of life well into adulthood. 

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Transcript

Hello there. So, here we are at the beginning of another new year. I hope this year has started well for you. Let me wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful year ahead.

I love the energy of this time of year and the promise it brings of fresh starts, new hope and renewal.

Speaking of beginnings, it felt like this would be a good time to talk about a topic that I’ve been working with a lot lately in my holistic life coaching practice … that of birth and birth trauma. 

 In this episode, we’re going to be looking at how a person’s birth can have a really major impact on their subsequent experience of life.

This is Harinder and you’re listening to the Bringing You Back into Balance podcast. 

 Now I love working with clients on birth issues as it brings up such amazing realisations… people get a lot of whoa moments when they realise that their adult life is mirroring the experience they had while they were coming into this world.

It’s said that our birth reflects the way we live our life. According to shamanic tradition, up to one third of our energy is determined by our time in the womb and our birth experience. Which is why it’s so important to heal birth trauma and the negative experiences around your birth.

Birth isn’t an easy experience to go through… and our entry into the world can affect our energy physically and psychologically... it can stay with us, sometimes causing issues well into adulthood.

 When I say birth trauma, I’m referring to any injury or damage, physically and energetically that an unborn or newborn child may have suffered during the process of coming into this incarnation. This includes the time in the womb, the actual process of being born and the period immediately after birth. 

Let me take you through what happens when I do a birth clearing session. 

I use a healing modality called divine healing. It’s a very safe, grounded, non-wacky way of clearing negative or low frequency energies out a person’s holographic matrix … or energy field.  The first thing we do is get clear on what programmes/energies are presenting – all birth imprints are deeply unconscious programmes as none of us have any recollection of what was going on for us, and around us, at that time. In divine healing this is done using a series of charts and number mapping to identify the programmes and then, once the programmes have been identified, these are cleared out of the matrix. 

Unearthing these programmes and bringing them into a person’s conscious awareness… talking about how the programmes continue to play out in a person’s adult lives… and clearing them, makes a real difference to how people’s lives unfold from that point onwards.

 One of the main focusses for a birth clearing is obviously the time we spend in the womb. In previous podcasts I’ve spoken about my own experience during this time. I had two older siblings who both died shortly after being born so you can imagine how frightened my mum must have been the whole time that she was carrying me… she must have been thinking, “Is this one going to die too?” 

 I had inexplicable anxiety throughout my younger life… no-one could ever figure out what was wrong with me. I hadn’t suffered any traumas… my childhood was very settled… I wasn’t abused… the people around me were very loving, very kind, very attentive. My anxiety was chronic, and it didn’t make any sense. That is until my healing teacher Sandra, well into my thirties, identified the energy of fear sitting in every single cell of my body! I was doing a series of very profound healing sessions with her called Lightbody Integration. It was in one of these sessions that she discovered that my root chakra had completely disintegrated. No wonder I felt so fearful, so ungrounded, so unsafe all the time. I was created in an environment where fear was all around me all the time… so is it any surprise that I experienced chronic panic and anxiety… and that I couldn’t make any rational sense of why as an adult? Looking back at all the healing sessions I’ve had – and there have been very many – this one session which addressed the trauma I picked up while in the womb, this was the one that made the biggest difference. I walked out of that session a completely different person – it was absolutely miraculous... the change in me was that noticeable. 

Womb trauma has come up quite a lot in my healing sessions with clients.

Now, I’m going to share some client experiences with you, but before I do that, I just need to say that client confidentiality is of paramount importance to me. I don’t willy nilly share private, identifiable information about my clients with anyone. So, with the examples I’m sharing in this podcast I’ve changed lots of details to protect my clients’ privacy.

 One middle aged man I worked with said that he never felt safe around his mum. He reported being on edge the whole time he was in her presence and couldn’t figure out why as his mum was very gentle, very kind, very mild mannered. In his healing session, we identified an issue around an attempted abortion. Now, I’ve got to be honest, I sometimes get a bit freaked out when things like this come up as I have to present them to my client so that they can own them. Divine healing works in accordance with the universal law of free will. A person has to own their stuff and give permission for the energies to be removed from their matrix. So, this particular realisation was really out there and sounded totally crazy. And anyway how was he going to know this was true? Well, I explained that this has come up and we need to clear the energy around it. He was a bit shocked but, he had done enough sessions upto now to know that whatever comes up needs to be cleared. So we simply cleared it and moved on.  But, you know what? He came back to his scheduled session a fortnight later and said he’d had a chat with his mum. Can you believe it?! She said this was right. She had indeed tried to terminate the pregnancy by visiting a local medicine man, but it hadn’t worked. I must admit I was relieved to hear this… it made me trust the messages I receive in these healing sessions. I used to question a lot in the early days but now I go with whatever has been presented. Well, his edgy feelings around his mum made total sense now. How could he possibly energetically feel safe around his mum when she’d tried to kill him in the womb. 

