The cave man instinct to protect us from the mammoths & sabertooth cats is alive and kicking in our 21st Century way of doing life, as it played out back then. The dangers have changed, but nonetheless, the brain (our cognition) convinces us of a danger that is not real and the body comes to alert repeatedly through the day, ready to protect us, unless we can calm our thinking and take it off guard duty.
Our thoughts, our thinking, our cognition leads to our behaviour. Not the other way round. So change cognition before you try to change behaviour. "If you can change your thinking, you can change your life". It is that stark. Really, it is.
Don't believe the lie people. Use the rest of your other senses to cross-examine your cognition. Get a re-set in your mind using the tools provided by The Kairos Centre - involving Grounding (to address Dissociation); Breathing (deeper and longer, instead of short shallow - panic); Suck a lemon; and going to your Calm/Peaceful/Restful place - with tapping to soothe the left & right brain.
The use of those Neurotramitters/neurochemicals in the body - for self-soothing - is not the way and is only a 5 minutes wonder - then the unwanted kick back.
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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure webcam.
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