Another time, I worked with a young lady who reported always feeling like she was being edged out … edged out of family decisions… edged out when it came to accessing shared resources. even edged out of the family home where she was constantly being made to feel like she didn’t belong. She felt totally bullied by those around her. This was fascinating because she was a twin, and as we discovered in her healing session, during her time in the womb she’d been constantly battling with her brother for resources. When they were born, she was significantly smaller than her brother… and even now, he’s the healthy, successful, bolshy one and she’s the sickly, petite, quiet one who feels pushed around the whole time. Her life now mirrors the experience she had in the womb.  

 The other issue I come across quite often that affects a lot of people is the stress they picked up from their mother while in the womb … especially if the mum was going through relationship difficulties at the time. I had one case where the mum had been physically attacked by the dad and this had left a traumatic imprint on the foetus. And there have been other cases where mums have been ill during pregnancy and these illnesses had affected the baby at an energetic level. These people had persistent anxiety in adulthood because of these pre-birth experiences.

 Divine healing gives us the chance to access the deeper spiritual realm. A birth clearing session can also include certain soul level decisions that a foetus makes whilst it is in the womb which result from what it experiences at the time. The soul can witness certain things and decide that in order to survive and be loved it has to be a certain way once it comes into this world. In divine healing sessions we might discover programming such as ‘I must look after everyone else first before I look after myself’ … ‘I must not speak or express my truth’ … ‘I must fit in’ … ‘I must stay small and limited’ … and I won’t be safe if I don’t do this. The looks on people’s faces are priceless when I present these kind of pre-birth decisions to them. They can instantly see how these unconsciously held programmes directly relate to how they now operate in their adult life.  These decisions are so powerful that they create the foundations of a person’s whole life … they create restriction and unhappiness. People realise that they’ve been blocking themselves all their lives from being open, free, expressive & assertive because of these soul decisions made before they even left the womb. 

When we uncover these programmes, we explore what impact they’ve had on a person’s life, and it’s amazing how someone’s whole being can be affected. When these issues are cleared, they free up people’s energy, reconnect them with their right to be themselves, to be authentic, to be expressive … and to expand their sense of self.

Next, we take a look at the birth itself. It goes without saying that this can be a very traumatic experience for the mind, the body and soul of a child. 

Trauma can occur for a variety of reasons, including prolonged labour, the use of birthing instruments such as forceps or vacuum extractors, or complications during childbirth. The birth process can result in a range of physical injuries, such as bruising, fractures, nerve damage, or even more severe issues like cerebral palsy or other neurological problems.

It can also have psychological implications, affecting both the child and the parent. In some cases, the emotional impact of a traumatic birth experience can lead to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder in the mother and the child.

At an energetic level a child can take on the distress, even the terror of the mother, negative imprints from the health care professionals in the room, the stress of the father, and negative imprints of drugs administered during the birth.

One client I worked with was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck. This created a huge amount of trauma for her. She grew up with this terrifying sense that I’m dying … I’m in danger … and these feelings persisted well into adulthood. She’d be on edge all the time …. very shaky, fidgety, hypervigilant … her nervous system was always on high alert. These were symptoms of PTSD but she couldn’t consciously recall any traumas to explain these symptoms. Once we pinpointed the birth trauma and brought it into her conscious awareness, it all made complete sense. We cleared it and a short while after she reported a newfound sense of inner peace. She definitely felt the shift.

Then there was the young man who had massive amounts of guilt around his mother, disproportionately so, and no matter how much we explored this is in therapy we just couldn’t figure out what this was about. Nowadays I heavily integrate healing work with my psychotherapy as you can see from the examples I’m presenting today, that there is no way a person is ever going to get to the root causes of their issues if these lie in the pre-conscious, pre-verbal times in their life. When we did the healing, it emerged that this man had picked up an unconscious belief that ‘I’m killing my mum’ during birth. I’m guessing she must been struggling in labour or there were complications and his little soul was witnessing all of this and arrived at the conclusion that it was all his fault. Now this guilt carried itself into his adult life and now that we had pinpointed the root cause, no wonder he and I couldn’t make any sense of it through talking therapy. Now this got me thinking about those whose mum’s die during childbirth. Can you imagine the devastating emotional impact that must have on a little child’s energy field? 

The timing of a person’s birth can be significant as well.

With a late birth it’s sometimes because the baby didn’t want to come out … it felt safe and sheltered in the womb and just wanted to stay there … so it took its time.

With a premature birth, this is sometimes because the child is so uncomfortable in the womb that they’re in a hurry to get out.

I’ve seen both these issues come up in healing sessions, and when we’ve identified them, my client can immediately recognise these energies in their adult personalities … they either go about life in a rush, or have a slow, sluggish way about them.

In the healing profession incubator babies are known for always feeling untethered, unsafe, anxious and detached from life. This isn’t surprising because in the first few days or weeks of their life, they didn’t get any physical contact with the mother … they weren’t held and made to feel safe … and they initially experienced life through a glass screen. These initial imprints will have laid the foundations for the life they grow up to have. 

The circumstances after we are born are also highly significant. Was the cord cut too soon, when someone wasn’t ready to be separated from their mum? Was it too cold, too bright, too hot, too noisy? Now that little baby has just spent nine months in a very stable, controlled environment and now suddenly in an instant everything has changed. It can be very shocking and for a sensitive child, these initial experiences after birth can be very traumatic. 

I had a client come to see me who’d been born via a caesarean/C-section. Even as an adult she said couldn’t bear bright lights. Another lady I worked with told me she hated being touched. When we worked on her birth trauma, amazingly the issue that came up was ‘shock related to physical touch being too rough’. This completely explained her adult response to people touching her. She still carried the unconscious memory of this from birth in her energy field. 

The one clearing that really intrigues me and amazes my clients is the clearing of incarnational programming. These are programmes that have been coded just at the point in which a soul chooses to incarnate, a tiny bit prior to entering the womb. These are very deep spiritual programmes, and their energies underpin a person’s entire life. They are so deeply unconscious that they would never be accessed by the mind alone. 

Let me give you some examples. I once saw a young man who, during our work together disclosed that he had spent a lifetime feeling rejected by his parents. It didn’t matter what he did, or how successful he was, he just couldn’t shake this feeling of being a nuisance. He was the youngest of five children and mum was 40 when she had him. He subsequently (after our session – because he asked mum) discovered that around the time he was conceived his dad was due to go overseas for work, so it really wasn’t a particularly convenient time for his parents to have another child.

In the healing session, we discovered that this young man’s soul had been aware of all the discussions around the parents not wanting another child. And that this had created an energy imprint that he’d carried around his whole life … always feeling unwanted and like he was always in the way.

Another client I worked with struggled with continuous feelings of overwhelm. She was frightened to try new things and constantly plagued by feelings of self-doubt. During her healing session we discovered that she had a deep, deep fear of the soul contract she’d signed up to in this incarnation. She feared that she’d taken on too much and might not be able to handle all the experiences and learnings she had agreed to before she chose to incarnate. This made sense with regard to her feelings of constant overwhelm even when there wasn’t anything particularly overwhelming going on in her outside world. These feelings weren’t coming from the circumstances of her life, they were coming from her soul. 

And then I had another client who’d been struggling all her life with painful feelings of not being right … of not being good enough … and feeling like she’d always be letting people down. We found during her healing session that these feelings were rooted in her unconscious awareness that her parents had not wanted another girl. No-one had ever said anything to her like that… she was only the youngest of three sisters but she just felt there was something desperate wrong with who she was. And in this session we realised that that was a soul imprint.

For all three of these clients, the core programmes – those of rejection, inadequacy, and fear, were set up before they even came into this life. And, they were energy imprints on their holographic matrix which went on to cause pain, fear and unhappiness in their adult life. 

We did the clearings and as always, the troublesome feelings that they had each identified gently faded away over the coming months after the healing session. 

We are all energy and when we pay attention to stories like these, it’s not difficult to see how the way we came into this life lays the foundations for the physical, emotional, and psychological experiences we’re going to grow up to have. 

The good news is that energies can be manipulated, transmuted … imprints can be removed … and healing can be done on the trauma to release the associated low frequency energies. Now focused healing work can a) give you an explanation for why things are the way they are, especially for those issues that are causing you stress and you can’t figure out how or why these came about; and b) provide relief from the fears, anxieties, discomfort and emotional distress that are undermining your experience of life in the now.

So have a think about it … What do you know about your birth story?

 If you’re lucky enough to still have your mum around, and you have a good relationship with her, have a chat with her about what was going on while she was pregnant with you … What kind of birth did you have? … And what were the conditions like just after your birth? 

 It’s by making the unconscious conscious that we regain our power and free will to choose how we want to be in the world and how we want to experience the world.

There are lots of way to deal with these kinds of birth traumas. I use divine healing … it’s a healing modality that’s based on the spiritual law of ‘ask and it shall be given’ … it’s a really clean, efficient, non-wacky way of clearing out unwanted energies … and it’s highly effective. I’ve seen that from the direct experience of my client work. 

But there are other things you can try too …

• Somatic therapy – works with the physical body and physical sensations to release trauma stored in the body.
• Craniosacral therapy – helps to balance the nervous system and relieve anxiety/depression associated with trauma.
• Hypnotherapy – works with the subconscious mind to uncover and resolve the root causes of a person’s trauma.
• And, there are things like Reiki – basic energy healing practices which can help release physical and emotional blocks rooted in birth trauma.

And, if you’re a parent you may by now be reflecting on your own birthing experiencing and the impact this has had on your child. Divine healing is a very safe, gentle modality. Over the years I’ve used it to clear birth imprints from many children, as conscious parents want to give their kids the best start in life. And, most parents have come back and reported a noticeable difference in their child’s demeanour.

So … I hope I’ve given you some food for thought …  maybe you’ve already drawn some links between how you came into the world and how you experience and operate in the world now.  

Or maybe it’s got you thinking about how certain issues in your life might be related to what happened to you at your birth.

If you’re open to the spiritual realms and would like some healing, have a look at my website. I’ve put the link in the show notes. 

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Okay … that’s all for now. Remember, take really good care of yourself because you and I both know that if you don’t no one else will.

Bye for now.